Is the look important?

[deto]

I've been wondering, alot of people claim, that the look of their partner
is absolutely not important.

So here i ask, is it important for you how your partner looks? both
the look itself and the clothing style. do you mind if your partner
is walking around in well lets call it "not so fashionable" clothes?
or are you totally fine with it? and do you tell your partner that she/he
should do something healthy whether it is sport or mind what someone
is eating?

what do you think about people that have the opposite point of view?

Also if you see someone (location does not matter) what do you check
first? where do your eyes wander? would you talk to the person?

go ahead...

[hollow kitty]

Some would say I'm motherly, but I do feel if I am connected with someone emotionally or by commitment that what they do and the way the present themselves is a reflection on me. As far as looks, the only requirement I have is that they are appealing to me and they have teeth that they brush and use soap. LOL I'm anal about wrinkled clothes so I'm sure that could be annoying to a guy who didn't care about that kind of thing.

[shadow_of_89]

Well not many will recognize that looks are important in a relationship .....although you are a good hearted person with some brains in your pumpkin above your shoulders ....few will even get close to you....as for a relationship......at starters looks are sadly important *sigh*.....ooh when my eyes see a person i check from bottom to top:D.....

[urusai!]

I guess looks shouldn't really matter but the sad truth is that they do. People who argue otherwise are hypocrites. As humans, we judge by what we see - it's natural.

I guess it's only when people really start to get to know each other, that the value of the other person's appearance changes. *shrugs*

[emmasu]

i have been saying this for ages and am going to say it again, YES THE LOOK MATTERS ALOT, it does, when you first look at aperson, you would look at his/her face, right?

we are not saying that this person has to be super pretty or hot, but they have to be appealing like someone said, when you look at that person, your hearts races so i guess the look matter alot, and ofcourse the clothing, come on, i mean you would not walk with someone that does not care about his/her clothes, anyone i mean, how about the person you love, we humanl ike the good looking things, we would simle if when we see anice thing, it makes you happy, thats why we care about those stuff, so we are not shallow as someone would say, but we are human and we like nice things.......

[*Ririn*]

for me looks and the way someone is dressed matters...not alot but it does play a role in our relationship...i wouldnt want to be with someone who doesn't care about his looks or the way hes dressed...not mature...a sense of style would be good but he shouldn't exaggerate or dress up only with the latest fashion cause then hes a wanabe lol...

when i look at a guy where do i look first??? hmmm???.....i guess face..then go down *gets evil ideas* lol..

[sto67]

i will just flat out say that looks do matter. and sometimes its not just the way somebody looks, but how they present themselves. like you wouldnt wanna see a fat chick in a boob tube, and likewise you wouldnt wanna see a skinny guy in a fancy pink shirt.

the thing about where looks dont matter is only after you get to know a person and you like them for who they are. but it is the initial presentation which draws people together.

but nonetheless, the way i look at it, a person doesnt have to be pretty to look good. its all in the way they dress and present themselves, confidence and happiness are very attractive traits and exude very well. if somebody has these qualities then they can be attractive to anyone.

[Miss M]

I don't care if the person is pretty, ugly, geeky or whatsoever. But I think it's appealing if the person has proper hygiene. I mean, you wouldn't want to talk to a person who smells or someone who didn't brush his/her teeth for three days.

Personally, I'd look at his/her face first, but then, it doesn't matter to me, as long as that person is nice, then we could probably get along. I'd think about choking that person if he/she acted mean towards me. Some people get along with each other because they have the same traits or the same hobbies and stuff. What's the use if your friends are all pretty and handsome if you don't even get along or have the same hobbies.

Personality is the same as looks for me *wierd*, if the guy is mysterious, well, that's a major plus, but if he's a meanie without any reason on why he's doing that, then he's probably the ugliest person on the world.

I'm shy at looking at people, so you'll probably see me looking at the ground rather than looking at your face.

[Cheryl]

First impressions do matter, of course. But we should remember never to judge a book by its cover.

I personally prefer someone I am comfortable with, he need not necessarily be handsome, but...not too ugly that I want to make him go for plastic surgery. ^^" I like people who can make me laugh and who can carry a conversation with me. And who can challenge me with witty remarks.

I find it more fun to laugh with your partner than to just stare at him and do nothing else. >.<

[toxxin]

Well obviously it matters to a certain degree. If my girlfriend decided to stop wearing makeup or gained a few pounds I wouldn't care. But if she became anorexic or obese I would definatly have a problem with that. Not only for appearance sake but primarily for her own health. If she's healthy and happy, so am I

[Evanesque]

Looks are not that important to me. Sure he has to appear decent and not with high psychotic 'i don't care about anything' attitude. I think most important is if you can actually have a conversation with the guy.
I mean, sure he can be drop dead gorgeous and all but would you be able to be yourself and feel comfy around him?? I mean just plain you?

I'm very lucky to have someone as my best friend and boyfriend...i can be totally cool with him...we hang out and do stuff as best friends and ...the other stuff too...*evil grin*...

So to conclude, looks aren't that important...I just need a lil bit of cuteness and wuv...:biggrinlo

[Kriceº]

no matter what . you will care .. would you like to walk in a street with a girl with no face?..with blood all over ? prolly no . =/

[Evanesque]

Ookay now that is just weird and may happen ...never?

Fine maybe you'd want someone attractive but looks aren't as important as character, now is it?
By the way, attractiveness ranges from people tp people. Some one you find unattractive might turn out to be someone else's fantasy god/goddess.

[Mezame]

Yes, I think looks matter probably the most with people nowadays.

Will a record agency sign with a (in their view) not-so-good-looking girl with amazing singing talents or a beautiful lady with only about half of the ugly girl's singing ability?
Will a play or an act use someone that is ugly but honest for their main role or someone sparkling but a bit snobby?

Bias based on looks are inevitable in this world. I personally just lurk around or just acknowledge the existence of the people I think that look pretty good, but when I see or hear a bad personality, then I say screw it. It's very hard to find someone that is both pleasing to the eyes and the heart. In most cases, you're going to have to sacrifice a piece of one or the other.

[Arei]

Honestly all I care about is hygeine and neatness. Take a shower daily, brush your hair and teeth and look decent. If I had a boyfriend thats all I would want. I really do not like people that stink or look like they have been living off the street, as far as looks go thats about it.

I hate how soceity functions on appearances. Guys are rude to me because I'm tall and not a slut. Uh I cant HELP that I'm tall, nor will I stoop down to the sub-human level of being a slut =P There is nothing wrong with my really nice clothes, my Gap/Wal-mart clothes or my anime shirts. Deal with it or get away from me xD

[deto]

Guys are rude to me because I'm tall and not a slut. Uh I cant HELP that I'm tall, nor will I stoop down to the sub-human level of being a slut =P There is nothing wrong with my really nice clothes, my Gap/Wal-mart clothes or my anime shirts. Deal with it or get away from me xD

isn't being tall considered "good"? :eek13:

well i personally don't see why i should spend 200 bucks on a pair of jeans when
i can get similar ones for like 40 bucks or so. i don't need a special brand
clotheswise, as long as they look ok on me and the quality is acceptable.

being overdressed isn't good either ;)

[Chicken Chaser]

almoust all people gets judged by their appearance both in a negative vay or a possitive way... it doesnt have to do with just love or attracktiveness situations.. so i dont think i would date a girl whos looks are great but hasnt got as much as a Pea inside her skull... no offense but thats my point of view. but then again the outside look matters only if u havent talked to the person or to a sertain limit of outher apearance. Charisma Also MAtters!!!

[Kenken]

well, in my opinion, i would say it is, but i'd also say that how people act and think and how they reall are inside is what matters most.

fo example, there's this girl in my class, she's very pretty, and i wouldn't mind going out with her if it weren't for her attitude, since it IS pretty annoying (to teachers more than anyone)

Now, if you find a pretty girl who's a nice and kind person, then you got good luck ;)

[Elocin]

Hmm.

I guess in terms of being attracted to the person, first impressions are generally important, but they need to be enjoyable to be with. They don't need to be absolutely drop dead gorgeous, but also be a person I could be attracted to. (not putting any specific criteria here, as it tends to vary from guy to guy (I do care about height though)) *is female*

But yeah, as long as the style looks good on the guy, I honestly could care less what he wears. He needs to have good hygene, too.

But the good bulk of everything falls on personality.

But as a whole in society, a lot does fall on looks. It's evident with the insane increase of plastic surgery procedures and the demand of doctors to practice it. Also, the media only really portrays 'beautiful women' and to be successful in showbiz, you need to be 'beautiful'. I personally think it's bullcrap, but yeah.... it's sad, really.

But a beautiful person with a shitty personality means nothing to me.

What am I attracted to first? It'd probably be eyes. A guy with nice eyes always gets me. =P

*coughtallhotasianguywithniceeyesFTWcough*

[M-50]

Like you said Deto lots of pps say that looks are not important but the next time you see them with their gf/wife, they are beautiful. I think that looks are not important to a point, but only to some. For some if their gf is okay looking but good as a friend it is fine to go out with them. If they are ugly then they will not.

[Seto]

Imo, yes.
If you're looking like someone who comes from the street, you're getting a bad reputation for it.
Your look is important for friends (of course the inside more), and your job.
Imo your look doesn't have to be beautiful, it just have to be acceptable.

[Habanero]

Looks matter to me at least, if I don't find the woman attractive, nothing's gonna happen. But of course an air-headed bombshell won't work either.

But more interesting than this topic, I find this following sentence:

Your look is important for friends and your job.

What has job got to do with anything...?

[Cheryl]

Maybe the job you are applying for may depend on your appearance, is what I think Seto means. =/

Anyway...adding on to my earlier post, I also find that a person's smile attracts me as well. Seriously. I find guys who smile a lot (and naturally) attractive. W-ell. It may vary from person to person, of course. ^^"

[sander]

looks are important, its unlikely ull go and talk to someone whos ugly..

tho, when u get to know someone that isnt that good looking (either body or clothes) and he/she is nice, i dont think it matters much

i always check face and boobs first XD

[silverwolf801]

well I don't like to admit this but I am shallow not very shallow but shallow enough. To say that looks for me do count in a relationship but it is not the only aspect that i look for of course in a relationship.

[Neve]

While an informal debate, this is still a debate, and therefore not simply a place for everyone to state their own opinions on whether looks count to them or not. I would like to see some actual debating, or this thread will be trashed.

Thanks :).

[Mezame]

What has job got to do with anything...?

Like I said in some posts back, often times jobs tend to hire better looking people for their jobs. If there were 2 women getting interviewed for a job, and they had about the same abilities, the more charismatic and better looking one would definently get the job. As for the ugly duckling, too bad. It's the way society works now, with a bunch of hypocrites often running the best positions.

Wouldn't you want (in your view) a hot secretary instead of an ugly one with the same abilities? I know I do. While it may seem shallow, that's the way most humans think, and if you don't think so then you are truly a gentleman/woman. I know I'm not the best looking guy out there, so I'll choose a profession or something where looks aren't at all important.

Right now, there are waay too many people that are worried about how they look, and that's just feeding the problem in itself. I see this sometimes on the news and such, but if you're going to cut yourself or get pissed just because the girl that sits next to you has better hair, then you're just an idiot. Whatever, go die.

[hasuke]

But more interesting than this topic, I find this following sentence:
What has job got to do with anything...?

I wasn't hired for many jobs because I have tourette's syndrome, which, when nervous, makes me twitch and blink a lot. That affects my overall appearance (makes me look like a manaic) and as such, I wasn't hired. So yeah, I'd say that looks kind of determine if you get a job. Especially since girls as dumb as tacks have gotten jobs where I used to work, and their interviews were shorter than most.

Also, people going "GOOD HYGENE PLX" that's not the purpose of the thread. They're asking if PHYSICAL APPEARANCE is important. Not Physical Cleanliness. In the end, looks is what matters to most. Irregardless of beleifs.
Let's check this scenario.

Say someone with really crooked teeth, a lazy eye or two, lots of acne, who was really fat or really scrawny, and had a heart of gold were to talk to you. 50$ says you wouldn't be able to look at them while talking to them, aside from occasional glances. That there is proof that looks matter. So saying "I don't mind as long as they're clean :D" is flawed.

EDIT:
Uh I cant HELP that I'm tall, nor will I stoop down to the sub-human level of being a slut =P There is nothing wrong with my really nice clothes, my Gap/Wal-mart clothes or my anime shirts. Deal with it or get away from me xD
Exactly. Bravo, and don't let anyone change that about you. Not enough girls like you :/

[Mezame]

Say someone with really crooked teeth, a lazy eye or two, lots of acne, who was really fat or really scrawny, and had a heart of gold were to talk to you. 50$ says you wouldn't be able to look at them while talking to them, aside from occasional glances. That there is proof that looks matter. So saying "I don't mind as long as they're clean :D" is flawed.
Wow, great example.

I think this may have been said before, but look at the booming plastic surgery industry. People are coming to realize that looks are becoming more and more valuable in this world, thus they'd go under surgery to get to it. Hey, what people don't know won't hurt them. If you have the heart to change your appearance and lie about your true appearance, I'm sure you can lie to others saying that you were born with a super perfect nose that's a bit paler in color than the rest of you. You're special. =p

[Habanero]

I wrote this already earlier but somebody apparently deleted the post. I wonder why, since this way it caused a lot more unnecessary posts, but here we go again...

The sentence: "Your look is important for friends, and your job."

I thought he meant that the job you do is important for your friends. It was a missunderstanding.

Writing it this way: "Your look is important for friends, and for your job."

Won't leave any room for missinterpretation.

So just move on :)

[Arei]

isn't being tall considered "good"? :eek13:
well i personally don't see why i should spend 200 bucks on a pair of jeans when
i can get similar ones for like 40 bucks or so. i don't need a special brand
clotheswise, as long as they look ok on me and the quality is acceptable.
being overdressed isn't good either ;)

Overdressed = evil XP My grandma can be like that sometimes :sad

$200 on jeans is outrageous. I think the most I ever put on jeans was $70.. oh thats the one I'm wearning now... Got it only because, even 2 years later, it fits like a perfect pants dream <3

Probably the most ever spent on one outfit for me was $200 something for the REALLLY nice Chinese dress I got from Foley's (which is now slightly too big X_X but ive had it for 3 years now XD)... Oh it was so worth it x3

Tall is considered "good" in stages (what i've determined xD) When you're little-thru most of elementary school being tall kept the bullies away from me, tons of people looked up to me because I wasn't afraid to tell anyone off who was being mean to someone else (along with I was usualy much much much taller then them XD) Since 5th grade though its made me the object of ridicule. There IS a difference between friendly teasing and downright insulting when it comes to stuff like this and I can really tell >.>

Also WHO CARES IF YOU DONT WEAR FRIGGEN PREP CLOTHES. Go to Hollister and look at their shirts...

Oh and has anyone noticed that all of these popular clothings are made for flat-chested annorexic girls (atleast flat chested XD)? :rolleye09 Thats the reason I can't fit into most of those clothes, I HAVE BOOBS! :Haha They're a bit out of proportion with my acctual chest/upper body size so, it makes clothes buying difficult in the first place :sad

I can wear crap from Aeropostal and Abercrombie (Aeropostal isnt extremely overpriced so it doesnt count) but honestly... whos gonna spend $70 on a FRIGGEN T-SHIRT?! Not me... not me :lol

So I'm ok with the Gap outlet and Wal-mart XD And the occasionally Foley's raid x3 Banana Republic too.... <3 <3 <3 Its too expensive but alot of those clothes are so my style.... *sigh* But its ok, I'm cool with what I got XD

Again... Accept people for who they are and not by the standards of what you want them to be. Trust me, you'll make ALOT more friends that way :Haha



I wasn't hired for many jobs because I have tourette's syndrome, which, when nervous, makes me twitch and blink a lot. That affects my overall appearance (makes me look like a manaic) and as such, I wasn't hired. So yeah, I'd say that looks kind of determine if you get a job. Especially since girls as dumb as tacks have gotten jobs where I used to work, and their interviews were shorter than most.
Also, people going "GOOD HYGENE PLX" that's not the purpose of the thread. They're asking if PHYSICAL APPEARANCE is important. Not Physical Cleanliness. In the end, looks is what matters to most. Irregardless of beleifs.
Let's check this scenario.
Say someone with really crooked teeth, a lazy eye or two, lots of acne, who was really fat or really scrawny, and had a heart of gold were to talk to you. 50$ says you wouldn't be able to look at them while talking to them, aside from occasional glances. That there is proof that looks matter. So saying "I don't mind as long as they're clean :D" is flawed.
EDIT:
Exactly. Bravo, and don't let anyone change that about you. Not enough girls like you :/


I do and have known alot of people that look like what soceity calls "fugly" and they've been awsome people, awsome awsome people. I seriously don't beleive in judging books by their cover, and I mean literally. I've never done it... Well thats a lie, I do try to avoid the ones with the sagging pants and boobs hanging out.. but thats clothing-wise, not physical apperances xD

[deto]

There IS a difference between friendly teasing and downright insulting when it comes to stuff like this and I can really tell >.>

sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.

i've gone thru live with that pretty well, i just don't give a shit what people say
that don't like me. usually they do it behind my back anyway so i care even less


Oh and has anyone noticed that all of these popular clothings are made for flat-chested annorexic girls (atleast flat chested XD)? :rolleye09 Thats the reason I can't fit into most of those clothes, I HAVE BOOBS! :Haha They're a bit out of proportion with my acctual chest/upper body size so, it makes clothes buying difficult in the first place :sad

afaik girls can't choose whether they are flat chested or not :redbiggri proof
me if i'm wrong tho ;)
but i didn't notice that such clothes are made for "flat-chested annorexic girls"
to be honest, i think it's made for the average. (yes i know they have a certain
picture of an ideal in mind but that about everywhere)

[l'irrépressible]

Okie dokie. When you see a hot chick walking down the street, you get attracted to her. Same goes when you see a hot guy walking down the street, yes?

First impression IS important.

After you get to know them better, you realise that LOOKS aren't all that important because:

A. you have major problems with their character and it's not something you can put up with
B. you have nothing in common with them and it's really strenous to have a deep and meaningful conversation with them

when that happens, you can throw the looks factor out of the window.

One Bleach example is Inoue Orihime. Frickin' cute and adorable in the first few episodes, she quickly degenerates into a dumb blonde with all nutrients travelling to her boobs instead of her brains, as noted by Arisawa Tatsuki. She lacks depth, it is no wonder Kurosaki Ichigo avoids connecting with her at a deeper level and Kuchiki Rukia bags all the treasury.

As someone has already mentioned before, looks play an important part in chemistry. It is important but it is NOT the ultimate importance.

[Arei]

sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.
i've gone thru live with that pretty well, i just don't give a shit what people say
that don't like me. usually they do it behind my back anyway so i care even less
afaik girls can't choose whether they are flat chested or not :redbiggri proof
me if i'm wrong tho ;)
but i didn't notice that such clothes are made for "flat-chested annorexic girls"
to be honest, i think it's made for the average. (yes i know they have a certain
picture of an ideal in mind but that about everywhere)

I think a better term I SHOULD'VE used is they're made for the small framed (sometimes flat chested XD) person. I'm not fat, but I'm not 5'3" Being so tall I have a bigger frame and (unfortunetly sometimes) I was blessed with un-small breasts xD That last reason is the main reason why I can't fit into those clothes, and alot of clothes acctually because usualy if it fits on the lower part of the upperbody, its waaaay too small up top and it looks bad =P

Thus most of my clothes are very tacky cuz even with a minimizer I can't get them to fit properly. And you notice that most of the people wearing those trendy things are short, very small. Even if they did have breasts, if they're very very small they can still fit into most things. Its different when you're bigger, and aside from pants they really dont make shirts for the tall disproportionate people :eek13: They're not like smaller people who even if disproportioned, most of the can accomodate to clothes easily because their so small. I end up going into bigger sizes that are just ridiculously too large for me and I hate it >.<

[deto]

meh i can't tell i'm a boi, so i have no problems with buying clothes....
but of course i do undterstand what you mean and yes as soon as you have
other proportions than the average girl, buying stuff is a pain in the ass.

gonna check that what you said about the "small framed girls" tho :redbiggri

[Jimmyz]

I do not mind what my partner wears, aslong as she likes it.

in my eyes she can pull anything off, i mean she once wore a gorilla suit to a party, and she looked awesome in it :P

as for checking out other people, or window shopping as i like to call it, i usually look towards their shoulders first, then hair. shoulder because you can tell how someone is feeling usualyl from the posistion their shoulders are in. and the hair cos i love all the different styles out there :P

[silverwolf801]

Well I wear $50 - $80 pants and shirts and my sneakers usually cost almost $150. I mean my girl she doesn't have to wear what I wear because girls look good in anything they wear anyway. But for me it's like a religion for me to wear these kinds of material items.

[rei]

i'll be a hypocrite if i say that its not important for me because it is, as a person driven by the senses i appreciate beautiful things. going back to the first post when u see a person for the first time you don't say something like "he is smart", you say "he's gorgeous". finally its more of confidence, how you carry yourself that will make you beautiful.

[Malice]

Looks don't really make an importance to me. If a woman fell in love with me. I'd be focusing on making them happy and feel needed. Besides I beleive only superficial people worry about looks (no offense). For example: I'm not an attractive person and It doesn't really worry me. And if someone fell for me I'd deeply appreciate their company and affection regardless of looks. I know I sound old fashioned, but I was raised to be a gentleman.

[Ushio Amamiya]

My partner doesn't matter if I look pretty or not. I like it that way - the fact that he loves my whole being very much.

Personally, I do care on how I look when I have parties with friends or having an interview for my job. It's important to me because it's part of my personal lifestyle. I just want to feel great for myself.

[The Messenger]

Many peole pounder upon wether which is more important. We should all accept the fact the people not minding the outside appearance of the person are rare these days, the common thing is that your partner must have SOME looks and a pleasing personality. He/she doesnt necessarily have to be sexy, gorgeous and phenomenal to be a special someone.

[Vladimir]

look are important if eu wanna be a model.. if a person judge eu with looks ask them to look at theirselves whether they are any better.. looks are not everyting.. when eu get old they will eventually go away... its better to just look pleasant... its the inside that matters...

[SoundWave]

Yea, looks only gets ya to a certain point, then after that it's all about if you can live with the person or not.. That's when personality comes into the picture I guess, if the person really fits you so to say.

[shadow_of_89]

Looks are too important at the beginning of a relationship and that can prove disastrous later on.......when you will see your wife getting older and older if you don't love her beyond her looks eventually everything will fall apart...i guess what it counts are heart and soul:D

[Malice]

Looks never get a relationship started anyway. It's the spark of attraction that does it. If you both feel the spark you should try to see where things lead. But in the end it comes down to te personality and soul of the person.

[toxxin]

For myself I find that I need a bit of both, physical and the mental attraction.

On the other hand, once you start to love someone they will become more attractive to you in everyway anyway. Sal, you have a very mature outlook on the issue.

[candyb3ar]

For myself I find that I need a bit of both, physical and the mental attraction.
On the other hand, once you start to love someone they will become more attractive to you in everyway anyway. Sal, you have a very mature outlook on the issue.

I am in partial agreance with him... technically the "look" is what makes you wanna talk to a person, cause i am sorry but if you are a sloppy mess, or dont take care of yourself and what not, what do expect is gonna happen, that your gonna bag a HOT babe?...SORRY!

Sure its superficial and maybe reflects poorly, if you are on the "not so naturally gifted" part of the spectrum your gonna use this as a lash back "well you shouldn't judge others by the way the look and dress"...We know you shouldn't but thats society, would you walk into a bank and give a dude that looks like a homeless person your money?....i doubt it

[this is kinda getting off topic]

for toxxin's second point "once you start to love someone they will become more attractive to you in everyway anyway"...im sorry you cant take a pinto and turn it in to a Ferrari.
cause you already needed that initial attraction to become love, so ya!

anyways...

...but looks aint gonna get ya too far, but if you can accompany your looks with a good personality then your a winner, if not you come off as a stuck up...[tried not to swear there]...oh well i dunno where i am even going anymore so i am gonna stop...

but for any last glimer of hope for those whom think "love is blind"...whomever thought lyle lovett and julia roberts would marry?...go figure

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oh ya ps toxxin...your lucky you have me. ;)

[Lady1]

I think its the person inside that counts though looks do hold a certain advantage. i mean if you look good then you feel good. and when you feel good you attract people to you however if you look and feel trashy then no ones going to want to have a bar of you.
my opinion.

[ninjabot]

I don't believe in "Love" at first sight. I do believe in "Lust" at first sight. Love is when you accept everything about a person and still desire their company. Lust is when you want what you see in the back o' them jeans. Now, I don't believe looks play much of a part when it comes to love. It plays a miniscule part, as you just can't force yourself to snuggle with someone who you're not attracted to.

Seriously, let me find a girl who's smart, likes anime and videogames, has a goal in life, likes animals, AND has a big backyard, and I swear I'll break off my bloodoath to never get married.

[Vladimir]

look is not important cuz look is oni on the outside. they can be verii pretty or handsome but when their attitude is not good as they look they mean nth.. in relationship and marriage is abt what uu are not what uu look like.. when uu get older it will eventually fade away.. totally..

[VampyreLord]

I have deleted too many spam posts here, and I do not wish to have to do so again.

A post which is just a line or two long, or just an opinion, is almost always spam.

[dragoneyes001]

certainly looks count its just what look you prefer to see that counts this can include anything.

even when someone says they don't care they subconsciously do make judgments based on their own criteria.

edit: you want verbose? fine heres more lines that will say exactly the same thing as those first two lines.

its perfectly natural to look and judge someone in the first glance!

when you chose a partner you will already have decided the look suits your tastes regardless of any changes you may wish.

looks will have already made their effect long before you talk or get to know the person.

your subconscious will make a judgment that not always corresponds to what you think you like or dislike which will play heavily in how you respond to the other person.

[Minami Ikki]

^I really agree with the fine points of what you're saying. Looks do make you unconciously label and decide on someone's likability.

This is how it breaks down for me (The scale being attractivity)

Hot, Bad Attitude = 6
Hot, Semi Attitude = 8
Hot, Great Attitude = 10

Semi, Bad Attitude = 4
Semi, Semi Attitude = 5
Semi, Great Attitude = 8

Ugly, Bad Attitude = -4
Ugly, Semi Attitude = 4
Ugly, Great Attitude = 6

Whether you like it or not, that's how most people see it. Looks are all first judgement of the person. The way they look, dress, act, heck, even walk and talk, is how you judge a person, and it's all done within the first 10 seconds of contact. Of course, after a establishing some facts about them, you can actually change your opinion about them. But if they're still ugly, chances are you won't go for 'em

[EnzJon]

I think that looks definitely play a big factor in the beginning of everything, but once the people get to really know each other, they don't matter as much. Sure, you both would want each other to look your best, but you wouldn't want the other to go and get plastic surgery.

For me, a girl would have to be good-looking (notice I'm not saying she has to be "hot" or "gorgeous" or anything like that), and have a good personality (because for some reason, the personality of a person affects how I see them, and I dunno why).

She should also have good hygiene and self-respect for herself.


My two cents, like it or not.



--EnzJon

[Asaki Mika]

Practically, looks really matter in this world. But not thay much. Humans as we are need to practice giving sense to inner beauty. " What is essential is invisible to the naked eye."

Nathan: An intelligent post, but a little short. Posts really should be longer than this, okay?

[Vladimir]

looks are not everything uu live on . now uu are gorgeous but years to come uu get older and '' ugly '' . what's left of uu is only ur personality and ur inner beauty .

but uu do have to maintain ur looks . looking great and pleasant gives a good first impression . if uu look untidy for ur first date, zomg that person wun like to see uu again .

it's just about balancing both the factor .

[BabyLoving]

Looks matter. No matter how we argue it, you can't deny that looks are the one that gives people that first impression. If looks weren't important, then there won't be so many people who are being teased, because they look nice. In fact, if looks aren't important, why people who look good are approached first, instead of other people who don't look just as important.

Personally, I also do not wish to date someone that doesn't look good. I would prefer to date someone who is better looking compared the not so good looking person.

[xFrame]

No matter how pysically attractive a girl is to me, if I don't care for their personality, its hard for me to be around them...but I guess if I ust wanted to get laid I'd put up with them till the deed was done...but that would make a dog in the eyes of some women. Remember this. Girls talk alot and word spreads quickly between them..so I wouldn't do anything to blemish my reputation with the ladies.

[VampyreLord]

I think I'll move this to 'growing up'

[Kay™]

looks doesnt matter,all it count is the heart

[sham16]

LOl... I think i saw a thread like this before..

Anyway... as i said before 50/50 both has to be equal since you cannot be that way until you grow old but, you can see the results in your children... The same reason with inteligence...

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

At the End of the day, I mean whoever says they don't care about looks, IS LYING I mean Males wan't a beautiful/cute (Bishoujo) Girlfriend, and Girls want Bishounen!! anyway I do care about looks....

[Sakura_Drops]

I mind a bit about how they dress..E.g. if it's all 'chav-styled' I'll go crazy T_T Anywhose, looks in general are not that important to me. Yes, I might look at someone and think, 'ohh, he's pretty', but that's it, unless his personality is great.

[Kay™]

well usually i dont mind look,as long is not so worst..but the important is the personality =)

[Kyoko<3!]

As long as she's good-looking enough for me to be interested in her enough to find out what's she's really like. =/ Lol that pretty much sums it up xD

[SLVR]

I've been wondering, alot of people claim, that the look of their partner
is absolutely not important.

So here i ask, is it important for you how your partner looks? both
the look itself and the clothing style. do you mind if your partner
is walking around in well lets call it "not so fashionable" clothes?
or are you totally fine with it? and do you tell your partner that she/he
should do something healthy whether it is sport or mind what someone
is eating?

what do you think about people that have the opposite point of view?

Also if you see someone (location does not matter) what do you check
first? where do your eyes wander? would you talk to the person?

go ahead...
Yeah I dont want my girl in something that dun look professional. She has to dress as good as me.

Yeah I do. Health is important to me when I have girls. If they dont got a healthy life style we dont fly.

Later in life they will see.

I always loook at the eyes first. I grew up that way. Its not professional to look at the other parts till you have talked to them in person. After the eye/face I go to the legs to get a idea of how good of shape they are in. Yes Id talk to them if I was lookin for the relation ship

[paige_]

lets see.. how could I make my statement short?

mhm..

looks could be important, but not important enough as character.

[Arkturus]

hmmm... let's see.... *ahem*

"Looks are the last thing I look for, but I DO look for them."

-My Confucius-wannabe-Dad- (:p)

That's one of his few sayings that I believe. So looks are important, yeah, but not AS imporant as the personality. ^_^

[.Kozmic]

They can be, but they are the last thing I look for, they should be similar to me, and always gotta be fun

[M-50]

I want to say this but I wish to express that I intend NO OFFENSE to anyone.

'You don't look at the fireplace when you are poking the fire, do you?
But you do when it is sucking you off.'

Again NO OFFENSE!

If this is inappropiate then will the mod delete it.

[SHiKaMaRi]

My opinion.. Yes, the look is important.

When looking for a guy, I tend to go for personality more, though I do look at looks as well. No offense, but I wouldn't want to go out with a guy that's unhygienic, and looks horrid.

[7th captin]

i will tell you the truth and without lying..

i don't care about my look in front of the girls because in our society if you are polite with the girls they will like you.

i have faced a problem with my look once this year and thank god that i got rid of it ..thanks to a member of my division.. because i always wear black shirts and jeans and scary stuff but i reialized that i won't look cool so i changed my look and started to wear normal clothes.

[deto]

i did never really care about what others think. i mean most people
gave me a strange look when i had my head fully shaven or when i
had a mohawk. i guess it looked somewhat unfamiliar.

or maybe the shirts with stuff like "do i look like a f***ing people person"
didn't really help :D

anyway point is, i wear what i like. but i take care about hygiene,
clean clothes and such. i don't like the idea of being someone else
than i truely am.

[rd_07]

who woudnt want a goodlooking for a partner? everybody does...but there is a point when looks are disregarded...
sample? like my wife 4 me shes complete, smart,sexy beautiful, kind...name it..
am not a goodlooking guy but having her in my life makes me 1.
http://img365.imageshack.us/img365/8225/lovemh3.jpg

[Yuffie]

Nuh uh. Not important ^^ It goes by the heart. But even if you go by the heart, and the face looks like a war ship, then... No comment =X

[iladys]

@Rohil: You dirty boy, you :P Its a good one though.

Well I agree with whoever said that even though people say looks dont play a part in it, they're lying. To everyone, it's something different. Might be the body, the eyes, the smile etc. Rd_07, you are goodlooking mate :) Everyone sees someone differently. As long as they make you happy and they know what to say when you need it is all someone could ask for. I dont believe we're all vain shallow creatures.

[M-50]

Honestly it is true. Mostly.
But as to the actual question, the look is important whether it be a lot or a little. I like a girl who others don't think is that good looking. So in that instance I guess looks are not important from an outsiders point of view. But to me she does not look ugly. So yes looks are important.
When you are going out with a girl you think she looks good, unless you are just playing with her.

[iladys]

When you are going out with a girl you think she looks good, unless you are just playing with her.
Actually, I beg to differ. I know a few people who have dated simply because the other person was 'hot'. There are people out there who think their guy/girl is hot but its all lust for their body, not personality but I know what you're trying to say here. If I was going out with a guy, no matter whether he was an average joe or one of the hottest guys around, I wouldnt be thinking "omg, he isn't good looking enough" or "omg, he's gonna cheat on me", I'll be overjoyous that I actually have a guy. Apparently, my friends question why I've never had a boyfriend before because I'm so nice -_-" Its not my fault lol.

[angelicdesire]

For me personally looks aren't that important. As long as he treats me right, then he is very attractive to me. Im not gonna lie I do look at guys looks, but its the personality that does it for me. I myself, don't think im that attractive, and tbh when someone says that im pretty or beautiful or w.e, im lke yeah rt, but thats jus me.

As for how guys dress, meh doesn't matter. As long as its not too outrageous, then i would have a problem. Hygene is a BIG factor. As long as you smell good, shower, brush teeth etc...then we are good.

[Kefka]

For me personally looks aren't that important. As long as he treats me right, then he is very attractive to me. Im not gonna lie I do look at guys looks, but its the personality that does it for me. I myself, don't think im that attractive, and tbh when someone says that im pretty or beautiful or w.e, im lke yeah rt, but thats jus me.
As for how guys dress, meh doesn't matter. As long as its not too outrageous, then i would have a problem. Hygene is a BIG factor. As long as you smell good, shower, brush teeth etc...then we are good.


You're pretty. :biggrinlo

I don't date a girl for looks or anything. She has to click with me, we have to have a good time together, things in common, etc. Looks are just a benefit. Lucky to me...I got a girl that not only clicks with me...is gorgeous. :D

[Daifuku]

looks? hah.
looks can be tricky. the moreeee important one is how the person is, that is by looking at people's action cuz they reflect in alll of that. looks... can be superficial, ugly, natural, pretty but imagine how they are by inside :x

[ikkaku's girl]

It's really hard for me to like someone just for their looks. For the most part, I have a hard time saying someone is attractive unless I know something about their personality first. For example, I've had many guy friends who I wasn't attracted to at all when we first met. Then after spending time with them, I started to realize how good looking they were. So yes looks count, but the more I like a guy's personality, the better looking I think he is.

[Lisa.]

It's important for me, if I'm not attracted to someone I can't fall in love with that person, the eye wants something too..

[jemz09]

Hmm.. Maybe. I mean they don't matter anymore once you like that person XD

Because for you they'd probably be handsome/beautiful one you like them ^^

For me.. they don't really matter.. but there are time when the look is important XD.. But... as they say.. it's the attitude that counts ^^

[Patience]

Maybe this sounds shallow. but it's not. People claim that looks doesnt interfere with love but that's a lie. Imo - you cannot love someone without atleast some physical attraction, and i'm not saying that if you're not sexy or anything you wont find anyone because people have their tastes, but still - I believe that you cant love someone that you arnt attracted to. But as always, personality is far more important ^^

[Waverly]

I think that looks may not be important, but they do play a roll in attraction. Like it or not, your VERY first impression of someone in real life is purely visual (assuming of course, that you're not blind.)
I have found, however, that if there is chemistry, looks aren't necessarily of any importance. In the past I have found people unattractive when I first met them, but as I get to know them a physical attraction does develop.

[L'Arc Enzeru]

um... for me is quite important cuz' someone appereance is showing their personality, so if their looks is bad maybe we can decide their personality is bad and if good then their personality maybe good too. well maybe there's someone in the world that their looks and the personality is contrary.

[Yuffie]

@hollow enzeru: Doesn't mean what.. If the appearance is so damn pretty but the person is evil.. How? ><

[Alex26]

i wont be hypocrite, if the girl's uberly ugly... i really dont think i would get on a relationship, however, if the girl's uberly hot i would probably want to get some of that XD but the attitude counts too, i dont like noisy, good for nothing,b1tchy, novely, fashion obsesive girls, that just not my type, i rather have a cute , humble girl, even if she isnt as hot as Jennifer Lopez, i can get on a relation w/ someone lookable XD

so no, i dont believe on the looks doesnt count thing, but i do agree personality's a big factor :rolleye09

[FreedoM]

To be honest I do want my girlfriend/wife to be good looking. Doesn't have to be "OMFG BBQSAUCE HOTTEST WOMAN IN THE WHOLE GALAXY", but decent looking at least. Don't want to wake up one morning and turn over to see an ogre.

[L]

To be honest I do want my girlfriend/wife to be good looking. Doesn't have to be "OMFG BBQSAUCE HOTTEST WOMAN IN THE WHOLE GALAXY", but decent looking at least. Don't want to wake up one morning and turn over to see an ogre.
:Domo

I prefer someone not overly hot, too. Sometimes it seems that girls are swayed by their own beauty (well, us guys too, actually).

[Helikaon]

In the early stages of developing a relationship how a person looks does effect our opinion of the person.. Im saying this purely in partner terms.. Anyone who says that they dont care is lying.. because everyone has there own level perspective and own self opinion.. so therfore they will measure it against the other person automatically..

I am saying this takes a part in the very early stages... but once a person feels for the other person based on who they are.. then they can say that it isnt based on looks.. only then.