My parents

[Morutea]

Hello all,

It is my first post :) (http://1universityofphoenix.blogspot.com)

I want your thoughts on this:
Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now?


(Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work)


Thanks. :) (http://buyamoxicillin.blogspot.com)

[lego_calrissian]

Sorry, but wrong place to post this. This should go in The Lounge or The Debate section.

[Kabane]

um....yeah....

/moved to The Lounge or whatever its called

[Future]

I don't reacon parents should make us pay the years we live/lived with them... i mean it's there job to look after us... lol... but i do see why they would want to

[Late Splinter]

I don’t think I owe them anything, but I would still take care of them if they’re unable to take care of themselves. They accepted the responsibility of raising me once they decided to have me.

[Z_Blitz]

Perhaps my views are a bit old fashioned and traditional in a sense, but everyone's free to do that =p.

I think we do as a matter of fact owe them. They dedicated the better part of their lives to raise us and make sure we live well. They ensured a secure and healthy environment when we weren't capable of growing up on our own. Time passes and we become independant individuals each chasing a career of his/her own. Old age gets to those parents and they become in need for someone to take care of them. If we, their very children, don't look after them, then I can't really say I know someone who would.

As I said, those are my thoughts. Of course that differs a lot from one person to another, but meh =p.

[raisins]

i agree with ZB

i meant my parents could have chuck me aside once i was born (not that they are people like that) but they did not do so and i should...you know, support them asmuch as i can. People normally do it out of love or gratitude, not because they felt they 'owe' their parents or something like that...

=D

[SHiKaMaRi]

Our parents raised us up, gave us a home to live in, food to eat, toys, and other things we wanted. They gave us the education we needed. They gave us the fun we wanted and all. While they could've chucked us aside, letting us become and orphan.

[kaede822]

yeah, i agree with the posters above me... ^^

although it is our right as children to have proper homes and education..i think it is also their right as parents that we provide for them, the way the provided for us.. ^^ i mean, its a give and take relationship.. in fact, we should be grateful we've come this far, that they've worked so hard just to provide for us.. so yeah, without a doubt, we should always give back to them ^^

[Cloud]

I think it's pretty much decided that you owe your parents. Right now my mom doesn't ask for anything from me but I still pay for a lot of stuff. I even pay for stuff that she just wants and doesn't need(such as this stupid dog which I had to pay $100 for).

[Late Splinter]

Yea, my parents came right out and told me "You owe us nothing." I tried to argue otherwise, but they were deaf ear. Both my grandparents are in the eighties and they’re still as healthy as they were thirty years ago.

[Kzimask]

In simpler terms, parents do their job and kids should do theirs....
I mean I never seen parents going like "Since I bought you that Dinosaur toy for $3, you owe me $3 when you grow up and get a job"
If your parents go like that, Id be hate to be you.

[MasterWordSmith]

eh, I dont do shit for my parents unless they ask. Maybe thats just lazyness, but I dont owe my father anything. =/

[SlimsMcGee]

The way you repay your parents is by giving them grandchildren, and then you support them. Continuous cycle.

[toxxin]

When I turned 18 I had to start paying rent, and helped out occasionally around the house until I moved out. Now that I have moved out, I still go back to help with the addition my dad added onto the house, and anything other big jobs he asks me for.

But thats just common courtisy if you will. I don't "owe" them anything, and I never helped to pay any of the bills, nor would I if they had asked :P But when they grow old and I am well established I would never allow them to be put into a home, and would help them out any way that I could.

[urusai!]

I would support my parents when they need it. I don't necessarily feel that I owe them anything but it's just common courtesy as somebody said above me... er... more of out respect and gratitude than anything else I s'pose.

[Askand]

Well my experience is a different one. I came from a dysfuntional family (parents divorced) And now that I'm working and stuff I help my mother, whenever I can. In both ambients, money and emotional ones I help her and always be in contact with her since I live very far from her. For her I would give back all the stuff she did for me although I may resented some situations. She is still the one who stuck with me when my dad decided to leave. She took care of and sacrifice her life for. So yeah I own her that I'm here alive traumatized for not being raised in a normal family but at least she teached me the basics and I thanks her for that.
My father MIA thanks