Early Relationships

[재]

hm.. Idk if this thread has been created yet.. but here goes..
What do you think of having gf/bf in your early teenager life?
like 12-15 probably
I mean, MOST relationship at that age doesn't really last long, my friend dated this girl, which is my friend too :p
but they only last for.. 3 months I think..
I've been thinking... Why is it like this? I mean... What's the reason, is it because younger teenagers tend to like other ppl so quickly? or what??
What do you guys think??

[Sakura]

personally, if you're old enough to be mature about having a relationship then it's fine. i had my first relationship when i was 12 and we lasted until we were 16.

the only thing is, having a relationship that early and only that relationship for the rest of your life limits you on finding out if that person is right for you. i think that's why most don't last long. it's good to be with other people over the years until you figure out what you want in a relationship and person.

[chiriyuku]

I had my first relationship when I was 15 and we're still dating over 4 years later.

Why don't early relationships generally work out? I think it's coz at that time people don't know what they want and/or basically don't know how to maintain a relationship yet.

[Kriceº]

teenagers dont have the age to earn money for your girlfriend to spend and you cant just keep asking your parents for money.

[Planeswalker]

The idea of a relationship in teenage years and the idea in adulthood is fairly different. Most teenagers tend to want a gf or bf for the fun of it, instead of looking for someone they really want to be with for a very long time.

[Vladimir]

yes.. relationship in teenage years doesnt last long cuz it for fun.. to fill their lonely times.. but when adults get life partner means they are serious and eventually they get married...

[Xferox 02]

nothing under 15.

[Nesquik]

thats why i dont look for someone...i like my lonely times to be lonely

[DFlux]

I think once you hit the upper teens (16-17) people can really start getting serious about their relationships and making them work. At that point we're being taught to tie ourselves down and consider our futures, plan our life paths, etc. My aunt got married when she was 17 (not recommended, btw) and is still married to my uncle 18 years later. I mean, everyone is different, but some people are so extremely matured at those ages, it's kinda frightening.

But yeah, those little middle school "dates" people go on... meh. I can't seem them as holding too much meaning. I mean, i remember "yeah, he was my boyfriend in grade 6, we'd always go to the movies". It just... doesn't seem like a real relationship, and you're lucky if they last past weeks. I love the stories of childhood sweethearts, but those are usually people who've been friends forever and then started dating.

Basically, if you wouldn't want to be seen holding hands with your significant other, or are embarrassed to be flirting, you're probably not ready to date.

[Nesquik]

my mom married my dad when she was 17 and they are still married 26 years later

[Future]

The idea of a relationship in teenage years and the idea in adulthood is fairly different. Most teenagers tend to want a gf or bf for the fun of it, instead of looking for someone they really want to be with for a very long time.

I'd have to dissagree with that, i think that the only ones that get one for fun, is the ones that don't really care about the other persons feelings

[Planeswalker]

I'd have to dissagree with that, i think that the only ones that get one for fun, is the ones that don't really care about the other persons feelings

That happens to be a large majority of the teenage population my friend.

Most guys in my year who have a gf pretty much only have one to say that they have one and show her off. Then I hear them complainig a lot about how they cant stand her and "She's lucky she has looks" eventually comes out.

Girls arnt too much better, at least here. I think they take relationships more seriously than the teenage guys, but still most get bf's for the sake of showing them off and spending their money.

[Rihaku]

The answer to your question is hormones. As is the answer to any question dealing with the human psyche.

[Future]

That happens to be a large majority of the teenage population my friend.
Most guys in my year who have a gf pretty much only have one to say that they have one and show her off. Then I hear them complainig a lot about how they cant stand her and "She's lucky she has looks" eventually comes out.
Girls arnt too much better, at least here. I think they take relationships more seriously than the teenage guys, but still most get bf's for the sake of showing them off and spending their money.

oh, heck yes... i agree with that... my friend went out with a girl just for something to do, cause he was bored

[silentyas]

I think that most early relationships don't work because teenagers listen to their hormones more than their brains or hearts.
yeah some of them might work but even after a while they have to break up to discover different relationships or end up with bad marraiges

[Vladimir]

I think once you hit the upper teens (16-17) people can really start getting serious about their relationships and making them work. At that point we're being taught to tie ourselves down and consider our futures, plan our life paths, etc.

i have to disagree im sorry.. i duun think that 16-17 they are matured enough.. action speaks all.. 16-17 is consider under juvenile means they are still teenage.. and as we noe teenage relationship doesnt last.. but it is at that age that we get on/off relstionship.. and during those times that we learn how is it like.. to learn from mistakes we make while choosing partners.. with these as we get older we wun make the same old mistakes... fer me love doesnt exist between teenage relationship.. cuz their will be sour and eventually they break off...love only comes when uu get married with the one hu uu will live ur whole life with..

[Planeswalker]

^^ I disagree slightly.

I think 16+ you start to realise what it actually means to be in a relationship. Some people anyway. Like 50%

I just think that because of school and such keeping them busy that they feel they dont have time to start a serious relationship and continue with what they were doing before.

Also just because you understand what it means to be in a relationship doesnt mean you quite understand what it is to love yet.

[Xferox 02]

ahaha yeah same here.

[Vladimir]

thats my point...
i have been in relationship.. i think onli abt twice.. in that two relationship ii learn that love doesnt exist fer me in relatioships...

ps.. this is onii my opinion..^^

[Xferox 02]

nobody is perfect, you love a certain part of someone keeping you attached to them.

[Future]

I'm perfect though, lol

kids under 13 shouldn't be dating and stuff i don't reacon

[재]

coz they are too small and stuff
maybe also because they want to look cool maybe?
Like the first person to have a bf/gf around their friends?
well.. imo, at around 13-15, people only look if a boy is cool, or if a girl is hot or something like that
but like when you are older, I think you don't really care if she's the hottest girl around or what
am i right?

[Future]

Yeah, that's true

[Xferox 02]

real romance only begins when college starts, mature men with mature women

[Vladimir]

yes that wad i meant... the real romance and relationship really start when uu go to college and uni..

[Xferox 02]

normal high school crush is cool too LOL.

[Vladimir]

yes.. like now.. i hadd a crush that last ferr 4 yrs.. he graduated last yr but i kindda have crush with him still..

[Kalashnikov]

i dont know. i never got into a relationship at such a young age, so i wouldnt know what its like. I first started dating at 17, and im still 17 =P

[Vladimir]

kool.. im 17 too.. so hows the feeling uu get when uu start.. i always feel bored!!

[Kalashnikov]

bored? - how comes?

[Xferox 02]

so am i 17 here, wow you had a 4 years crush on some one?? i feel sorry for you, why dosent he see that you like him?

[Vladimir]

cuz he's really hot.. annd losing a friend like him is bad.. i guess i wasnt ready.. i duunn wanna rush stuff.. well i just like to admire him..

[Kalashnikov]

oh wow - fatality...4 years is a lot. you tried telling him?

[Xferox 02]

get him alone with you and just pure it all out. or he just doesnt think your not attrative enough. i dont judge people on look its their character that matter the most, but look good is cool too

[Vladimir]

nah.. cuz i will make him hate me.. maybe.. i learn it the hard way.. sumtimes i noe i cannot get him aniway cuz hes like hot and im just a plain girl.. so i just let it be onii a crush..

[Kalashnikov]

ahh - thats too bad. but are you sure hed hate you? - i mean im a guy and if a girl told me she liked me - i wouldnt go hating her - thats just weird.

ahh ive got to go - got a lesson in a few minutes...need to do some programming . bye :)

[Vladimir]

bye.. aniways ppl are singapore are really choosy on girls.. they will be ur fren but when uu say uu like them annd uu duunn look good enuf ferr themm they go poof!

[Xferox 02]

wow......you made him hate you? did you try to talk to him?

[Kalashnikov]

nah - she was saying she COULD make him hate her

[Xferox 02]

oh........

[Vladimir]

yea.. could.. so better not cuz ii learn it the hard way..

[Xferox 02]

kids dont know the meaning of love, beeing together at young age just mean they are a cute cuple. when you love some one, you care about them, and you support them every second of your life, charish him/her and he/her will charish you

[Vladimir]

yea.. uu are rght but its difficult to find sumone hu cherish uu the way uu cherish them..

[Xferox 02]

lol sux balls. yeah i know how you feel

[Kalashnikov]

yeah - but thats just how life goes. you have to keep trying till you find that one person :)

[Xferox 02]

my best firend just found this chick on the volley ball team, and he just went up asked her out directly, i dont know who he did it, but that bastard did it in one shot

[Kalashnikov]

lol - you need A LOT of courage to be able to do something like that. Wat a brave guy lol

[Xferox 02]

oh yeah i remmeber, he used something called pheroline, its like a body spray that give out oderless hormones that attract the oppiside sex . LOl that smart ass

[Kalashnikov]

LOL - really? - theres such thing as something like that? - that is so cool haha

[Xferox 02]

yes scientist has been researching it over the past 16 years the product came out last summer, 50$ per bottle and like i said, it attract more ppl from the oppiside sex, like they smile at you more, giving more eye contacts, maby they even make the first move. thats my friends secret to beeing a ladies man

[Kalashnikov]

hahaha - wat a cheater lol. that must be really cool though. but still too expensive lol -

[Xferox 02]

i ordered some last week still waitting for delivery.

[DFlux]

Pheroline? Those are pheramones :p Apparently, the most sexually attractive pheramones are found in clear, scent-less sweat. Basically, the sweatier you are, the hotter. So.... yeah. Sweat's free, pheroline's not ;)

[Kalashnikov]

oh wikid - good thing i sweat a lot :D

actually - one girl did steal my towel once and never gave it back LOL

[Xferox 02]

only some people get out the attractive scent pheroline are able to supress your own pheromone and sent out the attractive ones

[Vladimir]

early relationship is bad!! lol.. ferr me.. cuz it will always break ur heart!

[Kalashnikov]

have u ever had ur heart broken? - cuz i have once b4..

[Vladimir]

yea i have..!! totally..!! make me cry fer days!!

[Kalashnikov]

yeah...its so not good. i got really angry and pissed off. and started fighting with people for no reason..

so uncool..

[Vladimir]

yes!! i hate it.. i duunnoo y it happenns.. i like that guy alot.. annd we are both happy.. suddenly he stop talking to me..!!

[Kalashnikov]

Well, you know what .. thats his loss - think of it that way

he is loosing you. he wont enjoy being around you anymore - dont think of it as your loss - its his.. he had a chance with you - and he blew it for himself.

[Vladimir]

yes!! uu rr right!! i duunn wanna botherr abt him animore.. maybe he's a dummy. aniwaes i gtg buaixx..

[Xferox 02]

some ppl move on easly some people dont,

[Kalashnikov]

yeah thas right - im jus happy i happen to be one of those people that move on straight away

[Xferox 02]

lol the shortest relationship i seen in my school so far, was like 4 hours

[Kalashnikov]

:| - ......4 hours - damn...really? - how did that happen

[Xferox 02]

yeah they were kissing in the morning and was yelling at eachother after lunch LOL

[BrokenImage]

When i was that young the relationships lasted along time, a year or more. But i mean at that age kids are so pure of heart right? :headbang :sad

[Xferox 02]

thats pretty cool, yeah when ur a kid relationships just mean that ur interested in other sex,so yeah you two goes together pretty well, job well done my friend

[Vladimir]

yes.. at young age uu feell that uu are just attractedd to sumone.. uu duunn really underrstand.. whenn uu get olderr nn tennd to understand more stuff!!
early relationship are fer filling ur lonely days.. but sum ppl take to seriously.. but early relationship teaches uu values to take whenn uu grow older so uu duunn make the same mistake..^^

[Xferox 02]

i meant ur just interested in the other sex, nothing inpure.

[Vladimir]

yes.. thats kindda of my point.. they are just interestedd..

[Xferox 02]

parents think early relationships are cute, but when their kid gets in teen age, thats where the drama begins

[Vladimir]

yes.. well fer me.. my parents duunn like anithing abt it.. weird!!

[Xferox 02]

asian parents are always like that, well at least the last generation is

[Vladimir]

last generation? hm.. but it means they love us!! no matter wadd!! parents are wad we are now..!!

[Xferox 02]

i know i know, but the way teaching your kids changes every time.

[Vladimir]

well its up to uu to understand ur own family.. diff fam has diff ways... sum family just duunn take early relationship as a yes.. for them uu are still young to understand.. so uu just have make them understand ur situation..

[Kuro-Chan]

once you are mature enough to have a gf/bf,you will be able to convince your family about you having one..and if they see that you are really matured enough,they will understand..but from what i see now in my school,loads of ppl are having relationships just for the sake of having it..which just shows that they are quite immature..=/

[Vladimir]

thats wad parents are worried abt.. their immature children getting involve in early relationship that duunn really understand abt.. but some parents let their children have relationship maybe they wannt their children to understand it fer themselves..

[Kuro-Chan]

yeah...i have a friend who had a girlfriend for 1 year now and its hard for my age now..but they succeeded...(:

[Xferox 02]

what lity said

[~Anime4Life~]

12-15 is more of a practice age for dateing, to learn more about it, you've gotta rember every time you break up you have to see what went wrong so next time that wont happen

[Xferox 02]

i think 13+ is the practice requirement, then starting from 16+ is the real thing

[~Anime4Life~]

i think 13+ is the practice requirement, then starting from 16+ is the real thing
i feel insulted.... :(

[~Anime4Life~]

lol sry why?
im 15 and i have a bf....

[Xferox 02]

lol i meant 15+ yeah starting from freshmen high school

[~Anime4Life~]

lol i meant 15+ yeah starting from freshmen high school
lol yeah you need to mature right before the relationships last, man i was so stupid when i was 13 lol

[Xferox 02]

13 wow i cant imagine howbad it was

[~Anime4Life~]

13 wow i cant imagine howbad it was
i was a complete newb at relationships all i had were animes and cheesy romanices, but after getting expernce from past relationships i found my first crush again(i was so blind back then i didnt relize i had a crush on him >< and its funny cause he did to) and were dateing, we got a lot farther on our first day then in any relationship we've ever been in(at lest that hes told me lol)

[Xferox 02]

lol what he told you huh. lol did your parents drive you guys to the movies or something?