Interracial relationships

[Kimochi]

well i'm from a class of most chinese.. oni five malay, four boys one girl which i m belong to..
i find chinese people very smart so i like it that way but when it comes to having a group work, im always the oni girl hu has no group.. its like very difficult to communicate with them since they rr from differ race than me.. sumtimes i feel left out.. i just dunno wad to do.. since there is a big grp project happening..

[Thelindra]

If u find yurself left out, than u gotta search within yourself and find out why. Singapore is not a very racist country. U shld try and make friends with some of the chinese girls.

And i know how bad it feels to be left out. I feel as if i have been stabbed in the heart when i realize everyone had moved on without me ;_;

[Dexter]

Singapore is not a very racist country
you're lucky.

very difficult to communicate with them since they rr from differ race than me.. sumtimes i feel left out.. i just dunno wad to do.. since there is a big grp project happening..

hm, well usually with group projects communication seems vital, however if u firstly assign each part of the project individually, u can work on your part and get it done, so it's still a team effort.

If you think you're not being respected b/c of the language barrier, etc..then Just by working at your project and doing your best you can hope to earn their respect and eventually the lang barrier will hardly be an issue.
However it is true that difficulties will arise in understanding..so as Theli said, make some friends who are chinese also, but try not to be afraid to converse with others anyway....

[Thelindra]

you're lucky.
yea cause if Singapore is a racist conntry we would be killing ourselves. We are just all mixed up together. People who are true Singaporeans will not find thesemles to be 100% of that race. For example i might be chinese but hell do not link me with China people. I prefer to be known as the Singapore race.

Oh yea another point Lity, if possible showcase yur talents and interests. For example if u are very good at a certain subject or hobby. dun be afraid to show it to people. Let them know what can u provide for a group. For me i provide my English skills, plus tons of crap jokes XD

[Evanesque]

Oh you're talking about being with those from your own country right? Well me, I honestly can't stand those people who are from my country, maybe because I've been surrounded by friends from different nationalities. I can't stick to Bangladesh guys or girls because (though I don't like to stereotype) they're all typically the same.

Currently I have friends who are from Iran, India, Uzbekistan, Lebanese, Syria, Philippines, Somalia , Yemen, Pakistan, etc, etc..

I remember when I went to live in Bangladesh (my home country) I couldn't even bear to listen or talk to the people in my class because they were pretty dumb, shallow and retarded (or so I think). The only friend who's awesome and from my country is Shelin whom I met during my A-levels along with *Ririn*.

[deto]

Oh you're talking about being with those from your own country right? Well me, I honestly can't stand those people who are from my country, ...

i know exactly what you mean :redbiggri

i caught myself alot to get mad because some ppl around here are so
intolerant, so narrow minded, well from yesterday. everytime i ask myself
if they are actually in the 21st century or somewhere in the medieval.

there are so many that think they're somewhat better, personally if i have
the chance i try to talk to people from another country.
which is interesting cuz you realise people from different parts of the world
aren't so different in terms of what they talk about, what concerns them,
i think you can learn alot from others and if you have the chance you should
grasp it.

it was so typical when i came back from my stay in canada, i got to know
canadians as pretty nice and uncomplicated folk, they just talk to you even
if they don't know you. when i got back, i went into the next shop to buy
something and suddenly it dawned on me, i realised i'm back again, there
was no "good morning", "can i help you", "please", "have a nice day" ppl
acting like i was worlds end :redbiggri

[Isis]

I'm happy to be studying in Singapore. I find that sometimes in KL, you can tell there are some racist people out there. I've been brought up with different races, most of my friends are of different race to me (from going to an international school for the past 6 years). It probably has to do with how my parents raised me as well. For the general relationships, its good. Even some of my friends who are just learning english, I have a great time with them because we somehow end up working well together and having fun.

With the issue of having an interracial relationship (couples), there are many muslim families who expect you to marry /date someone of your own race. I know a few friends who are subjected to this but I'm lucky that I can date someone regardless of race. Coming from a muslim country, I still see lots of interracial relationships that work out, though I've known people who are really racist.

What's it like over there?

[Kalashnikov]

well i live in the UK - in London - thing is with london - its like a city with a mixture of ALL races - seriously - there isnt a race i havnt seen - and all my friends are of different races.

i mean . my girlfriend is actually Indian lol - talk about Interracial relationships.

[pero_renji!]

Well, i say: KILL THE AZNS
just joking :P..just step up to them if you want to join their group, like you would do to join a group of people of your race.

[Pink_Paper_Heart]

Yes fatality, you are very lucky to be studying in singapore. I used to hang around with malays playing hockey every recess when I was in secondary school.

Hmm..when you are in another country, racism is very evident because Singapore has almost no racism therefore the difference is shocking.

You have to try and approach them by asking like, "Hi, can I join in?" or, "I'm embarrass to join some groups can you help me find a group?" I sure there will be ppl who will help you.

[AvidoWA]

I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH INTERRACIAL DATING

i have always dreamed of going to Japan and picking up my wife .... :D but that was not meant to be racist remark if it was meza so sorry

[Yuffie]

Maybe if you can get along well with the Chinese, then you can enjoy life more >< I have no probs with Interracial Relationships, most of my ex are Chinese, even though I'm Malay xD

[Malice]

It's no problem in my opinion. It shouldn't matter on their nationality or colour, if you love someone you shouldn't worry on such things. You should use that extra energy to make them happy.

[Miyagi Rikku]

Too be honest, It is hard to go with other races. I am asian and I am surrounded mostly by Mexicans, Caucasians and African American people.
Of course they tend to flock. I left community college cause I coudlnt make
friends it got to me. =\

But I started to work in a super market to devolop more confidence talking
to people not that I dont have that type of confidence but I was trying to
build more.

[Malice]

I was fortunate to learn bout other races in my youth. Being dragged to hippy and new age festivals by my mum was I was younger. I learnt of other cultures and learnt to respect em quickly.

[angelicdesire]

I don't have any problems with interracial relationships, im in an interracial relationship now, but there are still some people who don't except it.

my family is fine that I am dating a Caucasian guy, but his family don't approve of us. They said our races never should mix.

Now I am mixed with black, and puerto rican, and he is croatian and i guess according to his parents, croatians shouldn't date outside there race or whatever. Which imo is stupid.

Its like they don't care about their son's happiness and instead getting to know me as a person, all they see is my race, which sucks. but we aren't letting that stop us being together, which i am so happy about

[Ethanol]

I don't have any problems with interracial relationships, im in an interracial relationship now, but there are still some people who don't except it.
my family is fine that I am dating a Caucasian guy, but his family don't approve of us. They said our races never should mix.
Now I am mixed with black, and puerto rican, and he is croatian and i guess according to his parents, croatians shouldn't date outside there race or whatever. Which imo is stupid.
Its like they don't care about their son's happiness and instead getting to know me as a person, all they see is my race, which sucks. but we aren't letting that stop us being together, which i am so happy about

Some shit about "heritage" or whatever...but yeah, she basically summed it up pretty well. I dunno, maybe any white person would be somewhat acceptable. Social problems, etc. etc. They just gave some random bs reasons.

Oh well, *hugs her* I still love her. :biggrinlo

[SLVR]

I have no problem with interracial relationships. The first girl I dated seriously was Latino. I have dated more girls that are multi ethnic than non. Some people like diffrent stuff though. But its totally cool by me

[Silhouette]

Interracial relationships? Heh. I'm African American & Native American, and well, this French girl at school likes me... constantly flirting with me and whatnot. I've been thinking about going to the formal with her at least(she's asked me a few times), but I hate that kind of stuff... Formals/Proms that is.

But yeah, some people in my family approve of that stuff... most of them don't. lmao. My uncle even told me, "no white meat". Yeah... he's a bit out there. >.>

[Ethanol]

Sounds like your uncle is from the same mindset as my folks are. lol

I wasnt much for formal/prom either actually.

[angelicdesire]

actually my junior year i went with this one guy who was half puerto rican and caucasian.

his mom loved me, and his father actually owns teh corner store near my house, but ne ways. his brother was in my class, but hes annoying

ne ways, but yeah not all people look at race, his mom was lke o she so pretty etc...

Just wish ara's parents would be lke that >.>

[Malice]

I wish you all had a mum like mine. She dosn't mind who you'd go out with as long as you're happy with that person. Some of my mates think she's cool cause she isn't as strict as theirs.

[Silhouette]

My mom's the same, its just that the majority of my family... well... aren't. -_-

[Kenken]

my family doesn't really mind who i date marry as long as i'm happy, and i wouldn't mind either. I think a person's personality and attitude is more important than his/her race or religion

[Isis]

Thats a bummer. I guess living in Malaysia and Singapore is a good thing, because both of them are pretty multicultural. My family is pretty fine with whoever I choose to date despite their race as long as he's nice and treats me with respect. Of course, I'm pretty traditional and I bring them home to meet my parents. It'll change when I'm out in uni but I'm happy that a reason my parents wouldnt let me date/marry someone wasn't because of their race. I'm lucky enough to be born in a family with many interracial relationships. Come to think of it, the last three people I sorta dated were a different race to me. When I say sorta, I mean cause it never actually went far. They always had to leave the country soon after XD

[Kenken]

awww, that's too bad shaz ;___;

i almost once dated a girl (half vietnamese half filipino) but we didn't for some...kinda stupid reasons, mostly that we were still young and we kinda live far from each other, but her race didn't bother, i dunno if mine bothered to her, although i don't think so ^^

[Nicole]

That sucks about your situation Ara and angelic. I suppose I am in a similar situation myself, but meh.

My dad's pretty chill about interracial stuff... my mom and her side of the family pretty much banned me from dating blacks and latinos. They love everyone else though, but they would probably want me to stick to my own race.

My mom does say that she doesn't care as long as I'm happy, but I know deep inside that she does care.

[Iro]

i have no problems with interracial relationships because i was born and raised in a foreign land and have met people from different races/nationalities (indian, arab, american, chinese... etc.) but most people give it a big of a deal which is stupid. i don't pick friends or anyone just because of their skin color its for who they are that really counts...

[Shinigami K]

Sometimes I can’t quite understand why people have problems with interracial relationships. I guess because I was raised around it, the whole interracial thing doesn’t seem like a big deal to me.

I don’t have a problem with interracial relationships. I’m in a interracial relationship, my husband is Thai. I enjoy learning everything about Thailand -- the foods, the people, the culture -- and we recently vacationed there to visit family.

I think interracial relationships are great, you get to learn and experience things that may not be as common to you.

[Ethanol]

Sometimes I can’t quite understand why people have problems with interracial relationships. I guess because I was raised around it, the whole interracial thing doesn’t seem like a big deal to me.

I don’t have a problem with interracial relationships. I’m in a interracial relationship, my husband is Thai. I enjoy learning everything about Thailand -- the foods, the people, the culture -- and we recently vacationed there to visit family.

I think interracial relationships are great, you get to learn and experience things that may not be as common to you.

That's a very good point. Some people (( *cough* my folks *cough* )) think that by being in one, the cultures will clash. You won't be able to hang out in the backyard and listen to the same music...or talk in your language without the others suspecting you of badmouthing them without you knowing, etc. etc.

[Jenova]

For every school I've ever been to our group was always inter-racial
the maximum of the same race was two within the group
Our group was 9+ different races (the most recent)

and Jezz if you have problems with the language.. ask them to not speak the language in front of you, it would be a little unfair (tho I do it often, and people tell me off for it, I stop to make it fair). As Singapore's main language is English, I think it wouldn't be too hard in a way.

and plus... I don't look at the race of the person, I look at the heart =)

[Nicole]

Hmm. Your folks do bring up sort of a point. At least, that is how my folks think of it.

In HS, alot of my friends were hispanic. And whenever I was around them, they would talk to eachother in Spanish. Well, before I became friends with the group, a person I knew who hung out with them said that they were badmouthing me in Spanish. And yeah, that's pretty hurtful. I didn't think guys gossiped like that. xD

About the cultures clashing... well, I'm in an interracial relationship right now. And the only way things will be able to work is if I open my mind to his culture since he abhors most aspects of mine. But since I really like his culture, that won't be an issue at all. I dunno, it's interesting.

If I wasn't so open-minded, though, things will be a lot different.

[Kimochi]

hmn ..
i get along well now .. i have this group of frens who are indians and chinese .. jux that some people are born bad .. so they tend to neglect other races .. not caring that they are not the only one in this world .. i jux dun understand why ..
so i tend having problems sometimes when it comes to grp work .. but friends, i do have a small group of frens who are chinese and indians ..
i have one problem tho .. i cannot get along well with my own race .. except iladys .

[Jenova]

your own race Jezz?
you're half-half...
wouldn't that be harder to classify yourself? =x

[Kimochi]

haha .. yea .. im mix with jap+chi+malay .. but in school im considered malay .. cux i study malay language right ?
i cannot get along with them ......

[Jenova]

I thought you said you were part Indonesian too
Indonesians usually embrace everyone =D

[Kimochi]

YEA .. i'm part of indo too ^^ yea .. but sg where i live dun really have indon students .. esp my class .. so i have difficult time getting along with malay races in my malay class ..

[Arei]

Theres nothing biologicaly wrong with interracial relationships, and I'd support them anyway. We're all human beings... I can't stand the people even in church that say its wrong to marry someone of another race. If they're a member of the church and a good person then what does it matter? There is an interracial couple at my church and no one crits that, yet they blabbed off that crap. Also we had to read this workbook from the 70s that was totally against marriages between races, but that was the 70s.

I am stuck in the white people world (esp old white people)... help me! ;_; I love all races!!!

[Jenova]

Jezz: There are so many things that can get in the way I guess
there's more than just racial issues and language I guess
it's also the WANT to mingle with other races
like you said, you only get along with Shaz right?
That's coz she lived here.. here in Aus, we were taught to look inside, not outside
that's how it goes, so t=no one is usually bothered with what race/background you are
they don't even THINK about it
Sg consists of three different races and you're prolly forced to actually mingle with your own
making some left out if they are not from the three
it's kinda hard when you're under the ratio of 3:1 :\

[Kimochi]

arei . uu can always travel right ?? i mean .. if uu wanna know more .. uu have to go far ..
it's so not wrong with interracial relationship .. cux i dun really like to be married to my own race .. TT i wonder y .. this is the 21st cent. uu have the right to marry anione regardless of race .. it's irritating when they say no jux bcux uu are a differ race .. i hate that ..

yea kindda .. the only malay i can really get along is small . thats really sad TT

[emmasu]

god i hate my parents for this, they would never let me marry outside of my race, no matter what

they are very strict about it, though am invloved in this kinda of relationship, am trying to convence them and i keep doing that

and if they dont agree, i dont care actually, they have to live with it

[Isis]

Somehow I don't get along with malays in singapore save my friend's family and Ira. The countries we live in are multicultural but there will always be those who think they're more superior. Ive got thai and javanese blood but that doesn't change how people think here.

I actually don't hang out with malays here. 1 cause there are none in my school, 2 they make fun of me sometimes cause I can't speak malay properly and 3. they always want to speak in malay. What happens to the other people who can't speak it?

*sigh* Oh and Ira, I dont see myself marrying a malay guy either, but somehow people see me marrying someone of my own race when my family thinks I'll marry a white person. Apparently, I ran after a nice looking boy when I was 6 XD

Wtv, interracial relationships are wonderful. Race shouldnt be the reason people tear couples apart.

[Jenova]

"RACE" is a funny word if you think about it too
It makes you think of "comptetion" bleh.. I hate that

@Em: That's right you tell em sista!
once one is in the legal independant age, they can do whatever they please regardless from what their parents say
They have no right to tell you what to do as you are an independant adult or is considered as one
and it's kinda stupid how parents restrict their children from marrying from another race
umm helloooooo.. this is a world where MOST people speak english!
is that a problem?
lol.. the last two sentences werent aimed at you... but that's what parents need to SEE
GAH!

@Shaz: ZOMG! yeah!
Malay's laugh at me too when I try and speak it, it's not a good feeling actually...
and I KNEW you were Indo :P
you looked a little Javanese =D

[Isis]

Haha thanks hun. I dont look typically malay :P Oh god, but its worse for me cause I am malay <_< but its the same thing when people hear me speak chinese or speak with an accent.

[Kimochi]

parents have no right to hold uu back .. uu r the one wanting to marry .. not ur parents .. it's dumb that they think that way .. i dunno y .. tradition shit ..

wow shaz ... hahah .. yea i dun see myself marrying my own race too .. i wanna marry a jap !!!!!!!!!!! loll .

[Jenova]

ME TOO!! I'm SOOOO not marrying an Indo or Javanese...
Javanese is so strong its sound rough to my ears.. mum and dad are good at it o_O

and yeah, that's true... its YOU that's getting married.. not your parents

lol Shaz... just tell em you're Australian, you can get away with murder at that :P

[Isis]

Hm, apparently I'm not Australian. I do an Australian syllabus, want to go to australia, sound a bit like an australian but planesy says I just sound chirpy lawl. Aus ftw.

[Jenova]

hahaha.. lol
I thought you lived here.... u.u
that's sad :<
and blah i forgot to add... my parents won't let me marry an Asian u.u

[SoundWave]

A petty thing like a different race wouldn't matter to me at all.. We're still all humans. Not like that would stop me from hanging out with somone.

Though I've only been surrounded by typical swedes all my life.. All different with different tastes.

[Kimochi]

WAD ?? thats sad .. i wanted to marry uu kv .. .. lolls .

yea bad anyway .. parent tradition things .. TT
but lucky that my parent let me have the freedom to marry ani race i want .. ^^ even the antarcticans ...

[Isis]

Really? That's sad. My parents are quite fine with me having interracial relationships. They sort of predicted it and it won't be quite hard to see why XD And I'll be going to Australia so there will be a likely chance I wont date someone of the same race as me.

[Jenova]

@N0s: yeah
The Asian guys here go for Aussie girls
and the Aussie boys here go for Asian girls
this is a typical paring here

@Jezz: Ooo so lucky

@Shaz: lol, you never know, there are heaps of Indo's in Melbourne is all I know
and I know where they all live @.@
In Victoria rather...

[Kimochi]

^^ cux my parents believe that forcing is bad .. effect the happiness of ur life .. esp marriage .. it's their children who wanna get married not them .. one prove is that they let my sister married .. a german ^^

[Nicole]

All this talk about Australia. I live in the US. xD

USA is sort of open to interracial relationships... sort of. It depends on the families. But there isn't really much mixing of cultures here, so it's kinda... bleh.

In the US, asian guys go for asian girls and asian girls go for American boys.

[Kamy]

i think that singapore and malaysia don't have much of interracial relationship problem i's more of a religious thing. i mean the chinese are either christians or bhudist, the malays ar muslims and the indians are either muslims(small majority) or hindu. so i think they clash with their religon. and by looking at america a majority of them is christian either their black, white or something else, so it's easier to have an interracial relationship.

hey do american chicks dig asian guys????

note, this is just my opinion so if you feel it's wrong than sry

[Gojira]

My first girlfriend was half Korean/White... But she was more white than Koren so i really don't count that as me dating an asian chick. I've mostly dated other girls from other parts of the Indian Subcontinent... Sri Lanka, Nepal... Still I'm trying to date at least one Asian Neighbors to the North before I have to settle down.

Anyways, yeah, the hot asian girls go for other asian guys or white guys... They don't like the Friendly Neighborhood Indian like myself. Come on!!! I'm Truly Asia, TOO! Hook your Southern-Most Brother up!!!

[Nicole]

hey do american chicks dig asian guys????

It really depends. Lately, there has been a rise, but it's not THAT great of a number. Most American girls go for white guys and tend to like the brits, from what I have seen.

Though I believe there has been a slight increase of interest in the asian male race.

Well, I'm an American girl who digs asian guys at least. xD

[Cassie]

i think that singapore and malaysia don't have much of interracial relationship problem i's more of a religious thing. i mean the chinese are either christians or bhudist, the malays ar muslims and the indians are either muslims(small majority) or hindu. so i think they clash with their religon. and by looking at america a majority of them is christian either their black, white or something else, so it's easier to have an interracial relationship.

hey do american chicks dig asian guys????

note, this is just my opinion so if you feel it's wrong than sry

While religion could be a possibility, most Chinese aren't religious at all. There are also obvious inferiority complexes between some of these races, which is probably a better reason. A good majority of Asian parents would be against their child dating/marrying someone of non-Asian or North American/Western European descent. In other words, marry a white chick or an asian chick.

As for whether or not American chicks dig Asian guys, the overall answer I would give is no. Most American chicks would like Asian guys, because they're smarter, and more secure (talking about Asian guys in American systems that is, and not those in areas where Asians are common). However, if given the choice between an American guy and an Asian guy with similar qualities, I would say that 99% of the time the girl would choose the American guy.

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

I have a thing for Asian Girls now.......hmmm

[II Xion II]

I have a thing for Asian Girls now.......hmmm

So true.

A lot of people I know seem to have no problem with Asian girls either.

I personally could care less what ethnicity the person is, as long as they are not completely fugly and/or a complete jerk.

[silverwolf801]

well I'm black I like any nationality of female. Trust me any. If the girl is hot then hell yea I would fall in love with her in a heartbeat and my parents wouldn't care who I married.

[cent17_2000]

I guess if I had something to say about interracial relationships, I would have to agree with my man above me. Race doesn't really matter to me. If she is cool, cute, and has a good since of humor I think we can work something out. I always wanted to date an Asian girl though, just to see if it is any different from dating an american girl, but I probably will never get the chance now, but who knows what the future holds.

[~TheRenji~]

well I'm black I like any nationality of female. Trust me any. If the girl is hot then hell yea I would fall in love with her in a heartbeat and my parents wouldn't care who I married.

agreed.....im black too....and i dont just go for one type of woman.....i like any race....why should u leave some people out?.....yes i will admit....sometimes you do get made fun of.....or things like that.....but as long as two people have things in common and have strong feelings.....race or nationality shouldnt be a problem....

[ninjabot]

I loooooove me some white women. Can anyone guess my nationality...?

[adorkable]

My whole extended family is mostly made up of Vietnamese Australians. Funny thing is that according to the "old people" (them being the ones that are Vietnamese refugees; raised in Vietnam, etc.), apparently there are only three girls in the family that they bet will marry a "white man" - one of them being me. Which I'm fine with, because I even doubt that I'll marry some Vietnamese guy named Minh (lol, yes, I am stereotyping here :)).

Personally, I don't have any racial preference when looking for a relationship. If I like someone, I like someone.

[ninjabot]

My post was a joke by the way, no offense intended see, because I'm black, and in the US, the most commonplace interracial relationship is black and white, most often black male/white female. I'm ok with any kind of interracial relationship, and don't forget guys and girls: you can still have a preference without being racist. If you're attracted to a certain nationality of female or male, that's your prerogative, you know? Just make sure that preference isn't based off of a stereotype.

[opusx]

ME TOO!! I'm SOOOO not marrying an Indo or Javanese...
Javanese is so strong its sound rough to my ears.. mum and dad are good at it o_O
and yeah, that's true... its YOU that's getting married.. not your parents
lol Shaz... just tell em you're Australian, you can get away with murder at that :P


people always say they aren't marrying the family just the person, but I married a fillipina and her entire family definitely came along with the package. And i thought my Italian family was close, they are nothing compared to my wife's family.

[motoki]

I've only dated outside my race....but have no problems within my race, just haven't found a girl that interests me yet......ok i lie...there were three, but they didn't work out....oh well thats life
i'm all for interracial relationships. as long as you both like each other, its all good

[Lenne]

Personally, I don't have any racial preference when looking for a relationship. If I like someone, I like someone.
my thoughts exactly.

even though most of the time at first glance, i tend to be attracted to asian guys more. it's not like, a really conscious thing, i was just brought up to be more attuned to the same race?

[M I Z U]

Well, I'm kinda.....black too.

Just got a tan last Friday. >:3

Anyhoo, my parents always wanted me to date Asians...

so when i as 14 and 15, i started dating white girls because i wanted to do away with asians... and because there was not many asian girls...
and i dated some black girls, though mostly were lightskinned >_>

Then as i reached 16 and 17, Asian girls started to pop up more, and i started to attract more to Asians.

and now, i'm open for any. My race is human. i will date humans.


and................

when the lights are off, theres no difference.

[Kamy]

My post was a joke by the way, no offense intended see, because I'm black, and in the US, the most commonplace interracial relationship is black and white, most often black male/white female. I'm ok with any kind of interracial relationship, and don't forget guys and girls: you can still have a preference without being racist. If you're attracted to a certain nationality of female or male, that's your prerogative, you know? Just make sure that preference isn't based off of a stereotype.

dude i think that's b'cause black and white's in the usa are the majority population of the country.

well me, i want a european! they're hot!

[BeeCrest]

I have no problem with interracial relationships. If I like the person, I like them. My parents have never specified with races they prefer I date as well. I wouldn't expect them to either since one of my parents is 100% Vietnamese and the other American. It'd be weird if I was told I could only date a Vietnamese guy XD