Love and the Internet

[Elocin]

I'm browsing around CB and I noticed people e-married to eachother, a CB crush thread, valentine thread, etc. And I'm wondering to myself if people can really 'like' eachother over the internet. I'm not trying to show a bias against it or for it, but do you think that internet relationships can work? How are they appealing for people? And if you were to engage in one, would you visit the person, move by them, etc?

What about e-crushes? Do you believe those can go anywhere?

I dunno, I kinda want to hear the public's thoughts on this. =o

[Pie <3]

Man , I can't believe in love over the internett.
The only way that could work is if you met her on the net and then moved to her/him.(not into their house but somewhere in the same city as them)

And about E-Marriages, I guess some people take it seriously , I know I don't.

Neither does Tanya really ( i think :p)
We just did it because we are friends and like eachother (in the non boyfriend/girlfriend way:P)

[Sweeney]

I think you can definately like someones personality, but thats about as far as it can really go over teh internetz. How could ever be sure of what they really look like until you meet them.

[Kray]

Here here.
I can't ever see an "on-line" relationship ever work out. It's near impossible, especially if you never meet! It's just silly :rolleye09.
But the fun ones between you and friends are cool. :Domo

[minori]

What about e-crushes? Do you believe those can go anywhere?
I had one and I'm moving together with him this Friday, so yep. ^^ Tho we were only friends until I moved to the same city.

I don't really believe in online relationships to work well... Of course there are exceptions but in general. Jealosy etc. come in to the picture so easily and it's racking not to be able to be with the special someone. But of course it can be a good start for good realtionship if you move to the same city or so. ^^

[Sakura]

hmmmm.... finding love on the internet depends on how it is i guess. i'm not an advocate, but i met my fiance on yahoo personals so that was more like a dating service where you look for people you find interesting, talking to them and then meeting them in rl. then after you meet them you decide if you still want to date.

but if it's finding love on a forum or other website, i think it's harder. most of the people here are from different parts of the world so it'd be real hard to meet them. then again, love is weird so it could work under the right circumstances (like people living in the same city or town or neighborhood or what not)

[iladys]

I think its possible for some people. Sure, there is a possibility that that person might not be what you were expecting in real life but that's just something small. Many e-couples here get married because the two are friends, who just want to have an e-marriage with no strings attached other then just fun on CB, while some develop crushes and that. People like each other's personality, they get along and might develop into something more. I've seen e-couples who were real life couples first but decided to marry on CB to show people they're a couple. Ice and Pink Paper Heart were e-married before they met each other, they're now one of the cutest couples I know.

This is saying for those who are actually honest about themselves. You don't want to give so much of your personal details away but you can still let your personality show. Hm, for some e-couples, visiting one another is a hard issue due to long-distance, family and/or financial issues. I would go visit Seto if I could but he lives on the other side of the world -_-. Even if a couple are just e-liking each other, doesn't mean that they wouldnt want to see each other as friends. Same goes with Planeswalker. We were e-married before but now we're just really good friends. It's a good thing that I want to go to his city to do Uni, so we'll end up meeting each other a lot if I do.

[♥ Tess]

no, i don't believe in it.
young girls my age usually end up in the news for pursuing a internet relationship with a stranger.

it's pretty dangerous on my part.
maybe when i'm older i'll see different.

though i'm not saying there is anything wrong liking someone's attitude/personality on the internet or having a e-friendship <3
Just dont take it too far unless you COMPLETELY trust this person.

trust isn't something that should be so easily gained -.-
especially on the internet

[Thelindra]

And I'm wondering to myself if people can really 'like' eachother over the internet.
Yes tis possible to like each other over the net. But however those like could be related to the net only. You can never truly like a person until you met them in RL. This is also a way to play safe.

I'm not trying to show a bias against it or for it, but do you think that internet relationships can work?
Everything in this world is possible. I believe netships can work if the couple are truly meant for each other. There are cases of marriage where they met each other over the net first

How are they appealing for people? And if you were to engage in one, would you visit the person, move by them, etc?
They are appealing for people who are single and bored (me) XD Well...i wun mind to meet Undy one day, and see how the things go on form there :p

[Ushio Amamiya]

I'm browsing around CB and I noticed people e-married to eachother, a CB crush thread, valentine thread, etc. And I'm wondering to myself if people can really 'like' eachother over the internet. I'm not trying to show a bias against it or for it, but do you think that internet relationships can work? How are they appealing for people? And if you were to engage in one, would you visit the person, move by them, etc?

What about e-crushes? Do you believe those can go anywhere?

I dunno, I kinda want to hear the public's thoughts on this. =o


To be honest, most people who have relationships on the internet don't work! Yes...it's true and I take criticisms from my family, friends and people all around me because I have this kind of relationship! But there are reasons why this is complicated:

1.) Communications between partners in an internet/long distance relationships are difficult because both partners don't see each other (obviously).

2.) Both partners don't know about each others' whereabouts (sure, you know your partners' whereabouts...I mean yeah...do you know exactly where? :lol)

3.) For most couples in this relationship, loyalty, honesty and devotion are the questions - whether they are really loyal and devoted to each other. If some people are tired about this, they don't talk or communicate to their partners anymore and it's hard because it confuses others (and some people wait forever to talk to them back (it may lead to their depressions if they take this seriously).

For me, I've experienced a lot of long-distance relationships. Sure,:eek13: I've dated some guys that I've met here and I got depressed blah...blah...blah..., but I realize that my Mr. Right isn't here...I just know that...But now, I'm happy with my present relationship because we started as friends for the very long time (talking about online friends and we both shared our own personal stories or experiences). If he's my Mr. Right, then this relationship can go anywhere...I'll be visiting him and I'll get to know him personally... If it isn't working at all, then, I'll be lonely again and I will take time for myself.

Oh yeah...there's another thing: Long distance relationship works rarely for few people because it is meant for them - meaning they are destined for that. I have a friend who is married to her husband and they had a long-distance relationship before that. The reason why this is working for them is because they feel the love for each other (even if they are far away). These people know that this kind of relationship works for them. It's only a matter of finding the right person whether in a long distance relationship or not.


hmmmmm....:eek13:

[Kyoko<3!]

I think we can all agree that without actually knowing the person in RL that an online relationship can never really based upon anything real.

But I believe an online relationship can develop into something that would provoke the 'couple' into meeting each other, which may end in a real relationship.

[Ronin36]

I think people truly can fall in love online. I believe it's possible to fall in love just by talking to someone long enough. The thing is, that people have expectations of what the other person looks like, or how they act. They hold to that for so long that when they actually meet the person in RL life they are not open to anything but their own imaginings. They enter denial and chaos wreaks havoc. The end of any possible relationship, maybe even a good one.

[Kefka]

Yes...people can fall in love on-line. For example, I am currently in an online relationship. My e-wife( angelic desire) is the same girl that I am dating online. We don't live in the same city, but we do live in the same state so it isn't like we're across the globe. We talked awhile, and we have a lot of things in common, not to mention we both like each other. Also, you really shouldn't meet someone from the net without knowing them well enough. i.e. talking on the phone, sending pics back and forth, hell even a webcam if you guys have it. You shouldn't rush into these things.

To sum it up, love can happen online and I know for a fact. After all, you can't expect to find the love of your life living near you all the time, can you?

[Reefern86]

Here my bit though...define LOVE! Seriously...i believe love is in essence more of a physical thing then it is mental. Thus, u can't love another without ever truly meeting them! Tis true that u may find a good match for urself through the tools we have onlie...such as IM's, Forums, etc....But, like i said, love forms from actuall human contact. The internet can "lead" us to love, but it can not bring it into being!

[Kefka]

Since when did love have to mean physical touch?

Dictionary defition:
Love is a strong liking for someone. It's a strong passionate affection for another person.

Bible Reference:
Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things; believes all things; hopes all things; endures all things.

Wikipedia:
Love is a basic dimension of human experience that is variously conveyed as a sense of tender affection, an intense attraction, the foundation of intimacy and good interpersonal chemistry, willing self-sacrifice on behalf of another, and as an ineffable sense of affinity or connection to nature, other living beings, or even that which is unseen. It manifests itself in feelings, emotion, behavior, thoughts, perception and attitude. It influences, underlies and defines major patterns in interpersonal relationships and self-identification.


Soo...I don't see any references really to physical touch. Did I define love good enough for you? :D

[Reefern86]

lmao...that may be the way love is defined. But it is different for each person. No one indavidual shares the same ideas of "love" as another.

[Kefka]

Exactly!!

So for some people, their idea of love spread to online relationships and such. I think it isn't that farfetched. After all, we have all those dating sites popping up, e-harmony, match.com..*tries to think what other commercials he seen* I dunno, but you get my point.

[Evanesque]

You can't love someone over the internet. Some people are vulnerable so they end up trying to pursue something that's not real. Having an internet relationship is something like talking to a wall and imagining what it would reply to your questions. Okie I know I just gave a very bad example but I hope you know what I'm talking about.

The threads that are set up in forums such as CB are for fun and entetainment, it's not something to be taken seriously. I mean the person on the other side might be a total weirdo and you'd think he/she's the most awesome guy/girl you've ever met. Never let internet relationships merge with your real life.

They say you don't really know someone entirely no matter how close they are to you, but over the internet, it's impossible to know the other person. There are a lot of sickos who pretend to be a nice guy/girl and create an impression that he/she is the perfect person alive.

The internet is a way for some people to cover up their flaws...that's why many people seem to be a great friend. It's like shelter where you drop your real life problems and begin anew.

People can't change their own lives in reality but they can on the internet by changing usernames, personalities, likes, dislikes, etc.

Well that's what I have to say for now.

[Vladimir]

e-married does not mean we love each other.. its just a way to show that we are a family. we are only friends for real life.
for me i don't believe in net love.. how can you love someone you didn't even know...it's just really rediculous.. you don't know how he/she looks like. how he/she react how can you possibly love them..
Love is undefined.. neither with action nor words..

[d_angel]

If the relationship is purely net based, then no... you can't really take that very seriously, can you? If both parties are enjoying each other's company over the net, fine, but when it gets out of hand - I know someone that rejected a date with a guy in real life because she was already "taken" - on the net - then it just gets inhibiting and kind of sad.

On the other hand, I know people who have met each other on the net and started dating - one of my friends is in a long term relationship with someone he met on a forum just like this. For that reason I won't dismiss relationships that start on the net. Where I will go a little "errmm...." is if that's the only kind of relationship you've got, and you're taking it far too seriously.

As for e-families and e-marriages... *Shrug* They're a harmless bit of fun, aren't they? So long as no one's getting hurt or taking it too seriously, then I don't see the problem.

[Mighty Aramir]

I dont believe in internet love, simple as that. Why falling in love with someone you might never see, and you dont know who they really are, now if you met someone over the net, wheter it be by a dating service, messenger, or a forum, and then you meet outside, you go on real dates and all, and if the relationship seems proper great, i've seen that happen, on both cases they're still together (year and a half later =O). But I can be friends of someone in the net, thats is no problem, but falling in love could only end in hurting each other, and sending a good friendship to hell... at least thats my opinion

[~Anime4Life~]

internet relationships are so stupid, i know so many people who lie to people online to play with their feelings. and one guy i know has like 20 girlfriends

[Helikaon]

You can't love someone over the internet. Some people are vulnerable so they end up trying to pursue something that's not real. Having an internet relationship is something like talking to a wall and imagining what it would reply to your questions. Okie I know I just gave a very bad example but I hope you know what I'm talking about.
The threads that are set up in forums such as CB are for fun and entetainment, it's not something to be taken seriously. I mean the person on the other side might be a total weirdo and you'd think he/she's the most awesome guy/girl you've ever met. Never let internet relationships merge with your real life.
They say you don't really know someone entirely no matter how close they are to you, but over the internet, it's impossible to know the other person. There are a lot of sickos who pretend to be a nice guy/girl and create an impression that he/she is the perfect person alive.
The internet is a way for some people to cover up their flaws...that's why many people seem to be a great friend. It's like shelter where you drop your real life problems and begin anew.
People can't change their own lives in reality but they can on the internet by changing usernames, personalities, likes, dislikes, etc.
Well that's what I have to say for now.


Could you then explain mine and pinks outcome? that we have met IRL and do love eachother spawned from an "internet relationship"? Would it not depend entirely on circumstances and people? You cannot be so general or ignorant to believe that these kind of things cannot bloom into good relationships. You have to be indifferent to this subject or preach to know everything.

[Bubblegum]

lots of people have diff opinions some do and some dont like as icestorm said he met pink_paper_heart from enternet..i know alot of people who have met up from the net and usually the relationship works out and sometimes it dosnt..

[Pink_Paper_Heart]

Yeah seriously, you can say that all relationship fails when the e-mates meet ok.

The internet is another outlet for dating btw in case you don't know.

The final outcome depends on both parties. Not all internet relationships are doomed to fail.

[Anubisrage]

Well Im e-married to my real life gf, so thats not an issue for me, but for other people, I think it has a very very very small chance of ever working out, especially because many people lie about themselves on the internet to look cool or something when in real life they are the opposite...

[maximoose666]

Obviously not all e-relationships are doomed to fail, but the majority of them are really lame :P

In the case of Ice and Pink, they live near each other, and if they had met by chance, they might well have neded up going out together without needing the internet at all. I think that's one sort of e-relationship that can work: one between people who live close together and therefore can easily get together IRL.

Apart from that , I think that emarriages should be just for fun. I mean, I think I got emarried to MooL once - what does that mean? Just that we are friends :p It's kinda a joke.

[Helikaon]

Yeah I get where you are coming from maxi and its true.. but people above you have been preaching to say that they DEFIENTLY will fail.. which is like preaching to know everything. Unless you are god I hardly think you know every relationship going on in the world at this second. Its something you must take into account, because you cannot just take one side in this for that would be ignorant to your knowledge, you must also take into account that it is possible, yet, as Maxi said unlikely to work.

[Anubisrage]

Yeah I get where you are coming from maxi and its true.. but people above you have been preaching to say that they DEFIENTLY will fail.. which is like preaching to know everything. Unless you are god I hardly think you know every relationship going on in the world at this second. Its something you must take into account, because you cannot just take one side in this for that would be ignorant to your knowledge, you must also take into account that it is possible, yet, as Maxi said unlikely to work.
Sorry if it sounded that I meant that THERE IS NO CHANCE for e-relationships to work... I didnt mean that... I meant to say that there is little chance for it.. thats all, I mean who knows...

[Neko Futu]

I reacon internet realationships could work out... if both the the people are comitted to each other

[hasuke]

I know many people who have had interbutt relationships work. Takes effort on both sides but it's possible.

[iladys]

Everyone has different opinions on this huh? There are a few cases where internet relationships work out but for the most part e-marriage is for fun. You might end up liking each other but whose to say you'll feel like that if you two meet up, if at all. It's better to not fall hard when there is a relatively low chance of you meeting irl. If it becomes a real relationship, hope it lasts for as long as it can. If it doesn't, just enjoy it, after all you still gain a friend. It's all about people and circumstances.

[Z_Blitz]

My opinion? Yes it happens. Chances of it succeeding or not depends on the couple themselves. The circumstances may not be in their favor but they can try to work it out :). I've seen tons of e-relationships fail and I've seen a fairly decent amount of them work out as well.

Love is not bound to race, color, origin, religion or anything of that sort. When you love someone you love them just because of their personality and the way they are in general.

The key to a successful relationship needn't be the romance in it. Let me elaborate a bit. I've seen and known couples who had no romance whatsoever with their partners before they decided to get married. They never held hands, never kissed, never slept together in the same bed... etc until their marriage. Its quite unfortunate that we tend to relate how successful a relationship is based on this stuff. What you need is an understanding shared from both sides. Both of you should have the same ideas, same line of thought... etc.

I've never been in an active e-relationship before, but I speak strictly from the course of observing one. Relationships like these need time for the person to discover whether its just a silly crush or if its real love. Time will unravel that to those who seek the answer [/wiseman mode off].

There is one thing to keep in mind though. The chances of a real life relationship working are decently better than an internet based one. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush ;).

[pero_renji!]

I think that e-love for fun, like joke between e-friends is ok, but e-crushes and stuff, people who do that are really really sad inmy opinion.

[Kefka]

I think that e-love for fun, like joke between e-friends is ok, but e-crushes and stuff, people who do that are really really sad inmy opinion.

What about those e-crushes that bloom into full-fledged real life relationships? Are those people still really really sad? Some people can be more comfortable online then with people real life. I'm personally one of them. I'm shy with people when I first meet them, but online...I can act my true self which is goofy at times.

[Thelindra]

E-ships can be a good source of companionship. Someone to talk to....chat...I will not be surprised if a real relationship blooms out of it ^^;

[sinkinswimmer]

I don't think internet relationship are practical in the long term. You generally only get to see one side of someone online, versus getting to know everything about someone by spending time with them.

I think it can be a relaxed way to break the ice, but unless there's some sort of physical contact, the relationship will reach a dead-end and burn out.

[Z-man]

Well, my friends in one and so far they're going terrific :D. I don't really know if it works since I haven't been in one though. Most of teh e-marriages and stuff on CB are just for fun though.

[iladys]

I don't think internet relationship are practical in the long term. You generally only get to see one side of someone online, versus getting to know everything about someone by spending time with them.
I think it can be a relaxed way to break the ice, but unless there's some sort of physical contact, the relationship will reach a dead-end and burn out.
You know that's not true. There are plenty of e-couples who make the effort to see each other. I agree with Araharu, there are people who rather like to talk online because they can be themselves or they dont have it as good in real life. Not everybody lies about themselves online.

[Doctor Fate]

All I gotta say is: "if there's a will, there's a way".. Anything is possible.

[Cheryl]

E-relationships, huh? Before I ever visited a forum, I thought it was just nonsense. But after seeing some e-couples like Ice and PPH hit it off after being e-married, I'm starting to think that anything is possible. XD

Personally, I feel that such things should not be taken too seriously, especially if you know that there is a very slim chance of getting to meet up irl. But who's to know what'll happen when you finally meet your e-spouse irl? That'll be a totally different story, is what I think. :P

[Atrias]

It worked for me on several occasions, we lived quite far away from eachother and met online and progressed to phones and all that... plenty of relationships I think can be started, continued and sometimes even based upon digital - long distance circumstances. Sure as hell its not easy and it can cause a lot of heartbreak and pain even when things are working, but its definitely workable if you truly believe in the relationship and truly like the person you're trying to be with.

One of my best friends in the world lives in Australia and though we've never spoken to eachother in real life or ever seen eachother I consult her in everything and always go to her for advice.

I've had at least 3 different online relationships that have ended for unrelated reasons... if it weren't for those reasons I'm sure we'd still have a shot at being together now.

In the end, an online relationship is pretty much just like any relationship, it just requires more work in certain areas... if you're not prepared to work for or fight for a relationship then you shouldn't be in one in the first place hehe.

[Kefka]

It worked for me on several occasions, we lived quite far away from eachother and met online and progressed to phones and all that... plenty of relationships I think can be started, continued and sometimes even based upon digital - long distance circumstances. Sure as hell its not easy and it can cause a lot of heartbreak and pain even when things are working, but its definitely workable if you truly believe in the relationship and truly like the person you're trying to be with.

One of my best friends in the world lives in Australia and though we've never spoken to eachother in real life or ever seen eachother I consult her in everything and always go to her for advice.

I've had at least 3 different online relationships that have ended for unrelated reasons... if it weren't for those reasons I'm sure we'd still have a shot at being together now.

In the end, an online relationship is pretty much just like any relationship, it just requires more work in certain areas... if you're not prepared to work for or fight for a relationship then you shouldn't be in one in the first place hehe.


I like that last paragraph, you said a lot of good things about e-relationships. :headbang

In my instance, me & angelic desire are trying to bloom it into a real relationship, meeting up r/t, etc. Hopefully we become the next ice and pph. lol

[Nesquik]

.....
my opinion is that some can bloom into RL relationships but if the chance of meeting is almost impossible u cant go seriously except u have very strong will(and money), but meeting is a different story

[Helikaon]

In the end I think that its all about the ambition of the couple. They must know the others feelings really well inorder for it to continue because communication is what matters the most in e-relationships or any relationship.. but at times its harder for the e-relationship to gain that communication.. so therfore to a certain extent you must know the other person very well and be able to make up for that lack of physical togetherness. One thing I have to point out is that as I said at the start the ambition is what matters.. If it sets out to stay as only an e-relationship with no ambition for a physical relationship then it is incredibly hard to keep it going.

Human nature craves physical contact and especially when they love eachother it is very hard to keep up the healthy relationship if it is destined to not become physical. But if they both have the ambition and the driving hope and knowledge that they will one day meet up and be able to have that physical relationship it is more likely to succeed. I speak this from my own knowledge and this isnt necessarily correct to everyone, but I dare say that it is quite reliable.

[iladys]

In the end I think that its all about the ambition of the couple. They must know the others feelings really well inorder for it to continue because communication is what matters the most in e-relationships or any relationship.. but at times its harder for the e-relationship to gain that communication.. so therfore to a certain extent you must know the other person very well and be able to make up for that lack of physical togetherness. One thing I have to point out is that as I said at the start the ambition is what matters.. If it sets out to stay as only an e-relationship with no ambition for a physical relationship then it is incredibly hard to keep it going.

Human nature craves physical contact and especially when they love eachother it is very hard to keep up the healthy relationship if it is destined to not become physical. But if they both have the ambition and the driving hope and knowledge that they will one day meet up and be able to have that physical relationship it is more likely to succeed. I speak this from my own knowledge and this isnt necessarily correct to everyone, but I dare say that it is quite reliable.
You've probably said it in really good way. If there is a possibility of making that e-relationship into a physical one, then you should go for it, but obviously when you live far apart, like halfway round the world, with little chance of actually meeting, then the relationship might wear thin over the years.

[_Natla_Uryu_]

I have two friends, Casey and Kassie, they live on opposite sides of the country at least, and they have gotten together in one state, so it was all good. I believe e-relationships work out really well if they both try.

Mine never did because I have serious trust issues sometimes. I would rather be in a real one. I'd feel more confident of myself. I, myself, can only believe what they tell me, and I don't just believe on someone's word.

~Natla

[Helikaon]

An e-relationship IS a real one. Mutual connection of friendship or love.. a relationship.. nothing like that can be faked.. If the person is lying then it isnt a relationship, its not 'fake'. Being deceived is another issue.. it cant exactly be called any sort of relationship based on those principles.

[_Natla_Uryu_]

An e-relationship IS a real one. Mutual connection of friendship or love.. a relationship.. nothing like that can be faked.. If the person is lying then it isnt a relationship, its not 'fake'. Being deceived is another issue.. it cant exactly be called any sort of relationship based on those principles.

I believe differently from you. I've seen it faked thousands of times before. If you don't know if the person is lying of decieving, then how can you call it a relationship or anything? It's fake if they don't love each other. Purely fake.

My bad on the e-relationship part. Not trying to sound like a wise - or anything.

~Natla

[Helikaon]

Fake is something.. relationship another. For a relationship to be called such the feelings have to be mutual..

[Xlayer]

Fake is something.. relationship another. For a relationship to be called such the feelings have to be mutual..

*agrees with you* yet i find it more like something fun, im not gonna tell you ive faked any of it, but i dont think neither me or her are taking this seriously, its fine by me anyway, as long as she's ok with it

[layla]

internet relationships = an illusion created by those who have low self esteem. at least in my case, it's my own fault.
maybe i'm just bitter.

[pantiffel]

My mom met my steph-dad through the internet and they are now married and they have a child
My dad met my steph mom through the internet and are still together (for more than 7 years already)
... so yes, I think it happens but I also think that it's rare and that it depends on the age and the distance and such and the people themselves of course

[motoki]

I think e-relationships can be easy or difficult depending on the situatoin and all things involved. At least the people should plan on meeting one day if it's not possible right away. Otherwise, you'll spend the whole time on the computer with her/him and you never get to touch or hug, etc...
i'm not ssaying that's bad.....if you both are comfortable with it, then so be it.
but there are so many good things when the person is physically available that you can't get on the internet.
but if both people are genuinely happy, i'm happy for them...love comes in many forms and e-love is no exception

[Helikaon]

*agrees with you* yet i find it more like something fun, im not gonna tell you ive faked any of it, but i dont think neither me or her are taking this seriously, its fine by me anyway, as long as she's ok with it

Haha I never said a relationship had to be serious or romantic.. As long as you guys feel some sort of attachment to eachother then its a relationship.. Everyone has there own style and the way they live there lives is up to them.. Im glad that you have fun :)


I just dont believe in a fake relationship.. because the words dont suit the meaning behind them.. for a relatinship to exist the two parties must feel the same.. it cant be one sided or its just plain lust or onesided love.. not a relationship... A relationship is a bond between two people.

@Seren: :) Yeah its up to you how you view internet relationships.. things can go either way.. true love can spout from them or regret and distrust.. It depends on the circumstances.. But I wouldnt generalize them all to be illusions by all means.

[Artemis]

Can happen.
Usually not. Unless both parties are looking for it and can physically meet.

I think icey would've heard about this one.

Recently, a man in Australia found a girl on the internet that lived in Africa. They dated online and talked to each other for some time.

Then the man went over to Africa to get married.

What happened?

The man was greeted by kidnappers with guns and machetes.
He's finally been released, thanks to our police.

That just shows it may be a bit dangerous.

Whatever.

[silverwolf801]

hm I don't believe in e-love I mean I like cb girls photos but I hell as sure don't love them. I barely say I love you too the girl I am with how will I try to commit to an internet relationship. That's why I always keep myself reserved for cb ladies.

[iladys]

Woah..I'll admit that I've heard that sort of stories as well as some of my friends being victims of cyber stalking. It's possible that if you're a couple, you want to see each other but do it in public places, or bring a friend along. Every situation is different, you might get the wonderful relationships or you might get something as dangerous as what happened to that man. It can happen, but there has to be a willingness from both parties, and a whole lot of talking to people around you, like parents, friends etc.

[motoki]

Mirage is right....be responsible in your e-relationships...just because they're out of physical contact...doesn't mean they can't be as dangerous, or even moreso

[silverwolf801]

how can an e realtionship be dangerous unless you give ther person your phone number and address. Which you really shouldn't do.

[Elocin]

Lol.

I already did that, Silver.

@Seren: Yeah its up to you how you view internet relationships.. things can go either way.. true love can spout from them or regret and distrust.. It depends on the circumstances.. But I wouldnt generalize them all to be illusions by all means.

It's been both in my cases. I really don't know what to make of them anymore.

I'll be alright with it if it was a gaurantee that the guy and I will meet. Or, I'll just have feelings for the guy and then decide if I want to be with him (and he with me) when we meet, so I also don't run into the "he doesn't meet my expectations" issue.

[Kamy]

i thought e-marriges was just for fun

[Helikaon]

That would depend on how you view the internet. For some it can develope into real feelings.. for others its just friends having fun. As the creator of the idea I know all too well that its possible for more to come from the E-Marriages.

[Kamy]

what do u mean "as the creator of the idea"?

[Helikaon]

lol :).. in case you didnt notice im the one that came up with the idea on CB for the marriage thread.. thats where they come from.. >.>

[Evil_Mirai]

Well... personally, I think those e-marriages are really ridiculous and other stuff too... but if other people like it, it's their business. And I'm the type who loves freedom... and Internet is wide and quite free, so why get caught in some web? :D

[Alex26]

I lol @ E-love. Love on real life's hard to find and get, imagine love thro the messenger. Lets have dinner! *inserts food emoticon* YEY! XD

Well, every crazy with its own story.

[Helikaon]

Well... personally, I think those e-marriages are really ridiculous and other stuff too... but if other people like it, it's their business. And I'm the type who loves freedom... and Internet is wide and quite free, so why get caught in some web? :D

Well that would depend on how you look at it.. It could easily just be two friends having fun and making jokes about it, you dont have to be 'caught up'.


I lol @ E-love. Love on real life's hard to find and get, imagine love thro the messenger. Lets have dinner! *inserts food emoticon* YEY! XD
Well, every crazy with its own story.


That depends on what you mean by 'e-love'. If its the type that is not serious in that nature and only relies on a friendship and just for fun you get e-married.. then yeah it can be stupid or it can be fun.. that depends on your opinion. But a relationship that comes from the internet and becomes a real relationship is not stupid.. Its like any other relationship..

[XING]

i dont think internet realtionships would work if you never get to meet them

[Helikaon]

See what I said in previous pages...

[XING]

are you talking to me?

[Helikaon]

yeah..

[Enix]

the inter net is the most awesome of awesome things

[SillyMilly]

Well...the problem with the online thing is the fact that online you can be almost anyone you want. So there is that whole trust factor. But I mean there are times when things work out well and people really do end up liking each other. And then the turning point of how it really works out is when they meet.
But words are strong and they are easily used to manipulate or persuade a person...strong enough to strike up emotions in peopel I guess. But its your business and not really mine to judge.

The marriage things...well I'm not too sure about those ^o^;;;

But whatever floats their boat. :]

[Helikaon]

Well about trust.. anyone who is smart would ask for a webcam session and words are strong in any situation.. a lie is a lie all the same.. if its on the internet your just not seeing the person.

[Sakura_Drops]

I guess you can like someone's personality across the internet but obviously that may not be what they're really like in real life. I believe you can only truly start to like someone if you meet up and just chat and have fun. Of course you can still build a relationship across the internet. I've talked to many who I think have great personalities but the problem is that they usually live in countries other than my own T__T. So the only solutions to those are to send letters (more personal), emails or make phone calls. *Phew.

[shaberry]

To me...anything with e- attached to it is just for fun. I would never take e-relationships seriously. On occasion, I'd probably meet a person from the forum, but not under the intention of anything romantic. It would be strictly for friendship purposes.

[dawin45]

<<<<there is no way you could have a normal relationship ovr the internet, because the touch, the hear, the smell,and the taste, sences of the human body are not activated/used when you are in an relationship over the .net...well if you don't meet that person in real life...the relationship becomes just for fun...

[Bladecatcher]

@dawin45: i agree with you. there is no real life interacting.

my brother...i guess e-dated this girl that was my friend from childhood. he never knew her, but somehow...they just started chatting...and before i knew it, they were 'going out' lol.
i was taken by surprise, and asked them how they were going to work it all out. they just talked to eachother a lot on AIM. lol. they were happy, until my brother started college and a job, and got too busy for the internet. then he broke up with her. so things could also get in the way of an internet 'relationship'

[dawin45]

<<<<<there is no need to get in to sorrrow because of an relationship, some guys made suicide because theire dates just started meeting with another guy, the world is not going to end there...good thing I never got or have a data, might be in the future I might get some luck, in my life who knows...

[punzada]

Me and my girl met up through the web and kind of got together before actually meeting. Long distance relationships are hard and that was the worst part of it but things can't be better now, but yeah if it isn't going to actually go anywhere real it is a giant waste of time ;/

[Defenestrata]

I've seen one e-marriage that worked. Apparently the two met over a messageboard and married a few years later, and they're still together.

Not something I could do.

[Xlayer]

Internet love relationships dont work

[Pyramus]

I dont beleive in internet relationships! I would much rather meet the girl in real life! And that is why i will never get emaried.... again.... I did on another forum and i dont go on it anymore, so i count myself homefree! :p

[Miss Murder]

I think they could work,but only if they met later in real life.

[Elocin]

How much later would you say, miss murder?

[Jeggo]

D O E S N T exist. Sorry if i offend some guys , but seriously those of you who are e-married and take it seriously.. geez GET A LIFE...!

[Tobi]

D O E S N T exist. Sorry if i offend some guys , but seriously those of you who are e-married and take it seriously.. geez GET A LIFE...!

Who says it has to be e-marriage?

[mochimochil3]

very dangerous..but if its for fun then its alright^^

[♥ Ayalicious ♥]

I belong to an RP (not here) and there are plenty of couples there, who actually fly overseas to meet up with each other. n________n And they deliver piccus too. <333

It's so sweet, and some of them are even getting married soon. Some people think e-love is stupid and unreal, but hey - if this isn't proof that love can blossom over the net, then what is? Oo;;

[-Renae-]

Internet Relationships can work. They are probably one of the hardest things a person will ever do in their life but it can be done. For them to work, both parties must be honest and have realistic goals for it. It is dangerous yes as people online can be whoever they want. In order for them to work, you need to trust the person. It's best to get to know the person first. Ask for their phone number and call them randomly. Also call them and have them be on a web cam. It's harder to fake that way but it still can be done.

There is real life interacting. It's not the same a physical relationship but it's there. Phone calls and gifts are as close as one gets for it as well as letters. It's not much but it's still real. It only gets better if the couple can meet in real life. It's not always possible due to distance, time, money, family and so forth.

I'm currently in a long distance relationship. We have 4000 miles between us. We started off online. It's coming up on two years of us being together. To this day, we've had three meetings in real life. It's not easy to keep it going but we do. Chances are one of us will have to move to be with the other and neither of us have a problem with that. I have absolute trust in him. I have since before we met and started to talk on the phone with each other.

Overall point is that they can work and they are just as real as any other physical relationship. Only difference is that you don't see each other as much. LDRs/OLRs are not for the weak or faint hearted. It takes time, patience and trust to do them. If you really work at it, they can be done.

~Renae

[polarisxday79]

my cousin's dating a chick over the internet and she's the happiest she's ever been in a while b/c they talk on the phone a lot but my cousin lives in LA and her girlfriend lives in new york, so i don't think they'll visit each other, but even theough my cousin is head over heels in love i think that the chick from new york is just leading her on

[Yellow]

mm i have a friend who met his Gf though one of our friends that moved to California.... He fell in love before he even saw her....its been about a year and he visited her once in cali cause were here in Chicago.

For e dating meh... i don't think its really all that effective but its a good chance to get to know some people

[RiannaSan]

I believe you can fall in love on the internet, however I don't think an internet relationship would ever work for me, but really I think you get to know the people better, because all you can do is talk. So... if you fall in love over the internet you really love the person for who they are... not just for looks, sex, etc.

[Tobi]

my cousin's dating a chick over the internet and she's the happiest she's ever been in a while b/c they talk on the phone a lot but my cousin lives in LA and her girlfriend lives in new york, so i don't think they'll visit each other, but even theough my cousin is head over heels in love i think that the chick from new york is just leading her on

Gay/internet relationship and falling in love? ..... what?

[Vladimir]

I don't believe there's love in internet. Come on, you haven't even met the person and you know people can lie in internet and you'll fall for it? Consider yourself stupid. Even though it's the person itself but i think it's rediculous. For me it is.. IMO.
Although you're not falling for that person from looks but i really think that without really knowing that person, you kind of digging your own grave. If he lied or whatsoever, who'll eventually get hurt. He planned it all along and you fell for it, you'll get hurt.