simular but still another question

[Xferox 02]

my best friend mike has been knowing this chick for the past 3 years, not as in hanging out with her just know her and she know him too. lately mike felt like he should tell her how he fell, but he found out that she got a boy friend in another country. he kept asking me if he should stil take a shot at her, i couldn't answer, so........wha do u ppl think? :sad

[Evanesque]

Um, I think he should let her go...forget her...trust me it'll only cause more problems and hurt people..
I know >.>

[Xferox 02]

lol his idea was that since her boy friend cant even come to U.S and she only go back during the summer, he thought he can take her for his own. yeah i told him to find some one else too.

[Evanesque]

Naturally it seems like a great opportunity for him but seriously, once he gets into the relatonship he'll have second thoughts. Also it's not fair to the guy in the US.

If the girl does choose to end her relationship with that guy and go for your friend Mike...how can you be sure she won't leave him like that?

[Xferox 02]

hehe true true

[Isis]

I agree with what you both have to say. Love hurts and your friend will just get hurt. As much as he likes this girl, he shouldn't. Just have to let go now..

[Xferox 02]

that idiot falls in love very easily

[Isis]

Yeah well there are people who do that (like me), but that's just where the line is drawn. He's had the experience. It's ok to fall for girls, but you're going too far if you want an attached lady. He might be willing to do that but he'll put the girl in a very difficult situation.

[Xferox 02]

she write email to her BF every day in the library during the first period, but they only see eachother once a year, and mike was like " he dosen't lover" he cant even be there for her, why is she still with him"

[Isis]

He's talking on the basis of what he wants ie he's jealous. He doesnt have the right to say that he doesnt love her just cause he's overseas. That's like saying my best friend doesn't love me because he lives overseas (although its a different case). She keeps contact with him everyday. How does he know if they talk on the phone or not outside of school?

If it's not obvious that she's in love with her boyfriend, then god save your friend.

[Xferox 02]

thats what i said to him, what ever feel free to lock this thread.

[~Anime4Life~]

i think he should just confess and get it over with, and you know what they say, long distance relationships NEVER last, if he does end up confessing how ever, he should keep in mind that shes most likely gonna reject him, but he'll never know if he never asks. and besides her boyfriend may be just playing her, i know a few guys in person who play girls online, they even see each other to.

[Anubisrage]

what I say is that the guy should leave the girl alone...
Be friends, and if the girl and her bf split up, then ask her.
because if he askes her now, not only will he be in a bad position, the girl will feel awkward too... and might avoid him.
and yes, the guy might be playing her, but then again... you never know.
but the main thing is that she seems to be dedicated to the guy, so even if she is being played, she will reject ur friend... at least for now.
so its better to play it cool.

[Xferox 02]

no no those 2 actually see eachother every summer, she fly back to europe to see him

[Isis]

*Agrees with Anubis* It's the right thing to do. Does he even like her? If he did, he would be patient and wait for her. It's really a test of waiting, if he can't and just thinks about what he wants, he's gonna ruin it for her. Move on, easier said then done but you're not gonna get anything now.