Suggestions on how to keep a family member from screwing over the holidays

[Arei]

Suggestions on how to keep a family member from screwing over the holidays for the rest of my family.... I'm not sure what to do, stating my opinion wouldn't be the best idea so... I gotta think of sneakier tactics :sad

My grandma lets my aunt control everything, and you know what: there are more members of this family besides my aunt. She is not the center of the universe and i'm really tired of my grandma trying to please her and her awful children at everyone elses expense, especially mine XP

But my problems are besides the point right now, the problem is because she wants to, EVERYONE will have to go through a christmas schedule the majority do not agree with. We DONT want christmas "lunch" because its going to be AFTER CHURCH on SUNDAY. Its going to be 1000x more packed more then usual with the locals and then realitives eating out, especially at the place they want to go. And honestly, there are QUITE a few of us that do NOT have the patience to sit in a resteraunt forever. We wait forever for the food because it will be packed, it'll take most not long to eat the food, then have to wait an HOUR or so for my cousins to finish eating the tiny little bit of food they have and they never eat it all.

Then we'll go home and open presents and their stupid faces will be around till 6 or so >.< Theres nothing alot of us can do in that time other wise we'll have stupid little children in our faces (especially me because ill want to draw/paint/read/work in photoshop) Can't ride the mule because my stupid cousin will want to and I can't stand her at all.

She said the most awfulest things to me that she was going to do to my very recenetly deceased dog's grave, my school work, and random other things important to me. I want to shank her. Badly.


So what should I do, even when I'm calm and civil my grandma still gets snotty when it comes to me having a problem with my aunt and the way she does crap. I love them both alot, but we're a family. You're NOT suppose to worship one person's opinions and screw over everyone else's feelings. HONESTLY its just plain RUDE and INCONSIDERATE.

:sad This is really annoying and i'm tired of the past 7 years being sick to my stomach all the time they're around because they think I don't have the right or deserve to be nice to or respect mine and other family member's feelings...

Anyone else deal with this before, know a good way to try to help? I'd get my mom and grandpa involved but my grandma kinda regards our opinion's the most least important. And well.. I've run out of close immediate family lol.

[Ren]

er... just go bankai on them?












:p

[Decado]

yeah sounds all too familiar......

suggestions? *spend all ur time away.....away from them......say....CB?*
r o f l, tho i can c that'd be hard with them around.

ehh, we seriously when it comes to family, there's not much u can really do. i mean there's all the psychological stuff i used to believe in heavily, of how them treating u is a reflection of how they were treated.....in their younger years...and so much other stuff which i really don't remember atm, but did make sense but now i don't care...

or ... just the good ol' put urself in their shoes and see urself through their eyes. maybe all they see is a typical teenager, etc etc...which is the reason ur bein treated so

Or if u were a guy, like the rest of have been told (in one way or another): "suck it up."
sorry, not my words ^^;;
hope everything works out....

then again, if nothing else works, go with ren's advice
XD

[Purewrath]

convert to another religion and stay locked up in your room all day.
or succeed from the country which is your family and make your own family.

Personally i dont know what you can really do except sit down and talk to your family, all of them and voice your opinion on how the holidays truely should be, a loving time for family, not a crazy cluster f*ck of annoyance

[rei]

that's just plain nasty. u should run away! hehehe
seriously lemme ask you... so you spend each waking day with them? i mean are they really so stuck up your just about to pull your hair? i understand that families can be neurotic i have one of my own too^^ my aunts would always cook for the whole family and we always eat at their house. maybe you should try to say that to ur parents. that way you can sneak off whenever u want

[Chaotic Despair]

Hmm, i would say down right refuse to go along with it but that doesn't always work (but its always worth a try :P) All i can suggest is that you convince your Mother and Granpa who im guessing isn't in favor of the whole day to rebel and not go along with schedual and do what you want for a change. Yes, it may divide the family for the day, but its apparent that they need to learn that what they want is not really what you want on Christmas day.

If that doesn't work, then just bare with it, after all it's only once a year.

[Future]

Lock them in a big cage and throw it in the ocean... works for me :p

[Arei]

hehe, I like that idea billywestfan xD Unfortunatly I am no where near an ocean, and they would be found in the lake XP

rei: I'd die if I spent each and every waking day with them @_@

During school I'm here at home with just me and my mom, but the other times when I'm not busy with something I'm at my grandparents... because my dogs are there and I've got more to do sitting there then I do at home =P Until I can get a car, I'm stuck XP

Unfortunatly my aunt and cousins invade alot XP

My mom is now the one screwing around with it all... she doesnt want to have nothing to do all afternoon... there is plenty to do @_@ and the faster we kick everyone out there more time we get to do what we really want to do lol. Cousin's gotta leave before anyone does anything acctually fun or they'll screw it up. I dont want them touching my PS2 or expensive thingys.

[Future]

Yeah, my cousin's always wanna play with my stuff... and if i say no my aunty's get mad at me :p

[Arei]

I know that feeling. One time they nearly destroyed my PS2 and they erased my DDR data by turning it off while it was saving when I had had everything unlocked for a really long time TT__TT No one respects my wishes to keep the little children away from MY expensive stuff... I should just refuse to set up their new mp3 players (which a 3 year old and a 7 year old DONT need) because i'm sure i'll be forced to step every new electronic as usual =_= I'm not the only one who knows how to do it...

[Miharu]

hmm... just put tape on their mouths and lock them up in the closet.
or you could just talk to them and tell then to stay away from you.

[Arei]

If talking to them was that easy, I'd have done it yeeeaars ago xD I've tried but they dont care. Not even someone scolding/spanking doesnt work... and my aunt needs to hit them with something harden then a wooden spoon.... owww that hurts [/sarcasm]

[silverwolf801]

well you just have to know when to show them who is older you can't let them run what is yours. So instead of waiting for there parents to do something why don't you take some of your own inititive and teach them some respect.

This has been a service announcement from silverwolf801

[Arei]

I know what you're saying silverwolf and thats what I do, and thats what gets me into trouble. I'm suppose to not do/say anything and let the parents handle it but that doesn't work, and I'm not one to just sit by and let crap like that happen. One of them (who's 8 years younger then me) thinks she has a right and can do whatever I do and use whatever I have and has a "whats yours is mine" mentality when it comes to my stuff. She is over-dramatic and starts crying if you just push her (gently) out of the way. When I was a little younger I had been the only one and didn't have to worry about someone coming and trashing my stuff or ruining anything, but I remember when I was 10 (so she was about to turn 2) and she was digging her hands into my birthday cake and they made her help me open all of my presents and got mad at me when I sad (not screaming) I didn't appreciate them letting her do all that without asking me, and then and now they act like I'm suppose to be used to it!

She's my cousin, not my sister. She doesn't have the right to ANYTHING I own, and because of the age difference I have alot of things she doesnt need to mess with/watch/play/read and everyone is coming on me with this "you have to share!" crap.

Why the heck should I be OK with my PS2 being destroyed by a stupid 7 year old, just because she's my cousin? Where is the logic in that? And just because my family takes and sells without permission/brakes my stuff that I have no right to be angry/dissapointed in them is what I've been told too... Again does that really make any sense whatsoever?

[rei]

i have obnoxious and spoiled lil cousin's too i wanna strangle them when they touch my stuff lolz! what i do is i try to trick them, coax them or scare them like u'll be all alone there and the boogeyman will get u or something. ur smarter and older than them. if all else fails lock everything u own in ur room^^

[Future]

I know that feeling. One time they nearly destroyed my PS2 and they erased my DDR data by turning it off while it was saving when I had had everything unlocked for a really long time TT__TT No one respects my wishes to keep the little children away from MY expensive stuff... I should just refuse to set up their new mp3 players (which a 3 year old and a 7 year old DONT need) because i'm sure i'll be forced to step every new electronic as usual =_= I'm not the only one who knows how to do it...

as if a 3 year old would use a mp3 player... man... my cousins would never delete my saved games or anything cause i tell them if they do i'll hit them :p ...and plus most of them know what they're doing... so i don't have to set it up for them or anything... the only problem is i have a chip in my xbox, and i don't want them to break that... cause if you shake it from side to side... the chip falls over and i have to open it up and put it back into place again ><