The "Ask a Woman" thread

[Bak3d on H1gh]

To borrow from Demonic_Ichigo's thread (i asked he didn't respond) i decided to make this thread for the guys.

First question why is it such a big deal when a guy invites his friends over to watch the game or something? I mean i can understand if they cause property damage or break something but can't a guy have friends? Though i do understand its not all woman who would do this.

[Anubisrage]

1st of all Im confused are you a guy or a girl???
2nd what you said is perfectly normal, I invite my buddies any chance I get, we have fun just hanging out and dont cause any major damage... So I dont see what can be wrong with it...

[Bak3d on H1gh]

Dude here or else i would already know the answer to the question

[Anubisrage]

Ah a fellow dude, cool.
Then I wanna ask a girl why is it so bad when we sleep till late!!!

[Kibe]

sleep to late??

[deto]

the answers are so obvious! *g* even tho i'm not a girl....

because they want to spend time with you.... ALONE! duh.... :redbiggri

[Kibe]

what? do you mean why a girl spends so much time chatting to you? well, it takes a lot of courage for girls like me to talk to a boy for a long time X_x. but since they believe that u're that 'special someone' they think that they should be open. well, that's the point of a relationship.

[Bak3d on H1gh]

Yea but wouldn't they realize need some guy time. I know its a girl excuse as well but its true.

[Kibe]

some guy time heh?

well, i guess if the girl went to a football game or something like that will be considered guy time?

[Anubisrage]

what? do you mean why a girl spends so much time chatting to you? well, it takes a lot of courage for girls like me to talk to a boy for a long time X_x. but since they believe that u're that 'special someone' they think that they should be open. well, that's the point of a relationship.
That I know, thats why I always listen to what my girl has to say, and I meant when you are home alone and they call you on the phone and when you say you were asleep, they get all "why are you sleeping so late". I would never sleep for long if my girl was around... I would be focusing on her ^_^

[Kibe]

XD LOL! i feel lucky for the girl has you dude. you sound really nice ^_^ lol, about the late sleeping ish prolly cause they're worried for you, i mean, being tired ish really bad! ^_^ they want to see you full of energy on a date! not a guy whose rubbing his eyes constantly and yawning more then a sloth.

[deto]

yare, yare.....if you tell your girl that you invited the boys over for nachos, beer
and a football game just 5min before they arrive, you can imagine why she'd
be upset. if you tell her some days before it shouldn't be a big deal, if it isn't
interfering with plans she already made that is.

[Kibe]

i agree, i will use these friends of his for info about what he likes and stuff, but i should refrain from how much beer will be bought in, i mean, it's not a nice feeling of being surrounded by a bunch of drug guys now is it?

[hollow kitty]

Girls want to feel like the most important thing in a guys life because most of the time girls make their guy the most important thing in theirs. I think it's a bit of jealousy but also, they just want to be near their guy all the time. Makes them feel wanted and just good I guess.

[Anubisrage]

Girls want to feel like the most important thing in a guys life because most of the time girls make their guy the most important thing in theirs. I think it's a bit of jealousy but also, they just want to be near their guy all the time. Makes them feel wanted and just good I guess.
I always treat my girl like the most important thing in the world, I hope she likes that..

[Kibe]

XD THAT'S SOOO SWEET!
if only guys were all like that.

:3

[hollow kitty]

I always treat my girl like the most important thing in the world, I hope she likes that..

You can believe..she does :)

[Anubisrage]

Well thats good to know...

[Kibe]

so, guys anymore questions?

[SoundWave]

Girls want to feel like the most important thing in a guys life because most of the time girls make their guy the most important thing in theirs. I think it's a bit of jealousy but also, they just want to be near their guy all the time. Makes them feel wanted and just good I guess.
I dun exactly have a question.. but..

If I had a gf then I would feel the same thing towards her as you just stated here.. (yeh call me girly, but that's how I would feel.. -.-")

[Evanesque]

Well I'd like to hear more questions :redbiggri

[Kibe]

a guy should never be embarrassed! i mean, we are all humans! guys aren't always so hard and *grrrr*

:3 they can be as soft as a teddy bear! :3 so no guy ish ever girly! NO WAY!

[Evanesque]

Yep I agree...you can be all tough but we'd also love to know that you have feelings too..:redbiggri

My boo ish as soft as a teddy <333
=3

[hollow kitty]

If a guy isn't loving and sweet I don't give him a second thought!

[Evanesque]

But some guys might be shy to show how loving they are so they act all tough and get misunderstood...some then think women are b****es, others lose their confidence and believe they themselves are pathetic..

[Bak3d on H1gh]

Nothing comes to mind at the moment but if i have a question iiil be suure to post it.

[Kibe]

ok...

[deto]

ok girls, here is one..... without knowing the guy or talking to him.
what do you check out first? i mean where do you look at?

[Bak3d on H1gh]

Isn't it they always look at the ass.
hmm maybe i should start wearing jeans with tight asses... or just skip that and go straight to assless leather pants :p

[Kibe]

well, i'll look if he's the clean, tidy homework-doing, polite guys, and if he's cute <3. and i'll see how it goes on, like if he like drawing and stuff. you know, connections.

[Bak3d on H1gh]

Sorry I'm wrong its the shoes! then the clothes then the eyes gravitate towards the ass.

[Kibe]

o.O... i hate anything connecting to clothes, i loathe shoe shopping and clothes shopping. don't look at me, i'm more of a computer type.

[Anubisrage]

o.O... i hate anything connecting to clothes, i loathe shoe shopping and clothes shopping. don't look at me, i'm more of a computer type.
Thats still good ^_^
@Evanesque In not as soft as a teddy bear... Grrr, lol

[deto]

i've got 1 answer to my question so far, c'mon i demand mooore! way more :redbiggri

[Nicole]

what do you check out first? i mean where do you look at?

When it comes to a guy, it's normally his eyes, and probably his expression after that.

[Mighty Aramir]

Why is sex such an akward topic for females? especially when in person...

[Nicole]

Hmm...

I believe it's because of the way society portrays women. Like, a man who sleeps around is generally considered a stud and a pimp. If I woman sleeps around she's considered a slut. So I'm thinking that because of that stereotype, women don't want to come across as being "slutty" so they simply want to avoid talking about sex all together.

Me, I talk about sex-related stuff when I want to, and I'm still clean and a virgin, so I don't get the big deal myself. That's just my speculation though.

[Mighty Aramir]

no, its quite an acceptable point of view... Stereotypes suck, not talking things also does, thats why there are so many young ladies preganant, for comments as Evanesque said on the guys thread, taking it out on time =_=... Thats no good, natural lubrication the penus produces might leave a woman pregnant, semen aint the only way, thats why I think society should be more open minded to inform people about sex, STD's, and the usual "tabu" must be broken....

[Lucki]

ok girls, here is one..... without knowing the guy or talking to him.
what do you check out first? i mean where do you look at?

I would generally look at the eyes, but they usually look back and stare at me so i just end up admiring their feetXD

[Cheryl]

^ LOL. Not true, I usually end up looking past the guy's face instead. :p

I look at the eyes of course! Then um...the rest of his face, what he's wearing...that's really about it...

[deto]

when you look at his clothes, are you imagining how he would look like
in good/better clothes?

[Lucki]

when you look at his clothes, are you imagining how he would look like
in good/better clothes?

or how he would look like without them!! sorry couldnt stop myself there! ahem

[deto]

haha :redbiggri i knew it :P i so knew it *g*

[Anubisrage]

or how he would look like without them!! sorry couldnt stop myself there! ahem
Aww your so sweetly perverted!!!
Too Cute! ^_^

[Evanesque]

I'd probably take an overall look and then see if he's nice...:redbiggri

[Anubisrage]

I'd probably take an overall look and then see if he's nice...:redbiggri
Really?
Well why would you even look anywhere else???
lol *glomps*

[Evanesque]

Well you know, just scan through and get quick flashes about things and then moving on to see if he has brains or not :redbiggri

[deto]

thats sounds pretty diplomatic, i'm gonna use that when next time someone
asks what i'd check out first :redbiggri

[pero_renji!]

Do girls when adding lots of makeup, when they paint there nails, put on earrings feel more attractive..cause for me i dont know why, painted nails and earrings are a turn off for me :E.

[Hakuoro]

Lolz. I just noticed this thread. I must have missed your request baked. I would have said yes anyways.

[Nicole]

Do girls when adding lots of makeup, when they paint there nails, put on earrings feel more attractive..cause for me i dont know why, painted nails and earrings are a turn off for me :E.

Yeah, we do....

Um, since I don't wear earring nor paint my nails unless I'm at a formal event, I can't give the best explanation of this.

But yeah, we see in the media all the so-called "beautiful women" wearing make up, nails, and stuff like that and we want to be like that, too, I suppose. I dunno, I really use make up to cover up any acne I end up getting and I think it looks good, basically.

[Mighty Aramir]

i dont mind if they actually wear a lot of things, its up to them, as long as they feel comfortable with themselves, it all might be an eye catcher, but what really matters is deep inside...

[Setsuna Ai]

Do girls when adding lots of makeup, when they paint there nails, put on earrings feel more attractive..cause for me i dont know why, painted nails and earrings are a turn off for me :E.

well to add on to the answers. No I don't feel good about myself when wearing make up or jewelry (that's why I barely wear them!). But I'm not exactly a tomboy. If a certain day comes up when I know a guy I like or want to impress somehow crosses paths with me, I would wear a bit of make up and some nice clothing and jewelry (not real ones! heavens no). It doesn't make me feel any better though, but seeing that I got attention calms me a bit.. call me an attention whore xD


I'm surprised nobody asked if a girl in here liked porn....

[SoundWave]

Okey.. another question... What do you value most out of loyality, caring and humor?

[Setsuna Ai]

Okey.. another question... What do you value most out of loyality, caring and humor?
tough one. I wouldn't want a boring husband. humor is simply important. Caring is DEFINITELY something we all need. and loyalty..man I would DIE if someone committed adultery on me. It is VERY tough. A guy is too boring and annoying if he only cares for me but doesn't want to stay with me (sleeps around) or doesn't know how to make jokes. Being an only humorous guy, it's tough not being able to touch a sensitive subject with your guy. And having only loyalty doesn't mean anything when the man doesn't love you. It either means he's obedient or plain stupid.

I can't choose!

[SoundWave]

Actually I wasn't expecting a straight answer.. hehe :p

Cuz it has to be a mix of everything, right?.. :)

[Nicole]

What do you value most out of loyality, caring and humor?

You forgot honesty. :)

[Setsuna Ai]

^I believe honesty comes with loyalty right? The only reason or explanation (I hope..or in my belief) a person would be loyal is because he is an honest person.

[Kaze.]

XD LOL! i feel lucky for the girl has you dude. you sound really nice ^_^ lol, about the late sleeping ish prolly cause they're worried for you, i mean, being tired ish really bad! ^_^ they want to see you full of energy on a date! not a guy whose rubbing his eyes constantly and yawning more then a sloth.
lol your only 13...i bet half the boys in your school can:t even talk 2 girls lol

[SoundWave]

elo: Aye.. *slaps forehead*..

Pretty important too.. x)

SZ: Depends I guess..

[Tablo.]

Do girls when adding lots of makeup, when they paint there nails, put on earrings feel more attractive..cause for me i dont know why, painted nails and earrings are a turn off for me :E.
Well, we do feel more attractive. Yes, we do. (I'm a girl here) But only SOME of us.
I don't really like makeup. They feel like an iron mask. UGH.

But then, if I paint my nails eventually, I would paint them plain black. Not because to feel more attractive. Because I like it that way.


Okey.. another question... What do you value most out of loyality, caring and humor?

NONE.

Don't plan to marry to someone anymore. I don't want the so-called 'soulmate'. Serious Relationship is bastard. Pregnant is another bastard. Single is god.

NO OFFENSE HERE. I just don't like it when girls all suffer being pregnant and letting the kid get out of the ass. Rather liked it when I could change my gender. NO SKIRTS ANYMORE, WOOHOO!!!

Yes, army/camouflage jeans rules. Blouses, purses, makeups, and skirts drools.

No breast either! HAH!(for god's sakes, this is random.)

[Icestorm]

Hmm that sounds.... interesting. I have a question then for you more specifically, how old are you?


I think it amusing how you think of pregnancy as suffering.. when in the end what comes of pregnancy could be said to be one of the most amazing things in life. Some people regret it.. most people dont in the end. Thats the facts. But I guess its your life.

[Evanesque]

Do girls when adding lots of makeup, when they paint there nails, put on earrings feel more attractive..cause for me i dont know why, painted nails and earrings are a turn off for me :E.

I guess girls feel a bit more confident when they paint their faces and cover all the flawful marks on their skin. They feel more attractive since they don't have to worry about who's staring at those horrible dark dark circles around your eye.

I honestly don't understand the relationship with women and make up. There are many who refuse to step out without wearing any, and I, being a female myself, just don't get it.

I don't wear make up at all, I find it odd...I've always thought that make up is either for clowns (XD) or it's for bad looking people who need cover up their ugliness (not that I'm pointing anything out in particular)...:redbiggri



Okey.. another question... What do you value most out of loyality, caring and humor?

I value loyalty..it's okie if the guy isn't lovey dovey or not funny, just knowing the fact that he's only yours and won't stray towards other women is one hell of a big deal to me. It makes the woman feel secure about her relationship.

If there's a woman who doesn't question your loyalty to her then she probably doesn't care about you as much as you think. She likes you but doesn't love you...she's just with you for the time being and she knows that your relationship won't last.

That's why, it's nice to show men how much they're wanted. The only thing is some women don't really know how to do that and end up appearing overpossessive and suffocating to the guy and thus leading to misunderstanding.

Most women get insecure because they love the guy they're with very much and doesn't want to risk losing him. It's only out of love...she can't control it, it's natural to get jealous and drag the guy away from other women to make it loud and clear that the guy belongs to her...:redbiggri

[Kibe]

1) i hate makeup. i believe in natural beauty, beauty ish inside, not outside. i wear earrings because i have too, and i wear tiny ones, not huge dangly circle ones. X_x. i'm too afraid of someone or something getting caught in it and pulling it down. ouch.

2) Loyalty, cause in the end, you find that persons personality.

[SoundWave]

That's why, it's nice to show men how much they're wanted. The only thing is some women don't really know how to do that and end up appearing overpossessive and suffocating to the guy and thus leading to misunderstanding.

I've actually seen the reverse, my cousin's ex told him that he was suffocating her.. >.>.. Cuz he was like with her 24/7, so I can understand why she said that.

[Thelindra]

@makeup: i dun do makeup, i go out on the streets without it XD but i love doing my nails, its an art for me.

@Loyalty: Which girl doesnt wan a guys that stay true to her all life? Which is hard to find cuz men are kinda fickle by nature :p

[Setsuna Ai]

Well, we do feel more attractive. Yes, we do. (I'm a girl here) But only SOME of us.
I don't really like makeup. They feel like an iron mask. UGH.
But then, if I paint my nails eventually, I would paint them plain black. Not because to feel more attractive. Because I like it that way.
NONE.
Don't plan to marry to someone anymore. I don't want the so-called 'soulmate'. Serious Relationship is bastard. Pregnant is another bastard. Single is god.
NO OFFENSE HERE. I just don't like it when girls all suffer being pregnant and letting the kid get out of the ass. Rather liked it when I could change my gender. NO SKIRTS ANYMORE, WOOHOO!!!
Yes, army/camouflage jeans rules. Blouses, purses, makeups, and skirts drools.
No breast either! HAH!(for god's sakes, this is random.)
pregnancy is a beautiful thing O_O.

[Lucki]

i wear make-up if i am dressing up and going somewhere nice, but just a little color, i never really paint my nails, i do nail art on my mum's though. liking make-up depends on how you apply it, you can just apply a little bit to brighten your complection if your ill, or hide a bruise, but its kinda ugh when girls apply loads to hide their spots and it is like a mask, a girl i know always does that coz she is insecure, but it sooo didnt help when people called her an ompa loompa coz she applied so much and went orange :/!!..

Loyalty: i wouldnt want to be cheated on, loyalty is important to me in bf, lovers and just friends since without it there would be no trust and that is apparently the most important thing in a relationship

[♥ Tess]

Okey.. another question... What do you value most out of loyality, caring and humor?

Humor #1 for me

Right now, I don't want to be in a clingy relationship.
So loyalty would be last at the moment.
I want to have fun when i'm young.

people get serious way too early.
talking about love when your 15

when i'm older or more mature, i'll probably feel differently

[bbnflpn]

for me the make up thing is recent, and im over 30. i hate the stuff, and i wear it usually only when i go to work. i love to have my nails done, i like to have pretty hands, it is also because i use it for some me time, one thing i do for my self. i usually get a pedicure once a year or so, im over due for one this year though its been almost 2 since my last one,

[Kimochi]

i hate make up. the first time i tried it feels so hot like it's burning!! after that i don't use it any longer.
girls can be very loyal at times but not all girls are not very different to men in loyalty. they are the same.
the difference between man and a woman is their feelings.. woman tend to be more sensitive.. man is more rough like..
woman loves a man who can protect them in needs.. woman wants a good sense of humour man.. so that they enjoy every minute with them..

[Mighty Aramir]

I'm a guy (and straight), but i have played a few parts in theater plays, and to me there is nothing more uncomfortable than wearing make up, or something like that, i feel like my face is drowning... and I do paint my nails, I paint them black, black as coal, black as night!!!*zones out with the song*
So, anyways, in the end, as long as you ladies feel comfortable and sure about how you look, everything else is unimportant, especially people's comments (they suck)

[candyb3ar]

lol plain and simple girls dress up for other girls when it comes down to make up, nails, or even the clothes you choose to wear, cause i am sorry no man has the same appreciation for the time spent on your nails or "putting your face on", he's never gonna know when you spent 200$ on the shoes your wearing or 20$, only other women do...
same way guys work out, and do fancy stuff with their cars, they do it to look good infront of other dudes, cause i am sorry but i can appreciate a good set of pectorial muscles or biseps, nor do i know a heck alot about cars, im like "i like the blue one"...0_o

[Anubisrage]

I think that make up is uneeded, a woman can use make up though not to cover her complexion but to bring it out. Nail can be fun when done nicely, and I dont really mind if the girl wears nail polish. As in loyalty... I think that the guys needs to be loyal, caring, loving, funny, easy going and himself. I dont think that we guys can always be like that... especially with girls, cause we can be VERY easy going with guys knowing that they are not judging you, so you can relax... I can only be like that with a girl if I know her and we are close friends... I hope my gf is satisfied with me...
<.<
>.>
^.^

[Frozensolid]

Well i got a few questions^^

Why do girls/women love to try all sort of clothes on and are picky while shopping?(i know not everyone does it but most of the female friends i know are like that)

Whats with jewelry cause i still dont understand why my sister loves it so much:/(im a blind dumbass when it comes to those things i actually never notice if someone wears earrings etc.)

[A2k]

lol plain and simple girls dress up for other girls when it comes down to make up, nails, or even the clothes you choose to wear, cause i am sorry no man has the same appreciation for the time spent on your nails or "putting your face on", he's never gonna know when you spent 200$ on the shoes your wearing or 20$, only other women do...
same way guys work out, and do fancy stuff with their cars, they do it to look good infront of other dudes, cause i am sorry but i can appreciate a good set of pectorial muscles or biseps, nor do i know a heck alot about cars, im like "i like the blue one"...0_o

Quoted for being poorly bound by stereotypes.

I'm sorry but that was the most ridiculous bullsh!t I've ever read. I know of two guys, who every female these two guys know, ask THEM if they look ok to go out the way they are, before making the final preparations to leave.

I am one of the two, the other is one of my best mates. His sister for one example, will ask us both (one or the other if one isn't there) if she looks ok how she's dressed, make up, boots, hair...everything, and we decide whether or not she's dolled up right.

Obviously she has style, it's not like she's too simple to decide for herself, but every woman will not be able to deny that they've gone to someone at some point and asked for a final opinion or some form of confirmation as to if she is suited in her outfit, or needs to change something.

An example: no, no no no nope...change the jeans, with that...wear those cream ones instead. If you're going to put those on then either the open cut boots or change the top to match the boots you have on.

After hearing something like that she would go upstairs, try the jeans on, see we were right in one form or another, decide that she had a better pair of boots for those jeans we picked out, change them and then decide to change the top to suit both the jeans and the boots.

Now...if that isn't noticing and having an appreciation for how a woman prepares herself, then why would she and her freinds say that the likes of he and I should have been gay since we actually know our stuff?

I know where you're coming from candyb3ar, but not everyone is like that, some people do actually give a toss enough to take the time to notice, to actually appreciate the efforts taken.

[bbnflpn]

well the clothes thing is different for every one.

for me i have a hard time fitting things to my body as my top half is much larger than my bottom half. so i have to make sure that things fit me right. and if i get a botton down type shirt i have to make sure that it is not too tight as sometimes the bottons pop, and forget snaps at all (i did have an embarrasing snap moment)

also for styles, there was a time when i didnt buy any clothes cause the styles were so lame that i couldnt handle it.

most of the time, i pretty much know what i want, but the time is in finding clothes that actually fit. 95% of the time i have to buy half my clothes in the womens department and the other half in the misses section. which makes matching things even harder. and forget about bathing suits. i dont feel comfortable wearing a 2 peice just yet and the 1 peices dont fit me right at all. on top of it i have to buy raceing suits since they have built in bras.

as for jewerly, i love it, i always have necklaces on and rings. all of my jewerly has meaning to it, and i will adjust what i wear with what need i have for what im doing. most of the time i have a laboridite pendant and a sugilite pendant which both help with repelling negativity and stop psychic vampireisim (they both have many meanings) i do have a few that are just pretty, they are my gothic chokers which i love.

mostly its just shiney and pretty yay.

[Thelindra]

@frozensoild: of cuz we are picky, we are paying for it, and we want to look good :p and if we are not picky, we will need a bigger wardrobe to store all those unpicky stuff XD accessories are used to improve our "Look of the day" so accessories worn today might not be suitable for tml, so more varitey means more ways to mix and match ^.<

[Evanesque]

Women are very picky when shopping maybe because they want to get the best thing regardless of how much it costs. I think it might be a teeny bit shameful to say that I don't really care about clothes so much. I mean as long I have something on that covers my body, I'm fine with it...of course something in a colour that's not bright and blinding to myself.

Jewellery..there's another thing I don't understand myself. Ok maybe once in a while it's cute to wear small studs in your ear or a simple bracelet, but when you wear a lot of things at the same time, it's looks odd. Are you trying to show how much jewellery you own or what?

Me, I usually wear my dragon necklace or the one with the bullet pendant (that was my bf's), sometimes wear this one lil ring on my left finger and rarely wear this chinese bracelet one of my guy friends gave me for my b'day. I barely wear earrings, I wore small (literally teeny) studs on my ears for two days and just removed it.

I'm not much of a jewellery person, I do like the necklaces with dragon pendants but I don't wear them much, I'm more of a collector than wearer =/

[chiriyuku]

Do girls when adding lots of makeup, when they paint there nails, put on earrings feel more attractive..cause for me i dont know why, painted nails and earrings are a turn off for me :E.

I'm a regular makeup user and I think I look better with makeup on. So that's a DEFINTE YES. As for little stuff like nail polish and earrings.... my bf doens't particularly like nail polish (coz he's worried i might get upset if he accidently scratches it or something) and generally doens't really appreciate small accessories. But I still wear it and all coz I like it.... I think the accessories look good. While I don't think I'm more attractive with the accessories on, I just feel more girly.


Okey.. another question... What do you value most out of loyality, caring and humor?


Uhhhhh... I don't think it's possible to date a person who's missing one of those qualities. ^^;; But if i had to pick, i think the order for me would be caring, loyalty then humour.

[SoundWave]

Hmm.. let's see .. I dunno if this has been asked.. Do you have an image of a dream guy or have you already met yours, then what's he like?..

[Pink_Paper_Heart]

To the latest question...

When we reach a certain age of "womanhood", yes, we do have an idea of how a man would appeal to us. It changes over the course in our lives but the few points that will stay are:

Love
Honesty
Trust (something which i am still struggling to give my darling since it's hard for me..)

When we meet someone, we tend to tick their characteristics off in our ideal-list. But as usual, we are not perfect so we are realistic to understand that our man isn't too.

[silverwolf801]

Um ok do girls think about guys 24/7 like most guys do about girls or do they have something else to think about.

[Thelindra]

hmm.....I used to have a dream that involes my dream guy, but the image is blurred so i kinda nv really saw him or anything like that XD

Edit: yea we had other things to think abt, at least i do XD

[silverwolf801]

My english teacher said thet everytime us teens/boys or whatever have intercourse with females we take a little something away from them.She said that we just take and leave. So does it make you emotionally sad when you have intercourse.

[Thelindra]

hmmm.........that i am unable to answer cause nv did it be4 XD

let me guess.....maybe u take away a girl's....pride? dignity? bah someone else answer this >_>;

[bbnflpn]

My english teacher said thet everytime us teens/boys or whatever have intercourse with females we take a little something away from them.She said that we just take and leave. So does it make you emotionally sad when you have intercourse.
sounds like your teacher doesnt think much of sex, as sex it self.

sex is a deep bonding experience, however it is also other things as well. for me i always ended up sleeping with my male friends because i wanted to be closer with them, it did not take anything away from me, not my dignity or my self respect, and i have been with quite a few guys in my time (considering im over 30) it only added to my self, i took a peice of them with me rather, as i am sure they took a peice of me in the same way. one of love and careing as well as a intimate moment we shared that is only for us. even if the person ended not to be someone that i wanted to be with, i still have that part with me.

i have never held my self to the christian values so to speak, sex for me was somthing that was a gift from the gods that must be shared with those who you care about, i wrote a blog about it, in my spiritual practice there is a holiday we celebrate called beltane, it is all about sex and the fertility of the earth here is the blog entry if you are interested
http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&FriendID=32199045&blogMonth=5&blogDay=1&blogYear=2006

peoples views on sex are so hush hush that its soemthing that we should be ashamed of, when the truth is that no one would be here with out sex or some sort of sexual act, even if you are a test tube baby. it sickens me to think that people use sex as a weapon, to make people feel ashamed of them selfs because of who they are, or to deny themselfs the fact that they are human and have urges. that its a naughty thing to do, and that it should only be done with someone your married too.

if you do it, do it, becareful about it, and if you do not feel right doing it with someone then dont do it. if they force you its rape, if you are coerced in to doing it while you are intoxicated its rape, infact in the state of califorina if you have sex with anyone while intoxicated (male or female) consenting or not it is considered rape.

if you are sexually active protect your self with condoms and other barrier devices to help prevent std and pregnacy. if you are with some one dont stop using them till you have been monogomus for a year and tested clean for the same amount of time. if that person doensnt seem to be trustworthy then do not stop using them, get on birth control as well, it does help

sorry i went off on a little rant there. i hope that answered your question, if not ill try to redirect my answer.

[Evanesque]

Hmm.. let's see .. I dunno if this has been asked.. Do you have an image of a dream guy or have you already met yours, then what's he like?..

Nope while all the girls around me were dreaming about the perfect man, I didn't even bring myself to do that. I had a very low self-esteem when I was younger. I felt stupid, dumb and a lot of things. I didn't dare myself to think about men because I used to think I'd never get a chance with them.

I never believed in love. I'd already planned my future to be an old woman on a rocking chairs feeding kitties. Everytime i heard a friend talking about how dependant she was on the guy and how miserable he made her, I told myself never to be like that. It's pathetic...I didn't want to be pathetic...

Well so I completely gave up the typical having a bf thing and went on to concentrate on other things like my girl friends, pets, everything else around but guys.

I've only recently broadened my perspectives on the entire issue...that is, when my bf came along in Jan 2006...everything just changed. I've never fallen head over heels for any guy but my bf is something else. He's different and he's just the only one who literally takes my breath away..*shrugs* I have no idea what happened or what he did to make me feel this way..

I think I've strayed away from the question. I think it's safe to say my bf aka, Anubisrage is my dream man. He's smart, funny, sweet, respectful, wise, adorable, tough, sensitive, stubborn, level-headed, cute, loyal, loving, caring, helpful, knows how to cook (cha-ching!), good sense of judgement, silly, a little protective and very over possessive (<3), loves animals, has a mind of his own, sensible, understanding, compassionate, friendly, shy, polite, trustworthy and last but not least, he's my best friend.

I love him very much <3

[A2k]

To the latest question...
When we reach a certain age of "womanhood", yes, we do have an idea of how a man would appeal to us. It changes over the course in our lives but the few points that will stay are:
Love
Honesty
Trust (something which i am still struggling to give my darling since it's hard for me..)
When we meet someone, we tend to tick their characteristics off in our ideal-list. But as usual, we are not perfect so we are realistic to understand that our man isn't too.

I have never sought to "understand" women, since I am well aware that to "understand" would be an unfathomable conquest to go down in history. ^_~

But in seriousness, usually it is my position to give out the information, the advice, give the overview from experience, or simply explain how it really is, but for some reason after reading PPH's post I found myself so very inquisitive, and searching for an answer.

For once I'm on the receiving end of where I might normally dish out the information, whilst now I sit here effectively kneeling, in wonder at the post you made.

Love, honesty and trust, in your opinion are 3 things that women in general would look for in a man?

Would you say that was a guess at a sweeping generalisation?

ie. you evidentally can't speak for women as a unified being, are you surmising this from experience and knowledge, or is that your opinion based solely on your life, and needs?

I don't mean to sound rude if that came off rude, I am for some reason genuinely curious, about this particular post PPH.

[EDIT:] I was going to wait until I got an answer but I might not get an answer, so I'll explain why I asked anyway;

reading those 3 things made me feel intensely warm inside, as all 3 are something I cannot live without and as such adhere naturally to 2 of them, and simply live naturally in 1.

I do not associate with liars, as such honesty is key.

Trust is something I value highly, an extension of loyalty in many a respect and as such I relay the very same to others as I would expect to be given to me.

Love, I cannot truly say I have any absolute hate, and have only just realised that striking difference between a "first love" ("only love")and that which I think I might understand more now 7 years on in life as actual love.

I could care less how idealistic that makes me sound, I know the truth in my heart, and you have just been given it straight from the source.

[Nicole]

Hmm.. let's see .. I dunno if this has been asked.. Do you have an image of a dream guy or have you already met yours, then what's he like?..

Umm... I personally don't. Like, I have qualities I would like in a guy, as in being taller than me, smart, be able to fit my personality...

But I normally don't go out looking for the "perfect guy". I just meet guys, and if I happen to find a suitable guy, I'll go for it, though I'm rather picky.

Right now, my guy is about the same height as me, our personalities somehow mix although we are literally opposites, he's very smart, and although he may seem like a bad person on the outside, he's not all that bad when you get to know him.


Um ok do girls think about guys 24/7 like most guys do about girls or do they have something else to think about.

Haha. Of course we do. =)

I'd answer your other question, but I don't feel I can since I'm still a virgin and all. =\

[A2k]

Elo, that's not a bad thing at all. It's nice to know that not all people throw themselves into rampant sex.

Man...someone must have fed me a truth drug or something this morning cos this is going to far, but so relevant to your comment Elo so here it is;

Tonight, my girlfriend has one night off work before going back to work for one night and then having one week off.

Now she has already told me that she is going out with some friends and will probably be slightly drunk by the time I see her. She asked me if this was ok, and I nearly throttled her: that she would ask me if it's ok. Of course it's ok damit, I have no desire to control her, she makes her own choices.

That however isn't the point, the point is, she then went on to explain that she gets excessively horny when drunk.

Now I haven't discussed this with her as of yet, since I'm hoping I wont have to, but should it come to it, we talk about everything, and we do talk a hell of a lot. So should it come to it I will talk to her the same way I am explaining it now; I haven't had sex with her, and in all honesty I don't wish for our first time together to be when she is in a drunken stupor, albeit that her horniness might perhaps add to the fun.

*RE-reads post*

Bah...someone definately slipped me a truth serum today. >_<;;;

[Nicole]

Wow. =\

Yeah, I've had male friends explain to me over and over how girls come on to them, and they end up doing stuff because they're... well... guys.

I dunno what else to say other than communication is key and I feel it's best to talk to her about it... >_>;

[bbnflpn]

yah dont have your first time when she is drunk, its no good that way.

however later on, i love to have sex when drunk, my boyfriend loves it if i have had a few shots i get alittle bit more bold i guess, not bold in what i do but bold because i am usually in alot of pain so i hold back. when im buzzed i get alittle out of control.

last christmas i went and got a bottle of vodka and some condoms and slipped my self a few vicoden and he about freaked out with what i did to him. it seems that quite a few guys like it when im like that.

[Evanesque]

@bbn: Gosh the things you must've done to him ;)
As long as you enjoyed it, it's fine :redbiggri

[A2k]

*pokes posts*

Just in case there was or was not any misunderstanding since we were previously discussing Elo's virginity...I said "our" first time, not my first time.

That was probably clarified already, but I'm just making sure. ^_~

...and I know, I really do. I hope if things do go that way tonight either

a) She doesn't end up getting drunk, or since she probably will as she hasn't had a social drink in a long time,

b) I simply tell her flat out no.

...and hope she isn't offended after I talk it over with her. ~_~

[deto]

b) I simply tell her flat out no.
...and hope she isn't offended after I talk it over with her. ~_~

she might. but if, then just for the moment. the next day will look alot
different. so don't burden yourself with too much thoughts about it.

[bbnflpn]

i didnt think it was your first time or hers but you together. she will probably not take it too well when shes drunk but explain it to her the next day that you did it out of respect for her and that you want your first time to be special, and that you would rather her not to be drunk for that.

yah i did have alot of fun, unfortunatly i got him alittle over excited and well too spent to continue (im a bit hard to get off) but he had a few big "O's" he loves it when i give him multiples lol. he was so worn out that he couldnt move for a little while, and by the time he could move he just got up to pee and then fell asleep when he got back to the bed.

most guys cant handle me, im alittle bit too talented i guess you can say.

[Evanesque]

It's nice to hear you can be very confident about yourself ^^

Most people would be embarrassed to share details as you have..I can see that you're very experienced...and I'm stating the obvious because you are after all, in your 30's.

Adults should be more open, that way they can teach those younger than them the do's and don'ts about intimacy so they won't make any 'accidental' mistakes ..:)

[bbnflpn]

i agree, that is why i am very open about things that have happend to me, im sure that it has gotten me in to trouble at times but at least i know i told the truth and if some one doesnt want to hear it then well they should not be paying attention to me. i will tell the truth to every one no matter how old they are, and everyone that i talk to on the net i treat as my equal. with respect, as if they were the same age as me or older. i was actually a forum guide for the health and beauty section because i am the way i am. i also have odd knowladge about medical type things and many other things to help people with issues that they ahve.

actually im suppose to write a book about some of the things i do (sexually) as well as one about my life up too this point as i have lived a very odd one.

my friends say i suffer from TMI disease. but if i can help some one through my story then i feel i have done some good in this world.

[Evanesque]

Oh sure I'd say go for the book, it'll do women as well as men a lot of good! ^_^

I'm encouraging you to start working on it already. There are very few adults who are open about such things and we need someone to say things flat out! And who can be better than the person who's experienced many things, gone through great and tough times.

Good luck with everything bbn! :)

[chiriyuku]

@A2k.... you're such a gentlemen.. =]

My dream guy:
I'm not gonna bother stating the super obvious (nice, trustworthy, patient, etc).
- Smart/Opinionated: My friends say I'm pretty political so I need to be able to talk to my ideal man bout stuff that I'm interested in and have an opinion on. Of course, he has to be intelligent enough to have an opinion for himself too.
- Kid at heart: I'm pretty immature sometmes, I still love playing twister.... so he needs to be fun enough to play with me.
- Different: I want him to think outside the box...

And I've already met my soulmate... but he dones't make a big effort to get to know my family and friends and I've always considered that to be an obvious dream quality. Despite that, I still think he's a GREAT/WONDERFUL/AMAZING catch. ^_______^

[deto]

lot of things will catch your eye, only few things will catch your heart, pursue these.

i will tell the truth to every one no matter how old they are, and everyone that i talk to on the net i treat as my equal. with respect, as if they were the same age as me or older.

the fact that you actually do that is great. i think everyone can learn a little
something from another one, disregarding age and other things. lot's of
people would act different if the one they're talking to would be right in
front of them, because they're shy, embarassed, or just afraid of a reaction.

[bbnflpn]

thanks eva, i just have to kick my self in the butt to start them. always when i am about ready to go to bed or doing something where i am no where near the puter do i get ideas about the books. ill start them soon i know that, i just dont know when.

*edit* new post that came up while i was posting

even in real life i do the same, people know they an be open and honest about sensitive things with me because i will look at them unbiased no matter what they have done.

[deto]

always when i am about ready to go to bed or doing something where i am no where near the puter do i get ideas about the books. ill start them soon i know that, i just dont know when.

put a pen and a piece of paper beside your bed ;) (or keep it with you)

[bbnflpn]

if i did that i would never get to bed lol. like now, and i did edit my post to reply to you since you posted while i was posting i didnt see it.

[hasuke]

Now here's a real doozy. And the answer itself is probably chalked up to instinct and natural habits, but,

Why the hell do girls consistently go after guys who treat them like complete and utter shit meant for nothing more than sex, and then ***** and moan to some nice guy like me and say "I WISH I HAD A BOYFRIEND LIKE YOU!" and then wind up taking the jerk back every single time. Eventually she leaves him, and never gets a nice guy, but another jerk.

ALSO,

Why is it that women claim all men are shallow pigs who think about nothing but sex, when from my experience, it seems every single girl I know bases relationships solely on how good the sex is/if there's any sex involved at all?

(Example: Girl is all over me and interested. She finds out I am a virgin. I ask her out. She declines because I'm a virgin, despite us having so much in common)

Is it just bad Californian juju?


Signed,
Spiteful Single Virgin FULL OF RAAAAAAGE

[pantiffel]

first, if a guy would treat me like shit or humiliate me he would never make a chance with me ... but I guess there are just some girls who are 'blinded by love'. Sometimes they only see the good in a person and ignore the bad ...

second, there are girls, like there are boys, that only think about one thing. Sounds like you know the wrong girls :p but everybody talks about sex the difference is in 'how' you talk about it. Boys who act like 'kids' when they talk about sex really irritate me ...
and realtionships based on sex are doomed to fail ... cause a real relationship starts with falling in love with each other ... I don't think people fall in love with the sex

And if a girl won't go out with you just because you're a virgin then she isn't worth it. If a boy would ask me out I won't be interested in the fact he is a virgin or not ... I would be interested in if he's a nice guy

and this is my opinion on those things ^^

[Nicole]

Why the hell do girls consistently go after guys who treat them like complete and utter shit meant for nothing more than sex, and then ***** and moan to some nice guy like me and say "I WISH I HAD A BOYFRIEND LIKE YOU!" and then wind up taking the jerk back every single time. Eventually she leaves him, and never gets a nice guy, but another jerk.

Well, depending on the girl, I'd say that she's still emotionally attached to the guy. The fact that you mentioned they have had sex suggests to me that she may have lost her virginity to the guy and because of that holds him in high regard to an extent. But it's possible that she had a sentimental attachment to the first guy.

Second guy. I can't say I know for sure what's up with that. But maybe she likes jerks in general? =\

I honestly don't know why girls are like this, although I am guilty of this (I've dated nice guys and went for jerky ones), but some girls prefer jerky guys over the nice ones.


Why is it that women claim all men are shallow pigs who think about nothing but sex, when from my experience, it seems every single girl I know bases relationships solely on how good the sex is/if there's any sex involved at all?

(Example: Girl is all over me and interested. She finds out I am a virgin. I ask her out. She declines because I'm a virgin, despite us having so much in common)

My speculation is that girls don't want to flat out seem like sluts. When in reality, I will honestly say that there are women out there who can get hornier than the guys. But because society has labeled a girl who enjoys sex and has sex a lot as a negative connotation (AKA slut), a woman doesn't want to admit to the public that she enjoys it. And that may be why she claims that men are 'pigs who can only think about sex' (Projection, anyone? :P)

However, we, as women, know that sex with one person in a relationship is good, and therefore, once we are in a relationship where we can have all the wonderful sex there is and not have the slut-label, we are happy.


Is it just bad Californian juju?


Mmm... can't say for sure. Don't live in Cali. =\

[Pink_Paper_Heart]

I have never sought to "understand" women, since I am well aware that to "understand" would be an unfathomable conquest to go down in history. ^_~
But in seriousness, usually it is my position to give out the information, the advice, give the overview from experience, or simply explain how it really is, but for some reason after reading PPH's post I found myself so very inquisitive, and searching for an answer.
For once I'm on the receiving end of where I might normally dish out the information, whilst now I sit here effectively kneeling, in wonder at the post you made.
Love, honesty and trust, in your opinion are 3 things that women in general would look for in a man?
Would you say that was a guess at a sweeping generalisation?
ie. you evidentally can't speak for women as a unified being, are you surmising this from experience and knowledge, or is that your opinion based solely on your life, and needs?
I don't mean to sound rude if that came off rude, I am for some reason genuinely curious, about this particular post PPH.
[EDIT:] I was going to wait until I got an answer but I might not get an answer, so I'll explain why I asked anyway;
reading those 3 things made me feel intensely warm inside, as all 3 are something I cannot live without and as such adhere naturally to 2 of them, and simply live naturally in 1.
I do not associate with liars, as such honesty is key.
Trust is something I value highly, an extension of loyalty in many a respect and as such I relay the very same to others as I would expect to be given to me.
Love, I cannot truly say I have any absolute hate, and have only just realised that striking difference between a "first love" ("only love")and that which I think I might understand more now 7 years on in life as actual love.
I could care less how idealistic that makes me sound, I know the truth in my heart, and you have just been given it straight from the source.

As for your questions. I believe that the three main points for any relationships are Love, honesty, and trust. When I mean any relationships I refer to frienship and kin ship too.

As for putting those three points in this context, I believe it's the basis for any couple. As in it should be a basic requisite as I think everyone would agreed that these 3 go hand-in-hand with one another.

And then you will have your other ideal expectations for your man/woman... eg, must be self-sufficient (this is very important for both sexes, love cannot survive alone with funds), confident...etc. And the more OTT ones like, must be tanned of a certain shade, big guns...yada..

[chiriyuku]

Why the hell do girls consistently go after guys who treat them like complete and utter shit meant for nothing more than sex, and then ***** and moan to some nice guy like me and say "I WISH I HAD A BOYFRIEND LIKE YOU!" and then wind up taking the jerk back every single time. Eventually she leaves him, and never gets a nice guy, but another jerk.


I think it does go down to bad dating choices... some people just pick the wrong qualities in guys sometimes.

Why is it that women claim all men are shallow pigs who think about nothing but sex, when from my experience, it seems every single girl I know bases relationships solely on how good the sex is/if there's any sex involved at all?

(Example: Girl is all over me and interested. She finds out I am a virgin. I ask her out. She declines because I'm a virgin, despite us having so much in common)


Are you sure she declined because of that single reason? :eek13:

Well in my experience, a lot of girls I know tend to get mad and think those exact thoughts when guys show no interest in THEM (as in their personality) unless sex is a possibility.

Considering sex is a part of most serious relationship, you want to make sure it's good before you dive into a serious relationship. You don't want you sex life to flat line afterwards... ^^;; But again, you need to know the guy is interested in your personality as well as the sex.

[Thelindra]

Why the hell do girls consistently go after guys who treat them like complete and utter shit meant for nothing more than sex, and then ***** and moan to some nice guy like me and say "I WISH I HAD A BOYFRIEND LIKE YOU!" and then wind up taking the jerk back every single time. Eventually she leaves him, and never gets a nice guy, but another jerk.

i think u are down on luck >_>; and met the wrong girls <_<; oh well, i dun think girls at my country do this (not that i know of)

Why is it that women claim all men are shallow pigs who think about nothing but sex, when from my experience, it seems every single girl I know bases relationships solely on how good the sex is/if there's any sex involved at all?
i think its the other way round for my area =/ maybe u been mixing with the wrong group of girls.

[hasuke]

Are you sure she declined because of that single reason? :eek13:

Considering sex is a part of most serious relationship, you want to make sure it's good before you dive into a serious relationship.

Yup. She told me flat out "We wouldn't work out...you're a virgin, so the sex would be really bad..."

And in response to your second part, so I'm basically fucked out of a relationship because I've never had sex, therefore the sex will not be good. But how will i get better at sex if I never have it? It's kinda like a girl saying "get more confidence!" and then tearing into you, shattering said confidence. A vicious conundrum.

[chiriyuku]

That's pretty.... stupid.... I think you just lucked out with that chick.

Well, I never said ALL girls think like that. There are alot of girls out that that care bout sex but are willing to let that part of the relationship improve with time and advice.

And just coz you're a virgin doesn't necessarily imply that you're gonna be horrible the first time. Heck, you could be really good for all you know. So don't let that worry you.

[♥ Tess]

hmm... @ being good on your 1st time.
*pictures my hymen breaking and blood dripping*

-.- still sounds like a scary & painful experience to me.
unless you meant guys

[chiriyuku]

LOL. Personally, I think it can be good for both guys and girls.

[silverwolf801]

Yup. She told me flat out "We wouldn't work out...you're a virgin, so the sex would be really bad..."
And in response to your second part, so I'm basically fucked out of a relationship because I've never had sex, therefore the sex will not be good. But how will i get better at sex if I never have it? It's kinda like a girl saying "get more confidence!" and then tearing into you, shattering said confidence. A vicious conundrum.
Look my friends gave me pointers on things like this. This is totally opitional though mainly for guys because I don't think women would degrade themselves like this. Anyway just have sex with a couple of girls that you don't like until you get better and than go for the girl that you like that way you will have enough experience to rock her world.

[Ronin36]

Why do 50 girls all go for the same guy, even when they know he's already spoken for? I can let go of a girl for a while if she's taken. Why do they just continue to swarm a guy, even when he's with his GF?

[chiriyuku]

They continue to swarm in hopes that his current relationship is not a serious one and even if it is, they hope that he'll see that they are a better choice than his current gf.

[Nicole]

Why do 50 girls all go for the same guy, even when they know he's already spoken for? I can let go of a girl for a while if she's taken. Why do they just continue to swarm a guy, even when he's with his GF?

Well, they're not being rational. And because of that, they believe that he'll break up with the GF and go with them...

lol... that was more of a middle school/early HS thing for me, though. =\

[♥ Tess]

lol ronin.
it's probably what elocin said.

it's more like a middle-school/high-school groupie thing.
can't picture a bunch of older females acting like that... (well, to that degree)

i guess its in the hope to get noticed by that person. for them to see your face, wave or even say hi to you. being in his essence or simply part of the crowd. (shrugs...)

[Sandal Hat]

I have a question.

What kind of rotation should I put into my hips when I am fornicating. Also, do you prefer deep penetration or half-ins?

[Pink_Paper_Heart]

i think this should belong to a 18+ group...

deep-ones are good btw...

[angelicdesire]

deep penetration is good...but sometimes going half in is good also, but then again it depends on how fast ur going...etc.

but deep penetration...ftw

[Thelindra]

this thread is getting quite mature content X_x

anyway, if the girl just wan sex only, i highly doubt the relationship will go very far....doubt >_>;

[bbnflpn]

as for the girl who wouldnt go out with a virgin cause the sex would be bad. i guess im different i perfer virginal type guys cause then i can teach them how to pleasure me properly. she probably doesnt realize that yet.

as for the hip rotation thing, different techniques are always good, you do not have to do the same thing all the time, vary it so that different pressures and penatrations are felt, and she will tell you which one feels better. my boyfriend does this for me (like i said im hard to get off) and i will tell him which feels best at that time since each time for me is different, and if im in control, then i will do different moves to feel different pleasures (me on top)

[Evanesque]

Deep is teh best, vaginal is way better than the other stuff.

@Shin: Thinking your hymen breaking might be scary but it doesn't hurt one bit.

[Lust]

wow pentration lol this is indeed 18+
question!!!
how to make a girl treat a guy less cold?

[Unholy]

Why am I like "Hey, Wanna ****?" and then the girl slaps me, it just makes no sense, I'm an idiot and I can't use my brain and stop complaining about stupid bullshit that is common sense. Go me!

[Thelindra]

wow pentration lol this is indeed 18+
question!!!
how to make a girl treat a guy less cold?
do the things that she like. For example if she likes to be elft alone, let it be. If she hates jerks, dun be one, if she like compliments throw it at her.

this questions varies with the girl =/

[Unholy]

wow pentration lol this is indeed 18+
question!!!
how to make a girl treat a guy less cold?

How about not killing her kittens and punching her in the face? Wait no, just your personality would turn a girl away! RUN!!!!!!

[Evanesque]

how to make a girl treat a guy less cold?

Respect her, pay attention but not too much attention...
Remember one thing though, no two girls are alike, so thinking 'oh she might fall for this joke just like the last one did' might not work.

Every girl has her own ways of treating a guy. Some prefer jerks, some like immature idiots, others like players or moody guys or gentlemen. Just like there are different types of guys, there are different types of girls..

[bbnflpn]

who said hymens brakeing dont hurt.

its differnt for every one, for me it was very painful and very bloody, the poor guy couldnt even brake it, he wouldnt be with me after that i guess he felt less of a man because he couldnt do it. i bled for 3 days.

but every one is different there will be some who went through alot of pain like me and some that will not go through as much or even any at all.

it is true that the hymen can brake before sexual penatration occurs, so then the penatration will be much less painful (i say less painful because you are still moving muscles that you have never used even to hold in a tampon.) even if you have not had sex for a while it can be painful, for me sex is almost always painful because those muscles are always tight for some reason, but they loosen up after a few mins and i dont feel much discomfort.

and for girls who havent had sex, you will probably be over tense, causing even more of an issue, bottom line you wont know till it happens. dont be to worried about it, sex is a beautiful thing.

as for girls being less cold, every one of us is different and will have different additudes torward men. some will be offish and some will not. so in essence there is no real answer to this question since, one thing may turn a girl to be less cold torward you and ding the same thing might make it worse. treat everyone (male and female) with respect and you will have much less of an issue.

as for girls going with jerks, yah i fell in to that trap but then i went out with nice guys and they were not much better, i think all the nice guys (or rather who i thought was a nice guy) were all psychos, with severe jelousy and abandonment issues. yah no kidding, then they say why do girls only go out with jerks, well let me tell you cause they are usually much nicer than nice guys.

not saying that every nice guy is like that, there are alot of them out there who are very worthy, my theroy is that since they are always usually the last to find love (or so they think) that they get those jelousy and abandonment issues because they are afraid that they will loose the girl. well if they were more confident in them selfs and not seeing the girl leave for every little thing in their minds this might not happen.

but like i said i think it was just the nice guys that i went out with. i seem to have gone out with the wrong guys all the time i tried out several different types. finnaly i got one who is a mixture of both good guy and bad guy, jock and geek. perfect for me.

[A2k]

I know that it is difficult, but this thread belongs here in "Growing Up", not in the 18+ area, so whilst I appreciate it's difficult, please try to not be overly graphic as and where you can, without feeling the need to be entirely non graphical since I don't wish that.

I have no problems with it at all, I'm just thinking about the kiddies. ^_^

[Ios]

is asking a girl to the movies too cliché and/or what would be a better idea...?
the point is that I like this girl and I have a good reason to think she likes me too, I just need a situation to make it official if you know what I mean.

[Night Prowler]

Ok I'll give ya the background on whats happening before i ask the question.


On monday me and this girl from the same Course were close all day, so close that people kept asking if we were going out. Then at the end when we were going to our buses my two other mates were saying that we should go out then we held hands and link arms and smiled sweetly at each other.

So I'm on my bus and my mate is all like "So are you two going out then?" what makes me think "So are we going out??!!", so I text her as shes on a different bus saying "are we going out?", 5 minutes later I get a ring from my mate on a different bus from the two of us who's telling me that he's been told I asked her out. What kinda pissed me off as I didn't think she would go ring someone saying that even though I didn't really ask her out.

So on tuesday I was like "I didn't ask her out, I asked her IF we were going out" to everyone and everytime I went into the classroom everyone purposley took seats so that we had to sit next to each other.

Anyway I was wondering if should ask her out on Friday when I see her next??

[bbnflpn]

i didnt think that i was being grafic i was just stating the facts as best i could for the question.

as for movies being cliche nope not at all. do what ever you want for a date. how ever dont see soemthing that she may not like. i had one guy take me out to the jerky boys movie for valintines day heres what the movie was about
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jerky_Boys
belive me not the best date i ever been on and let me tell you the movie theater was pretty vacant, except for 2 guys who probably couldnt get dates me and the guy i was with and some other poor girl and her date who was odviously horrified by what i could see since they were not sitting too far away, she looks at me like oh you poor thing im right there with you, and i gave her the same look

and prowler i had somthing similar happen to me, i was with a good friend all day we were very close, and then got even closer when some guy was pretty upset who i had went out with and broke it off with because of the pshyci factor, well after we got off the bus when we got back at school (it was for a track meet) we walked our different ways and some one asked if we were going out i said nope just friends. well he never did ask me out and another friend got to him first, he claims he was jilted (we did end up going out later on lol) i said i would have gone out with him if he would have asked me. so yes ask her out.

[Night Prowler]

Asked her she said no and got all depressed till 20 minutes later she text me asking if I want to meet up over Half Term (Week off) I said yea and shes gonna text back when she finds out when she can.

But whats with her saying no, was she too pressured as everyone was saying stuff about us going out? Or is there any other reason?

[Anarchy]

man come on women love to drive us crazy and no girl like to give an answers right away they prefer to make us sweat so don't feel like it was pressure it is just the sheer mechanics of it

[Thelindra]

just give her some time. ITs useless to press things and it might backfire.

And yea we like to hang u guys in mid-air :p

[Anarchy]

just give her some time. ITs useless to press things and it might backfire.

And yea we like to hang u guys in mid-air :p

See what i tell ya. i know a lot about girls and how they think, and Thelindra ya uh hey ... you know what im talkin about cya in the Uryuu fc

[Bak3d on H1gh]

Lol i come(pardon the pun) back to this thread and this is the first thing i see

I have a question.

What kind of rotation should I put into my hips when I am fornicating. Also, do you prefer deep penetration or half-ins?
anyways been wonderin about two things
1. when is the best time to approach a girl after she's broken up?
2. best way to approach a chick who probably isn't interested in you?

the two questions aren't related just to be clear.

[Evanesque]

1. I think the best time to approach a girl would be at least 2 weeks after she went through her break up. This is because she'll be ready to move on and go to other guys. But the timings also depend on the girl...that is how long it takes her to get over the guy she had just broken up with. Some need encouragement to move on and that's where you can come along.

2. It depends... so is she some random girl you came across who's not interested in you or is it someone you know?

If she's someone random, then why not be friends first? Show her what kind of person you are and at the same time find out about her personality. Maybe then she'll be able to give you a chance.

If she's someone you know, then talk to her casually from time to time and drop hints that you really like her. Don't keep giving hints all the time otherwise you might just turn out to be annoying...XD
If she's not interested in anybody else then she'll definitely get back to you but make sure you do it right...now how to carry out the convincing is all up to you...every guy has their own styles of impression.

[Atrias]

This one drives me crapping crazy...

How the hell do you tell if a girl likes you???

I'm 20 freaking years old and I've not got a clue still how you tell... im fed up with getting close with, flirting with, becoming even closer to girl friends, work mates, school mates etc... finally plucking up the courage to ask them out and getting a no or a just want to be friends thing... I dont get it!

Life would be so much easier and I would have had and will have much more relationships if I can work out this answer... someone save me!

Oh yeah, and HI IM BACK!

[Kibe]

just give her some time. ITs useless to press things and it might backfire.

And yea we like to hang u guys in mid-air :p

i agreess... in both of the things...

we like to make guys suffer...:3 and while looking good.

how to tell if a girl likes you?

She will simply steal food off you. :3

[Thelindra]

Its takes time to woo a girl. Too hasty and u might turn her off. The more picky she is the more she will filter out guys.

and as for how to tell a girl like you or not....hmm...u can know it through her friends, if she likes you she will keep brining up yur name in her friends presence ^^

[Anarchy]

Its takes time to woo a girl. Too hasty and u might turn her off. The more picky she is the more she will filter out guys.

and as for how to tell a girl like you or not....hmm...u can know it through her friends, if she likes you she will keep brining up yur name in her friends presence ^^
well that and if you notice her showing off her neck alot or does the pevic tilt alot those also are sure signs

[Rukongai]

i have a question what is the trait girls look for most in a guy?

[Anarchy]

do mean like a trait that lets them know we're intrested or a trait for attractiveness

[Night Prowler]

@Rukongai: Its basically the trait that you can act like yourself around her, whats basically confidence.

Anyway update on my situation, we're defiantly going to see a movie on Monday so bewteen then and now we're just texting each other alot.

[Anarchy]

hey i got a date on monday too and to the movies gees what a coincidence

[Night Prowler]

:D cool, good luck with it, oh and remember Confidence is the key!

[Anarchy]

ya you too man

[Evanesque]

i have a question what is the trait girls look for most in a guy?

Loyality. Girls want their guys to focus all their attention on them but to a certain limit. You can't be around her 24-7 and suffocate her but at the same time, you shouldn't be so distant.

Don't talk about other girls ESPECIALLY your ex's and friends who are girls. It drives women crazy..(in a bad way). She wants you to make her your world, of course you don't need to talk about her all the time but show her that she is the centre of your universe.

Though many girls deny they seek such attention, there is a point where they feel that way.

It's a very tricky thing but once you get used to the girl and her habits, you'll be able to predict her more easily (and hopefully crawl your way out of trouble) XD

[Anarchy]

Evanesque i know i crawl my way out of trouble not as much as i used to but it is still useful in keeping a relationship

[Pink_Paper_Heart]

Loyalty, honesty...and lots of love....that's what we are looking for.

Ladies are very capble of giving lots of love..so we want our man to do that too...

[Night Prowler]

Thought I'd tell you all that the date went brill, even though I almost got in a fight when queing up to see Towers of London but thats another story.

Anyway yea it was great the movie was alright but it went on for too long (Pursuit of Happyness) but it was still good and I put my arm over her and all that jazz.

[Anarchy]

my date got grounded right before we left :( :( :( (((((

[Xkavanger]

I put my arm over her and all that jazz.
Smooth operator =P
my date got grounded right before we left :( :( :( (((((
That bites... how did that happen?

[Anarchy]

Well her mom wanted her home by like 9:00 but she wanted to stay out till 11:00 and they argued i tried to convince her that it was ok and that would have gotten hoe by 9:00 anyway but she is a stubborn one

[Evanesque]

She's just like my friend. I think she made a mistake doing that...poor you..

She should've thought about it, if she really sorted out future plans, she wouldn't have gotten into this situation.

[Anarchy]

I agree but it is her step-mom in all honesty. I mean step-moms are just as much you mom as your real one but i can understand where she stands and why (her step-mom hates me but her father loves me). her father is uber whiped though my friend is too any advice in not bein whiped by the uber degree.

[Starlight]

I have a question. If a girl seems to like touching you and calls you almost every night and talks to you for thirty-minutes at least, does that mean she likes you? just curious.

[deto]

yes, yes she sure likes you and maybe a bit more than that.... maaaybe....

[Anarchy]

dude she wants you and if you don't hit that i'll really hit you lol XD

[A2k]

*Wanders into thread, cap in hand, tail between his legs* -_-;;

I'm hoping for some response from women my age, there abouts, or older, but that does not mean to say there wont be an equal amount of interest taken from what those younger than myself respond with.

I've never been one to lack self confidence, nor over exude confidence in a manner that appears egotistical, but of late...I must admit much to my dissaproval, that I am scared...yeah...I'm being emotional, it happens every now and then, you'll get over it. =P

Anyways, I'm scared that, now I have found happiness, after only ever being happy to be alive for several years of my past, ie. the only reason I had to be happy was that I was alive and had all the wonderous things in the world to occupy me - there was no other such reason to be happy.

I feel, now that I am finally happy, for the first time in approximately 7 years, that I'm scared of losing this happiness. Everyday I wake up with a smile, whereas before I would not smile unless there was a specfic reason to smile for - like a funny joke, something touching, the general things that might make someone smile.

At the same time as waking every day with a beaming smile, I feel almost terrified at losing this feeling. I know there is no reason for this fear, but it is there, and it is something I have tried to reason with, logically work around, understand...and I'm still drawing a blank. -_-;;

*Shrugs*

I've lost the flow now, and appear to be clammed up for words. =/

I guess I'm looking for any advice or reassurances poeple may have experienced through something similar perhaps.

[Anarchy]

well what do ya do for a living, what is your daily routine, and what is the one thing you treasure most one of these things might be causing this fear of yours
(studying to be a psychiatrist should be able to help)

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

*DEEP*.....that's too *DEEP* for me...

[A2k]

Oh I know indefinately what the fear is derived from.

To fill in the story a little more since I've had time to collect my thoughts and not throw them all into a random incoherent rant; I have only ever had one serious relationship in my lifetime - many girlfriends, but only ever once was I serious with a "girl". I now find myself in a relationship, albeit an early one, having known this woman for around about 5 years or a little over, I know that I would not be happy without her by my side.

For instance, my other serious partner I had through highschool and college, spoke to me of marriage, kids, getting a house together etc. etc.

Now at such a young age, rightfully such talk sent the fear of God through me, she was wanting me to grow up and take responsibilities that I was not ready to take on, far before my time, or before I was ready to even consider such things.

Now as it happens, my partner and I have openly discussed such things already - we are both in agreeance that kids are a no no. Although we are well aware that anything could happen. -_-

Marriage, we would like to get married...someday, and I would already openly welcome her into my house, but she has obligations and commitments that would hold serious restrictions on allowing her to do that.

I think the word is quite simply paranoia, as to be honest, everything that's ever gone right for me, has gone horribly wrong in the end.

My previous serious hearthrob, was refered to by me, only as a "lying, cheating, scheming, bitch". For 5 years I could not forgive her for cheating with my best friend.

Now I don't believe my partner will do any such thing, and I know she feels for me the same way I feel for her. We have both had our fair share, granted she has had far more, of greif, crap and severe shittyness from partners in our past.

I suppose I'm scared of pushing her away, smothering her, anything and everything.

ok...wtf...open heart ward in an A2k post...I'm gonna have to stop this here before it gets a little too deep. =P

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

Can't you just enjoy life?

[A2k]

Not to sound rude, or harsh in tone...but I did that for 7 years - I was more than happy to be alive, well and have a life at all to live, my point is that now I have something worth holding onto, I'm terrfied I might lose it. Nothing more, nothing less.

..and I know that since she reciprocates my feelings, that it is nothing but paranoia, but to quieten such thoughts of losing someone is somewhat easier said than done. =P

[Anarchy]

have you sat down and talked to her about this feeling of paranoia

[A2k]

... ... ...I don't even know how to answer that.

In some sense of the word, yes, but specifically this that I have come to describe as a paranoia, whether it be paranoia or not...not as such, no.

It's something I will have to deal with...in some way, and as such I wouldn't want to burden my partner with it.

I've always dealt with my own problems, which is why this is the first instance anyone here at CB has ever seen such a post from moi. I just thought I might get something out of it that I hadn't considered.

Who knows, I might have no choice but to discuss the matter with her, however much I might not want to.

[SoundWave]

How contradictory it might sound.. It's good to think things through for yourself at least for a while.. And when you can't find an answer, it might just be the right thing to do to share it with your partner.. You know get another view on the subject or just discuss it to lighten the load. Instead of waiting until you might "explode"..

[Anarchy]

well you know that when you get married you become spiritual one person. So it would be best to get anything off your chest before you get married because chances are that they will reveal themselves. Besides if you love this woman enough that if she came to you with such a thing that you'd help her get through it and (you said she loves you as much as you love her) i don't see why she wouldn't help you.So don't worry because if it is true love then nothing can break the bond you have for one another. I hope this eased your mind a bit or gave you a way to do so.

[A2k]

No, it didn't ease my mind, but it helped in ways that will ease my mind. It made me smile.

Simply reading your view of what I have portrayed, was enough to remind me that you are right, and that I already know that. =)

Thank you; seldom will people see more heartfelt honesty from me, than the thanks I give you now, and the posts I have made tonight.

The fact that I'm still smiling at the thoughts conjoured from your comments, has lifted me tenfold.

I can't show my appreciation enough, than to once again say thank you. =)

[Night Prowler]

A2K, your over thinking, Live is live and if we knew what was gonna happen bewteen the time of Birth and Death then there wouldn't be a reason to live.

Anyway surprisingly enough the relationship side of this question is gonna be answered by a guy.

Just follow your instincts, if you feel like she doesn't want to be smoothered then don't, if you feel like she needs comfoting do it.


Oh and.. get a calander ¬_¬, its helps!

[Anarchy]

No, it didn't ease my mind, but it helped in ways that will ease my mind. It made me smile.
Simply reading your view of what I have portrayed, was enough to remind me that you are right, and that I already know that. =)
Thank you; seldom will people see more heartfelt honesty from me, than the thanks I give you now, and the posts I have made tonight.
The fact that I'm still smiling at the thoughts conjoured from your comments, has lifted me tenfold.
I can't show my appreciation enough, than to once again say thank you. =)
i am just doin my part for the People of CB so if ya see me around give me a shout

[A2k]

Ahh precisely Night, I have a tendancy to over think things, or else as you so eloquently put it, for what purpose do we exist if not to understand? ^-^

I don't disagree that the thrill of the unknown is a part of life, and I accept and admire it. I do however always attempt, more often than not in vein, to grasp an understanding of everything, even the incomprehensible, it's a part of challenging the mind that supercedes everything else.

I do, and will continue to follow my instincts, my moment of blindness and confusion aside. =)

The ordeal with smothering was merely an example of what can only now in the afterthought, be described as paranoia and nothing more. Not an actuality. ^_~

Thanks though.

Calender? I don't get it? o_O

[Night Prowler]

Thanks and you will get it.

[A2k]

Huh? o_O

...oook, usually I'm not too bad with riddles...but you've left me stumped and entirely clueless. I don't believe I need a physical calender, since I have the dates of anything and everything I need reminders for in a calender on my phone.

I could take a random guess that you might be making some weird ambiguous reference to tomorrow's date...but...that seems illogical.

*Shrugs*

Nah that can't be it...so once again I'm left intruiged as to what the heck you mean? ^_^

[EDIT:] *Looks at the time* errm, ok...today's date, since for me it is already the 14th officially. ^_~

Lol, when you most need enough credit on your phone for a simple text...you get let down eh? ^_^

She's probably passed out drunk anyways since it's 2am; (yeah that sounds bad but with good reason =P) her best friend's Mother lost her baby today, and the two of them decided to go out for drinks to release some tension.

[Nicole]

Okay... I'll do the last few of these...

I have a question. If a girl seems to like touching you and calls you almost every night and talks to you for thirty-minutes at least, does that mean she likes you? just curious.

Uh, yeah. It'd be safe to assume that she does have feelings for you. =)

Okay, A2K, I'm sure we're around the same age (I'm 19), so I'll try to help you out on this...

*puts on glasses and fills in the role of CB's unofficial therapist*

I know it's very hard to do this, but try not to feel paranoid. It seems, to me, that right now (other than your inner turmoil) the relationship is on a good track. So I suggest just keep continuing what you're doing now. If she wants space, give it to her, if she wants comfort, comfort her.

But I always say this: Communication is key for a successful relationship. If there's something bugging you, maybe it's best to discuss it with her. As a girlfriend, she's also your best friend.

That's all the advice I can give for now. Good luck with everything. ^_^

[Anarchy]

... *puts on glasses and fills in the role of CB's unofficial therapist* ...


I could be the Official Therapist I am in school to be one XD

[Icestorm]

A2k.. Im probably in the same boat as you. I overthink things and basically up until now I realised I was unhappy until id met my gf. By unhappy I mean.. REALLY.. and now that I think about it.. I dont know where I would be without her. But the difference is that, you cant change the future.. no matter how you think about it. All you can do is effect the now, enjoy the happiness you feel now and try not to think of how it used to be.. rather how it is now. Its all about what you focus on.. get caught up in life and let it sweep you away without fighting against the current.

I know from experience that people can say "Just dont think about it" but I also know that its not that easy. So what you need to do is get something that diverts your focus from such things when you start to think about it. Do something you enjoy and it will probably go from your head. Although i know this is only a temporary solution, only you can decide when to start believing that what your experiencing now isnt temporary but a path to a future you want.

[A2k]

Thanks Elo, and I appreciate what you said, but this from Exar touched me in a way I wouldn't have imagined could settle my "inner tormoil" and seemed to melt away any insecruities I may have had. =)

Besides if you love this woman enough that if she came to you with such a thing that you'd help her get through it and (you said she loves you as much as you love her) i don't see why she wouldn't help you.

When I read that, I realised that I already know I would give my everything to aid her in any way I could, should she need consoling, help or some other assurance within my power to provide, and that I would receieve the same in return should the positions be reversed.

So don't worry because if it is true love then nothing can break the bond you have for one another.

Upon reading this, I remembered the smile that gleams back at me when I look deep into her eyes, and see the love overflowing from her heart, and that nothing can ever take away the feeling I get when I see that twinkle in her eyes, that brings about a smile I cannot control. =)

That memory was enough to douse out any fears I had, and cause a flutter somewhere inside me that soothed my soul.

I still don't get this whole calender thingamijig though...ftw? o_O

[EDIT:] Heh, icey, whilst I have already managed to overcome what was troubling me, that hit home and made a whole hell of a lot of honest and very sensible truth, something which I intend to do. =)

I used to have that attitude constantly, but at the wrong time in my life - a time when happiness was dwindling. Now that I hold a treasured happiness, I have more reasons to regain a once carefree spirit.

Again, many thanks.

*Group hugs his Espada companions*

o_O

Uhmm HEY we're not meant to be all love and roses...back up dude. ^_~

[Nicole]

I could be the Official Therapist I am in school to be one XD

lol, so am I. XD

I'm glad to hear things are going to be fine between you two. Whatever makes you all happy. =)

[Icestorm]

haha yeah *gruffly* umm.. ah.. yeah so you better do that! or ill cut off your....... neighbours tree?

/me fails at being evil for once.

[Nicole]

Hugs and roses are fine with me :P

*group hugs Espada pals*

Glad to be there for you, man ^_^


Okay, this is getting even too mushy for me. :P

[Kibe]

o.o.. *watches*

that's the spirit ;-; sadly my friend jordan was trying to kiss me on the cheek, and i really really really hate people kissing me on the cheeks, not that i've ever been kissed there. >=( i wriggled outta her grasp and escaped onto the bus. amen.

but to that question..>.> i do agree that she might like you, but you have to becareful, what does she see in you?

[Icestorm]

*Group hugs* *Gives dead weed to elo* sorry.. the roses are reserved for my special someone.

And.. what are you talking about kia? :S He's already in a relationship.

[Kibe]

i have no idea. @_@ my brain has fried up due to last minute sigs.

[silverwolf801]

what special someone wooooooooo. I 'm telling pph that you are seeing someone else.

[Icestorm]

>_> your an idiot.......


Burn in hell. Not.. haha well incase you passed by the whole 'obvious that its the gf they are talking about' class.. you know now. :D

[Jack Daniels]

Ok question....why do girls say there is nothing wrong...when you know there is..and when you ansist on asking they say nothing, but still act all pissey and then ***** at you later and say you dont care? Im lost on this I thought asking you whats up is caring I guess not though.

[Anarchy]

ya know sometimes people need there space or she might be on her period (if you know what that means *if not well ask your parents*) if that is the case RUN FOR THE HILLS cuz she is a ticking time bomb ready to explode

[Jack Daniels]

ya know sometimes people need there space or she might be on her period (if you know what that means *if not well ask your parents*) if that is the case RUN FOR THE HILLS cuz she is a ticking time bomb ready to explode
No niether of those had anything to do with it...this women dosent know what space means and I know she isnt on her period

[Night Prowler]

Question. Why do girls NEVER say sorry, even if there in the BLATENTLY wrong they just try to change the subject onto what you do wrong. Then when you do something wrong its like Judgement day or something!

So why?

[Anarchy]

No niether of those had anything to do with it...this women dosent know what space means and I know she isnt on her period
well shes an odd one usually those are the two main reasons

@Night a lot of girls deep down or on the surface want power or to dominate and that is just one of those things girls have power over. Therefore most of them usually abuse this power and make you look like the bad guy and she the innocent princess. Do ya understand what I'm sayin'

[Nrvnqsr Chaos]

plz answer honestly. if men dream about women in their underwear, do women dream about men in their underwear(at least the good ones)?

[♥ Tess]

plz answer honestly. if men dream about women in their underwear, do women dream about men in their underwear(at least the good ones)?

sometimes >.>
though my dreams are random like a jukebox.
[<<- has died in my last dream :sad ]


unless you mean dream like imagine or daydream.
which I can also say sometimes. but rarely for me =/

I would rather imagine being held or having a intense kiss by someone I least expect >.<

[Thelindra]

Ok question....why do girls say there is nothing wrong...when you know there is..and when you ansist on asking they say nothing, but still act all pissey and then ***** at you later and say you dont care? Im lost on this I thought asking you whats up is caring I guess not though.
The ultimate test of females \o/ nah actua