So there's a girl I like...but what do I do?

[InsaneShiyn]

So there's this girl I like....i've known her for about a year and a half as i dated this other girl..but it's been about a month and two weeks since that relationship ended tragically...
I sneak out at night to meet her and trip like crazy and smoke or just drink root beer. yeah, wierd, but we only do that as friends who can't sleep.
lately though, i've liked her, and during my hard times, we went to the park, and randomly chilled with her friends, and I had a great time bowling and stuff..
Well last night after hanging out after nice weather, it was bitter cold, and in front of her i quit smoking and trashed my stuff and walked her back to her hood. The next day her myspace pictures are of her and me the day at the park...
should I give it a shot?

[Nesquik]

this thread should be on growing up subforum but...
talk to her, when you are sure of eveything ask her out ^^

[InsaneShiyn]

this thread should be on growing up subforum but...
talk to her, when you are sure of eveything ask her out ^^
talk to her about...how I feel?

[Future]

Go jump off a bridge that's the only way you can be truly happy...

Hmm, you should just talk to her about it, see what her feelings for you are first...

[Nesquik]

yep in the perfect timing

[Nrvnqsr Chaos]

give it a shot man, talk about your feeliongs toward her and if she tells you to piss off move on

[InsaneShiyn]

aye, ty

[Nrvnqsr Chaos]

but of course......its always easier said than done........

[Nesquik]

and sometimes feelings are more easily expressed writting

[Xferox 02]

ask her out, tell her you love her very much holding her hands, then look into her eyes, remember eye contact is very important. ppl say the eyes is a gate way to a person's soul. and finaly ask her if she wants to go out with you

[Kenken]

talk to her, get closer to her, but try not to get so fond of her until you start dating her like bf and gf

[A2k]

Taking the step from being simply "friends" to the ENORMOUS (yes I am not going to make out it will be easy, it very well may extremely difficult) leap into a relationship, is often one of the most dangerous things for a friendship.

Several times in my life have I ended up having lusty crushes and becomming besotted with close friends. Most people find that turning a friendship into a relationship is too risky for if it doesn't work out, there's the possibility that the friendship will forever be lost.

Without a doubt that is not necessarilly always the case, sometimes a close friendship can blossom into a brilliant relationship. I myself had to tackle this very same terrifying choice recently; and I played the risk of losing a friend of nearly 6 years. I tremebled with fear that if I had made the wrong choice, I would have lost her friendship and the possibility of a relationship with Terri all in the matter of 30 seconds.

I am now happier than I have been in several years and have not looked back since.

If I were you, I would be entirely honest, open, yet at the same time try not to pressurise her into anything. You only have to speak your mind, and tell her how you feel towards her, and what you would like.

The rest will take it's own course naturally, one way or the other.

It is a risk, yes. What you need to decide is, if it's a risk you will be able to make if things do not turn out the way you might like. =)

I will add only this; don't lay to waste an opportunity and then look back in regret asking yourself..."What if?" That is the ultimate heartbreaker, I swear to you now.

Honesty and openess is key. I wish you all the best in whatever you decide to do.

[Aristocrat]

make sure when u decide to ask her to ask her opinion

[A2k]

Oh hell yes!

I thought I'd made a point of that, but evidentally when I scanned back over my post after reading Blushies post, I didn't.

So yeah as Blushies said, ask her how she feels, what she thinks, be interested, and listen. =)

Oh, one last thing, don't be scared to be truthfull, even if you think it might sound pansylike or girly.

Speak from the fricken heart man and you can't go wrong, even if things don't end up turning out the way you would like.

If you don't speak from the heart, again...you'll be forever looking back and asking yourself... ..."What if I'd only..."

[~Anime4Life~]

yeah i agree with everyone here talk to her :P and what ever you do dont tell her online or threw a note, she'll think your a coward if you do that

[A2k]

Yup. Nothing else need be said, but I have to add more than the word "yup" to make this post somewhat worthwhile. ^_^

[Kenken]

If you don't speak from the heart, again...you'll be forever looking back and asking yourself... ..."What if I'd only..."

i know that way too well =/

anyways, good luck with whatever you choose to do about your situation ^^

[Ronin36]

If she gives you a really cold shoulder, move on because if she had said yes you wouldn't have liked her in the end anyway (unless you swing for those people who crush others' feelings). I had a problem almost exactly like this about six months ago. In the end, you realize "If I don't do it, I'll never stop regretting it." It's like the shakespeare thing, "Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all." In other words, it's better to ask her out and get turned down, then never to ask her out and just guess her feelings toward you.

Don't let go without a fight, but if things go bad, know that you made the best decision you could have made.

[BrokenImage]

First be sure she shares the same feelings and doesnt just think of you as a friend... Look at her, you can tell really easily if a girl digs you. And if thats the case just ask her out.

[A2k]

Eh, I whole heartedly disagree. =/

It's not always as obvious as you make out. Hell I didn't have a freakin clue that my girlfriend might have ever even thought of me as more than a friend. Often it is a big risk, and you're making it out like it's the easiest thing in the world to see. It isn't in a lot of cases, but yeah sometimes it is.

Obviously in this scenario it isn't apparent or else he wouldn't be asking peoples thoughts on the matter in the first place.

I can only guess that you're young. I might be wrong, but I would imagine you are, and please don't take offence if I am wrong - as when kids fancy one another...yeah it's blatently obvious, when older folk get together, it's not always as easy as you're making out.

[Thelindra]

*reads the above*

that "what if" things sounds really scary......>_<;

i realise A2K give very good advices ^^b

[pero_renji!]

Yeah if you are a really good friend with her, dont try making a relationship, it may ruin your friendship and you will be left with nothing ^_^.

[davidn15]

yeah i like this girl...i've known her since 3rd grade...and i've liked her since october. We've really become friends this year, but i still cant tell her. Not that it would do any good since i cant date yet.

[Ronin36]

My story is sad. I really liked this girl, but I figured she didn't like me because she always avoided me. I just didn't realize fast enough that this girl liked me. She gave me hint after hint for like six months. When I finally realized (took talking to a friend to see it) I asked her out. She said she had moved on and gotten over me, and now she was on to bigger and better things. I'm still hurting myself for being such an idiot.

[A2k]

Yeah if you are a really good friend with her, dont try making a relationship, it may ruin your friendship and you will be left with nothing ^_^.


Yes but that is entirely my point, that type of friendship and feelings is the ultimate risk, and you have no real way of knowing if things will go good, bad or HORRIBLY bad.

I would still reccomend taking the risk, if you never ask the question, you will ALWAYS...ALWAYS, look back in regret and wonder: "What if???".

My girlfriend and I have known each other and been good friends for 6 years come September, and I took a HUGE risk in making a move, I don't regret doing so though, not only because things DID work out, but simply because if I hadn't I'd be sat here now telling you that I still wonder: "What if??".

Regret for things not done is the worst kind of regret. ~_~

[Evanesque]

Like almost everyone said, talk to her and find out how she feels about you and about pushing your relationship from friends to further.
It's a big step and if things don't work out, you won't only lose her as your girlfriend but will also lose a good friend.

I'd say think about it a trillion times, see what she has to say. Does she agree to being friends in case your relationship ends?

Take a shot at it if she agrees but people tend to change after they undergo experiences so be careful. She might agree at first but once you get deep in the relationship, she wouldn't want to stay with you after you break up because it'll hurt her a lot.

[Xferox 02]

i actually found out alot about my gf just by beeingin her class back in elementry school. they made these photo wallpapers saying like whats your favor color, almost everything about your self. i didnt have to dig those things outta her, save me boat load of time

[pero_renji!]

Well, id just like to point out that at this stage of life, friends are a lot more important than love, and youre too young to really bother about a girl, like i see 15 year old guy going all emo cause a girl doesnt like him, i mean come on you have the whole life infront of you and your bothering about some teenage love..starter of the thread, if you dont want to risk your friendship dont ask her out, but if you want to risk just ask her, if she says no, shit happens.

[A2k]

Very true for the most part of peoples discussions Pero, however you need to take into account that an assumption that you are talking to young children and young, mid teen, late teenagers, is going to shoot a hole through anything you say;

I say this because I for one, know I am of the oldest bracket of people who are regulars on the forums.

I'm 23, and I've lived my time through school, and held friendships never to be forgotten, and in that sense, yes you are entirely correct.

Between my first love in High School, and the friends I've left behind, the one thing I remember most of all is the friend who was always by my side.

I have my friends, the closest things to me, you may think I'm exagerating in this but I assure you I do not jest;

The friends I have now, would take a knife for me, and likewise were the roles reversed, would I quite eagerly jump before a blade were someone to attack my closest friends.

Those types of friendships don't fade away or lessen with time, and as such, I can quite easilly neglect seeing them from time to time, to instead spend time together with my girlfriend.

So in many a sense when young, look for love yes, but don't lose those friends to find it.

Chances are when you're young, you might think you're in love, but when it REALLY happens, you'll find out how truly wrong you may have been.

I'm not proposing that everyone who is young thinks they're in love when they find a partner they want to be with, merely that looking back on my "first love" (which by the way was my only love) I realise now that those feelings grew through circumstance, not from love itself.

Anyone who doesn't understand what I mean by that, someday, I hope you do. =)

[BabyLoving]

I think you definately have to give it a try. No girl would actually meet a guy late out night, so many times, if she doesnt even have a single twinge of feelings to you. So observe more of her actions. Does she play with you or is she letting you get your ways all the time?

[Anubisrage]

Talk to her about your friendship first, start getting more detailed, then when the mood is right ask her if you were to ask her out, would she refuse, and then the answer will explain itself.

[hollow kitty]

Just spill it man..what's the worst that can happen? BTW smoking is bad :P

[DireCry]

Tell her how you feel?

[gwcommander]

Just let her know how you feel and that if she dosent feel that way that you dont want to lose her as a friend. If shes a truly good friend she'll stick with ya. You both might need sometime apart to think about things. and you 2 can remain friends if she gets over that and you are willing to put those romantic type feelings aside then you can still have your friend. But go for it you never know it could work out. My situation is a bit diffrent im still friends with my ex which it can be painful at times but we both didnt want to lose one another completly. So i want to be there for her as a friend at least.

[BabyLoving]

The point - If you don't ever ask her out, you might never ever know whether she likes you or not. So, just pluck up your courage and go for it! (: Everyone is supporting you! (:

[hasuke]

I can tell you what NOT to do...and that's why I'm on the hit list of feminist movement members...

In all seriousness, just tell her. Otherwise you'll lose your chance and become a spiteful, rage-a-holic motherfuck like me. (I mean, yeah, it's fun sometimes, but in the end it's just not fufilling.)

[AvidoWA]

I'd say that chicks dig Enchanters so maybe take enchanting as a skill and give her some free enchants ..... wouldnt be a great thing to do ...but you could try making sure that she knows because she deserves to know it may ruin a relationship between friends if she doesnt feel that way for you but its better than waiting around wondering ....

[Vlad]

Ask her out, let her to get to know you better.

[XV Barixn]

You should go up to her and say 'Y HELO THAR BUTSECKZ'

And do some pelvic thrusting.

[Sharpie_x]

My most important advice for you is: go for it. Tell her how you feel and ask her out if she wants, if you don't then you might never know what she thinks. Tell her that you feel that you are more than just friends and that you like her (if that's is how you feel) and also be patient, if she wants to think it over or feels that she isn't ready yet.

[Yuffie]

OMG, You should be proud you ACTUALLY like a girl!! You're growing up (DUHH?)!! =P

First, have you talked to her yet (I'm lazy to read the first post - -; )? If you don't, start talking to her. Then freshen up your friendship. Just try to make her happy 24/7 >< If you make her happy for almost her whole life, maybe she'll look at you more than a friend. Then you can ask her to go out with you ^^-

[Cheryl]

Go ahead, you have nothing to lose. Unless you know she has another love interest or already has a crush on someone else. Then tread carefully.

[ichigo81195]

yea wutever u do dont ask her on a note or any of that shit. u have 2 do it in person.

[Miyagi Rikku]

So there's this girl I like....i've known her for about a year and a half as i dated this other girl..but it's been about a month and two weeks since that relationship ended tragically...
I sneak out at night to meet her and trip like crazy and smoke or just drink root beer. yeah, wierd, but we only do that as friends who can't sleep.
lately though, i've liked her, and during my hard times, we went to the park, and randomly chilled with her friends, and I had a great time bowling and stuff..
Well last night after hanging out after nice weather, it was bitter cold, and in front of her i quit smoking and trashed my stuff and walked her back to her hood. The next day her myspace pictures are of her and me the day at the park...
should I give it a shot?


hmmm.. why not try to see for a few days how she acts towards you if she
is giving hints then go ask her what is up then maybe take it up from there.

[shaberry]

*agrees with mommy miyagi* Yeah...go for it...just don't ask her out through myspace >.<;;;

[Tobi]

*agrees with mommy miyagi* Yeah...go for it...just don't ask her out through myspace >.<;;;

Only if their emo, then they might think your hawt and original. :p

[..::Mr 999::..]

oh man you have problem same with me but that is a years ago. i talk slowly to her and her want become my girlfriend i don`t know how that can done

[Twinky]

*agrees with mommy miyagi* Yeah...go for it...just don't ask her out through myspace >.<;;;

what shaberry said. lol yeah myspace or facebook those are bad ideas, ask your self this question

Do i know her well enough to keep her confortable when shes with me?

if you say yes, then ask her. and dont get nervous and screw up, keep a smile at all time and just be casual. :Domo

[Future]

All you have to do is groupe her... then see where that leads? o_O

[..::Mr 999::..]

your suggest same with people in the TV program say...... that will usefull

[raindrops028]

Tell her what you feel...she might break your heart,but if you don't,you might break hers...So Go for it! =)

[Future]

Lol, yeah i told a couple of girls that i liked them lately, they rejected me... but maybe you'll do better

[dragoneyes001]

want a simple answer?

when you get together who asks who to come over is it you or her calling?

if she's calling you she has interest in you already asking her if she likes you wont become a problem because even if she says only as friends she's unlikely to drop you simply because you asked.

if your the one who calls to get together you'll need to be a bit observant to see just how comfortable she is around you people are obvious when they like someone you just need to be looking to see it.

[Pyramus]

The way me and my gf, well, xgf to be precise:( started of, was at a sleepover! And no, we didnt have sex, but our sleeping bags were next to eachother and she turned over and her hand fell on mine, i grabed it, andd then we were holding hand she kissed my fingers and then we kissed then before you know it, we were sharing a sleeping bag! It was a cool night! What makes it even more dirty was that it was a christian church slepover and her dad(The vicor) was in a sleeping bag just 5 people away! So start it off like that!

[Pie <3]

Here's some stuff you NEED, to make her love you.

1 - Tape
2 - C4
3 - Detonator
4 - A very long jacket


This is how you do it :
Step One:
Take the c4 and tape it around your waist.

Step Two :
Put on the jacket so that you can't see the explosives.

Step Three :

Put the detonator in your hand and walk up to her casually.

Step Four :

Start yelling random stuff at her like " ***** GO ON A DATE WITH ME OR I'LL BLOW YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE UP IN THIS MALL"



NOTE : ITS A PLUS IF SHE STARTS CRYING.

Hints and tips!

- Let her know you mean buissness , feel free to pimp slap her at least 5 TIMES.
- If she's a tough one , do it til she cries.

[Pyramus]

Yep, love is a beutiful thing! :D

[II Xion II]

Here's some stuff you NEED, to make her love you.

1 - Tape
2 - C4
3 - Detonator
4 - A very long jacket


This is how you do it :
Step One:
Take the c4 and tape it around your waist.

Step Two :
Put on the jacket so that you can't see the explosives.

Step Three :

Put the detonator in your hand and walk up to her casually.

Step Four :

Start yelling random stuff at her like " ***** GO ON A DATE WITH ME OR I'LL BLOW YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE UP IN THIS MALL"



NOTE : ITS A PLUS IF SHE STARTS CRYING.

Hints and tips!

- Let her know you mean buissness , feel free to pimp slap her at least 5 TIMES.
- If she's a tough one , do it til she cries.

Freakin' hilarious.

At least that would likely work if you tried it! ;)

Need any other bright ideas.

[Pyramus]

U could just cut to the chase and have sex! Thats an ice breaker, after that talk to her and away u go!

[Future]

Here's some stuff you NEED, to make her love you.

1 - Tape
2 - C4
3 - Detonator
4 - A very long jacket


This is how you do it :
Step One:
Take the c4 and tape it around your waist.

Step Two :
Put on the jacket so that you can't see the explosives.

Step Three :

Put the detonator in your hand and walk up to her casually.

Step Four :

Start yelling random stuff at her like " ***** GO ON A DATE WITH ME OR I'LL BLOW YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE UP IN THIS MALL"



NOTE : ITS A PLUS IF SHE STARTS CRYING.

Hints and tips!

- Let her know you mean buissness , feel free to pimp slap her at least 5 TIMES.
- If she's a tough one , do it til she cries.


Dude i tried that, i just ended up going to jail <_<

[Unrefined-Nemesis]

Here's some stuff you NEED, to make her love you.

1 - Tape
2 - C4
3 - Detonator
4 - A very long jacket


This is how you do it :
Step One:
Take the c4 and tape it around your waist.

Step Two :
Put on the jacket so that you can't see the explosives.

Step Three :

Put the detonator in your hand and walk up to her casually.

Step Four :

Start yelling random stuff at her like " ***** GO ON A DATE WITH ME OR I'LL BLOW YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE UP IN THIS MALL"



NOTE : ITS A PLUS IF SHE STARTS CRYING.

Hints and tips!

- Let her know you mean buissness , feel free to pimp slap her at least 5 TIMES.
- If she's a tough one , do it til she cries.

What good advice we're giving someone who wants to experience the true love feeling.

A good first date should not be filled with beer and more beer okies ?

First off ask her out as a friend to something or lie to her that you need her to accompany you somewhere important. If she accepts then follow these instructions.

Standby about around 50-70 dollars.

Get a rose or a bunch or beautiful flowers and arrange them nicely before meeting up with her.

Meet her and give her the flowers and comment her on her beauty and compare it with the flowers, this will make their hearts melt easily.

Go watch a romantic movie and comment on how sad or happy or whatever it was give positive comments about it and try to give the same view with here in a way or two.

Go for dinner, pay for her or not as some females don't like the guy paying for her

Walk around and talk

Send her home and talk on the way back and make her special

Before saying bye compliment her as much as possible

One reminder compliment her as much as possible

[Pie <3]

^You forgot to add something.


When the date is done and you're walking her up to the door , say bye , squeeze her titties and run.

Works everytime.

ITS A PLUS IF HER DAD IS WATCHING WHILE YOU DO IT.

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

Just hurry up and Confess...

[raindrops028]

It's crazy!

[Unrefined-Nemesis]

Never do what pie says lol, you'll get killed

[Artemis]

^You forgot to add something.


When the date is done and you're walking her up to the door , say bye , squeeze her titties and run.

Works everytime.

ITS A PLUS IF HER DAD IS WATCHING WHILE YOU DO IT.

ooh, and I bet you get all the ladies...

[Hitomi23]

Well mybest advice is try to see if she is hiding some feeling or whatever first or just try to be friends and learn more about her until the last day and maybe you could ask.