long relationships

[emmasu]

well, the title speak for its self
Do you like to be invloved in a long realtionship?why?
Each person in this live wants to find his/her soul mate, when you find him/her, you are the happiest person in the world, but would you like to stay with that person for the rest of your life, and i do not mean getting married, but only being gf and bf for a long time. After this period of time you start feeling like that person is like your friend and you can not treat him/her as bf/ or gf cuz that person has happened to be beside you for a long time so that you can not tell if he is your bf/gf or gust a friend that you can tell him/her everything and all of your secerts? What do you think?
Also, if you want to break up with him/her, are you going to do that or y feel that you are going to betryed that person?

[the purifier]

i would love to have a long relationship, i've been single for a couple of years and i miss the warmth of a relationship. being close to eachother, cuddle, feel the others skin, laying next to eachother.....ah how nice that would be.

[emmasu]

yah that is very cool, but you become very close to that person so that you don't feel the warmth that is used to be and you want to see other people and meet new people

[choking]

it really depends on the person... a person single for some time now has a bigger chance that he/shes finding for a long relationship and vice versa.. as for me i think not for now... ive been through hell in a relationship before. XDDDD

[Shinji]

I'm currently in a long-term relationship and I have to say I love it.

[Dounick]

well its sad to say that the relationship is the first one i have ever had, and we have been dating for a long long time now :D

[Ios]

well, my first priority is to GET a girlfriend, then we'll see how long we can kaap it up right?

[Dounick]

that sounds civil to me

[Ios]

yeah, it is isn't it?

[Dounick]

well considering when i asked out my gf that i have now.... i waited 6-7 months before she answered me..... and in that time i didint bug her about it once

[Hits]

well considering when i asked out my gf that i have now.... i waited 6-7 months before she answered me..... and in that time i didint bug her about it once
0_o 6-7 months just for a date? LMAO.

I don't get the deal with young people and serious relationships. They never lead to anywhere except heartbreak.

[Dounick]

yes i am a little obsessed with her..... and just last night she said she loved me :D

[Nichigo]

0_o 6-7 months just for a date? LMAO.
I don't get the deal with young people and serious relationships. They never lead to anywhere except heartbreak.

I second that.

I'm 21, and I've been in a serious relationship for quite a while now, and i'm not tired of her yet ;-) Emmasu...if you get tired of being with someone for a while, then you probably weren't meant for her/him. Either that, or you're going purely by emotions. Emotions change, and if you get into a relationship that's solely based on that, it WILL fall apart eventually. Emotions help you find someone, but it doesn't keep you going. It's your persistence and your belief that your companion is THE ONE that keeps you going. And the only way you'll know who the one is, is if you take time to get to know them.

[strydr]

Wow, for some reason i can only have long relationships, so thru my whole 17 year life i only had 2 relationships, i am currently in one... its been 4 months so far.
but my grandfather always told me, if you want to go out and have a relationship, let it be someone who you can potentially marry... i know that is crap, but the reason i want to have long relationships is only because i want to find out what i want in a wife in the future...
and i do have a basic idea, so i know what i want for my future... my current girlfriend is the closest to what i want in a wife... so if i had all the money in the world i would marry her tomorrow. c.
nice post

[Minami Ikki]

It usually depens on the people in the relationship. Sure it would get boring and ol;d if you guys did nothing. But going to parties, hanging out together doing all these cool things, I'd have to say I wish I could do that...with Rochelle ..>_>

[WizKid77]

Hmm... I would honestly love havin a long relationship with some people. But it never seems to work out for some reason. That's why I post a lot in the Relationship Thread I suppose. Ah well... Shit happens and things get messed up. But some how I always end up with the craziest girls for some reason.

[Nichigo]

Hmm... I would honestly love havin a long relationship with some people. But it never seems to work out for some reason. That's why I post a lot in the Relationship Thread I suppose. Ah well... Shit happens and things get messed up. But some how I always end up with the craziest girls for some reason.

This is why I would usually suggest getting to know the person before you even hook up with them. I mean, get to know them...become a real good friend with that person before you hook up. If you can't become good friends with that person, you probably can't get into a long term relationship. Your future soul mate becomes your best friend. :doindadom

[WizKid77]

Yeah, I've gone through that. But like I've said they're just crazy. Like insane.

[Evenstar]

Hmmm...actually I prefer long relationships rather than short-termed ones...all of us do, I think...deep inside we all want someone who would understand us and will love us no matter what we change into...But if the relationship gets too windy in the end and if you've already lost your love for each other, breaking up is the BEST option for it (and if ever you encounter the same situation, please do not hesitate doing so). Why? Some of you may think its rude since you shared a wonderful past together..but that's what it is...it's in the past...and since you don't love him/her anymore, what's the use of continuing your relationship if you can't make happy memories in the future? The past is important, but if it holds you back, it will only ruin your future...

[unwaken]

hmmmm...

i don't do well with long term relationships mainly because the longer i'm with someone, the more the person's flaws seem to stand out and it just totally kills the romance. I really don't understand why... maybe its a psychological kinda thing but long term relationships just don't appeal to me. esp those couples that have dated for 4 yrs and then get engaged for another 3 before finally getting married. :LOL: i could never do something like that... even 2 years feel like forever to me. :p

:LOL:

looks like im destined to be single!

boooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo :(

[strydr]

i love having someone in my life - long termly... but it drives to obsession of the person>>> is this right??
I fall so deeply in love that i start neglecting everything around me... like my marks this semester!!! OMG i did so badly.
I dont do well in long term relationships... for some reason i drive myself insane, but i dont know limits and how to control myself properly... what do i do?? cause i love loving

[the purifier]

becoming friends doesn't work for me.... we become friends and then they don't want to date me because they dont want to ruin the friendship....or see me as just a NICE (god i hate that word) guy. ah maybe someday........

[emmasu]

when i mean long relationship i mean very long and that means for years, am talking form experience, my relationship lsats and keeps going for now almost 15 years and that for is long time, i can't break up with him cuz i love him in the other side i feel that i can not stay with him

[Nichigo]

becoming friends doesn't work for me.... we become friends and then they don't want to date me because they dont want to ruin the friendship....or see me as just a NICE (god i hate that word) guy. ah maybe someday........

That's how it works man. For the long haul, there's only one girl out there for you anyway. If they're not willing to take the 'next step' then it's probably for the best anyway. You wouldn't want to get stuck with someone that would eventually have different feelings for you. Look at your situation as more of a blessing than a curse... at least you know from the start that those people wouldn't work out... instead of getting emotionally involved AND THEN finding out that it won't work out. Just keep at it :winking56

when i mean long relationship i mean very long and that means for years, am talking form experience, my relationship lsats and keeps going for now almost 15 years and that for is long time, i can't break up with him cuz i love him in the other side i feel that i can not stay with him

Well...if you're already getting emotionally 'worn out' (as it seems from your original post), maybe it's time to start thinking about WHY you like him at all. I'm sure there's reasons you love him, right? It's not just because you have this fluttery feeling when you're around him. You must have some clear reasons why you are staying with him. Is it because of his personality? Is it because you admire his outlook on life? These are very general questions, but i'm sure you have more specific things you can think about. If you can think of the reasons why you still love him, and he has been consistent with those reasons throughout your relationship, then you're probably all right. You're probably just experiencing an emotional low. Just ride it out, and you'll probably be back to normal.

However, if you can't really think of specific reasons why you love him... or you can, but he's not consistent with those reasons anymore, then it's a different story.

[kombat]

I hate Long term relationship

[Sunfire249]

Well, if it was my soul mate then I geuss I would... But you really do strike up a good question. What DO you do after your married? It's all fun and games in the first year or so, but after that it kinda goes down the drain. Same with the whole having kids thing, great yeah, but slowly goes down the drain as time goes by.

[Nichigo]

Well, if it was my soul mate then I geuss I would... But you really do strike up a good question. What DO you do after your married? It's all fun and games in the first year or so, but after that it kinda goes down the drain. Same with the whole having kids thing, great yeah, but slowly goes down the drain as time goes by.

I don't know about that. I think as you get older (and your hormonal activity decreases) you start to get a different perspective of what love really is. Eventually, you realize it's not all fun and games...a relationship becomes more of the real life experiences you share together. It becomes about getting through the good times and bad times while still holding on to each other. It becomes more of trying to help make each other better people.

While we're young, we just think love is a feeling and that's it. But that'll change when we get older.

[emmasu]

well thanks every body, am just i don't know what to, i have this feeling that i don't wanna talk to him, every time he calls i do not answer him, it is not cuz i do not like him, is that most of the time were are not together cuz he is in other country studying and i feel that i would beytraed him if i went with someone else, also we also become friends and not bf/gf with the time"touching and plying togther" when we meet we only keep watch each other and never talk, i don not why maybe we out of things to talk about, but i realy like the guy and i do not doubt that

[Vlad]

well, the title speak for its self
Do you like to be invloved in a long realtionship?why?
Each person in this live wants to find his/her soul mate, when you find him/her, you are the happiest person in the world, but would you like to stay with that person for the rest of your life, and i do not mean getting married, but only being gf and bf for a long time. After this period of time you start feeling like that person is like your friend and you can not treat him/her as bf/ or gf cuz that person has happened to be beside you for a long time so that you can not tell if he is your bf/gf or gust a friend that you can tell him/her everything and all of your secerts? What do you think?
Also, if you want to break up with him/her, are you going to do that or y feel that you are going to betryed that person?
You are in college. Many people have long term relationship in college. I have tried it work very rarely and very hard. I do not like them that much, so I try to ovoid them.

[Lady Ushio]

ehemmm...ehemmm...eheemmm.... :lol

Honestly speaking, I prefer to have long relationships with someone I really love the most. Well, If I figure out that my partner is cheating on me, of course I'll break up with him - no matter what. However, if my partner is very sincere, loyal and honest to me after all this time, I personally like to appreciate him the most because his love never abandones me in this world. I personally sense if I find the right man in my life. I just know at instant who is the right person for me especially by having this relationship with this person.

You see, if you have long serious relationships, it simply creates the deeper connection and closeness between you and your partner. For instance, if your partner likes the things you do and you like the things he/she does, then we can all agree that the relationship will work out - depending on the situation. If not, then it won't work at all. It's very simple to say;but it's difficult to do when you experience it yourself. The most important in the relationship is acceptance to each other - meaning accepting your partner the way he/she is. Otherwise, you are not meant to each other no matter how you like the person...

Well, I've learned this in my own personal experiences. Trust me. :)*winks*

[Kimochi]

relationship hardly last...
unless uu rr marriedd to that person..
but its not iimpossible...

[Isis]

I'd rather have long relationships then short ones. Short ones could still count, depends on how you know the person and whether you guys had a thing going on. Lust and love are two separate things but that's what I've found people my age go after. Not saying that it's not impossible to have a great relationship now. I agree with what Yukoshi said. You know sometimes having a long relationship as friends brings you to a place where you never thought was possible. Like liking your best friend..you can't force long relationships, you just have to go with the flow and see where that leads you.

[Xferox 02]

but if long relation dont last that long, saying good bye would hurt more than a short one

[Isis]

It depends on the situation really. It could be a long relationship that's had to be broken up because of something the couple have no control over, or they just lose what they had. There could be other bad long relationships like someone cheating on their partner or abusing them but everybody's situation is different so there will be a different level of hurt for each couple.

[Xferox 02]

high school sweet heart but had to seperate ways because of college

[Kimochi]

long relationship does exist..but its quite rare.. when uu reach 20+ uu will sure get it.. its more hurtful to lose ur long relationship with ur partner than short relationship.. my fren had a sister that had relationship abt 10yrs andd now they are married.. relationship cann be long but when uu are note fatedd to be together it cannot be helped..

[angelicdesire]

well i was in a long relationship....the longest one ive ever been in. i did love being in a long relationship, wouldve been longer if he wasn't a jerk but i liked being with the person i love everyday. it was nice. we were even engaged

[Xferox 02]

wow sux for you man....

[Kimochi]

lol.. bad.. relationship cann last long but if uu are not fated it cannot be help..

[Xferox 02]

some ppl meet in middle school and become GF and BF, and they got married after college too. lol now thats called a long relationship

[Kimochi]

yes!! like my frens sister.. well thats rare!! ii really admired huu cann have long relationships.. ii duunno y whenn i get into relationship.. i get boredd of them easily.. lucky that im single.. phew..

[Xferox 02]

im catching up on ur post hurry up or im gonna eat up the entire forum LOL

[Kimochi]

lol.. hurry up?? lols.. try eating up the forumm? gagaga.. sry..
have uu ever had long relationships?

[Xferox 02]

doing that right now hoping its gonna be long,

[Kimochi]

it hard to get long relationship.. my longest was oni three months..

[Xferox 02]

not really it actually gets better if both of you work together. just relax and be your self

[Kimochi]

lols.. i duunn like whenn he like to stick with me.. i get really uncomfortable.. i like those boys huu cann duunn spent to much time on me..

[Xferox 02]

really? you dont like your bf to hold your hand where ever you guys go? or even try to kiss you in the middle of the hallway??

[Kimochi]

nope.. i duunn.. im abit serious abt that.. holding hands is ok but when kissing my face will be like a cherry!!

[Xferox 02]

LOL from what im seeing right here, you can find a good bf very easily

[Kimochi]

lol.. i duunno y.. last time i have a veri affectionate bf.. always with me.. but when he went to kiss me i will always look away.. i duunn like the idea of having tem with me all the time.. i like them have their live and give me oni 1/4 of their time ferr me..

[Xferox 02]

do you look away when he kiss you in private??

[Reefern86]

Im just going to say this on the topic...I obviously preffer long relationships...i think everyone does...its the end of them thats a rly *****!

[Kimochi]

i just duunn like kissing.. cuz he's not a good kisser.. lol.. in private i duunn but public i do..

[Xferox 02]

ROFL he sux at kissing LOL wow what a shame

[minori]

I have had just one really short relationship before I found my boyfriend and soulmate and since I'm still young (19) and didn't have to search more I childishly think I have missed something... <__< Sometimes I think it would be fun to just put him on hold for a month or two and do the things other single girls in my age are doing and then take him back when I'm ready. Awful, I know... .__. I would never do that, but it just bothers me sometimes. I'm kinda feeling I have had to grow up to a responsible adult a little too fast, cos he's five years older than me and past this phase... Of course I love him and I couldn't live without him for the rest of my life but I got childish thoughts sometimes... <__<

[chiriyuku]

If you've got a bad kisser on your hands, just give em some tips. ;)

@minori
You don't have to put him on hold but you can give yourself some breathing space. Once in a while, on a day you would normally see your bf, hang out with your single gfs instead. And allow yourself to have some fun with some harmless flirting and basically just have fun as a girl.

[Kimochi]

i prefer long relationship.. the real romance will be there.. short relationship oni last fer awhile.. no romance.. trust need a long time. so when uu have a long relationship uu can really trust ur partner.. its not verii good to trust them first cuz they will get back to uu..

[Sweeney]

I think long relationships are great, really gives you a chance to get to know the other person and gives you time to see if you really want to be with them or not.

[Kimochi]

yea.. sumtimes it eventually end in marriage.. let uu trust ur partner even more.. noe their routine, lies and stuff.. so uu noe them more well!!

[Xferox 02]

so how long do you consider long, 4 month+ ??? or more????

[Evanesque]

Yesh I love being in long relationships...well actually the relationship I'm currently in is the longest I've ever had...we started as best friends in January 2006 (and still are) and have eventually gotten committed in September 2006. We've been together since.

My previous relationships hardly lasted a month because either the guy turned out to be a jerk or I got bored of him.

Long relationships with a girlfriend or boyfriend is fine but there comes a point in life when you think about the future and what's going to happen to the both of you. That's when one partner starts thinking about marriage because that seems to be the natural thing to do.

Making the marriage work is another obstacle where you have to trust and love your partner and care for him/her. Many people fail to do that which results in divorces.

Well that's all I have to say for now.

[Sweeney]

i think a long relationship is about 6+ months. Half a year is enough time to really get to know the person, and to figure out if your happy with them or not.

[Kyoko<3!]

I'd classify long term as just a few months, with more in sight. I don't like to give it a number.

[Kimochi]

nono.. longest is 10 years.. a few month is not long.. even a year is not long.. its short.. open close open close ur eyes months will be over.. but every single minute counts tho..
so fer me longest relationship is years not months..

[Lady Ushio]

I agree with fatality.
10 years is the longest.
People in other places are intend to maintain their relationships long. People like them commit this relationship longer because it's the test or challenge for them if they are meant for each other. I've never met anyone in my life who has that relationship long; but my parents had a relationship for 5 years before they got married (I think).

[Aristocrat]

i reckon long relationships are good then that way you can trust the person more..but when u split up your gonna feel alot of pain..its not really something you would like..because u have become used to that person..but u cnt do anything about it when you know its time to split..

[rhoden23]

long relationship is not good. well for me it is. i dnt want any commitments or promises coz its bullshit. coz wen its time to split up u guys are goin to start hatin and stop talkin to each other. and its not good to have a long relation wen ur young coz ur gonna end breaking up enyway. so i think guys shud have fun and date lots of different girls to find which one is compatible for you....

[hasuke]

I don't get the deal with young people and serious relationships. They never lead to anywhere except heartbreak.

Tell that to my 12 year old cousin who thinks he's found his ****ing true love. L. O. ****in. L.

Some people want meaningful relationships. In fact, all humans do really. Just as teenagers, most people think that hey, sex is all that matters. But they are sorely mistaken.

of course, those are the people who've had 19 or so relationships in the span of 5 months, and have no true grasp on the concept of love, companionship, or meaningful relationships. Alas, alack, tis the way american pop culture is.

My previous relationships hardly lasted a month because either the guy turned out to be a jerk or I got bored of him.

hahahaha, oh wow. Thats quite the way to put it.

[babygirl1978]

I guess I am pretty lucky cause I did find the right person for me. It took me one failed marriage and 4 kids but I found him. I feel that there is someone for everyone all we gotta do is look.

[candyb3ar]

i under stand when younger people are like 6 months is a LONG time cause your time between that and your existance is quite short in comparison, once you have become OLD like me a year doesn't seem long at all seems like a month...:)

[hollow kitty]

A long relationship is waking up with the same person at 80 as you did at 20! :)

[Ronin36]

Long relationships are good, as long as you're ready to commit. If you start a relationship you want to last for awhile, you have to do stuff frequently or you'll get bored of each other and end up hating each other for a stupid reason.

Personally, I've never had any good relationships because the other person always finds someone better and leaves me, but I will say this: commitment is huge.

[Kimochi]

it is good . but uu have to be committed and really love your partner .
because it's pointless to have long relationship when uu don't like that person .

it's the best way in understanding your partner . i might be ur soul mate or not . but long relationship makes uu understand a person deeply .

[Shiki]

For some reason I've always looked to long relationships. In high school, I guess I just REALLY wanted a guy (as in a companion, not a sex partner), but I was also looking short-term as well... since yeah, college comes around and everyone moves away and stuff.

Now that I'm in college and more mature, I suppose I do want a long term relationship. I've only really been in 2, but I think a reason why I'm not really finding any luck as far as relationships go is because I'm looking long term and everyone here just wants to screw eachother.

[ashiin]

when i'm in a relationship i want it to last a long time. I think it applies to most of the people too=/

[Jack Daniels]

I dont...I hate clingy people but it is easier to date somone and know you have it, than have to go out every other night and work for it....but still my longest relationship has been a damn year lol, guess I havent found that person yet and clingy people just annoy me

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

I love a long relationship, the longer your with someone the more you learn about them, the stronger the bond gets...I'm lookin for my Soulmate currently..and when I find her, I wanna be able to build a relationship on a spirtual level......~*Ultimate Trust*~.......surpassing love itself, I think you can only achieve that with time on your side, that's why I'm for long everlasting relationships...make the best of it!

[BabyLoving]

I hate long distance relationships, because I totally do not believe in them. Maybe because I see my friends suffer when they are attached, even if its not long distance relationship, I feel that there is never a guy who has never ever betrayed a girl before. In my head, the only way two people maintain a long distance relationship is because their feeling for each other is like an on-off switch.

If its different for you, good for you. (: Prove me wrong, I'm a non-believer of love.

[BabyLoving]

OPPS. Me bad, I misunderstood the title. Same stand though, long relationships won't really work out. At the starting you will try your best to reveal the perfect side of you, showing to your partner that you are nice and good. But as time goes on, you will be too tired to care about everyday looking good. It is nice seeing and knowing people that they have been together for a few years though. (:

[chiriyuku]

You can't say that, seeing how there have been MANY successful long term relationships. It's not as big as an effort.... if you find the right person, it doesn't take a big effort to show your good side coz that side is more willing to surface when their around.

[Kimochi]

long term sometime are bad like . .
they have been together about 7 years when suddenly they broke up as the girl start to turn to her true colours. he lost trust on her and broke up . those 7 yrs are put to waste .

they are sometimes good like . . .
they have been together for 7 years and now they decided to get married as they know each other long enough already ready for a family . they trust each other .

but long term relationship are more than 7 years . they can continue till 10 years . that's really good as they want to know more about each other . this really makes them know each other deeply .

[sham16]

I know a lot of guys/gals who have long term relationships and most of them ended in disaster... But I think it would depend on your age.. Lets ssay you are around 15 ... Having a long term relationship by this time is not wise since you are at what they call "the experimental stage" in which that you try to get a taste of everything served on your platter... But as time moves on adn you've tasted most of the dishes you seem to settle in with one faithful dish.. By this time you are around 28 and above.. You would settle in try to have a good relationship and maybe soon have a family.

[minori]

But what if you have just started the "tasting" but find the right person at once..? ^^' It's not a good idea to get rid of him/her just because of you haven't tried all the boys in town...

[sham16]

It might mean that you have to taste more of him lol.. Not in a sarcastic way. lol.. Ok stop with the tasting already... Maybe if you would like to let your relationship last longer please do.. What i am saying is, is that most people with long term relationships when they were young end up separated after a while.. So yeah you would experience less but it was one long experience.. But there are also some people who go all the way... Those people are what i call predestined or brought together by fate...

[Pink_Paper_Heart]

it takes a while to find the rite one. took me like 10 failed relationships to find this current one. u have to try all sorts of relationships to know what works best for u.

And of course long-term relationship is much more secure since u know u are going home to a loved one.

[Sakura_Drops]

Long term relationships are 'nice.' You know that you're not just muckin' about like fathead-teenagers (*cough school*). Plus, trust builds up and you feel you can talk about anything with them. If at one point you just feel no 'love' anymore, yeh, it's hard to break up with the person but at least you're not wasting time..so it's just better to get it over and done with.

[BabyLoving]

I had this pair of friends who hooked up, the guy betrayed her, but my friend still forgave him because she was used to him by her side. So, I guess, when people get together for a long time, it becomes a habit to see that person. And it is hard to break up, because that person has been part of your life for a long time. So, I guess, it is just hard for some people to adapt here and there. (: So, they choose not to break up, rather than because they still have feelings for each other. (:

[Lhunara]

Well i am definately happy in a long term relationship, i have been with my bf for 6 years, and he is my best friend.I love the fact that i know he is there for me and my feelings for him are as strong as ever.

[BabyLoving]

Well, its good that you love your boyfriend and he is there for you always. You are the lucky one. (: Good luck for both of you. (: