Love, (question within)

[Jimmyz]

Right first of all, have you ever been in love? (pick one of the below, and maybe give a little tale?)

now theres three types of love.

1. a love that makes you happy, but once the relationship is broken, you get over within a month or 2.
2. a love that makes you happy, but once the relationship is broken it takes you 1-3years to get over it
3. a love that makes you happy, but once the relationship is broken you never get over it, a part of you always will lust after that one girl / boy.

(that one is just cos im nosey :P)

right the slightly more personal one (to me atleast)

my ex girlfriend and i have been getting.. quite.. freindly, again after 2 months apart, i was going out with her for 6-7 months, and i do think i fell in love with her. i was crushed after the relationship fell apart. now, she is now saying she still loves me and wants to give ti another go if i do.

just in your opinion (looking for a non bias outside view) should i go back to her, risk getting hurt again, but maybe, just maybe, go back to the best thing i'll ever have. mind we dont have a great deal in common, its very much 75% psyhical attraction, and only 25% interest, atleast for me it is. dont know about her.

or do i not go back, dont risk getting heart broken again, (it ruined my christmas and stuff) but lose out on what maybe my only oppotunity to have one last shot at happiness before i go into the army.

haha, your opinions, ie, what would you do/ have you been in a similar situation to this.

a bored and confused jimmyz.

(excuse any spelling or gramatical errors)

[Thelindra]

I only had one BGR so far and it belong to the first one XD

IMO, getting into a relationship before u go to the army is a nono. Unless u r pretty sure yur relationship can stand it.

But i am a noob here at BGR so i dun really know what to say >_<

[bbnflpn]

#3 i guess,

i have loved many people, i still love them all, i just had to learn how to love them differently.

[Cheryl]

Rofl... #1 for me. Though I was the one who called it off. Didn't need any getting over. >.> Cher is evil!!

[Elocin]

I say go for it. You never know what'll happen. And if it'll make you happy, then more power to you.

Hmm... more of #2 for me, I suppose. Maybe #1.

All my relationships I've ended myself. :\ Most everything else was one-sided crushes.

[Ios]

I'd say go for it as well.
You never know what happens.

for me it'll be a mix of all those numbers...
I got dumped by a girl whom I really loved and I got over the worst part in a week but I still want to impress her... It's quite weird and I know it won't get me anywhere, a new try wouldn't get me anywhere.

[Rihaku]

Well, I won't quote Shakesphere on you, but I think it'd be better to have the memories and risk getting hurt than to get absolutely nil. However, if the attraction is mainly physical on your side, are you sure the relationship will last over a decade? It's certainly possible to learn to love traits you disliked before, but I wouldn't go into a relationship where interest was overwhelmingly physical.

[Vladimir]

love is undefine.. love is everlasting.. relastionship doesnt mean uu love sumone.. that's y some ppl break their relationship cuz its not love.. love last forever..
having a boyfrenn doesnt mean uu love that sumone.. obssessed is the word..

[Kray]

For me, it started off as #1 --- but then evolved into #2. If that makes sense.

I was the one that cut it off between us, because I was an idiot. I got over it rather quickly also. Now, whenever we speak, I just can't believe that I ever broke up with this person.
I have a feeling, that if I didn't make one of the biggest mistakes of my life, we'd still be together.

Pretty much my only regret in life.

[candyb3ar]

For me, it started off as #1 --- but then evolved into #2. If that makes sense.

I was the one that cut it off between us, because I was an idiot. I got over it rather quickly also. Now, whenever we speak, I just can't believe that I ever broke up with this person.
I have a feeling, that if I didn't make one of the biggest mistakes of my life, we'd still be together.

Pretty much my only regret in life.

heard this same speach from sooo many people, so please give yourself a break, people break up for a reason, could be you are in love with they way the person "used to be"...not the way they are now and you may regret it even more if you waste your time waiting for this person to come around again so you can try again only to see the same flaws you saw in him b4...
so plz you SO YOUNG go out and just enjoy your time and experience life b4 you decide you love some one at the age of 20...:)

[Kray]

heard this same speach from sooo many people, so please give yourself a break, people break up for a reason, could be you are in love with they way the person "used to be"...not the way they are now and you may regret it even more if you waste your time waiting for this person to come around again so you can try again only to see the same flaws you saw in him b4...
so plz you SO YOUNG go out and just enjoy your time and experience life b4 you decide you love some one at the age of 20...:)

I'm not dwelling on it. It's just the fact of whenever I see him, I get like that. On a daily basis, when I don't think about him - it's not in my mind. Or when he calls me, I get like that. He kinda pokes at it too... >_o;.

But thanks :biggrinlo

[candyb3ar]

I'm not dwelling on it. It's just the fact of whenever I see him, I get like that. On a daily basis, when I don't think about him - it's not in my mind. Or when he calls me, I get like that. He kinda pokes at it too... >_o;.
But thanks :biggrinlo

ya sorries my concerns come with age and i have seen sooo many of my friends in the same position, i am actually dealing with my cousin whom is going through the same...

[A2k]

I have loved once in 23 years, and after 2 years together when the relationship ended (she cheated on me with my best friend) it took me over 5 years to appologise for having ignored her that long.

For 5 years I couldn't use her name...nay...I refused to use her name.

"Lying, cheating, scheming *****" was the only way I referred to her for a full 5 years until I could forgive myself enough to forgive her.

When we started out, she came to me, and I accepted.

Looking back, and talking it all over with my girlfriend, I wonder if that love was spurned from us simply growing together as a couple - first love, loss of virginity, and first real relationship...in time one might love a person if given half a chance under such circumstances.

I suppose that would come under number 3.

Now in my current relationship, I wanted something, and as far as relationships go, this was my first time that I wanted something and sought after it.

That is how I know that if I do not yet love her, I surely will do one day, she makes me happier than I have ever been since I was but 8 years old, living in Portugal, without a care in the world, a simpler time with no worries.

That is how she makes me feel, and whilst I may not yet love her, or if I already do, do not even realise it yet, I know for dead certain that this relationship I am in, will always be in category number 3.

[Evanesque]

I'll pick the third option because knowing myself and the previous relationships I've been in, my current relationship is something that I'll remember for the rest of eternity.

I know that if it doesn't work out, I'll probably revert back to my original relationship plan for the future: Being an old woman on a rocking chair with lots of kitties around me.

[Anubisrage]

I'll pick the third option because knowing myself and the previous relationships I've been in, my current relationship is something that I'll remember for the rest of eternity.
I know that if it doesn't work out, I'll probably revert back to my original relationship plan for the future: Being an old woman on a rocking chair with lots of kitties around me.
Dont listen to her people, she always says that, she is an attractive girl, and will have mollions of people asking her out...
As for me... Im very plain I would say, nothing special...
I dont really take relationships lightly... So I guess number 2 or 3 for me.

[~Anime4Life~]

none of the above. love is unexplainable, but you'll know it when you are in love. its something you will fight for, when broken up, never give up as long as you belive you love them.
thoses things he/she typed are not to be called love there an insult to the word "love"

[Kray]

I'll pick the third option because knowing myself and the previous relationships I've been in, my current relationship is something that I'll remember for the rest of eternity.
I know that if it doesn't work out, I'll probably revert back to my original relationship plan for the future: Being an old woman on a rocking chair with lots of kitties around me.

I love kitties :biggrinlo.

but you'll find someone.

[TheRapist]

This may sound weird, but when a girl breaks up with me, It doesn't even take a week for me to get over it.
If they just break up with me because of something stupid, I'm just like fine whatever, bye
I always have that mindset ''there are always more fish in the sea''

[Atrias]

I dont believe in loving someone with anything less than your full heart... if you don't you wont be prepared to put in what it takes in a relationship... doing this naturally means that if\when it ends you're gonna get hurt... and in my case often for a long long time, but its given me more enjoyment than heartache I can honestly say.

Yes, I'm a dude... and I don't feel bad that I've sat an done the whole ice-cream,crying and movies thing after most girls have broken up with me - since achieving 18 the ice-cream and movies has been replaced with beer and bars, but hey)

Live fast, die young and love for every minute of it or you're just wasting time.