Looks vs Personality [Archive] - Page 2

Cheryl

01-03-2008, 04:40 PM

First impressions are really important, and unfortunately, first impressions would come from your looks and not your personality.

Love at first sight could be considered blind love, because you're only liking the person for her looks.

How you are on the inside is important in the long run - AFTER people have formed their first impression of you. But then again, impressions may change over time. It's just that the first one they ever have of you will stick around for a long time.

i mean how is it possible that you know how person is from inside just by looking at them????
It totally isn't. :P But their demeanour and the way they behave may be a hint as to what kind of person they really are.

Uh...how to break up? There's never a polite way to break up imo, all ways will end up with both parties (or just the other) getting hurt. Don't tell it via phone or SMS, I think it's always better and more sincere to tell it to each other's face. But technically, I've never actually broken up with anyone before so I wouldn't know.

Pyramus

01-03-2008, 04:55 PM

Men won't go out with a women they consider ugly. That is the harsh truth. But then again, a man may consider one women beatiful, while a lot more may consider her ugly. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! take me as an example:

I really like this girl, i think she is hot! But my friends don't, they prefer other girls, which in turn I don't find as sexually attrative as I do the girl i like!

So there you go, as for the beauty inside thing, that comes later. A human decides wether they like something or someone by what they see!

How to break up with someone you say? Well, there is never an easy way, if you want to end it, then just tell them, and deal with the concequences!

BluRry

01-03-2008, 08:46 PM

mmm... i see what u guyz are saying... thanks for the explanation.. =P

Nicole

01-05-2008, 12:42 AM

There is already a topic like this.

/merges the two threads

Use the search option next time, thanks.

Mugen

01-05-2008, 12:55 AM

Well this is how I see it. I personally go for personality because as we all know Looks don't make the man/woman. But that isn't 100% true becuase when you see a person what do you look at first?? Their Looks. Hard to say but it's true from experience. SUre I may have a good personality but I'll admit it I'm not the greatest lookin guy and I've been shunned more times than I can count. But that's besides the point. WHat I say is don't go looking for love just let it find you cuz there are only heartbreaks down the road.

dragoneyes001

01-05-2008, 01:13 AM

theres no amount of looks that will hide a crappy personality.

a mix of both is preferable because we're vain enough to want some looks but on the opposite end an amazing personality does mask a persons looks.

Hiraishin

01-05-2008, 01:27 AM

Id like someone to have a good personality, but be decent looking. I don't really wanna date someone whos messy or has BO because I wouldn't be able to stand it. But looks aren't really that big of a factor in the long run. A really good looking guy could be an asshole.

Quiet Demon

01-05-2008, 04:27 AM

In my studies of both psychology and general human nature I've found that it is really a balance of the two.
The ratio can vary depending on how shallow the person is (to say it simply).

It is only natural to want the prettier, more physically attractive mate.

But it is human nature and intelligence that looks deeper than appearance and looks at personality.

Joan

01-05-2008, 05:58 PM

More the personality than the looks. Because if you really like someone, you find them kind of atractive anyways.
But looks also matters some..

Pierrot

01-05-2008, 06:30 PM

I don't go for either, I don't go out of my way and look for someone who has more of one or the other, or even a balance.
Take things as they come, then you can really consider how you approach it and it will be more relevant to you.
Sometimes your going to see someone who is very attractive and you pursue them for that reason initially, but the other extreme is that someone makes you laugh initially and you haven't even considered their looks at that point, but the personally has made you sit up and take notice.

RyuTenchu

01-05-2008, 06:45 PM

more personality lolz but if they smell or dirty hell no XDD

KaidaSorano

01-06-2008, 10:05 AM

Of course its human nature to determine, even if its just for the first little bit you see the person, how you will like the person solely on their appearance. I even proved this with my friends, but its a really long story and not worth telling.

Though i myself place value on the person's personality and self-esteem (I'm not really looking for someone that hate them self more than i do). Looks is plus, and I'll admit that if they're not good looking in anyway i will not give them much attention, they could be Christ reborn and if they're "F'ugly" i wouldn't notice...

Edit::
Thats why i honestly prefer meeting new people through the internet.. Looks are unimportant and easy to fake in this environment, so the attention is focused on how they present themselves, they're grammar, spelling, and all that stuff you learned in grade school

noue

01-06-2008, 10:27 PM

i dunno for me it would me mix.
but if i had to pick one out of the 2. i
would probably go with personality.

White Wolf

01-12-2008, 11:04 PM

Personality is what i look for more.

Tai Dai

01-12-2008, 11:19 PM

I'd like the personality only a little bit more, like 51%, but the girl has to be pretty too.

Graffik

01-13-2008, 04:27 AM

.. In life those who don't fit the mold of 'good' looks usually don't get noticed, regardless of their inner-beauty. I'd like to say it would be personality > looks, but in life, it isn't so simple. If I was going to talk to two girls who were best-friends, and likeable personalities, but one wasn't 'all that' and the other was pretty, well I'd end up averting the majority of my attention to her. Even if the prettier ones personality wasn't at the same 'plane' as the other girls, I'd start off interested in the prettier one more, and wouldn't take the time to really listen to and appreciate the girl. Maybe I'll have a moment when her inner-beauty is magically 'revealed' to me, then I guess so right.

Let me put in a process of elemination if looking for a relationship
1. Looks
2. Personality

I'll rephrase, If I walk into a room with two girls, the first girl I'd try talking to is the prettier one, my final decision is usually dependant on the personality, unless the looks + personality < the other girls looks + personality.

Lust

01-13-2008, 09:16 AM

looks = not permanent,it will change in time
personality = it will stay there forever except that person lose their memory 0.o
for me,i go with both

Guy

01-13-2008, 11:13 PM

Both are important, but personality is definitely better. I would much rather hang around with a nice personality person with a plain face than a cool-looking person with a mean heart. However, looks do matter, because I wouldn't want to hang out with someone that looks like he hasn't taken a bath in days or something... or have cavaties whenever he smiles. Argh.

So I'd say 60% personality and 40% looks.

deto

01-14-2008, 07:27 AM

looks = not permanent,it will change in time
personality = it will stay there forever except that person lose their memory 0.o
for me,i go with both

people can change even their personality.

no matter how hot the girl is if she has a crappy mentality, she's just as ugly as the one that won the national pie eating contest.

sweeter

01-14-2008, 10:00 AM

Personality of course.

Anyone who is willing to meet me halfway. Abs are a plus, though.

Anyway, I'm practically blind so everyone just seems hotter in my eyes.

(:

Pyramus

01-16-2008, 07:59 AM

When I decide if I wanna go out with somone, I do acturly look at them first and see if they look good! You may think this sounds selfish, but I don't wanna hang around with someone who I consider really bad looking! Ofcourse, i may think one girl is beautiful while my friends may not! Its all in the eye of the beholder! Ofcourse, once i think the girl looks nice I will try and find a nice personality! Cause once again, people have different personalities depending on whether they like you or not and what they are going through at the time!

-=Yanayo=-

01-17-2008, 12:44 AM

I've recently figured that i don't actually find people attractive until i know them personality wise so personality

Fallgore

01-20-2008, 03:34 AM

Lets face it, and don't deny, that when we choose to go out with someone, the very FIRST thing we look at IS how a person looks. It's the first general impression you have of someone. Don't BS me and say "Oh no it's the personality" because you sure as hell don't know what a person is like the first time you see them. And besides, it's normally how they look that would beckon a person to try and meet up with another person.

Personally, I look at how a person looks and I take into consideration their personality - both are very important factors. I know that looks will not be important in the FUTURE, however, when I'm lying in bed with my spouse, for the time while we keep our youth, I'd like to see something pretty - not something old and saggy ;)

A mix is always good, I can't stand someone who's got a rotten personality but a model's looks, while someone who has the perfect personality and rotten looks. They both go hand in hand. The people of opposite sex who tend to have great personalities are your friend (normally) because of their personality - if they had a great body to go with it, you'd probably date them. I know it's true for me, not to be harsh or anything.

But a mix is good. My girlfriend is kind of one would say a perfect mix: she's smart, really cute, and she's got a very nice, warm personality - you feel very comfterable around her, and you find that she's one of the nicest people that'd prefer not to say something if it has a negative connotation.

Trust me, your friend of the opposite sex could've been your partner if they looked really good - or vise versa; but sometimes, it's just the chemistry if they or you have both :P

Victory

01-25-2008, 09:50 AM

Aesthetique

01-25-2008, 01:52 PM

It's funny how so many of us know and/or believe that appearances play a pre-dominant role in the attraction to a loved one, yet feel like it's (a little) cruel or (possibly) shallow to admit it.

Me? I see no gender, sex, ethnicity, appearances, or anything so trivial, but rather - I love for what I feel, not what I see. Show me eleven minutes in bed and I may grow bored with you, but show me a paradise of unconditional love and I'll be yours until we part. There are plenty I would die for without ever needing to meet or see, so appearances, in essence, mean nothing to me.

To those of you who understand the norm of most human beings - remember that personality is the saviour of love when looks fade away. Love her/his soul, not his/her face. And perfect, blind love makes all trivial things cease to matter, anyway.

BryanLicksYou

01-27-2008, 03:23 AM

i personally like both and that's what i see in someone.
but it's fine if she just has a great personality.

ashiin

01-27-2008, 07:31 AM

they both matter, maybe personality a little more but a good looking girl is always a plus :)

pixietail

02-02-2008, 06:43 PM

What attracts me to the guy first would probably be looks and I know that's wrong but it doesn't necessarily mean I would like the guy. It's their personality that really counts.

sherenetms

02-12-2008, 06:07 AM

It is only natural to want the prettier, more physically attractive mate.

But it is human nature and intelligence that looks deeper than appearance and looks at personality.

^ Strongly agreed.

Good looks are important but unnecessary. However, good personality is a definite must.

KELSØv3.0

03-03-2008, 06:01 PM

To those of you who understand the norm of most human beings - remember that personality is the saviour of love when looks fade away. Love her/his soul, not his/her face. And perfect, blind love makes all trivial things cease to matter, anyway.
Agreed.

When dating someone, I always ask myself, "If they were to grow old, or being disfigured in some accident, would I still care about them as much as I do now?" If a person's personality isn't the grounds for which you base your attraction off of, then the relationship is doomed if you plan to have a serious relationship with that person. Look are temporary; people grow old and wrinkle, lose hair and gray. They gain and lose weight as well. Looks constantly change and therefore aren't a stable ground for basing love off of.

Pie

03-03-2008, 06:10 PM

TuRm0iL

03-03-2008, 08:56 PM

I guess that I just thought that she wasn't my type until I got to know her.

Well thats kind of obvious :redbiggri
As for me, the great looks attract me at first, but I don't judge anybody until I get to know them.

Dexd

03-19-2008, 10:17 PM

I'd go for personality, I mean whats the point, when your 80, and you picked the hot, ass hole wife, you'll be sorry, when you realize everyone looks old when there 80, then you'll be sorry you picked the ass hole instead of the kind one. And that rests my case, plus it's cooler to be with someone who will make you laugh dude, rather then some chick, who always ends up laughing after every word you say.

" My grandma died today" You say

She responds with " hahahaha, thats so funny" then she realizes that she wasn't suppose to laugh, lol.

Gowansweetpea

05-30-2008, 05:10 PM

Uh, well people that say that you didn't go to them because of their "sexyness" is BS is pretty much crap.

I didn't even notice my girlfriend in the beginning of the school year (we go in the same class) and I wasn't attracted enough to go and ask her out.
Then two weeks after school start we get paired to work together on a project.
After working with her for a week I fell in love.
She has a great personality and she has good looks. I guess that I just thought that she wasn't my type until I got to know her.

A person can be blinded by infatuation for one's looks... but then once the personality comes into play that person can become so revolting that they clearly are ugly....
What makes a person beautiful....Is not only skin deep...Just because a wrapper has a specific design doesn't make it the best...Each individual has to let themselves relax so that they can get to know the real person to allow the inner beauty to shine through....

ie.......will use a book as a reference...

A book..can be old,tattered and completely worn on outside, with the binding falling apart, and pages torn...
Until you read that book you are missing out what truths and inspirations that book may hold...
Thus goes the saying.."DON'T JUDGE A BOOK BY IT'S COVER".........if you go thru life with blinders on you may just walk right past what you are looking for...

xiphosforr

06-03-2008, 04:19 PM

i'm not going to lie looks do matter, they can't be the ugliest person in the world, but personality is also very important!!:D

ladyrukia

06-04-2008, 08:25 AM

well i tend to do look first but if they got a good personality it has won over looks. that how i ended up with my bf. he not drop dead gorgeous but he not fugly either. but he has a great personality that helps relax and calm me.

Minami Itsuki

06-05-2008, 04:43 AM

Yeah same. I always look at them first. Of course they have to be pretty good looking but I think personality is more important.

silverwolf801

06-05-2008, 04:44 AM

well lets not lie. I look at looks first and I think about personality way down the toad. if you don't look well good then I might not want to know you.

Addiction

06-05-2008, 10:03 AM

For me, it's personality mostly.

I need to be able to talk with the person I'm with. They need to be able to make me laugh, think etc...

Someone who can hold a conversation for more than a second. A conversation about something real. She needs to be down to earth, honest, good sense of humor... it's like 85% personality...

Looks are a plus but not a necessity. I'm just lucky my current gf has both ^^

Rainl

06-09-2008, 08:24 AM

It all balances out. Yes me myself prefer a decent looking woman like most males do. Vice-versa for women. I'd take a decent looking female with a great personality, a more down to earth type of girl, over a beautiful girl with a shitty attitude anyday. IMO, it also makes it easier on us males.

Seeing how the more beautiful girl will tend to put herself on an unbelievable pedestal making herself extremely "stuck up" or "self-centered", leaving the male with slim options to give her confidence and respect her, when she's already done that herself.

Its easier on us men and makes us feel better when we ourselves are responsible for making our woman feel special. I personally enjoy putting a smile on my womans face from time to time, but hey this just my input on things. You don't necessarily have to take my word for it.

ShyGuy

06-10-2008, 03:03 AM

well, i say a mix. i mean, i want nice looking girl with a good personality instead of a hot one who is an a$$ or an ugly one. a mix makes it nice.

anyone else agree?

i mean, girls to me, need personality to talk to, and a face to stare at:winking56 well, personality is that matters really, a face is just extra

Lightey Natsume

06-10-2008, 03:06 AM

Yes i agree they both matter but it all matters what you care for nomatter what you should always deceid who you want and what you want from them.

Do'Urden

06-13-2008, 07:53 AM

Looks attract us to each other, and personality is what makes it last...or blow up in our face.

Kenshin0o8

06-14-2008, 09:37 PM

looks :D

Vamp O Drama

06-15-2008, 05:59 PM

I'm for personality. I don't choose who I talk to or not by their looks either. But looks is of course a plus.

Hueso Loco

06-15-2008, 06:14 PM

Looks attract us to each other, and personality is what makes it last...or blow up in our face.

Well said.

Hime-chan

06-16-2008, 02:51 AM

well of course I'm going to look at you first, but if you're cute and your attitude stinks ,I don't think I'd want to deal with you

so I'll go for personality

Neko Rae

06-16-2008, 07:20 AM

Personality. I really don't pay much attention to looks..

Do'Urden

06-16-2008, 07:30 AM

Shennanigans...Subconsciously everyone does...some just don't judge people on thier appearance...

Neko Rae

06-16-2008, 07:32 AM

well, I guess I'm more likely to notice an ugly person than someone who's "hot"

But for the most part, I don't pay much attention to looks. I don't pay much attention to people at all :lol

Kuta~

06-16-2008, 07:36 AM

Probably a Mix for me aswell, Cute face and a nice attitude, although thats not a particularly well known type of person over here. I've had both ends of the tree *not neccessarilly a good thing*. A hot girl with the attitude of a Very anti-social Rhino with drugs in its system, *although not always, she started out nice, although after the split it was obviously just a play to actually keep me in her grasp for a while*.
And ive also had a girl that had a personality similar to my own, but she was No sight for sore eyes.
I have to drive 20 miles to find a girl that fits the classification of *Both*.
At the end of the day, Personality is what matters most, and like many of you have said, the looks are a plus. I would Prefer to have both as most people would, but thats easier said than done a lot of the time.

Do'Urden

06-16-2008, 07:46 AM

But for the most part, I don't pay much attention to looks. I don't pay much attention to people at all :lol

*shivers* girlie...shes so cold... :-p

Yori

06-18-2008, 05:46 PM

personality... but she has to be at least decent looking

Freya

06-18-2008, 07:46 PM

I think that when it comes down to it personality is everything. I like handsome men, and luckily my husband is...but he is my best friend and I LOVE his personality. That is what attracted me to him in the first place. If they have a great personality then they are even more good looking in my opinion.

Dark Fire

06-20-2008, 11:59 PM

a 50/50 of both you have to be good looking and have a personality I don't want a barbie doll that has no personality

yume_morpheus

07-11-2008, 04:51 AM

I was lucky enough to get a handful of both in my girl. =D She can be pretty damn catty sometimes, but other than that she's a ferocious dynamo and a uniquely attractive person. =)

I tend to go for both, really. I mean, I'm conceited enough that I have a looks-standard, which contradicts my very beliefs about jackasses, etc., but without personality I don't even want to TALK to them.

D-King

07-11-2008, 05:49 PM

Well its human nature to be attracted by looks. So I won't lie and say I look for the hotness, but if after I find that person to be too blunt, nasty personality or too ditzy, then i'll probably be done with you in a while.

Wanderer

07-12-2008, 03:44 AM

looks attract me to the person, personality keeps me attracted.

Lusania

07-12-2008, 03:49 AM

^ Same exactly.

Looks matter for when you meet someone.
As for everyone. But to stay with the person the personality matters most.

hajilexD

07-14-2008, 01:56 PM

I choose mix. Now that you have chosen mix what are you gonna do next???? :P
Because I want a girl who's kind, sweet, and beautiful. :D

Sandal Hat

07-22-2008, 01:57 AM

Whatever you do make sure your *****/girlfriend isn't too clingy, it can make a perfect dime as unattractive as a sun dried watermelon being devoured by a colony of ants.

doucheasaurus

07-25-2008, 02:36 PM

Shhhhh... I'm a mix of both. I mean, if you're attractive, wearing glasses, which attracts me like a magnet, (..having a bubble booty doesn't hurt either...), and you're intelligent and with an above average personality is something I prefer. Don't want a dumbass, with a drop dead body, because sooner or later, I'm leaving you to your assets. I prefer women that are smart, have common sense, are down to earth, not selfish, not so security minded as far as wanting/needing a man to take care of them but are pretty much self sufficient, and those that are warrioressess in mind (...willing to kick a lil'ass when the time is right and necessary...). Got to have THAT!

Those are my preferences! You, as a woman can be between the height of 4 feet 9 to 6 feet 9. I don't care. Your weight... I like women that are thicky (thickies), full figured and wonderfully muscular women. I despise anerexic and skeletoid (super skinny) figured women. That top/super model crap is fake. Have a REAL figure. You don't have to have super sized hooters. Just be natural and real in all that you do. Period.

Race doesn't matter to me either....

Am I looking for a relationship. Hells na. Just answering this thread. I'm already betrothed and happy as I 'wanna' be! ;)

Greggle

07-29-2008, 03:32 AM

All about personality past a certain point. That point being somewhere above having to worry about what your friends think based on her looks, but below a 6 on the hotness scale.

xxSenbozakura

08-10-2008, 05:37 PM

the boys will tend to look out for looks before looks and the girls will look out for personality before looks (unless u are disfigured)
I would like a nice blend between looks and personality

FullMetal Rebel

08-13-2008, 09:38 AM

Looks are relevant to a point, as long as she doesn't let herself go. As for personality I'll go for anything except ghetto girls.

Pierrot

08-14-2008, 10:30 PM

Everybody needs that physical attraction obviously, but for me there is nothing as important as personality. If she is funny, quirky and can hold down a serious conversation, shares my interests and has similar ambitions, then she is the one for me, regardless of how she looks.
I'm not the type to get on at people for not being attractive, that would make me an enormous hypocrite.

Jack Daniels

08-26-2008, 02:33 AM

Looks are a big thing for me has to look good. I do care about personality, but at first glance to keep me intrested she has to have looks :D I know shallow I really dont care that is me, but shoot it has helped I landed a awsome chick based off looks and her personality is great and she is the girl Im going to marry here in the next year or so. So sometimes it works sometimes it dosent but isnt that life?

Ice Prince

09-06-2008, 08:20 PM

Hmm well for me, I like a balance.

Somebody cute but with an interesting personality. Having too much "look" just doesn't appeal to me, and having too much personality drives me nuts. A good balance is what I generally like.

girl

09-07-2008, 02:40 AM

Bun

09-08-2008, 03:17 AM

Mix of both.

The attraction starts right off the bat with looks. I gotta admit I'm a bit shallow in that regard, but hey, who can say they don't agree? It's not always about looks, though. I couldn't stand being around or dating a guy who was really good looking who had a really s***** or boring personality. So in turn, I'd rather be with someone who isn't exactly "model material" than a guy as dull as a doornail.

Then again, each individual is going to have their own preferences...

Kamina

09-08-2008, 03:36 AM

story:
there was this one kid at school that i thought was really hot. really really really really good looking. very. then i got to know him in class and he was a little *****. he complained about everything, and slowly he got less and less hot in my eyes. now, all i can see is the flaws. his crappy-ass personality made him so much less good looking

flipside, his best friend i thought was really not very cute. but he was really nice and funny as hell. and as the *****y guy got uglier, this guy got cuter and cuter.

moral: personalities can change your view of people

Ya, I agree with this. I have personally had this happen with girls. This one transfer girl was hot as hell when she first came, but once I became aware of her quirks, she wasnt nearly as hot anymore. She wasnt a bad person, but I didnt like her that much when I got to know her.

I like the idea of not liking people with too much personality. Im not cool enough to deal with someone like that, lol. Personality is the win when it comes to people, but it has to be a personality im compatible with. I know people that have great personalities that I am just not compatible with.

Im not necessarily a looker myself, but I like people who look good, lol. Girls especially, guys, as long as they are approachable as friends. I like girls who are decent looking with more of a down to earth rural personality. I dont like the big city style girls, as im a country redneck myself, lol :)

Reyin

09-08-2008, 04:58 AM

Hmm, well it's certainly a mix of both, but whether or not one is more important than another I'm not sure. I probably sound like a schmuck but it's kind of a checks and balances for me. Physically attraction often comes first, but if get the feeling that a girl is dumb, or has some other unforgivable personality trait I probably wouldn't bother trying to pursue a friendship much less a relationship with them. But I've also found myself become attracted to girls based on their personalities. To be honest, the older I've gotten I find myself becoming more and more attracted to girls based on personality rather than looks.

Ice Prince

09-08-2008, 06:02 AM

Yes, a good personality can make a world of difference.

To add a story:

There was this one guy in one of my college classes that I thought was very attractive, and I'd talk with him some, and he was just a downright ass. That turned me off pretty quickly, and I kept viewing him less and less attractive as I'd hear what would come out of his mouth. He even made a comment one time about how he should get an A in the class for "looking so good". I was like......are you for real? Guys (and girls) like that are just a total turn off to just about everybody I think.

Hell look at Paris Hilton. She's a good example of such attitudes.

You can be attractive, all the while being humble. That's very sexy to me.

deto

09-08-2008, 07:07 AM

Hell look at Paris Hilton. She's a good example of such attitudes.

not really, I mean the only thing appealing on her is the money... which is getting shorter and shorter.

there are thousands of girls out there which are way better looking and have a way better attitude.

Ice Prince

09-08-2008, 07:28 AM

No, I mean she's got the attitude that stuff should be handed to her simply because she's "hot".

Haha, that's what I meant.

Sarteck

09-08-2008, 07:46 AM

Heh... We all "know" that looks aren't what matters most importantly. However, we let ourselves forget that all too often. :P

If I see you, and you're ugly, 99.9% of the time I won't just not consider you as a possible friend/lover/whatever, but I'll actually go out of my way to avoid you. Yes, I am that shallow--I just can't stand being around ugly people. Whatever it is that makes them ugly, I try to draw my attention away from it, and not look at it. I figure that the best way to avoid such things is by not going near the person at all. Yes, it's mean, it's cruel, it's not the "right" thing to do. Then again, I never claimed to always do the "right" thing, heh.

If you are attractive, however, of course I would try to be around you. This only goes so far, though--when I wasn't so much of a hermit, and was actually around people more often, I used to meet many people. I would see these drop-dead gorgeous chicks and get InstaBoner(TM). Then I would hear them talk, and immediately, 90% of them became almost as unattractive to me as those I found physically repulsive. Y'see, I don't dig chicks who are either whorish or snobbish, which most were.

So, out of all the people we've eliminated (the physically repulsive, and the hotties who are snotties or sluts), we're left with mostly plain-looking people. So of course, what else can I look for than personality? :3

Sarteck

09-08-2008, 07:46 AM

Ice Prince

09-08-2008, 07:49 AM

Haha, that's so blunt but pretty true. ;3

I'm sure all of us are that way. Although I don't know, I've never really thought of myself as plain looking. I'm unique looking I guess, but I'd never say "hot". Cute perhaps on my good days haha. But that's another story.

deto

09-08-2008, 07:56 AM

we all are unique... but that doesn't mean all of us are useful.

I guess, but I'd never say "hot". Cute perhaps on my good days haha. But that's another story.

thats why you have other ppl telling you. "omg. hi. you look hot. kkthxbye." very few declare themselves as hot. because usually they're considered egoistical and cocky. furthermore such ppl usually suck. not all of them but the biggest part.

Sarteck

09-08-2008, 08:00 AM

I'd say you're between cute and hot... But mind you, that would be me judging you like I would a woman. O.o I really don't know if it would be different because you've got that danglie thing between your legs, heh.

Myself... I'm not ugly, but I sure as hell am not good-looking. I'm pretty hefty bordering on outright fat, my hair and beard is totally unkempt, and I have the WORST fashion sense of anyone I know. My face is rather average, I suppose--I've got this annoying baby-face that makes me look just plain idiotic when I'm shaven, so I keep it covered up. I do have some nice eyes, though.

That is why the Internet is an ideal place for me (well, besides the fact that I'm basically a hermit nowadays); The people I meet here on the forums judge me not how I look, but how they imagine I look. Generally, by the time they see a picture of me, it's too late--they already like me. :D

Prince Noctis

09-08-2008, 08:04 AM

I don't get many chances to or should I say, much time, to pry out the ones with good personalities.

Due to my busy schedule, If you are good looking, I would take my chances with you first, hastely ignoring what a b!tch you might be or how high maintenance you could become.

I know this is a sad fact about me, but like Sarteck said... if you are ugly, chances are I wouldn't comfront you. This isn't high school anymore, you just don't get the luxory of seeing one person on a daily basis in hopes of catching flaws or fishing for qualities you might've overlooked the first time.

deto

09-08-2008, 08:06 AM

isn't she, a she... (oh god...)

a hermit... do you have a frightening and yet interesting, fathomless knowledge of the arcane?

Ice Prince

09-08-2008, 08:07 AM

we all are unique... but that doesn't mean all of us are useful.

thats why you have other ppl telling you. "omg. hi. you look hot. kkthxbye." very few declare themselves as hot. because usually they're considered egoistical and cocky. furthermore such ppl usually suck. not all of them but the biggest part.

True true. I think all of us have something to offer, it's just trying to figure out how to that some of us have problems I think.

Yeah that's true as well on the second comment. I know I'm not like that in real life, I'm probably more stoic and passive than anything. And yes, people that are like "omg like, I'm sooo hot" usually do suck haha. That's usually all they can offer.

Starteck: Well this is why you need to find a gay guy to offer you fashion stuff if you don't like your sense of style. Trust me, they'll get you going. :P

Haha, and thanks for the compliment. :P

deto

09-08-2008, 08:11 AM

nothing bad about that really, silent people usually have more to say than those that can't shut their trap... another thing that can make people very, very ugly - regardless of their looks.

Ice Prince

09-08-2008, 08:14 AM

Oh god that's so true.

There are some people I just want to slap because they won't shut the **** up.....phew lord.

Starteck, you seem awesome anyway so regardless, I like ya already boo. ;)

Sarteck

09-08-2008, 08:21 AM

@deto: No, but I can make paper hats! :)

@IP: Pfffft. I was staying with a gay friend in Seattle during my travels a few years back, for a few weeks. While he did in fact help me in that sense, I was totally lost when I left. XD Add to that the fact that a moneyless vagabond such as myself never had the money nor the patience for such--I'll just stick with my half-wild look. XD Suits me best.

@topic: Yes. Looks are good. Personality is better. If you have neither, you're screwed. (Or, rather, NOT screwed.)

Ice Prince

09-08-2008, 08:23 AM

Haha well just remember with any type of look.......YOU BETTER WORK IT! ;p

Like me, I live in the bible belt, so imagine the shock of seeing a fem boy decked full out in "faggotry" attire. I love it though, it's so me. XD

LOL @ your analogy on the screwed part. So true.......so true.

deto

09-08-2008, 08:24 AM

There are some people I just want to slap because they won't shut the **** up.....phew lord.

marry me!

no just kidding... would you? naaah just messing.

however it's true, you look at them and wondering if they even think before they talk or if they realise that what they say is a total waste of words. they talk just because they feel somebody must talk, silence is uncomfortable to them for some odd reason... aahhhh yes, those ppl <.<

@deto: No, but I can make paper hats!

TEACH ME!

Ice Prince

09-08-2008, 08:26 AM

Haha well I don't think I'm your type....but I'm flattered though. ^_^

And I agree. I think it's best to sit back and watch the situation before you babble on endlessly. It makes you look foolish, at least it does to me.

deto

09-08-2008, 09:09 AM

now thats just straight out assuming, and you know: "assuming is the mother of all screw ups." thee'he

oh yes, but you know whats funny if someone is babbling about stuff they have no clue about and someone is there that actually knows a fair deal of it but you don't say anything you just let them walk riiiight into it xD ... thats so delightful!

Ice Prince

09-08-2008, 09:11 AM

Haha well if guys are your type, then sure we can get married. XD

Yes, that example right there is just about the best thing in the world to watch. I've seen it happen soooo many times lulz. XD

deto

09-08-2008, 09:21 AM

sometimes assuming can be good xD (no they're not. i must have been fooled...). a sister maybe? yes?

and as soon as the situation blows they blush and try to talk their way out and thats where the real fun starts really. bottom line, no matter how hot the girl, if she has a bad attitude she's just as severly physically aggrevied as the ugly cow that won the local pie eating contest.

Ice Prince

09-08-2008, 09:24 AM

I do believe you were(my bad though...I'm not the most masculine looking guy).....haha but I do indeed have a sis, but she's still jailbait.

Although what is funny is that my sister is usually on the tail end of what we were talking about. She'll ramble like she knows it all, but she's at that age so it's kinda funny.

deto

09-08-2008, 09:38 AM

i did mean grown ups, its natural for younger teenager to go through the phase of "i, with my 15 years of live experience, know it all much better than you with your 3X, 4X, 5X years of live experience!" - even tho thats funny its not nearly as funny.

and lol at jailbait :redbiggri

Sarteck

09-08-2008, 09:54 AM

It's all good. I'm a Pedo, bring her on! :D

[[Is he joking? Dun dun DUN!]]

As for them know-it-all kids, heh... That's how I sometimes feel when I glance around this forum. Then I read more into what these kids are saying, and it pisses me off that they generally DO know more about what they're talking about than I do.

Damned kids...

deto

09-08-2008, 10:21 AM

cheer up you can make paperhats... got to be good for somethi... yeah.

Twinky

09-08-2008, 04:47 PM

i go for personality more than looks, if the girl have a average or above, im perfectly fine with it, but is shes a dumbass, self centered biatch, i will slap her so hard her make up would fly off her face

Ice Prince

09-08-2008, 05:04 PM

Haha, I can appreciate that.

There are some people, guys and girls, that seriously just need a reality check (IE a ***** slap).

Twinky

09-08-2008, 05:13 PM

reality check should be a requirement for people that fit under paris Hilton's Whore off magazine category. there are two kind of women, men should distinctively separate they are chick that are "hot" ( means shes just some one you want to bang on). the they are chick that are Beautiful, which include many different sides of her characteristic looks( means shes some one you feel comfortable around with and able to start a serious relationship with), habits, and so on.

Bad Karma

09-11-2008, 06:55 AM

I used to a bit Shallow I'll admit. But I prefer a mixture of both. I like Girls with nice personalities, but I have to be attracted to them also, If I plan on getting a deeper relationship. Average looking girl, fine by me. I agree with Twinky though ^ . Beautiful women are the best, cause your attracted to more then just physical appearance, but to them as a whole.

Unji-Chan

09-17-2008, 06:46 PM

Both, because if only looks...then what if the person has a bad personality like abuses you and etc. And personality because you can see if the person has an aggressive heart or caring and loving heart.

So both is a must for me. So it all balances out. =D

i_disbelieve

09-28-2008, 11:44 AM

Problem is, if you really loved somebody you would think they were beautiful anyway, no matter what they looked like. You could meet them and think they were ugly, but if you loved them and THEN met them, you wouldn't necessarily see that, but might think they were beautiful anyway. On the other hand, you might totally miss if somebody has a good or bad personality, if you are so blinded by how beautiful they are. Big mistake, because sooner or later you will find out, but by then it would usually be too late. Personally I'd prefer to have it the first way.
Another thing. If you meet somebody and they think you're hot, they might "change" their personality to whatever they think you would be attracted to, and then you would be judging them on that personality, not their real one. There's no real way to judge a person on it these days, and anyway, what gives you the right to say if somebody is ugly or not or if they had a good or bad personality? Just because you don't like the personality or how they look, doesn't mean that they are ugly or have a bad personality. It just means that you don't like it personally, and you don't have the right to judge somebody on that or anything else. You can only tell if you like them or not, not what they are.

choking

09-28-2008, 11:47 AM

i personally am attracted to the looks.. but if i get to know the person better id much prefer that person from his personality than his looks... but heck if i can get both at the same time the better right?.. XD

Kuran Kaname

09-29-2008, 08:15 PM

personality. way more important!!! my girlfriend lucially has both lo. but she also has a good personality and that is the most important thing to me.

Polosaity

09-29-2008, 09:36 PM

personality. way more important!!! my girlfriend lucially has both lo. but she also has a good personality and that is the most important thing to me.
It's easy to fake now that you've got the whole "package" :P Kidding of course. =)

Anyways, I find the topic question a bit vague, but I'll try to answer.

People make first impression based on appearance and first impression is very important to me. However I'm smart enough not to mix first impressions with judgmenents. naturally I am physically attracted tto good looking people that take advantage of a moment to impress me. However those are only short term erhmm ... solutions.

When making serious commitements, it's ALL about personality. Outer beauty passes, when inner beaauty only grows more beautiful the more you know about the person. Good looks don't help solve inter relationship problem and make up sex is overrated especally by people who've never really done it.

So let's say, I will afford an affair with good looking someone but I will make a relationship with smeone whose personality fits me in the long run.

But today you can easily have both, so ...

Yume-chan

09-30-2008, 09:14 PM

Mm... ideally, I think everyone would want a good mixture of both looks and personality. xD For me, I usually judge by the look first. The person doesn't have to be extremely good looking; just decent looking is fine. ^^ Then I look at the personality. I'm not sure what type I like, but a balance between look and personality should be there. The less good looking, the better the personality needs to be, and vice-versa. At least, that's the case for me at the moment. xD