Romantics die trying

[A2k]

Well, for those of you who have known me a while, or those of you who are only just begining to know me after my finally returning to the forums and picking up where I left off; if you have ever read a post from me situated somewhere in this (Growing Up) section, then you will already be aware that I have extrodinarilly strong feelings when it comes to the seriousness associated with relationships, be they young "lust" dressed up as love, or the indescribable feelings that even words cannot define, when you simply cannot explain why or how it is that you feel a certain way for someone.

Now with this in mind, I am simply curious to inquire as to what those of you, blessed enough to be in a relationship, will be doing on the so sourly associated day of "Love." Feburary the 14th, Valentines Day?

Whilst I may be a romantic at heart, one thing I have always objected to, and still refuse to do, to this very day, is make purchase at a card store for the likes of a Valentines Day card. The whole proposal that Valentines Day is a day of love to be shared, defeats any such purpose when it is twisted into another reason for companies large and small to prosper off stereotypical ideals created by society that a card should be bought.

Quite frankly, both my Mother and Aunt, are extrodinarilly well skilled in crafts and design, and evidently as has swept many a folk in recent years, craft making of cards and the like has become somewhat of a craze, into which they are both quite talented, and even so much as to sell their cards at markets, to friends etc.

In all honesty I would much rather pay my own Mother a couple of quid (£2's maybe) ($0.90?) to make something truly representative of effort and attention to who the card is for, what it is for, and why it is being made, than to simply wander into a store, find something "nice" and shell out DOUBLE the price for it.

Anyway, that wasn't the main focus of the thread, simply a side note to give you an idea of my perspective when it comes to the likes of spending money on things society has governed as being the "done" albeit cliché'd thing to do.

Now the true purpose of this thread was to get a head start on what people were thinking, planning, hoping for this Valentines day?

Personally, I went shopping today in partial preparation for my plans in 12 days time;

2 large elegantly designed, purple, scented candles. (Approximately a pint glass tall)

16 small purple scented tealight candles.

A set of 5 scented, red and yellow blended miniture candles. (Approximately 3 inches tall.)

A rather stylish onyx oil burner and some lavender, honeysuckle and rosemary scented granules to burn on it.

A lavender and sandlewood scented, aromatherapy bath salt.

When it comes nearer the time, I intend to buy a lovely arrangement of flowers and possibly some chocolates.

If I should manage to get a hold of my Mother or Aunt with enough spare time to dedicate to making a card for me to send to my girlfriend, then I will have that to add to my preparations for the 14th.

Now, one might stare down that list and think...wtf? Are you trying to buy her happiness or something? You soppy, useless twat.

When in actuality, no one has ever cared enough about this girl to want to make what is supposed to be a "wonderfully magical" day, something special for her to remember.

I intend to make her happy in any way I can, and if that means treating her like the Angel that I see in her, then so be it, that is what I shall do. =)

I was just curious to find out what other people might be planning to do on Valentines Day.

[hasuke]

Valentine's day, BAH! Since when do you need a single day of the year to show love for someone. Preposterous, even if you don't cave in to commercialism. I'm a romantic at heart and I think this day is ridiculous.

I was hoping for this Valentine's day to be the first one that I didn't feel like absolute shit. But that ain't gonna happen cause the girl I wanted to date decided to not go out with me cause she found out I'm a virgin (and you know, despite us having everything else in common, me being a virgin is totally a relationship killer. Yeah. drop dead, you whore.)

But, I digress, I plan to spend my Valentine's day alone, as I am unbelievably bitter. I'm like the ****in' Grinch. Cept I dig on Christmas and hate this imposter holiday of candy, hearts, pink, and lame.

[Fearful Shino]

;-; sadly i don't have a boyfriend or close boy friend. so i'm celebrating valentines day selling roses and chocolates to school who have BFs. ;_; i hate being in a all girls school.

[DireCry]

Nothing, I'll be alone, for another year.

[Kay™]

i hate valentine....watching those couples.....and another lonely day..alone again...and again...when will it end!!! T_T

[hollow kitty]

Valentine's Day is the best! I think it's very sweet what you are planning for your girl.

[hasuke]

god DAMN this thread is getting depressing fast...

Thank god I'm not alone in my misery! Byahahahaha!

[Evanesque]

I've never celebrated Valentine's Day. I don't understand the purpose of having just one day of the year to show someone how much you love them. It's just pointless and dumb, it's something like a marketing scam like someone said before about Christmas gifts.

Me, I'm not a lovey dovey kinda person so all those mushy cards and boxes of chocolates can go to hell for all I care. They don't mean anything to me. I'm not a hopeless romantic or the type of person who would feel alone when everyone else is with someone. Unfortunately, I seem to be very stone-hearted sometimes..>.>

Oh and btw, I'm in a serious committed relationship..:)

[Kalashnikov]

well, what can i say. im not doing ANYTHING this valentines day since i broke up with my girl 3 days ago, since i just felt i never had feelings for her anymore.

Yeah i know...what a great time for it to happen. I wasnt really into valentines day before anyway - sometimes i might buy a rose for the girl i like or something - but thats all.

This would have been the first time ive had a girlfriend during valentines day - but it all messed up like two weeks before the day.
well what can i say - its just my luck.

[SoundWave]

Hmm.. I wasn't even aware of which date valentine's day is.. To me it's just another day, couldn't care less.

[Thelindra]

Meh, i have always spend my V days single. Btw why do ppl need to wait for V day to express their love? =/

I guess the date just kinda made it special or remind people to spread some love around XD

[Rayster]

god DAMN this thread is getting depressing fast...

Thank god I'm not alone in my misery! Byahahahaha!

right with ya buddy......like a few here...

alone.

suckage.


just another day.


wat Theli said was true. It's more so a reminder for ppl who neglect..

[A2k]

Hahaha, I'm glad that so many people support my views on the BS commercialism of the day.

Hasuke, to the point as always. ^_^

As I said, I don't support the ideals and commercialsim behind just one single day of the year that is as has been said, just another day. Whilst I make a point to tell her at least once every single day how much she means to me, I have known her for 6 years, and am fully aware of a lot of greif and heartache she has been through in the past.

Hell, she was a lesbian, turned bisexual, and now she is with me...if that isn't enough to send you a little disheartened then I don't know what is. ^_~

My point in that respect that I wanted to do something to make her feel more special than I make aware to her every single day, is that no one has ever even bought her a bunch of flowers until a random day in our relationship, when I decided to for no particular reason than I felt like buying her some flowers.

So since there is a calender date as Hasuke said, poorly based around commercialism, I have planned to do something on that date, not because it is Valentines Day, moreover I abhor the idea behind it. Anyone who thought I would actually go and buy a card or some such thing is by far mistaken and missed the point.

As for the "depressingness" of this thread, it's only a depressing day if you do look on it as supposing to be a day of Love. =P

If it's just another day...then what's the problem? ^_^

To me it's just another day, but on that day I happen to have made plans.

For those of you who say you will spend it alone and miserable...try spending Christmas day in an empty house, alone, no presents, no grande Christmas dinner, no visitors, no company just you.

Now if you are another person who looks on Christmas day as yet again just another day, then it wouldn't mean a thing, but if you actually cared to be around familly and friends on a day like that, then that would be a real sense of depression.

Anyways, for those without a loved one to be with on the 14th, send your Mother a card.

[EDIT:] I find it hard to believe that there isn't one person who will be doing something specific on that day.

and sorry dec, but I have to disagree, it's only a day to save those who neglect if their partner is stupid enough to not see through it.

*shrugs*

I've been the same from day one, so what I do on the 14th wont be out of character, it will just be more than usual, of the same...if that makes sense to anyone. o_O

[Phasmatis]

i hate valentine....watching those couples.....and another lonely day..alone again...and again...when will it end!!! T_T

^ Me exactly. Replace "lonely day" with "lonely life", though. :sad

[Elocin]

Pfft.

V-day is one of the most pointless holidays out there.

So this guy St. Valentine dies and we celebrate love in the name of his death. Yeah, pretty lame if you ask me.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not bitter being single or anything. Even if I had a bf I wouldn't want to celebrate that day with him.

[Lucki]

i think valentines day is ok, it is a nice idea, why not a day to celebrate love??? it perhaps doesn't appeal to me, tacky cards and all. it could mean something to me i guess, if it was less commercial?! like i dunno, it seems a bit fake today, tacky cards, cheap chocolates to show your undying love for someone. I dont think you can show your love for someone like that. Instead of a bunch of roses a single rose means more, since it has meaning to it.

[iladys]

I dont really celebrate Vday but I find it an interesting day. It annoys me to see so many lovey dovey couples but I dont mind that they're doing it cause they can do it. Last year I got a rose from the guy I was going out with which was nice. Mm, this time around Im just going to celebrate it with my friends, possibly give them a rose too.

[emmasu]

I've never celebrated Valentine's Day. I don't understand the purpose of having just one day of the year to show someone how much you love them. It's just pointless and dumb, it's something like a marketing scam like someone said before about Christmas gifts.
Me, I'm not a lovey dovey kinda person so all those mushy cards and boxes of chocolates can go to hell for all I care. They don't mean anything to me. I'm not a hopeless romantic or the type of person who would feel alone when everyone else is with someone. Unfortunately, I seem to be very stone-hearted sometimes..>.>
Oh and btw, I'm in a serious committed relationship..:)
though i have exam in 1:30 hr, but i have to replay to this, Ev, its not that we have only one day to show our love, no its not, we show our love every sec, celebrating this day doesnt mean you love that person only during that day, no, you dont have time everyday to celebrate and make something special, you are busy and he is busy as well and you are showing your love everyday, but on this day you can make it special, and give agift,
ofcourse you can give gifts anytime you want to, its like that why do you celebrate your birthday? new year? thanksgiving,? halloween? mother day?
its the same, each one of thos has apurpose though we can show this purpose everyday, but on that day you can make it more special and beside those days make your life more fun and more change in your life, you are making something different

[Thelindra]

Mm, this time around Im just going to celebrate it with my friends, possibly give them a rose too.
ditto here ^^

although i give chocolates instead of roses XD

and might as well celebrate chinese new year along wioth it too =3

[Anubisrage]

I think that Valentines is not the day you show your love to the other person, cause you should show your love EVERY SINGLE DAY... As A2k, Im also a romantic, and I also dont really think that buying a card is needed...
For me, Valentines day is simply a day to shower the girl with gifts!!! ^_^
Love comes each day.

[Kefka]

I got a nice bouquet of roses and such for my gf for Valentines Day. Other than that, we'll prob spend the night alone together with no distractions.

[maximoose666]

I'm gonnna be on my own, unless something unexpected happens. Lame I know =/

[Mighty Aramir]

well... im gonna spend it with my gf... a nice day hopefully... I dont believe in this one day crap... im romantic every day, i bring her roses (black ones XD) every time i can, chocolate is like a drug to her, so its never missing, and sweet lovely comments are basic in a day together... or if not, by textmessages... so love is important for me, and i think its not condensed into one single day, and if romantics do die trying, well im as good as dead

[Evanesque]

I think that Valentines is not the day you show your love to the other person, cause you should show your love EVERY SINGLE DAY...

For me, Valentines day is simply a day to shower the girl with gifts!!! ^_^
Love comes each day.

With that said, gifties are what I expect from you this year :p

Oh joy, my first Valentine celebration...no seriously..it is..:face82:

@Emma: I'm not shunning the day or anything, I just said I've don't really believe in it because it's like an overrated celebration.

Also I hate stereotypes who think the day is only for lovers. Parents, siblings, friends, seniors, pets, everyone around you need to be shown love too. Fine if you celebrate Valentine's day, remember them too.

[emmasu]

@Emma: I'm not shunning the day or anything, I just said I've don't really believe in it because it's like an overrated celebration.
Also I hate stereotypes who think the day is only for lovers. Parents, siblings, friends, seniors, pets, everyone around you need to be shown love too. Fine if you celebrate Valentine's day, remember them too.
well i dont know about other people, but in my house we celebrate valentine's day, if we are not together, we send cards and sms greeting each other, and if we are together we make special dinner at our house,

this year i have afiancee, but unfortuntaly, i cant celebrate with him this day*cries*

[Dark Fire]

well I think if you really love some one it should be like valentines day every day, however I am single yet again this year, so I will be alone, hell mabe I ask someone out on valentines

[Aristocrat]

i think VAL day is a waste of time -_- the oppiste try so hard to impress each other on that day i mean you could do that for their bday why add another day to go shopping? its too troublesome for me..

and i know alot of girls who give letters to guys that day saying how they feel..and spend a whole night decoirating the letter...how troublesome..-_-

[emmasu]

i think VAL day is a waste of time -_- the oppiste try so hard to impress each other on that day i mean you could do that for their bday why add another day to go shopping? its too troublesome for me..
and i know alot of girls who give letters to guys that day saying how they feel..and spend a whole night decoirating the letter...how troublesome..-_-
ok, you are saying troublesome, so if anything thats not troublesome, you will consider doing it???
come on., everything in this life is troublesome, even making your food for the night, so, first its not adeal of troubling or not,cuz everything in life is troublesome, second, when you love someone you wouldnt even think of anything other than pleasing them and make them happy, no matter how much troubles they cause you, you wouldnt care, cuz you love to see them happy

[Aristocrat]

ok, you are saying troublesome, so if anything thats not troublesome, you will consider doing it???
come on., everything in this life is troublesome, even making your food for the night, so, first its not adeal of troubling or not,cuz everything in life is troublesome, second, when you love someone you wouldnt even think of anything other than pleasing them and make them happy, no matter how much troubles they cause you, you wouldnt care, cuz you love to see them happy


but the thing is sometimes when people try so hard to impress the other they dun like the things they buy the things that they actually took time picking..do you know how much that hurts? i dont..but my frend wouldnt stop..blaming herself for it...of course he didnt tell her she overheard from HIS friends..id like to see you feel her pain..

[Fearful Shino]

With that said, gifties are what I expect from you this year :p
Oh joy, my first Valentine celebration...no seriously..it is..:face82:
@Emma: I'm not shunning the day or anything, I just said I've don't really believe in it because it's like an overrated celebration.
Also I hate stereotypes who think the day is only for lovers. Parents, siblings, friends, seniors, pets, everyone around you need to be shown love too. Fine if you celebrate Valentine's day, remember them too.

:0 you gave me a great idea. i'll get a valentines present for my dog. i'll try to buy a nice cute red collar, since red fits in with that pwning brown fur of his. <3

[Z-man]

What ? You gonna go on a date with ya dog too ?

[Evanesque]

Just because she's giving her dog a V'day giftie doesn't mean that she's going to date it you know *rolls eyes*

It's not necessary that you have to plan a date, etc, etc...this is what I meant by the day being so overrated and stereotyped.

[Fearful Shino]

What ? You gonna go on a date with ya dog too ?

do you know how to read terry? i love my dog every much, and i want to thank it for being nice to me.

[A2k]

well... im gonna spend it with my gf... a nice day hopefully... I dont believe in this one day crap... im romantic every day, i bring her roses (black ones XD) every time i can, chocolate is like a drug to her, so its never missing, and sweet lovely comments are basic in a day together... or if not, by textmessages... so love is important for me, and i think its not condensed into one single day, and if romantics do die trying, well im as good as dead

Quoted because everytime I seem to read a post from you, I like you a little more with every word I read. What you have just said I feel is the most prolific and important part of what I'm trying to relay in my posts in this thread so far, that every day is special when I think of how lucky I am, and that specifically since I can set a date, I want to show that little extra effort on that date, over and above the efforts made every single day.

It seems the walking dead are you and I. =)

[Anubisrage]

do you know how to read terry? i love my dog every much, and i want to thank it for being nice to me.
YOU ARE SOO CUTE!!!

that is a very nice thought... giving a gift for your dog would be very sweet...
I bet he will pounce on you from joy!!!

[Fearful Shino]

:0 ...

thank you very much...

[emmasu]

but the thing is sometimes when people try so hard to impress the other they dun like the things they buy the things that they actually took time picking..do you know how much that hurts? i dont..but my frend wouldnt stop..blaming herself for it...of course he didnt tell her she overheard from HIS friends..id like to see you feel her pain..
listen, its not about the gift at all, come on
if you give only roses, that would be more than enough, cuz the couples understand each other soo well, so they know i guess what each one likes and dislikes,
you are trying too hard, yes, whats wrong with that???
you are trying too hard cuz you love that person soo much and you wanna get them the best thing ever, there is nothing wrong in trying soo hard to keep the person you love with you,
ok so what if she got him the wrong gift, then i dont blame her at all, she is doing her best to get him the best, and if he gave her the impression that he doesnt like it, then the problem is with him, he doesnt know any meaning for love

[sinkinswimmer]

[EDIT:] I find it hard to believe that there isn't one person who will be doing something specific on that day.
and sorry dec, but I have to disagree, it's only a day to save those who neglect if their partner is stupid enough to not see through it.
*shrugs*
I've been the same from day one, so what I do on the 14th wont be out of character, it will just be more than usual, of the same...if that makes sense to anyone. o_O
I will be doing a little something that day too. Nothing extraordinary, nothing particularly fancy. We're not buying each other gifts or anything of the sort. She was raised in a country where men frequently dress well, so it's something she's come to miss in her time here. As such, I plan on dressing well for her, buying a couple candles for light, and then cooking her a nice dinner.

Neither of us really agrees with the marketing concepts behind Valentine's day, so we actually took the following day off from work. The day itself isn't anything special for us, but it is an excuse for me to dress up for her.

[A2k]

Finally, thank you Sinkin. (Btw how the hell are you doing, it's been some time since I saw you last. ^_^)

Between Emmasu and Sinkin, you have both generated the precise true essence of what the idea behind the day is for. Not the day itself. As has been said so many times before it's just the day after the 13th of February.

You see, like Sinkin, I appreciate what would make my partner smile, and feel appreciated that I might goto the efforts to do something SHE would like and not something commercialised that is trampled down by lovemongers.

My girlfriend likes a bath; as such I have prepared some candles, some scents, and some bath salts with relaxants in them to make her feel appreciated that little extra because she accepts that I wanted to do something she would enjoy.

I had plans for dinner too...but since I wont be able to account for her preferrence for food (she's picky) on that day, unless she outright told me before hand, then I wouldn't stand a chance at pleasing her with dinner, as such I intend not to bother.

That as Sinkin was saying, is the appreciation being shown and receieved...because it's something they would want.

[Ios]

to be honest, I don't like valentines day.
It's a little pushing. I mean, I really don't want to have the feeling to must do something nice for your love because it's the 14th of January. geez, I can hardly put it to word...
It's definitely not that I don't like doing something nice for you love but it's just that I think the fact that someone actually organized a day for it ruins a lot of the idea of it. I think you should do something like this out of yourself, surprise her, then the impact will also be a lot better. :)

[Kyoko<3!]

Er yeah, I saw another valentines day thread so i posted there instead of here >.> I'm pretty much just deleting that post and copy+pasting it here....
Anyway, I haven't really read all the posts here =/ but here's my 2 cents on Valentines Day.

Valentines Day is so overrated and cliche... Instead of trying to impress your girl with something incredible one day out of the year, why not make her feel special on any other day?

If I had a girlfriend, yeah I'd try to make Valentines special, but it holds no real meaning (unless you guys got together on valentines day or something). It's just February 14th. You don't have to wait until Valentines Day to do something 'special'. Show her you're not doing this just because it's Valentines Day.
Would you prepare this much for a date if it wasn't Valentines Day? Where's your motivation?

Why not pick a random day to show up at her doorstep with flowers, chocolate, and the 'usual' Valentine's Day items? Make her feel special. Every other girl in the world with a boyfriend is getting 'romantic stuff' on Valentines Day, but on THAT day, SHE'S one of the few. You don't need any other reason to do something special besides the fact that you love her.

EDIT---

Er, yeah I just read through everything and I just realized that everything I said has already been said >.>
But I'm glad more than a few CBers agree.
And like many of you, I too am a Romantic, thus my old name xD (in my sig)

Heck my new name is short for my aim sn: Ecnamor Aira. Which is Romance Aria if you spell the words backwards =) Btw an Aria is a type of song for those that don't know. It's not AREA >.>
I might not get as much 'action' as a romantic, but I certainly do believe that as one I will discover and find the most happiness in my future life-long partner =)

[A2k]

... ...It's like talking to brick walls in this thread. *sigh*

I cannot stress enough, that I for one, go out of my way to suprise, and please my girlfriend any time I can, with this that or the other.

I already said for example that one day I decided I wanted to get her some flowers, so I did - no particular reason, I just wanted to. To add to that I'm glad I did, since no one had EVER bought her flowers before...which kinda disgusted me really. ~_~

Another instance is this morning. Last night when she left for work, I asked her when she wanted me to come down to see her the following day, and she replied 8:30am. She then told me the real time she wanted me to come down and wake her up for work - 6:30pm.

Now as I slept at a friends last night instead of at home, I was just around the corner from her house, and I specifically got myself up at 7:30am so that I could sit in her kitchen and await her arrival home from the night shift. Needless to say she wa rather suprised to see me.

My point being I already do random things that make her smile. The chances of me actually doing any of what I have planned for Valentines Day, on the 14th are probably slim to none, the chances are it will be gone midnight after she has put her siblings to bed. Not that, that make it any less the same day, or any less typically cliché to do something special on that day. However in respect to what people are saying against Valentines Day, I'm not in disagreeance with those opinions, I simply don't like the fact that whilst being in disagreeance with the whole comercialisation of it, a guy in that respect is damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. Lose-Lose.

[Kyoko<3!]

... ...It's like talking to brick walls in this thread. *sigh*
I cannot stress enough, that I for one, go out of my way to suprise, and please my girlfriend any time I can, with this that or the other.
I already said for example that one day I decided I wanted to get her some flowers, so I did - no particular reason, I just wanted to. To add to that I'm glad I did, since no one had EVER bought her flowers before...which kinda disgusted me really. ~_~
Another instance is this morning. Last night when she left for work, I asked her when she wanted me to come down to see her the following day, and she replied 8:30am. She then told me the real time she wanted me to come down and wake her up for work - 6:30pm.
Now as I slept at a friends last night instead of at home, I was just around the corner from her house, and I specifically got myself up at 7:30am so that I could sit in her kitchen and await her arrival home from the night shift. Needless to say she wa rather suprised to see me.
My point being I already do random things that make her smile. The chances of me actually doing any of what I have planned for Valentines Day, on the 14th are probably slim to none, the chances are it will be gone midnight after she has put her siblings to bed. Not that, that make it any less the same day, or any less typically cliché to do something special on that day. However in respect to what people are saying against Valentines Day, I'm not in disagreeance with those opinions, I simply don't like the fact that whilst being in disagreeance with the whole comercialisation of it, a guy in that respect is damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. Lose-Lose.


I didn't say there was anything specifically wrong with Valentines Day, nor was it my intention to imply that anyone hasn't been doing random things for their important person. Like I said, I didn't read every post before I posted and just posted my 2 cents about the topic.

I admit I may have sounded like I was attacking people who tried to do something special during V Day, but that's really not my intention. I was referring to those individuals who think the only day they need to try and 'step up' in their relationship is V Day.

A2k I don't 'damn' you or anyone else who tries to do something special on Valentines Day.
Of course it's only natural to do something special on Valentines Day because the whole world is doing it, I don't blame you. I'd love to be special on Valentines Day. And like you and I, we try to show our uttermost affection every chance we get. It's just that there are countless idiots out there who make V Day the only day they show their appreciation. Almost everyone feels obligated to do something special on Valentines day, that is why i feel 'Valentine's Day Specials' are becoming cliched! Hell, some don't even like their partners but still take them out simply because it's Valentines Day. Too many people do it simply because it is Valentines Day and not because they'd like to portray the intense appreciation they have in their hearts for their partner.

I don't know if that post was directed at me or not, but I wasn't sure. A2k, I respect you immensely because I have seen time and time again that you share many of the same views as I (which do not happened to be shared by most I know) do and it's very refreshing to see. My post had nothing to do with you because from reading your earlier posts, it is clear that you do not belong to the group of people I directed my posts to.

Sorry if I made a mistake and made it appear to be like I was targeting anyone specific on CB. That was NOT my intention.

[A2k]

Nope, It was a general post, not directed at you, just directed at a certain outlook and view some have in respects to the incentives behind peoples motives on the 14th.

*shrugs*

Especially the "damned if you do, damned if you don't" that was something I have always felt - as such is why I attempted to make it clear that whilst I will be aiming to do something "nice" (ugh I hate that word) or special on the 14th, I still have a contempt for what the thought behind the day has become. Commercialised BS. =)

[Atrias]

Yo A2K, didn't realise you were in UK, fantastic! Surprised how many people are really!

Hah, Valentines is a pretty superficial thing, its awful... I saw a pop up red devilcow thing that spouted Valentinesque drivel every time it popped up and I was nearly sick! Why do we need a special day to show someone we love them, isnt every day appropriate for that? I agree with the main idea of this thread, its just an ordinary day, just like any other... sure, do whatever you like for your loved one\s but don't think that the fact that its the 14th of Feb should make a blind bit of difference.

PS: I saw next to it "Horny Horns"... and this was in a friendly Sainsbury's supermarket... correct me if I'm wrong but "horny" still has sexual conotations and is still considered a risqué word... I think its disgraceful (Apologies for going OT)

[Papercuts]

Yea I agree with you mate, I have never bought anything for anyone on Vday due to the fact I have always stayed away from relationships and dating people around that time :D I like to think ahead you know. But this year it was diffrent I am seeing a girl and well I didnt buy her anything, but we did go out today for dinner and well I stayed home and cleaned for her and most likly later will do what she wants(If you old enough to understand :D)

And yea thats what I feel Vday is about caring for your other and just being extra nice to them, I feel it is most about pleasing the women rather than the Man though or you could always hold a doubble standard but I like to think of it as that special day for them.

[AvidoWA]

Why does being Romantic be in tie with rather or not you love a girl ??
Loving them means that your feelings for them are stronger than any you have felt in your past .. while being romantic is showing affection to the one you want to think you love ...i don't see why they run too close together just like ....if you love me you'd buy me flowers.. what do flowers have to do with love

[RiannaSan]

I've never had anyone on Valentines day, so I don't know what I would do if I did =\

[hXd]

I was gonna have someone for V-Day but she broke up wth me last night. For lame reasons. So yeah, another year alone it's looking like. Not that it ever really bothered me, but this time it is because I had someone.

[Pyramus]

My birthday is on Val's day!

[Neko Bam]

Valentine's day
Christmas
Easter
St. Nicholas' day
All hollidays that have fallen victim to capitalism.
The Easter bunny and Father Christmas....I wonder when somebody will make up the pentacoste donkey :sad

[Graffik]

I've hated valentines day ever since I found out all the choclates I received in 6th grade were meant for somebody else.. , and a single day for you to celebrate a relationship with that special someone is not enough, when I had a girl, not a day went by when I didn't remember her, so I tried to make everday we spent together a special day, unfortunately my optimism seemed to be my downfall, I was ' hiding something with the smile' guess I am meant to be a Shaolin Monk

[sweeter]

I said truly hurtful things - and I can be a real mean ***** when I'm PMS'ing - to this guy who liked me. It was a full-blown fight. We didn't speak for days.

Then on Valentine's day, he showed up on my doorstep, guitar in hand, and sang "Oh Carol" but replaced "Carol" with "Vivian".

It's one of the sweetest and funniest things a guy had ever done to me.

(:

[shaberry]

Personally, I think Valentine's Day is overrated. I think its just a made up holiday where girls get spoiled with gifts for no other apparent reason except for the fact that it's a holiday to celebrate love. I mean...there's nothing really significant to the couples who celebrate this day. Unless, it's their anniversary date. But other than that, I honestly don't think there is anything too special. However, for that day, I did drive down to hang out with my bf. Had dinner and slept at his house...that was pretty much it.