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~Anime4Life~
02-02-2007, 10:46 AM
PROBLEM SOLVED BTW
if you can call it that
this is another relationship problem this time much more serouis then my last post just an hour or 2 ago my boyfriend told me we might have to break up, here ill post the convo
btw he hasnt slept much at all in over a week nore eaten

Me: *sigh*
Me: nearly an inter week off and didnt get to spend one night with you
Him: lol
Me: ?
Him: youve been enjoying yourself on wow with treffley, didnt wanna interrupt
Me: O.o?
Me: i wasnt enjoying myself at all
Me: i was bored outa my mind
Me: you seem like your jelouse lol
Him Jealous of what? I wouldnt care if you went with Treffley, it would give me more spare time
Him: how would it give my more spare time? i never ask anything of you on wow
Him: I didnt say on wow, did I
Me: do you not like me comeing over?
Him: sometimes
Me: why?
Me: ?
Him: do you want to know the truth
Me: yes
Him: i get sick of your whining
Me: im sorry
Him i also get sick of having to figth with you to get you to do anything
Me: sorry...
Me: :(
Me: i will try not to do such things
Me: if i do tell me
Him: I may have to let you go.
Me: ?
Him: Break up with you.
Me: why
Him: In my current state I cant continue worrying about you while letting myself get worse, and I cant give you the love you need either
Me: Dan..
Me: im about to cry
Him: I already am.
Me: let me speak about this in person
Him: I suppose Ive been trying to push you away, so that it would lessen the pain if I have to.
Me: im going over there right now

and i went over and he was lying on his bed with his face buryed in his blankets and for the first time i called him "Daniel" he still layed there he didnt respond to me at all but at lest i could see and hear and feel him breathing, it toke me almost a half an hour for me to get him to say something and he said "dont cry" and he held me in his arms. after a bit he said "we'll talk about this tomorrow ok?" and i just started crying and he said, "please dont cry". i held him tighter and said, "im sorry" ill skip a bit to make this shorter. sometime later he told me to go home and go on world of warcraft he wanted to take me somewere, and a bit later i asked what was going threw his mind and he said he was gonna wright an e-mail to me when i left. and i asked him "why not tell me now?" and he said, "because id rather not brust into tears right now" and i held him tighter. a bit later he said, "i have sugry tomorrow at 9:00 on my jaw" and a bit later he said "ok ill tell one of the big problems. i might have to move up to st. john with my uncle and get a job up there(he told what it was but i forgot i think it has something to do with mineing) id be gone for almost 3 years". i ask him "why" and he said "because theres no jobs here, but at lest the saulry(cant spell) will be good, 23 dallors an hour and even more the next month, when id come back id beable to suport you unlike now" i just held him even tighter and nearly cryed. he comferted me by saying, "hey dont cry, i said i might have to go no garenty(cant spell)" i said, "might is still good enough to cry". he said, "hey be happy look at the bright side, i should make it threw the sugrey, and i might not have to go to my uncles". i asked again, "but why would you have to move?". he said, "because none of my other relatives care about me, my granma hates me my grampa hates me my parents hate me ect." im i just gonna skip a lot not much else is that important. so basicly he sent me home with a kiss and a hug and left me borrow his sweater and coat cause its REALY cold outside. and told me that after his surgry tomorrow i could come over. and that he was gonna type that e-mail about what he was thinking. and take me somewere on WoW if i couldnt get to sleep

hollow kitty
02-02-2007, 10:49 AM
Wow! *will have to ponder on that convo*

Fearful Shino
02-02-2007, 10:51 AM
....0_0... i feel so sorry for you...

but don't worry! he'll be always thinking for you! ;_; but you can always go visit him right? you can always send emails right? ;_;

Evanesque
02-02-2007, 10:52 AM
Okie I might have this wrong but maybe he wants to lessen the burden on you when he goes away for that job.

hollow kitty
02-02-2007, 11:08 AM
Speaking from experience - we push the people away that we care about the most!

Bak3d on H1gh
02-02-2007, 11:14 AM
So what exactly aare you asking?

Anyways at the very begginning i was like WoW LOL
then halfway i was like "dump his ass!"
then at the end i was like "umm.... how sweet"

anyways how are you guys cause that might help out with whatever you want.

Mighty Aramir
02-02-2007, 03:59 PM
hey im sorry to know this has continued... *hugs* well, i think he needs time to clear his toughts, give him time, let him take the job.... but dont lose communication, tell him you still love him, and that you would like to sstart over, from scratch with him... if thats what you really want

~Anime4Life~
02-02-2007, 05:39 PM
....0_0... i feel so sorry for you...

but don't worry! he'll be always thinking for you! ;_; but you can always go visit him right? you can always send emails right? ;_;
i wouldnt beable vist him, he'd be much to far away. but yes we would beable to talk on msn and all that
and im not realy asking anything i just thought you guys would find it intresting

♥ Tess
02-02-2007, 07:22 PM
it's scary when I see WoW being brought up >.>

I'm kinda with Bak; he first sounded like a jerk a bit, then it kinda changed.
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Still, the way it looks now.... the relationship is going to fail sooner or later.

He said it himself he might have to break up with you. Not a good sign. The way he also said it was pretty reckless....

So you should really prepare for the worst. He probably has his reasons, either if it involves family, work or someone else...

You can try your best to change his mind or persuade him to stick w/ you, but chances are it would be futile [IMO]

hopefully, you guys can at least have a friendship in the end

Kalashnikov
02-02-2007, 07:37 PM
this is not good - things arent going too well for you.

he did sound like a bit of an ass during that convo though - i have to admit ..


you know - i just broke up with my gf like 2 days ago...
but we're still friends - really good friends and we are still happy.

if you could still be good friends after you break up (thats if you break up) - then it should all be fine. (this is just what i think)

gwcommander
02-02-2007, 07:39 PM
Thats not good. Im praying for the best for ya. It really depends on wheither or not you want to be together even if you have to do the long distance thing. Yea it would be hard but it would be up to the both of you wheither or not you can be willing to handel it.

A2k
02-02-2007, 09:56 PM
He wasn't being an "ass" at all I would imagine.

What appears as him being cruel or an ass about the situation, is him trying his damndest to become as far detatched from your partnership as is humainly possible without being an actual jerk about it, only appearing to be.

Like he said, he has tried pushing you away so as to soften the blow, to try and ease the pain in any way he felt he could.

I'm not saying I agree with his approach, but I will say that I can appreciate what he tried to do, even if in the end it caused more pain for the both of you than was anticipated.

The simple fact that he couldn't even face you, with tears in his eyes and an obvious hole in his heart, implies to me that he truly feels for you and the relationship you both share.

However, his attitude seems very forthright, and to the point, leaving me to suspect that whilst you may both share a most beautiful love, if it hurts him that much to have to say, and do what he has done, then as others have said; those we care for the most, are the ones we try to push away in order to protect.

Let a love bird fly, and if it returns then it's love will be stronger still.

I may sound like I have been able to associate with his side of things more than yours, but I assure you in everything I have said I was thinking of you both, and that I can only really say anything to you and try to give you some comforting words since you are here and he is not.

I hope that you can work things out for yourself, as that is the only way you will manage to struggle through and truly come to terms and deal with this most devastating turn of affairs.

I could offer you all the past experience advice in the world, but not one iota of my experiences can help someone through their own pain, only offer a word or two to say that should you ever need people to listen, try to understand, or simply rant to, then there will always be people here who are intent on giving others help in any way they can.

I am truly sorry for how things are unravelling for you, and you may think that sounds like just another word, another "sorry to here you guys broke up"; but I assure you, the way I feel for my love, I know the devastation and distress that would torture me should I lose her, and I know not how I would cope, but I know somehow I would have to, and I know from your words that you are strong enough that one day, you will smile again.

pero_renji!
02-02-2007, 10:04 PM
Sorry, but if this isnt a really really serious relationship, if he will be gone and you wont have any physical contact with him for 3 years, you and him will eventually find a new partner.Still a pretty touching story, except the wow part ;).
Good luck, Peter