Looks vs Personality

[Elocin]

Are you more for looks than personality, or a mix of both? :o

I'm for a mix of both myself. They have to not have the personality of a brick, but they have to be moderately good looking too.

[MooL]

Personality ftw. Sorry, I could never go for a rock..even a really shiny, attractive, toned, and glamorous rock. =\

But I do have to agree that some appearances are important. I don't know if I could handle someone who doesn't bathe. Stinky ftl.

[layla]

i'd say a mix. he doesnt have to be uber hot, but cant be too bleh either.

personality must be good, for sure, kind, understanding and easy to talk to, fun~

the looks is a plus, the better the look, the more the bonus^^

[Sandal Hat]

If she doesn't look like MooL she'd better have one hell of a personality.

:)

[MooL]

If she doesn't look like MooL she'd better have one hell of a personality.

:)WTF Sandal, are you saying I don't have a personality? b.itch plz.

[SoundWave]

Mix of both I guess, as mentioned before.. But it's all up to how that person would fit with me or vice versa..

I don't think you can say how the person for you should be, you'll know when you meet the person.. Gotta keep an open mind.. Though I can agree hygiene and such is kinda mandatory.. :P

[Elocin]

Hmm... he might be saying you're hot, too, MooL xD

Well, I'm not as picky with looks as I am with personality. But I'm certainly picky overall. :\

[Sandal Hat]

WTF Sandal, are you saying I don't have a personality? b.itch plz.

Nah cuz, but for any woman to compete with you they need a personality, and a good one at that. :)

[rei]

personality most definitely... i have mood swings that people have to understand as for looks.... i'm good looking enough for the both us^^

we have a growing up section?! lolz

[thousand sakuras]

personality because it really doesnt matter how you dress up or look. as long as ur not naked lol

[Hakuoro]

A mix of both. :) If someone is super hot,but is also super sucky personality then screw them. The perso ni like right now in rl is definitely not the hottest person in the world, but I like her because of her personality.

[SHiKaMaRi]

I tend to get attracted to those who have looks, though I still consider personality more than looks.

If you put it on a scale, 1 being Looks and 10 being personality... I'd go for 7.

[Thelindra]

moderate looking is enough (hey if that guy is too good other girls will come and fight for him u know =/)

and good personality is a MUST MUST~!

Looks lasts till when u r young but personality lasts till the day both of u age and die.

[Pengin-san]

I'm not going to lie, if I don't find them sexually attractive I might say no. I totally want personality, but what's the point of love if you're not attracted to them? That may sound harsh, but no all "ugly" people are ugly to others.

[Evanesque]

Hmm, the first thing attracts someone to someone else is by looks which then leads you to find out his/her personality.

To me it's a mix of both but looks aren't as important to me as personality is.


I remember there was a guy whom I used to like a lot couple of years back. I never really spoke to him much but often spotted him out and around. I was really attracted to him but when I finally saw his attitude and personality...my image of him started to shrivel and he eventually turned out ugly to me. It got me thinking 'Why the f*** did I even like him? He's horrible!'

I guess most of you might have experienced the same. It's only natural when you meet someone really gorgeous but his/her personality seems completely horrendous, you get a bad impression of the person and move on.

[Sonido]

swedish girls are hot but i dont really like them

polish girls are both pretty and sweet
love them !


this makes no sense. warning for spam.
- MooL

[Sakura]

for me, looks come first then personality :lol not that i don't like personality. like everyone else said, it's a must. but like some other people said too, you need to be attracted to the person. otherwise how would you notice them in the first place?

my fiance isn't like a super uber hottie, he's cute and has the same type of personality as me (insane, childish, funny). but my coworkers still ask me why i'm with him seeing as he's not "my type," whatever that is. i asked one what my type of guy is and she gave me the, "i don't know but he's not what i thought you would go for".... i work with weird people :lol

[maximoose666]

I don't know if I could handle someone who doesn't bathe. Stinky ftl.
I lol'd

hmm, mix of both for me I guess :)

[Thelindra]

*adds* oh yea and basic hygiene too =/

[eiChi]

it'll be like hell if u be with sumone hu doesnt bath...=_='''

for me...personalities come first, thn the looks :) i wish my dream guy will be sumone like Ichigo or Allen-kun XD

[Cheryl]

I'm for a mix of both! ^^

Personality matters the most, of course, but human nature makes people look at outer appearance first. =/ So...yeah, first impressions are really important too.

[Pie <3]

Personality mostly. But I would have to say they can`t be like bleh and stinky like MooL said.

[Dynasty!]

A mix of both. Looks are the first thing I notice when I don't know a person personality like if the person is ugly I couldn't even look at them that way. And you have to have a good personality;some boys are so mean and are huge jerks.-_-

[Ios]

a mix of both.
When I see a girl who is really good looking but acts like a cow, then I immediately lose interest. Some could also be very nice but when she isn't handsome it'll be a lot harder to 'gain' me...
But on the other hand, when I meet someone who's very nice, looks appear to get better... pretty weird but I'm glad with it :)

[Vietangel18]

It would have to be a mix of both for me. He can't look like a total slob or anything, just decent enough for me to notice him. As for personality, I don't want him to be a total jerk.

[Rihaku]

This won't matter in twelve-ish years when everyone can get enough surgery to overcome bad looks.

I think that the way I think breaks down to this:

1. Looks are a filter. If I'm not remotely attracted to her I won't consider her romantically. The more attractive she is the more seriously I consider her. It's after I decide whether or not this aspect is suitable that I move on to personality.

2. If the personality complements mine, then we're good. If it doesn't, I may or may not try to change her habits a bit, depending on how much effort I'm willing to expend.

Yeah, I know it sounds really calculating, but I think it's been effective for me so far.

[M_A]

Well, both are important. Looks draw you in and make you interested, and personality keeps you there. If the looks are bad, you are not interested, and if the personality is lacking, you get bored.

[Kenken]

although i go more for personality than looks, looks are still a bit important to me :)

[Kriceº]

Yeah .. looks will always be a little bit of status to be compared with personality .. im 1 too .. personality is indeed 70% importance.

[Vi]

If the person is healthy.. meaning not lettin themselves purposely be obese and doing nothing about it.. then personality ALL the way. Ive had the joy of turnin down good looking females with personalities of rocks. so i know personality for sure.

[angelicdesire]

for me personality comes first then looks. personality is key for me..

[izzuru]

well... it depends... i'll turn down someone i'm not really close to if they are not good looking.... but if i know the person... then it will depends on the personality....
mostly personality... because i know my taste too high and rare... lol... jk...

[Vladimir]

personality last forever..
looks will be there but whenn uu get old it will go away..
so its personality thats important..

[Thelindra]

^fata has the same views abt aging and looks ^.<

/me hi fives

but its true right? dun tell me u r gonna dump that person "hey u r old, get lost" =/

thats so evil >_<

[Vladimir]

lol.. nolah.. but looks onii last fer a while.. it personality that last forever..

[Megalomania]

Looks attract, personality keeps you there.

For me, they don't need to be the hottest person you know. Because if their personality is there, and you love them - they will look like the most beautiful person on earth, and you'll think of them like that.

[Vladimir]

yea!! looks is in the outside.. uu cann be the most gorgeous but if uu duunn have a hot personality uu are better off dead..

[d_angel]

Admittedly, my eye is drawn to how a person looks first. I'm not looking for drop dead gorgeous, but at a basic level, a person should be presentable. If that checks out and his personality checks out too, then he's got possibilities. Otherwise, I just won't waste my time.

[Seto]

Both I guess... <3
As long as the girl looks ok and if she's nice, it's fine with me.

[Lolable]

Nah for me .

Personality FIRST! =p

And No I don't want avery hawt looking guy even If I enjoy looking at him =p

So for me not ugly and not very hot =/.

[재]

Both
I won't like her if she's sexy and beautiful and all but she keeps on getting angry so quickly
and I don't love her if she's so nice to me, but she looks bad, I won't tell you what I mean by looking bad.. Might embarassed someone....
but uh.. if they have both, some of both... I'll proabbly like it :)

[Iro]

I'd say both. I want my girlfriend to be physically attractive and having a fun personality at the same time. For some looks, yes you have a girlfriend who is really attractive but your relationship wouldn't last long because you'll have issues with her personality or that you can adapt to hers otherwise. And if you chose personality your relationship will last long but there will come to a point that you'll used to her because of her unattractive state. Yes, technology can make people look good nowadays you can probably change her physical form or not. I'd say whatever you choose it still depends upon the persons involve because in the end what really matters is that you two have something in common and you get a long well and at the same time you want a partner who looks really good (to have good genes in the family, lol) . Its always safe to pick both :)

[Future]

At the end of the day, its more personailty then looks... but looks also play a part in a realationship

[Vladimir]

i like drop dead gorgeous ppl.. but their personality sometimes sux cuz some they think they own the world..

[A2k]

Personality all the way.

Usually I'd back that statement up with this reason, that reason, some other random garbage to support my choice...but in this instance, The first line covers my every thought on the topic.

I'd sooner kiss a dog than someone with no life to them. Personality is everything, looks are a bonus...or at least, that's me anyway.

[Vladimir]

yes.. uu are right.. personality always comes first..

[Ronin36]

idk, Personality is most of it, because you have to be interested in your partner, and that requires a good personality. But you still have to look at your partner every morning. They don't have to be a total hottie, but if you can't look at your partner everyday without regretting the decision, you're screwed.

[Gu^n3r]

i'd have to say personality ftw, looks do matter but god damn i'd hate talking to myself all the time :o

[Vladimir]

talking to urrself??

[chiriyuku]

I think both are important... I love sitting around talking with my bf coz he's a lot of fun but if he didn't look the way he did, when I first met him, I doubt that I would have been interested in him. It sounds superficial but that's the way it is.

[Vladimir]

maybe its true tho.. der uu i think.. cuz sumtimes i get attracted by their looks.. den whenn i get to noe them their personality is not as good as they look.

[Mighty Aramir]

Looks might lead you to a nice person, but looks are deceiving, they can be a rotten ungraceful bi... who is cheats on you as soon as you leave the state *tries to calm himself down* thats why personality is important, you dont want to end up hurt because you were dating a sack of bones it sucks

[Thelindra]

^thats sounds very sad....

almsot eveyrone say personality is important.

[Tanya]

Personality, duh =P But.. (this might be a little blunt) I'm not willing to date a fugly guy =p so looks do play a part.

[Neve]

I guess I'm the same as a lot of people - whist I do judge personality to be the more important factor, I wouldn't date someone who was ugly.

[silentyas]

I like to put my personality before my looks, because I dress myself according to my personality
I really hate it when I have to change myself just to get into something (for example), but you know not everything that I think about is true, so sometimes I make some excaptions

[Vladimir]

looks is just the outside of what uu see in a person.. drop dead gorgeous? whenn uu eventually get to know that person.. they will not turn up as gorgeous as uu tot they were.. so personality is the best of all judgement..

[Thelindra]

Drop dead gorgeous will not fill yur stomach, nor it will last for eternity.

Personality and love will fill you~!

[Vi]

im sure it will.. XD

lity how many times is that you've responded with same answer but with diff words? lolz :D

Looks/figure are always just a plus for me but i could do with out em. as long as you're healthy and take care of yourself im fine :D

[Muja]

Come on now Come on now.
Now i know some of you are lying. Now I know most of you are 90% looks come on now. Why u come here for. Anyway I'd go for looks first but offcourse personality is a must like all of you said so. But I get attracted by looksXD.(Now i know most of you do)!

[Thelindra]

Looks comes first becuz thats what u display 100% of the time

i am sure u dun carry a tag outside say" i am kind and thougful person but with slighty evil personlity" XD

[Undying]

Hm.

For me, looks can be an attention grabber - for example, if I see a really hot girl and want to try to date her (which at the moment won't be since I have an interest already =)), I'd try.

On the other hand, if that girl looks meh, I'd be more reluctant to try anything.

But if I will look for a relationship I'll first be her friend first, to get a good look at her personality. Looks can be changed, after all, and personality is harder to change.

So... personality for me. Although as many people, I won't be trying anyone butt-ugly (yes I am well aware that sounded very blunt).

[Future]

Good looks are a perk of someones awesome personality

[iladys]

It would have to be personality that overcomes most things. I think its not uncommon to take into consideration someone's looks but if you judge a person just by how 'hot' they look, you're gonna be in trouble (though it works for some people). Just as undying said, I'd get to know the person first and see whether our personalities work. Who knows, you just might be dating that person in the future, or just gain a great friend on the way.

[Xferox 02]

mix, you dont want a super hot girl but shes a super stupid *****. at least have some common sense. oh did you know that the ugly girls trying to dress hot in school always the loudest one?

[Thelindra]

ugly girls trying to dress hot? loudest? sry u are making me confused here X_X

[Planeswalker]

I think I know what he is talking about...usually theres a really loud girl, who may be in the "hot" group but not quite hot herself. At least not compared to the other members.

Make any sense?

Anyway Im a man who has learnt to place no hope in looks. Id just want to find somebody I can live with. Whether she be a beauty queen, the ugliest girl in the world or the many levels inbetween seriously doesnt matter so long as she has a great personality and is faithful.

[Thelindra]

u mean as the black sheep of the hot group? =O

depending on looks alone wil most likey no bring u anywhere~~

[Planeswalker]

Not necissarily. The black sheep of any group can take on a lot of different roles, but I suppose thats the general gist of it.

People who only depend on looks gamble with relationships. Its a pain in the ass when I hear guys talking about how they cant stand this super hot girl they are going out with. Most of the time they are only going out with them because of their looks to impress friends.

And I dont think the girls are much better in that regard.

[Thelindra]

^lol u got that covered.

same kind of people attract same kind of mates. besides, what do u think girlfriends are for? some walking display girl beside u and show off? It can be, but if its juz like that, it gets boring >_>;

[Planeswalker]

It even developes way into adulthood. Im sure youve heard the expression "trophy wife"

It applies to husbands as well just not used as much.

I really feel sorry for those families...theres almost no love.

[Thelindra]

wth do people wan a flower vase for?! besdies, flower vase is giving to the highest auctioner, so if thr guys goes broke.....heh....its time for this flower vase to find a new mate ^.<

[Planeswalker]

Thats a good analogy...even though I needed to read it twice to get it o_O

What your talking about there are the women out for sugar daddies. Young women scamming old lonely rich men.

[Planeswalker]

Yeah...I like to speak english...and you like to rape english =p

But anyway back on this looks thing, you knwo the thread topic ^_^

I dont think anybody who focuses on looks can ever be happy in life. Even if they do find a great looking parter who they can get along with, their partner's looks will fade over time and if they havent learnt to accept somebody beyond looks it will cause chaos.

[Thelindra]

yea there smth in the past posts, abt looks is temp, personality is perma, but looks is a starter, personality is the maintanence......and what do u mean by i like to rape english? >_>;

[Planeswalker]

I wouldent even count on looks to start. Although for most normal people thats how it does. However for me Id never ask somebody out based on looks alone. Id have to know something about her first.

On the internet it would go differently. You know a girl for ten minutes and somehow you are e-married. But its good because its not a relationship based on looks initially. Just hitting it off.

[Xferox 02]

theres this really ugly girl in my school, during lunch shes scream and you can hear her from like 50 feet away, but all the short skirts and see though shirts just make her more ugly

[Thelindra]

^omg that sounds really awful X_X

@planes: well, RL and online are diff. i find online much easier to hit off XD

[Vi]

almost all my past gf's ive only started dating after knowing already... i once went out with a girl having been set up by friends and we were together for a bit but ended up terribly T.T ill stick to getting to know a girl first =/

[Undying]

Hmmm... for me, even on the e-life thing, I still take more into consideration than most people (who indeed e-marry after 15 minutes of three word exchange).

And it took me half an hour to convince Theli to e-marry me, too.

At any rate, personality still plays a very important part in my decision making when it comes to mates, e- or otherwise.

[Nesquik]

its like someone is cute on the outside but ugly inside
(actually sasuke and i e-married after 1 month of being BF and GF)

[Planeswalker]

@planes: well, RL and online are diff. i find online much easier to hit off XD

Of course its easier. Chances are you will meet somewhere and immediatly know that you share a mutual hobby so its easy to start up a convo. RL is very rarely like that.

[Vladimir]

online is all about the person personality and self.. thats y its easier.. but in RL its hard cuz it depends on ur look..

[Thelindra]

^esp when one is self-conscious abt own looks >_<

[Planeswalker]

Thats why I <3 online. People like or dislike me for my personality. Looks have absolutly nothing to do with it. Once you like somebody's personality its very easy to look past physical apperance (If it wasnt already).

[Vladimir]

thats the prob.. mostly people out there duunn wanna get to know who uu are.. they only noe how uu look.. if uu duun get into the good looks book they will never give uu a secondd look..

[Vladimir]

oh come on.. hehe.. thats the prob with ppl in this modern world.. that y all those not so good looking will hardly have relationship..
let me share uu my story.. i had this frenn.. we hadd known each other last yr.. when we were still frens we used to talk fer long hrs.. then one day i told him that i like him.. he ask me like? i told him i just like him not more than that.. this guy here is the big hotty in my scool.. denn our friendship were just off because of wad i said.. just because i didnt get in his good look book our friendship went poof!

[Xferox 02]

lol thats what plastic surgery for, change your face

[Thelindra]

better to preserver our own natural look eh Lity ^^V

[Vladimir]

lols... everyone does... hehe..
it just that i duunn understand y people judge people by looks.. hardly ppl do the opp.

[Thelindra]

easy, cuz looks is there 100% of the time, and is much easier to judge, and we are alzy people to go dig their personality out ^^

[Planeswalker]

Looks are just the first thing you come across. If you see somebody youve never spoken to then you will have a tendacy to judge them by looks since thats all the information you have. Everybody does it. I just dont like the people who dont give the not so good looking ones a chance. Best to get to know everyone before you judge them properly.

[Vladimir]

yea!!! uu are right.. but unfortuantely ppl are lazy in this modern world to dig out other personality..

[milkjunkie]

I usually fancy the whole picture.. which means that sometimes she's not very pretty but has a lot of other positive parts, or she's pretty and not so kind... usually I understand why she's not being kind and then it's okay for me to live with it.

That's another thing: what IS a bad personality? It usually is some sort of expressed insecurity, so who gives a damn.

[Planeswalker]

A bad personality is somebody with an intolerance for something stupid. It might be something in the extremes like racism or sexism or it might be something as simple as not liking overweight or lesser looking people. Not just not liking but picking on and excluding them.

[Thelindra]

lol Lity, i believe we are all victims of these things. Sometimes we might even do them accidentally XD

lucky for forums, we got avy and sig to display as "looks" and posts to display personality XD

i love CB~~~

[milkjunkie]

And you think that's just because that person is a moron?

[Planeswalker]

^^ The person isnt a moron...they just have harmful and unfair views

lol Lity, i believe we are all victims of these things. Sometimes we might even do them accidentally XD

lucky for forums, we got avy and sig to display as "looks" and posts to display personality XD

i love CB~~~

We also have a post your picture thread for when you become comfortable with showing yourself.

The only reason I put my picture in there is because I knew people had already somewhat accepted me for who I am. At that point what you look like doesnt matter too much so why not post it?

[emmasu]

ok, i have done aproject on this topic and definitly am with look, and during the presentation of my project, we had adebate about that, and am with everyone, looks come first
definitly it defines everything, first you look at the person and according to that you will be attracted to that person, but we dont forget what are you ideas about the good looking and here where the difference come, we all say the look comes first, but everyone end up with someone that we think or the others think thats he or she is not good looking, but we all agree on that

personailty is important too, but when you like someone you really dont care about many stuff in them and you will pass on many things, so i guess the look plays the major role here

even though i said that, and my slef surprised thats my relationship is totally love cuz of the personality, definitly not the look, i dont say thats my finacee is not cute, he is cute and good looking guy, but i have never thought that i will love someone based on the personality only and i still believe in thats all based on look

[Planeswalker]

Only in the beginning. Five minutes after you start talking to a person you can judge them properly.

Ive come into contact with some women in my life who I didnt think we good looking at all when I first saw them. However that didnt stop me talking to them and I soon discovered how cool they were. Id much rather end up with them than a stuck up good looking girl

[iladys]

Well said Planes, well said. I would have had to come across lots of parties: the ones who don't look 'hot' but are great people once you get to know them, the one's who are hot but not great people and the hot and great.

Everyone has a characteristic which makes them look beautiful/handsome I believe. It would be uncommon to say you dont take looks into consideration but if you have that connection, I think that's all you need.

[Undying]

And how do you start liking someone then? By looks alone (i.e. physical attraction)? And how long would that relationship last, 45 minutes every day, in bed? I am not into that...

Looks, as I said, can be attention grabbers (especially when you see the person for the first time), but are no basis for relationship, unless you're in for sex-only.

[A2k]

Well, a few of the posts after my comments, have led me to find myself needing to explain a little more into my original statements, so here it goes.

Looks are always the initial instigation in a relationship between people who are either unfamilliar with one another on friendly terms, or otherwise do not know one another at all.

You cannot by any stretch of the imagination find someone's personality overwheleming, to whom you have never met.

If a guy spots an attractive lady in a bar for instance, quite obviously, the first cause for attraction is the visual aspects.

However to use myself and my circumstances, as an example to support the previous statement; I am currently in a relationship with someone to whom I have been a close friend for approximately 5 years.

Whilst I may have during our friendship, found her to be a very pretty girl, (or a more familliar word to use for my type of speech; "Bonnie lass") I had never looked at her in a loving manner until I knew her character and personality, regardless of how attractive she may be.

Only after knowing who she is, how she is and the little quirks, traits and all the things that come with a personality, did I find a true attraction - and that ladies and gentlemen is why I believe that personality is first and foremost.

Like I said, in circumstances of a first encounter, indeed physical attraction is key I do not dispute that.

I simply think that in contrast to a personality, looks are by far secondary importance.

[Xferox 02]

look is the first attraction, when the two of you get to know eachother the character starts to come in.

[Mighty Aramir]

but still, character and personality can be noticed in the first 5 minutes of conversation, in the way they speak, or how they treat themselves, putting attention to each of those factors can be of mayor help when getting to know someone

[A2k]

Eh not intentionally being controversial but I whole heartedly dissagree.

Anyone, can make anything out of nothing. ie. I could be a total and complete ass, but my girlfriend might not find that out until our "honeymoon" (by which I'm not being literal) period is over in the relationship.

After a good year of being with one person, then and only then can you somewhat have an inkling of what that partner is truly like.

You can hide anything you choose in the first 5 minutes of meeting someone, but if you are still hiding things after a lengthy period of time, then either that person is an extrodinary actor or actress or the partner is simply to naive to see.

[Reefern86]

I preffer personality all the way. Ur looks don't matter rly at all! if u look nice...well that's just like a bonus rly. But i always look past the exterior!

[Vladimir]

some people take looks.. they duunn even botherr to noe uu.. if uu duunn look good they will duunn like uu..

[Xferox 02]

if you got the look and the personality then your on the top, lol but some ppl dont get both

[BrokenImage]

Yeah you definatly have to have a little of both. I mean you have to be attracted to someone right or how could you stand to be in a long term relationship with them. But also i need to be able to talk to someone who is arcitulate and complicated in order to keep things interesting. No one likes a brick wall.

[Kalashnikov]

well...i go more for personality..but also looks...but more personality lol

lol noone would have guessed my gf is emo :P

[Xferox 02]

ROFL even brick wall have cracks, if your a white board, then your done for

[Nuada]

I would have to say a mix of both. They definitely need the personlity more then the look. So personlity then looks.

[Thelindra]

hmm yea, looks are important when u are working, esp when u are interacting with customers, eg, sales promoters

[Planeswalker]

Looks are important for certain jobs yes...but so is personality. What good is a great looking saleswoman who doesnt have any charisma?

A bad looking person with charisma is more likely to sell a product than a good looking person with none.

[Vladimir]

looks are important whenn uu wanna become a image consultant and model.. if its model.. uu cannot be model untill uu turn 40.. uu got to have the personality andd the brains too.. looks are onii image of urself.. drop dead gorgeous not really drop dead good!!

[Xferox 02]

personality comes first, but you dont have your personality written all over your face.

[Vladimir]

well.. people take look so seriously and even when they look pretty well they still think they are ugly.. i duunno how come its this way but its just a nature of everyone.. it weird tho..

[Xferox 02]

you can be the coolest guy in school but you can be a total jack ass at the same time

[Kuro-Chan]

looks do matter..but personality matters best..well..that's what i think though..

[Xferox 02]

right on the point evil, good explaination

[Kuro-Chan]

thank you..i'll go into more details of my point..those people who look for looks will only get two options..either the person is real lucky and got a person with personality and looks,or the person will get someone who have the looks but the personality simply sucks...for those people who go for personality,the visual might not be good,but at least you can find someone whose really truthful to you and not cheat on you behind your back or something..
xD

[Xferox 02]

yeah beeing truthful to your love is the most important thing

[♥ Tess]

appearance > personality.
you have to look & smell clean to be around me. -.-
if you don't look clean, i wouldn't get a chance to know you.


(since i'll be walking away from you...) :winking56

also:
if a girl says she's willing to accept just your personality,
you should run!

(remember that chinese teen who committed suicide due to his blind date? )

well, be careful...

[Thelindra]

how abt Hygiene VS Appearance?

^^

[Xferox 02]

appearance > personality.
you have to look & smell clean to be around me. -.-
if you don't look clean, i wouldn't get a chance to know you.
(since i'll be walking away from you...) :winking56
also:
if a girl says she's willing to accept just your personality,
you should run!
(remember that chinese teen who committed suicide due to his blind date? )
well, be careful...

ROFL that was hularious, LMAO

[Anubisrage]

I think that Personality is more important than looks... but looks are important too (otherwise girls/guys might not even look at you)
lmao...

[Xferox 02]

look are the first attraction but if you want that person to stay with you, you cant be a freak show

[A2k]

appearance > personality.
you have to look & smell clean to be around me. -.-
if you don't look clean, i wouldn't get a chance to know you.
(since i'll be walking away from you...) :winking56
also:
if a girl says she's willing to accept just your personality,
you should run!
(remember that chinese teen who committed suicide due to his blind date? )
well, be careful...


I am quite disgusted, and am astounded by the shallowness of those statements, be they in jest or not. ~_~

[chiriyuku]

Really? I think every single person is shallow to some level and I think that's understandable. Coz there are just some people in this world, with certain looks, that just doesn't appeal to some other people.

And her second point makes sense too... wouldn't you be offended if ur date ONLY liked your personality?

[Thelindra]

*thinks* that part seems kinda true, cuz girls in general want to be told they are pretty, but at the same time they wan the boys to like them not becuz of their looks cuz they will grow old one day......*shrugs*

[A2k]

I couldn't agree more thelindra.

I can't say this without sounding like a self absorbed, overly modest, and stuck up egocentric male prick, so I'll simply be blunt about it;

I'm no super sexy, handsome hunk of a guy, but I know damn fine that I'm far from being an ugly bloke - now obviously that is all in the eye of the beholder as they say, but I mean generally, what most people see as an unpretty guy.

Terri is far from any super slim, and insanely attractive typical stunner, but having known her for nearly 6 years now, and always having thought in the back of my mind that not only is she pretty in a milder way than most people find "hot" slender looking girls to be attractive, but that she has a BEAUTIFULL personality, that and that first and foremost is what brought us together.

She is one of the kindest two people I know, and inwardly beautifull in every way. Naturally my being her partner I will obviously have nothing but good things to say about her, but I know myself, having been friends with her for that length of time, that it is not just me that thinks of her like that. It is therefore not just the blindness that comes in a relationship, where by ones partner can "do no wrong, or be less than perfect".

Obviously, whilst her personality is the thing that brought us together, I do find her physically attractive, I do not deny that.

But my point of this was, that whilst I know if I tried to, I could probably find myself that typical type of woman, someone slender, perhaps tanned and insanely pretty that makes another guy's head turn when she passes, but I don't want or need someone like that, since she makes me happier than I have ever been in somewhere near 7 years now.

That happiness in a relationship is all that matters.

You know what...it doesn't even matter to me, I had a whole hell of a lot more to rant on with, but I don't see the point since I'm not sure I can adequately explain.

[zaffy04]

Looks wont get you anywhere if u just dont got any personality cause you would just be staring at her stoned...not knowing what to say!

[Xferox 02]

appearance > personality.
you have to look & smell clean to be around me. -.-
if you don't look clean, i wouldn't get a chance to know you.
(since i'll be walking away from you...) :winking56
also:
if a girl says she's willing to accept just your personality,
you should run!
(remember that chinese teen who committed suicide due to his blind date? )
well, be careful...


lol that my way of getting with some one, be clean i dont mind if i get bleached in the washing machine. just stay clean and smell good. ( my polo body spray)

[Kyoko<3!]

For me, I don't have too many high standards on looks, although I am quite picky. As long as she is good looking enough for me to look at and be interested enough to talk to her, it's alright. I find that when a girl has an amazing personality, she becomes more and more pretty. It's because of their personalities that I am attracted to girls that I normally wouldn't be. The same goes the other way around. I find a girl to be less pretty (even if she does have a hot smacking body) and less attractive if she does not have a good personality.

Therefore I believe personality > appearance.

Obviously there must be some 'look' factor in there, but for me, the personality factor has a much higher effect.

[♥ Tess]

^i like that answer better


(deletes last comment)
though i will keep:
"appearance is usually the ignition to getting to know someones personality."

[A2k]

Whilst I do not disagree with anything you said in the post you deleted #shin, I was only making that comment on this part of what you said, the rest came across to me, entirely impartial:

"appearance > personality.
you have to look & smell clean to be around me. -.-"

So for example someone who may have a medical problem, would repulse you so much that you wouldn't even allow yourself to be in the same breathing space as them?

Now I don't mean to say that IS what you were implying, merely that it comes off as such.

I do agree with what you wrote in that deleted post, and I appreciate what you said. =)

I would never "settle" for someone's looks. ^_~

[Thelindra]

but isnt hygiene a important factor too? people like to be around clean and tidy people.

And i am will be put off by a handsome good looking guy who smoke than a guy who is juz plain looking but dresses decently. XD

Looks affect to a certain factor only. Thats how i categorize people into those who can made friends with and those who are just meant for viewing pleasure only.

[A2k]

You know...after re-reading Radical's post...you've hit in every way the exact thing that I was fumbling around trying to represent in several posts.

I couldn't agree more.

[Kefka]

I'm for a mix. Personality comes first. If she looks like a stunner, won't matter if I can't hold a conversation with her at all or enjoy myself around her. Then looks. She doesn't have to be a supermodel or anything like that, but if she has the personality, the prettier the better. :)

[Anubisrage]

My view is this, a girl doesnt need to be 'stunning' to be attractive. A person can be attractive and pleasant to be around simply by the way they act. If they are impatient and raise their voice often and for no reason, you wouldnt go near such a person... On the other hand, if they are intellectual and calm, they would seem more attractive... Looks count only as a small segment, the rest is your personality and the atmosphere aroung you.

[adorkable]

Personality ftw. (Especially if he's funny and kind.)

Recently, I've become attracted to this guy, and his looks aren't what most people would consider "hot" (even I don't think that)... but his personality was what made him charming.

Looks can be a factor in my liking to people, but personality overpowers that factor by far.

[Anubisrage]

Personality ftw. (Especially if he's funny and kind.)

Recently, I've become attracted to this guy, and his looks aren't what most people would consider "hot" (even I don't think that)... but his personality was what made him charming.

Looks can be a factor in my liking to people, but personality overpowers that factor by far.
You Miss, are one smart woman.

[BeeCrest]

I'm more for personality and a guy's charm, I'd rather date a guy who I can talk to and relate with instead of one who only gets by on looks. Although I'm not going to lie and say looks have a 0% effect, it's to an extent. I'm not going to pass by a guy with a personality I like because he isn't hot or just looks decent. Besides, are they really going to look hot forever? XD

[Mugen]

I`d rather go by personality than looks just because you may think just because a girl/ guy is cute and when you talk to them they may be disgusting ass holes so it`s better to go by personality

[Anubisrage]

Thats true, most good looking people become arrogant due to the fact...
A person who looks alright on the other hand could be very intellectual, not a nerd, but charmingly smart, and very pleasant to be around...

[Vladimir]

looks are all from the outside.. looks are not beautiful but pretty..
beauty lies on the inside.. wad lies on the outsite doesnt matter aniwae.. uu can be so attractive but when uur personality just not up to standard.. uu are meaningless..

[Kuro-Chan]

my mummy is right...
looks are all on the outside...what matters is the inside...
in short,personality>looks.

[Thelindra]

inner beauty rocks

outer beauty is fake and can be taken away

inner beauty needs to be dug out

outer beauty is always on display

take our own pick and way ^^

[Undying]

Outer beauty can be made to represent your inner beauty. If you can dig out your inner beauty and use it to enhance the outer beauty you're better than someone who relies on make up, and other such things to make you look like a doll on display =P.

[Lucki]

personality is way more important then looks, but for people who are shy it can be really hard!...as it is hard to dig inner beauty out of someone who is really really shy as it takes time and people can be really impatient!..but still personality is more important to me then looks as after a while you dont see how people look! when you get to know someone really well you see them how they are inside^^

[itsupthere]

I'm going to have to go for a combination of both. It's stupid to settle for just one, and besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[candyb3ar]

Quote:
Originally Posted by toxxin
For myself I find that I need a bit of both, physical and the mental attraction.
On the other hand, once you start to love someone they will become more attractive to you in everyway anyway. Sal, you have a very mature outlook on the issue.


I am in partial agreance with him... technically the "look" is what makes you wanna talk to a person, cause i am sorry but if you are a sloppy mess, or dont take care of yourself and what not, what do expect is gonna happen, that your gonna bag a HOT babe?...SORRY!

Sure its superficial and maybe reflects poorly, if you are on the "not so naturally gifted" part of the spectrum your gonna use this as a lash back "well you shouldn't judge others by the way the look and dress"...We know you shouldn't but thats society, would you walk into a bank and give a dude that looks like a homeless person your money?....i doubt it

[this is kinda getting off topic]

for toxxin's second point "once you start to love someone they will become more attractive to you in everyway anyway"...im sorry you cant take a pinto and turn it in to a Ferrari.
cause you already needed that initial attraction to become love, so ya!

anyways...

...but looks aint gonna get ya too far, but if you can accompany your looks with a good personality then your a winner, if not you come off as a stuck up...[tried not to swear there]...oh well i dunno where i am even going anymore so i am gonna stop...

but for any last glimer of hope for those whom think "love is blind"...whomever thought lyle lovett and julia roberts would marry?...go figure

[chiriyuku]

"once you start to love someone they will become more attractive to you in everyway anyway"

I don't agree that they will become more attractive in EVERY way. But I do think that you sort of notice more attractive things about them. Especially the little things, like how cute their smile is or something like that.

[Xferox 02]

first attraction are always the looks unless you have no choice or intentionaly to talk to that person to find out what is he/she all about, long term relationship only last when 2 ppl understand, forgive, and support eachother.

[Vladimir]

well looks are always the first one ppl will judge cuz its on the outside..
our eyes decide which look good which duunn.. ii cannot blame ppl as i am that myself.. but sumtimes i realize that how long can looks last.. whenn ii look at my boyfren every single day.. i noe i was attracted by looks.. so ii duunn realli have fuunn when ii was with him.. so personality says it all..

[Xferox 02]

if you can read girl's mind, you will be the ladie's man for the rest of your life

[Anubisrage]

If you have a good personallity, it will make up for a lack of good looks...

[.multi]

I value personality but looks are also important. But not as important as personality.

[sinkinswimmer]

i think both are important. personality is what's going to keep you together in the long term, but it helps to feel attracted to the person you're spending your time with.

[Xkavanger]

Personality pwns over looks
To get a guy with the desired personality you had hoped for is a score
to get a guy with the desired personality AND get him with good looks is the jackpot... and if he likes you for you... you have won a limited edition platnium X)

[Sweeney]

Personality definately matters more, but I think a persons looks will always play a part in it. Find a person who you get alone great with, and THEN worry about if you can put up with his/her face for long periods of time ;)

[pero_renji!]

I care about personality a bit more then about looks so i guess its around 55% - 45%.

[hollow kitty]

I RL I'd say looks are more important to most people until they get to know the person but online I think personality is more important.

[Anubisrage]

looks will make a person arrogant...
so better stick with personality.

[Phasmatis]

For me, personality is really important. If there's some super hot girl who's just an idiot (personality-wise), then screw that.

[Vladimir]

looks is on the outside . the mask is the looks . it can be very ugly and very beautiful . but whats inside is more important that uu should take consider of . cuz if uu wanna spent ur lifetime with that person , doesn't matter if he/she doesn't look hot .

[SLVR]

Are you more for looks than personality, or a mix of both? :o

I'm for a mix of both myself. They have to not have the personality of a brick, but they have to be moderately good looking too.A mix of both for sure but looks out weigh personality to me

[Sakura_Drops]

A bit of both but personality would mean more to me. What use is a rude poop with a pretty face? 8D

[hasuke]

Looks change. What's "HOT & SKINNY" today can become saggy and fat tomorrow.

I personally prefer personality, as I'd sooner be with a girl who's as big of a geek as I am and has a weird sense of humor (read: random) than some flawless beauty queen.

but then again I generally find the chubby, "unappealing by social standards" girls a lot more good looking... Anyways, yeah, personality.

[L'Arc Enzeru]

i'd say mix of both cuz' if personality is good but the looks is bad i think that's little bit OK, but if the looks is good but bad personality... HECK NO!, so mix of both for fair and square lol.

[ghey B]

50/50


i need to be physically attracted to you as well as your personality...

you can be drop dead gorgeous but it all goes down when you open your mouth...

[Anarchy]

50/50
i need to be physically attracted to you as well as your personality...
you can be drop dead gorgeous but it all goes down when you open your mouth...
amen to that brother

[sham16]

For me I cannot say that i would go for 50/50 maybe i would go for 60/40... I mean 60 for personality and 40 for look.. I really dont like the moody once they annoy me a lot so having a 50% chance of being annoying is really hard for me to understand.. I really dont care if she is not that beautiful as long as she is not ugly either.

[ginjixx]

i'd say 60 for looks and 40 for personality... because its just looks fom the start and later is the personality... i know most of the guys would agree with me..... most guys look at the structure without even knowing the personality...

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

I'd say Looks first then personality, I mean you'll date then if it's someone who's personality you just don't like....you can always...dump them

[deto]

i think you can't relate looks to personality easily, not like in giving certain %
for looks and a certain % for personality. first you see somebody and you judge
practicly only the looks. when you get to know them you judge their personality
it either appeals you or not. disregarding the looks since you already considered
that in an earlier stage. (well that goes for someone you see somewhere and you
decide to talk to)
it's however different if you know a person from classes or sport teams or what
do i know and you know the person over a longer time.

there are also situations where you get to judge the personality first before you
get to know the looks, rather seldom tho.

still point is even if somebody looks stunnigly beautiful but has a lame ass personality
(as in not appealing to me) well... instant lose. for me it has to match to the person
somehow, can't really describe.

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

Deto: I Agree

[Vladimir]

looks are the first thing people c when they meet uu . like i meet cb people . i tend to see them on the outside first . it's normal for people to do that .
but sometimes people are lazy to uncover the real them so they tend to see the outside . what for ? outside are very differ from the inside . people can be very gorgeous but inside they might be such a dumb moron . wish them to be ur partner ? think again . so i think personality wise is more .

[sham16]

Well said elle... Beauty will always be skin deep but having a great personality will always be with you... Think of this.. when you are liek 50's do you think your wife will be as half as beautiful as she was before... But peronality wise she is still the same... Plus if she has a good personality most likely she will also be smart... Another plus factor for your life...

[ginjixx]

its just this, the plus points of the looks more than personality..... for example 2 girls of the same age.... the other 1 is very beautiful and sexy but with a bad attitude.... the other one has a good attitude but has a disgusting looks... who would you choose??? its just that some people didnt even choose what personality a person have but they look by their outside looks....

[sham16]

So youd rather have the on who looks disgusting? Omg... ehehehe Anyhow if I am to choose i would choose the norms of both classes.. as i said before 60/40 I would not like her if she is that ugly to the point that you would say that she is disgusting.. So if thats the case i rather not go to the extremes...

But if left with those options.... hmm maybe... Ill be a priest >.<

[Insight]

looks and personality are both very imporatant and are one of those things were you can't really say one is more or less important.
looks are important especially at the begining as they are generally the reason you would go talk to a stranger either at a bar or in a club etc. you are interested in that person because of there looks as you know nothing about them.
then when you start getting to know them, personality becomes the key as if you don't like them then you wont stay with them.
basically looks are the reason you get to know them personality is the reason you stay with them.

[sham16]

But also remember that that looks and personalit is not that all constant to everyone.. She may seem beatutiful to you with her blue eyes... Shining blond hair.. fine white and flawless skin and those rosy red kissable lips... But this charactersitics are what i call my own preference you might have a different one if you might say.. you are a goth. So you would rather have a had rocking chick!.. Same goes to persnality... No need to explain further..


My point is it would depend on how you look at things so yeah she might all be beautiful for you but is it the same with the other guy??? So yes for me sometimes girls that i go after are not of the same taste as other guys.. but hey thats what i like...

[Insight]

the point is "who cares!" what other people think. your the one going out with her/him so aslong as your happy it dosn't matter, you don't need your friends consent to like someone. yes we all have different opinions but that applies to everything and is part of life.
ps. your girl sounds hot. :D

[BabyLoving]

I hate to say this, but I just have to say that nowadays, looks are more important than personality. And, think of it this way. A has great looks and average personality, but B has average looks and great personality. Who would one want to choose? Of course, the A.

You know, there is a Chinese saying that goes something like, "If men aren't bad, women don't like." I don't think its that way. What I think is that, women just like the bad guys because they are normally more good looking and the women lies to herself that their personailty is average.

We, women, are kinda pitiful sometimes.(:

[AvidoWA]

I gotta go with Looks < Personality BUT
I CANT GO OUT WITH FUGLY CHICK ....erm a chick i think is fugly because it seems most chick seem to think they themselves are fugly or something .... but personality over looks but you gotta have a little of both to hit this >: <<<< Did i honestly just type that .......i think i did

[Aerias]

As its been said before, first impressions matter. I won't really get interested in someone who doesnt take care of themselves and such. However, it doesn't matter how good looking you are, it is an absolute turn-off if she acts unintelligent and is to lazy to get an education...Im not saying the person has to be a genius, just someone who cares about their future

but thats just my opinion 0.o

[jemz09]

Personality FTW..

[Vladimir]

actually i learnt that both are important indeed .. tell me who doesn't do this .. the moment uu look at a person, the first thing uu see is their looks . whether they are in woah ! or eww ! ... thats the first that catches ur eyes .. well me too does that .. but from there i always know both type of people ..
sometimes the handsome one are bad and not so handsome ones are good . but not always turn out that way .. sometimes it's the vice versa ..

so for me .. i really think both are important quality of oneself .. ^^

[DespoticWalnut]

I like my woman to look beautiful (and the does) but her personality must be good for me to even think of dating her. (and it is)
I would like her to be kind, considerate, and sincere above all else, but beauty is very nice to have.
Hehe my girl is the best of both worlds.

[Patience]

Well. This is my theory that i just thought of.

Relationships are like food (i'm also hungry atm)

The good looking ones with bad personalities are like.... DELICIOUS looking pizzas but they actually have mold on the inside - so you might get it because it looks good but regret it later.

And the other way around is like... a nasty looking burger that's all sloppy, but if you give it a chance and take a bite into it, you'll love how it tastes and wont regret it.

lol... which one would you choose first ;]

And no, I dont consider men my food.

[Kira vi Britannia]

I go with personality.

I do however, believe that physical attraction is required in order to get the opposite sex starting to communicate with you.

But yea, personality is very vital. Good looking usually are a bonus, but the further you know the person well the more attractive they become to you.

[Miyagi Rikku]

I like to look at the personalities first. Like come on. Get yourself a gf/bf
that is so good looking but so effing rude and very well have a very
displeasing attitude.

But looks is also a key right? but doesnt mean you should ignore the
personalities. Like for example the Beauty and Geek reality show. :D

[Chris`]

I hit on anything that breathes....

So personality?

[Gojira]

Looks get you through the front door in a relationship but Personality keeps it going.

[EvilRabbit]

id say a mix of both. if the person is hot yet with such a dull personality that it kills you then no. if the person has a great personality yet never bathes and is 500 pounds overweights thats just disgusting

[Anime_Lover02]

Both,but a little more of personality.

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

I do however, believe that physical attraction is required in order to get the opposite sex starting to communicate with you.
That TRUE!
that's why I hated that movie, the "Hunchback from Notredam" !!

[Miss Murder]

Personality.I don''t like much hot guys nor popular ones.

[yoko lee]

Well, I must admit that it is a guy's physical appearance that attracts my attention first. Sometimes with just the way a guy carries himself you know what's behind his facade. I don't say personality is frivolous, either. Having a good combination of the two would be nice.

[Reneto]

i`m for both i looks the body and personality...........if just body i think that`s not complete for compare life

[silentyas]

I'm the kind of person judges people by their looks because I'm one of the people who always get the wrong impression from people who judge me by my looks, but I am becoming to believe that looks send a message to people.

[deto]

but I am becoming to believe that looks send a message to people.

def. does, but are we reading it right?

[Reneto]

I'm the kind of person judges people by their looks because I'm one of the people who always get the wrong impression from people who judge me by my looks, but I am becoming to believe that looks send a message to people.

i think not all people can understand your look but how you look someone to make they understand

[Achilles]

for me, it's %55 personality and %45 look.

[layla]

for me, it's %55 personality and %45 look.
i have to say that pretty much sums it up for me too.

have to be a mix, unless the personality is totally "WOW, ur perfect!"
which almost never happens so yeah.

[-=Yanayo=-]

personality deffinatly =]
looks mean little to me i find people others woudn't attractive most the time anyway =]
And tbfif you date a fit guy who you batrely know for all you know he has the personality of a washboard =]

[lorraineChan]

Both but a litlle more personality..
It will be a very perfect combination..a beautiful girl like me and a handsome guy..gee

[Vladimir]

i say 50-50.
50 percent on the looks.
first impression. really depend ON HOW YOU LOOK. what do you first see a person? LOOKS. if the person looks bad, do you even think you would come near or even make friends with them. judge. everyone does that. tell me who don't when you set your eyes on people, you will tend to tell yourself how the person looks. either good or bad. so same goes to others. if you look sickening, would people feel good with you being around them?

personality.
good looks, how far can you go? so what if you look like tom cruise. SO WHAT? if your attitude sucks to the earth's core, there ain't no change to that. you can go to the extent of surgery, but if your personality suck, can you change that? personality is what you make out of it.. IT'S YOU.

[lorraineChan]

Yay ! yea...Just like my ex-boyfriend..He really looks good but his personality sucks....But I say 60-40..

[Jeggo]

im hm...50-50.. im good looking and stuff.. but i got a sharp tongue , an interestin personallity too :O:O

[Kurita77]

i would say it has to be a mix of the two for me

[Sleven]

Somewhere in the middle for me, a girl can have all the looks in the world but doesn't always have depth, so i'd probably lean towards personality.

Although without the first attraction people may never know about ones personality.

But yeah, for me if a girl doesn't have a personality it wouldn't get much further than hello.

[Kouseiyouso]

I think I'd prefer a woman with a kickass personality. Looks don't do much for you if she's a freakin' retard.

[Twister1352]

I mean I like a girl who looks good, but the personality is really kinda a big deal.. I mean it would be awkward to just kinda hang out if they weren't anything like me.. lol

so I mean looks are definitely important but so is personality so probably half and half

[Greiga]

Hm..for me, I think it's 60-40. I look ok but sometimes I can be a smart-ass, and a jerk. I can really piss people off sometimes. but, no one I know can stay mad at me for more than an hour (except my mom). I just make people laugh.

[Xlayer]

I like a girls looks, i fall inlove with a girls personality, there can be a girl thats just perfect on the eye, but a real *****, and a girl who's average, not so pretty and stuff, but is an amazing person and has a great personality, and i would pick the one with the great personality each time, over and over again, great looking and good personality girls do exist, but i dont think im worth one of those lol

[granamonkey]

55 to personality, 45 to looks. Both are important to me, but personality is a lil higher, I can't stand girls that are shallow, or have an annoying personality, if we got some in common, not a lot, but she's gorgeous, I'll give it a try.

[Dope Hat]

I'd be lying now if I said "personality".
I like it if personality and looks are in a balance.

[Tsuki Garyuu]

I think it would be "Looks=Personality" imo. Few people care about their looks so much that they would make a big deal out of it. It kinda does a change in one's personality.

But if I were to answer, Personality beats Looks.

[SadoChad-]

I guess with a good personality you'll have a happy life =D personality!

[Edgey]

I go for a mixture of both to be honest, but I'm more of a personality liker, I can't stand good-looking girls who act like n00bs all the time :(

[♥ Ayalicious ♥]

Those who say "all personality" are liars. 8D Y'all know you wanna grab that bishie on your TV screen and make out with him. 8]

xDDD;;

Hmmmm... I lean towards personality more, due to the simple fact that the majority of hawt guys I've ever met/seen/done stuff with have disappointed me in one way or another. I'm pretty picky too, so a lovely personality is a must. >:3

That's for relationships, though.

For friends - what's looks/personality? x] YOU'RE ALL SEXY TO ME! *O*

[Helikaon]

I would probably say Personality.. but obviously not all .. about.. 60 - 40

But thats not to say my girl aint 100 - 100 :P haha.

[Alex26]

Im for personality and looks, 55 - 45. 75% of the college's girls are hawt the rest are ugly or not compatible w/ the human eye. 65% of those hawt girls haves a shitty personality (arrogant, ignorant, shit eaters, idiots etc...) 50% of those with a shitty personalities are "actors", they act like a ho to be "accepted" and feel cool. The remaining 15% are natural born retards that somehow, ended up on University only to waste the time and money of their parents or the federal agencies

so yea, hawt girls are easy to find, finding girls with nice personality's asking for a miracle unless you rehabilitate them and drag them down from their fantasy world before they get AIDS and kids. Most of the ugly girls haves a nice personality, but my eyes! X_X

[silverwolf801]

hm I'm not here to lie. soo I am pretty shallow. I like looks over personality any day. even though a girls personality is 2nd to me. the girl has to look good or it will never work out between me and her anyway

[Blue]

Tbh, looks aren't everything, but they are something...

Personally, I'd prefer a girl with a nice personality and decent looks over some ditsy blonde with big tits.

Plus, if you really like someone, of course you'll think they're beautiful... =/

[SoundWave]

Beauty is the adjustment of all parts proportionately so that one
cannot add or subtract or change without impairing the harmony of the whole. - Leon B. Alberti
The more I thought about this quote.. The more it seemed true..

[StormsFury]

I guess I would be a mix, yes your looks may catch my eye but I will do my best to find out your personallity before I decide anything...But hygiene is a definate must for anyone...

[lordstrix]

looks personality and intelligence are all on a scale remove one and all the others fall

[-Renae-]

I prefer a mix. Looks are important to a degree but they don't make the relationship. I want someone I can get along with and have a good time with. I don't want someone to just sit there and look pretty for lack of a better phrase. Looks can change in time so it's a bit stupid to base everything all on looks.

~Renae

[Lethe]

If I had to choose one over the other, I'd choose personality hands down,
but a mix would be nice, too.

^_^

[Shaftronics]

Well, I have pretty low standards. As long as the girl doesn't have warts on her face, doesn't look like some random Ultraman monster and has a voice that doesn't sound like Godzilla...

I wouldn't have a problem if she loved me. I'd love her back all the same.

[mochimochil3]

It would have to be a mix. Of course personality means a lot more but obviously by instinct you would want to start a conversation and get to know a person who's good-looking

[Munky]

I would prefer a mix, but of course in this thread we MUST choose :p

I'm more of a looker...

Hey, who say's you cant change a persons attitude?

[Avent]

Majority of unattractive people go for personailty and majority of good looking people go for looks. So if you go for personailty your most likely ugly, if you go for pure looks your most likey attractive or go for mixed than your most likely average.

[Kenji]

I go for Personality, because guess what? By the time you hit the 40s the looks will fade away and you'll pretty much only have personality. So I like a woman who is beautiful, if she's ugly then no I wouldn't consider it. I'd like a mix, someone who is beautiful and isn't a Myspacer 24/7.

[Vladimir]

not all well looking people go for looks..
never go by that principle Avent..
your looks will eventually fade away.. i'm not saying don't go by looks but by a certain percentage. i have many gorgeous looking male friends and they prefer good personality cause they were bored by only good looks.. and guess what, one of them had one and they lasted till now.

[Pyramus]

I know this sound horrible, but I wouldn't go out with a girl if she isn't hot, or at least hot to my eyes! I have acturaly found girls who are hot and have great personalities! :p

[iladys]

Majority of unattractive people go for personailty and majority of good looking people go for looks. So if you go for personailty your most likely ugly, if you go for pure looks your most likey attractive or go for mixed than your most likely average.
On what grounds? That is honestly your opinion and yours alone. There may be others who agree with you but you cannot say majority of unattractive people go for personality. You cannot assume that good looking people go for looks or unattractive people go for personality. I know heaps of people who're good looking who want people for their personality. You get what you give. If you have a great personality and may not be the hottest person around, so what? You can still date a good looking person. You are basically saying the average looking person goes for someone whose smart and nice because they have low esteem of getting a good looking person and a good looking person choosing another good looking person because they're don't want to feel threatened for not having a personality?

It's a bit shallow to say "Oh sorry, I can't go out with you. You're not good looking enough."

Looking at Pyramus' post, there are most definitely girls who are good looking and have great personalities, and he'd only date 'hot' girls, but that's his opinion. Some people may share it but who are you to say its majority?

[Jeggo]

You cannot assume that good looking people go for looks or unattractive people go for personality.


Well realistically speaking , what he said is close to the truth. Good looking people date good looking people , this is a fact. He said it with a rather ''rude/rough'' way though.

History has proved that personality is more important than looks. A guy with average looks , and a certain ''aura'' could easily outlast a ''good looking'' dude.

But I cannot deny that I , a rather handsome person have turned down offers of ''uglier'' people.

Generally good looking people are drawn to those , who could be considered also good looking. This is due to us , humans in general being immature and unable to understand what is beyond someones appearance. This however is not a RULE , and of course there are exceptions.

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Bad looking people usually feel depressed and think of themselves as ''failures'', this resulting in them being rejected even more. Being rejected again and again leads to them having their standards lowered , and thus dating average to below average people.

By all means , i didnt mean to offend ANYONE with what i typed. Using the term ''ugly'' , ''bad looking'' was to make understanding of my topic easier. Besides who is ugly and who is handsome is different for each person , we being unique as we are.

[Neko Bam]

Alot of people say "women are like candy, would you rather like a tasty candy with a shitty wrapper or a shitty candy with a goodlooking wrapper", but lets be honest, nobody would pick the one with the shitty wrapper :lol
It's all about personality, but your looks are your businesscard in a matter of speech :lol

[Sushi]

A relationship simply can not survive on physical attraction alone, although it has to be there in some way or another. For a relationship to work out and last the persanalities have to be in tune with each other. Ypu may begin to be attracted to a person based solely on looks but eventually you get to know them, and the relationship is either made or broken based on persanality.

[iladys]

Well realistically speaking , what he said is close to the truth. Good looking people date good looking people , this is a fact. He said it with a rather ''rude/rough'' way though.
Well I didnt deny that what he said is true, but just saying majority really irks me out. We're not all superficial.

History has proved that personality is more important than looks. A guy with average looks , and a certain ''aura'' could easily outlast a ''good looking'' dude.
But I cannot deny that I , a rather handsome person have turned down offers of ''uglier'' people.
It's just the way we've been brought up. From all the gossip and media, it's not hard to. There is a difference between accepting your good looks, and being vain about it.

Generally good looking people are drawn to those , who could be considered also good looking. This is due to us , humans in general being immature and unable to understand what is beyond someones appearance. This however is not a RULE , and of course there are exceptions.
Agreed.

Bad looking people usually feel depressed and think of themselves as ''failures'', this resulting in them being rejected even more. Being rejected again and again leads to them having their standards lowered , and thus dating average to below average people.
Well, don't say usually. People might have their ups and downs but there are times when they outshine the good looking or have confidence in their own body, and that's what makes it more attractive.

Besides who is ugly and who is handsome is different for each person , we being unique as we are.
True that :)

[Jeggo]

Well I didnt deny that what he said is true, but just saying majority really irks me out. We're not all superficial.
It's just the way we've been brought up. From all the gossip and media, it's not hard to. There is a difference between accepting your good looks, and being vain about it.
Agreed.
Well, don't say usually. People might have their ups and downs but there are times when they outshine the good looking or have confidence in their own body, and that's what makes it more attractive.
True that :)

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[BluRry]

do u guys really think that looks don't matter??? cause you definately must have heard people say, "looks don't matter, its important how you look from inside" and yet there is this "love at first sight" or something like that.. i mean how is it possible that you know how person is from inside just by looking at them????
and whats the politest way of breaking up with someone??

[Dope Hat]

We have to listen to wise Till here: "The human is an eyeanimal"
True - there is no real beauty - for everybody beauty is different. That does not matter though, we only speak - or walk up to a person when he|she appeals to us.

[Kay™]

and whats the politest way of breaking up with someone??
tell them you got aids,lulz
yet there is this "love at first sight" or something like that.. i mean how is it possible that you know how person is from inside just by looking at them????
to those that fell in love at first sight mean they care bout face more than inside
well everyone got their pros and cons and that what make every single ppl unique

[BluRry]

and telling them they got aids will help in breaking up??? o_o;;