Is age a matter in your relationship?

[Askand]

I was wondering about those souple where one of the people relatively younger or older than the other. So my questions are these.

Would you prefer to be younger or older than your patner or gf/bf?
Would you prefer to be equal age?
How much the age difference would you allowed in a relationship?
I'm really curious about this. Thanks.

[Elocin]

Hmmm...

I'm tempted to put this into Growing up. It's not necessarily uber mature, so yeah...

18-25 is a good range for me.

[♥ Tess]

well, by law: age does matter in my case.
The oldest guy I was with was 3 years older then me (i was 14)

Maybe when i'm older, age won't be a major issue -.-
still, I wouldn't want no one my Dad's age

If they were to be younger then me, I would prefer it would be by only a year =/

[iladys]

Well when you're about this age, people will always be on your case if you date someone younger then you or older then you (by this I mean like more then 2 years apart) although there will be some who don't really care about the age diff cause the two of you look great together. I suppose when you're an adult, the age diff doesn't really matter. You could be 9 years different and people wouldn't look at you strangely. However, I wouldnt date someone old enough to be my father, I have morals against that. As for now, I don't mind dating someone older then me, max 5 years older then me, and as for younger, a year is max.

[Phasmatis]

Er, since I turned 18 I guess it's not a good idea to go lower than that. But they say that there's a certain number of years that would be ignored, so 16 might be okay. Meybe. Probably should check out the laws on that. [acting geeky]

[Bak3d on H1gh]

i believe the law is if your 18 anyone lower is off limits.

anyways ager doesn't matter to me when i have a souple. well within reason which is prob about oh ten years still really depends on situation and person.

[Evanesque]

Age doesn't really matter to me. My boyfriend's four months younger than me.

I wouldn't date anyone younger to me by more than one year. I'd feel awkward because then the guy would be my brother's age and it's like dating my brother...=0

As for going for older men, I'm fine with guys up to 24 (max 5 years older than me)
:redbiggri

[emmasu]

well in my relationship, am older by 4 years:redbiggri

[Vladimir]

hmn . i like someone younger than . i find them more fun than older guys . for me older guys always wants to stick with uu . but younger guys tend to do their own stuff . they tend to give me more space . my age range for younger guys can be 13 to my age . if older i like them to be only about two years older than me .

[Evanesque]

Maybe that's because you're the type of person who doesn't like being tied down and thus guys younger than you seem to be the best choice since they (in their own respective ways) may be immature and are definitely clueless about serious relationships.

[emmasu]

well, the age plays arole in that and how serious the guy can be, but not much, it really depends on the person and not the age

[Evanesque]

Yesh it does depend on the person rather than age but as Elle described the younger guys she prefers, it seems to be the case...

Of course, I've come across many kids who are very mature. They talk sense, know about things but don't act too smart with all the knowledge. It's hard to believe they're only 15 or so.

[Vladimir]

i don't really like matured guys . i don't like to be sticking to my bf only . i want to have my own space . so for me having younger boyfriends really works .

[iladys]

To each his own I reckon. You date who you want to date, despite age. Each has their own preference, whether the couples personalities complement each other etc. Some older guys can be protective, but only because some of them take into account of their ego, status and friends' circle. Others are a bit protective because they can't believe you're their girl. Maturity so enters the picture.

[Daifuku]

um... for me, well.... I go with one that is equal to my age or ... 3 years older. I don't want a 5 - 10 years older than me cuz then... he's going to be all aged and I still pass my life... adult lawl. that will make me look like i'm his daughter or something xD

[Jinchuu]

I sure would not like to get arrested and above that I'm not a sick pervert, so I try to date ladies who are closer to my age, and unlike certain gentleman from this forum *cough* A *cough* i (Ai), I can't date cougars who are at least 20 years older than me.

[Elocin]

ROFL, Jinchuu.

You know we love you, Ai. :P

I dunno... I'd like my guy to at least be in college (not a frat boy, a real studious guy), if that gives you a good idea about the age. I guess to me, it's not really the legality issues that bother me with dating a guy who's in HS, it's more the maturity issues. Sure, it may not show as much as when you're friends with a HS guy (I have a few HS male friends), but in a relationship, I think it does show to an extent. I'm not saying all younger guys are like this, just quite a few of them.

And I also believe that guys who are younger aren't willing to have a long-term relationship with a girl, and I'm all for the long-term relationships. If you find a nice college guy (not the ones who want to sleep aroung), they'll want to commit at some point :)

[SoundWave]

2 years younger and 5-6 years older..

[SHiKaMaRi]

I'd prefer a guy who's older than me, but it doesn't really matter that much.

I'd prefer him to be at most a year younger, and four years older.. No older than that :p

[BabyLoving]

Kay, I would totally feel weird if I dated a younger guy. I wouldn't mind if my guy was the same age as me, as long as he knows when to be mature and funny. But it would be great if my guy was older than me. I'm 15 now, so I would only mind if my guy is like, 19 and above. (:

[Atrias]

I always find this one a toughie...

I have a thing for the younger girl, and can't help myself at times from being attracted to girls younger than me even though I know i shouldn't or whatever. I mean I've been out with 16 year olds when I was 18 and I'm 20 now and I still have feelings for my friends younger sisters (invariously 16-18 ish) Yeah, I know... How bad is that shit?

I wouldn't go lower than 16-17 in any case, legal age of consent for UK... but of course now I'm officially out of my teens its hard not to be condemned for liking anyone under 18... lol... the worst thing is that dating a girl who I know is significantly older than me (even by a year) really is a turn off factor for me (not in that way)... I guess I have insecurity issues.

[Lucki]

age doesn't matter to me! i prefer older then younger, but as long as i love them and they love me the rest isn't important!! so maybe..17-26?! i dunno guess it depends on the guy!!

[Sting Rae]

For some reason the guys that I like are always at least two years older than me. I definitely don't like younger guys and not even people my own age. I definitely prefer older guys ^^

[angelicdesire]

i wouldn't date anyone whose a two yrs younger than me. but a yr younger i could do. but i do like my age or older jus cuz to me its more comfortable.

[DJ StarScream]

Age never matters but maturity dose.

[Papercuts]

Age matters to me I wont date a women more than 1 year younger than me and wont date a women 3 years older...im real picky...always seem to find women younger than me are to clingy and older women can sometimes just be a nag and complain all the time..depends really

[L'Arc Enzeru]

Yep, age matters to me coz' i wont date a women that 3 years younger than me and i wont date women that 4 years older than me, i guess women on my own age is good choice for me, but if can i prefer older.

[sham16]

Hmm typically a guy is 3 years younger than a woman in terms of mental maturity?? i can't really explain but i think you get what i mean... I got this from a study anyhow.. So if a guy who is 4 years younger than the woman will be in mental maturity of 7 years younger or so most of them anyway...

[ginjixx]

ohhh in my opinion... age does not matter as long as both of you are happy with each others company..... and for me older women are much good than the younger ones.... thats for the experience,,, hehehe

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

I would certainly prefer someone 2 to 3 years younger then me, and as for older....I think I would settle at a maximum of 2 years older, But nowadays they say Age ain't nothing but a number, and when there's love involved anything is possible......wich is quite scary......

[BabyLoving]

Yeah, I totally agree. When people start saying like, it doesn't matter as long as you love. And I really just want to ask back, so are you able to look at his face and love it again, when its wrinkly, saggy and false teeth are on them? I'm a non-believer of love, so I just want to have fun with older guys. Not in any perverse way, but just the thrill of liking a person. (:

An older guy is always easier to create a perfect boyfriend image in my head. (: Now I know why I always give my limit to three years older than me tops. (:

[sham16]

Yeah thats pretty much it... So if i was to date a girl which i say that i "love"
that is older than me lets say... someone is 15 and she is 23.. I dont really call that love but in fact i would rather call it as an infatation in the sense that most younger men tend to play a bit with their relationships and since women mature faster mentaly.. they tend to settle in faster... So with these 2 variables I dont think that you would be what you always call "A Perfect Match"

[Kray]

I don't think it matters, but with some people, it's frowned upon. I mean, when you're an adult and you can have the 10 years difference, cool. Apparently when you're in your teens and early 20's it's not an a-ok thing to do these days.

"Yeah my partner is 26."
"...but you're only 20!"

'Eh, I don't care. I'll let you do your thing, if you let me do mine.
After all, you don't chose who you fall in love with!
(I'm a strong believer of that)

[sham16]

You believe in faith then... Well cant argue with that... I also beleive that we are already predestined to find who we are to be paired up as soon as we were born... So yeah maybe it maybe true..

As for the age gap.. I still dont like it even though you are above 20's... Think of this, this way... say you were 45 and your wife would be 30... So when you were 15 she was yet to be born or is just an infant.. There is a huge gap with your age and maybe pretty much your whole style of living..

[Kray]

So what if someone falls for someone that is around 10 years older than them? They can't help it. If the age gap is so big that it affects their relationship, then obviously, they wouldn't be together in the first place.

Remember what they say (which I don't believe to be entirely true, but sometimes), opposites attract.

Besides, once you get to that age where you're 45, and your lover is 33 or whatever, you don't really care what other people think. As long as you are happy, you are content. Ya know?

[sham16]

Well thats partly true.. Since you wont even get another chance since you are already 45 :redbiggri But hey love moves in mysterious ways... Maybe you are jsut barking at the wrong tree...

But since my example was 45 so i guess you won't have much tree's to bark on... :Haha

But if you are around 30's won't you like to ask someone who is 2 years older or 5 years younger than you??

If not... lets say you went out with a 40 year old woman and you are around 30's... When you reach 50 she is how old? 70? that is not what i really had in mind as a perfect wife... :Haha

[Kray]

XD I see where you're going with it.

[sham16]

hehehe XD.... I cant really tell you what i mean but... Just read between the lines.. Maybe as you said you get what i mean already... But since they are of that age already they are prett much satisfied of what they got and would rather pursue a much different course in life...

Would.nt you agree??

[Kray]

Yeah, I get ya.

And, it's like I said in the other thread.
Different people like different things, and types of people.
That's why it's a good thing there is such a variety of us. :D

[BabyLoving]

LOL. I swear, seeing you guys talking to each other this way, is so NICE. LOL. (: By the way, six years ain't that big a difference. I think that opposites attract is because that you don't know how the other person is like, so you are more curious about him, compared to other people who are like you. (:

[.multi]

Age doesn't really matter imo, unless it's like 20 years difference. That would be more of a father - daughter or mother - son relation. btw, is 3 years a big deal to people?

[Kray]

Age doesn't really matter imo, unless it's like 20 years difference. That would be more of a father - daughter or mother - son relation. btw, is 3 years a big deal to people?

Three years in what manner?
For siblings?
Or relationships?

My sister is 11 years older than me. (Edit) And I'm 19.

And my folks are around 13 years apart. Maybe a little less?

So 3 wouldn't be that big of a deal, compared to my situation. :Haha

[.multi]

:o and my friends act like 3 years is a big deal :/ Well, tbh, I'm 13 and I like a girl that is 3 years younger.

[Kray]

^^^

Well yeah, the younger you are, the more the age difference is frowned upon. Which kinda sucks. As you grow, it slowly goes away and then it doesn't become as much as a big deal as when we were all tykes. :Haha

[DarkEyedHero]

Age dont matter. I'm 16 and I've dated a 18 yr old woman with a little baby girl. And even though it was only a two year difference she had way more responsibilities than a normal 18 yr old. It was kinda like dating a 21 yr old.

[ginjixx]

ohhh man when you fall inlove everything that contradicted disappeared even if its age or what ever.... teens are just aggressive when it comes to this thats why they always choose maybe 1-3 years older or younger than them... but when you grow up... you mature and those aggressive things changes... maybe almost adults doesnt even think how nmany years their age gap are as long as they tag along well and happy for their relationships....

[gerralin]

I don't think I will like a guy who's younger than me..he might be immatured..

[Alienor]

Hum... i like young guys... >_>'
But I've liked slightly older ones too^^
Age isn't really that muc of an issue... I could go with as young as 15 (not younger than that, though, and the person had better show me he/she is actually ready for a relationship), and as old as 25, but probably not older. I'm 19.

[Ashley]

If it's true love then it's true love. I just hope that if it happens to me that the age difference isn't that bad. I wouldn't want to have a boyfriend that is 35 and I'm 20.. that's just wrong. x_x
I like my guys to be around 2-5 years older than me, and I could go for guys 2-3 years younger. ^^

[adorkable]

I wouldn't understand because its never happened to me, but I wouldn't want a boyfriend who was 10+ years senior to my age. I think that's quite "wrong"... But I don't know what its like. If I was IN LOVE with that person, then maybe not. But by hearing a vast age difference already turns me off.

I wouldn't mind if my boyfriend was 2-5 years older or younger than me.

[eiChi]

for me..well..2 or 3 yrs older then me is acceptable. but plz, not 5 yrs or more. honestly i prefer to be with a guy same age as me. i duno...yet...i hvn had a relationship b4 :p

[BabyLoving]

Its actually that you don't, I think. Because it does nothing but makes you lose your head, something which you can usually do if you take a roller coaster. Sorry for all couples, who don't agree, though. No matter what, age would be a matter, because your parents wouldnt want you to be 25 years old, and marry a 50 years old dude. (:

[Alienor]

If you're 25, then your parents should ahev no say in it.
Honestly, getting into a relationship is an adult's decision, so if by that time you're still letting yourself be influenced by your parents, then you're not mature enough for a relationship (this does not apply to high school relationships :lol )
I don't say you should never listen to them. Listen to their opinion, then make your OWN choice.

[BabyLoving]

LOL. True. But, its like, if you are still in school, and your parents do not want you to be a relationship, you would definitely listen to them. I mean, you are in a relationship that might not even last, so would you want to be in the relationship and come home with our black-faced parents?

Kinda obvious I'm a teenager huhs?

[Alienor]

I did say it doesn't apply for high school relationships^^
You can to convince them though xp

[BabyLoving]

True, but I guess my parents need not worry about me getting married to a fifty year old guy. Although I like older guys, I still think its kinda insane to get married to a fifty year old guy when I'm twenty five. LOL. (:

[Rapt0r]

They gotta b my age or 1 year older for me. Thats how i roll. But if i like the girl enough......ill make an acception :winking56

-Rap

[layla]

hmmm, same age would be really great... i dont mind 2 yrs older or younger maximum, but it really really depends on the person. if they're young but mature, then i dont mind. so i guess it doesnt play that big of a factor for me.

[sham16]

:o and my friends act like 3 years is a big deal :/ Well, tbh, I'm 13 and I like a girl that is 3 years younger.

Hmm let me see you are 13 and you would be with a 10 year old girl is that correct?? So for me age wise I really dont think that it is of proper time but if you and your partner is mature enough then why not?? it an experience and it may even last who knows.. But this may be classified as puppy love if i ma not mistaken...

[BabyLoving]

Kinda agree with #sham16. Well, if my friend was 13, and he like a girl who was younger by three years, I kinda feel that I would freak out too. LOL. (:

[sham16]

Kinda agree with #sham16. Well, if my friend was 13, and he like a girl who was younger by three years, I kinda feel that I would freak out too. LOL. (:

Call me Sham... the # sign in my name means that i am a student in the academy ^_^... ehehehe anyhow i didnt say that i would be freaked out or anything... I mean it is ok as long as they dont do anything over that... I.e. kissing and you know.. But being together is ok.. That is what they call as puppy love... So no objections here... As for some yeah they would really be saying "ow their too young to be doing that..."

[Allicat]

i think that in school dating someone three years and more difference kind of matters but when you get older the span of year diffrence gets fuzzy and people date people much older/younger...but personally the person can not be more that 4 years younger or older..

[sham16]

It depends on what age or level in school you are in... I mean if you are in college age spans are very very long already.. Maybe its ok for a senior college date a seniot HS student... But if you are of elementary level and dating kidergarteners omg.!!

[Allicat]

well when i said school i meant grade school high school and lower. and yeah kiddy garden would be wierd but thats a given that that would be wierd anyway... but yeah i am in college and really old people hit on me... creeps me out O.o

[sham16]

Old people... O.o as in grandmas??? lmao just joking ^_^... But i think that having the same age in kindergarten is ok they call it puppy love.. But elemtary school it would be kinds wierd since they aer already way over that.

[hollow kitty]

Age matters but it has a lot to do with how mature someone is as to how much it really matters. I've only dated one guy younger than me and it wasn't much different. I think its more of a problem to other people than it is to the people in the relationship.

[minori]

My bf is five years older than me (i'm 19, nearly 20) and it's the perfect age difference for me (he doesn't mind either ;P ). I've always liked older men, 10 years is the limit so that the relationship doesn't get too complicated so five is just perfect. ^^

I could never see myself dating a younger guy cos men are more childish than women. Since my bf is also kinda ageless it's nice to be with him cos he's funny and very much like me but in some things feels like older and more experienced. ^^

[Lolable]

Mature,thats all I want xD
So age doesn't matter but then again I don't want someone much younger than me or waaay older.

19-30 for me xD

[Wanderweiss]

Ah... this is a wonderful thread...

See children, HamStar loves the older womens... 4 or 5 years older is ideal... The only problem here is, that the older womens don't love the HamStar so much. No love for HamStar at all...

I am HamStar, and I disapprove of this message.

[Ushio Amamiya]

to me, age matters in the relationship.

(no offense, but...)

i don't want to date younger guys because i don't want to be responsible for taking care of them like kids... :lol i prefer to have a relationship with someone who is older than me, because I think dating older men is much mature...my bf is four years older than me and that is fine...if he's too much old, i'm not gonna date him... :lol

[Xkavanger]

I would so prefer my partner to be the same age as me.
I don't actually mind guys who are born a year younger than me, so long as the month is not past February =\
I don't mind anyone older, just not past 3 and a half years.

[d_angel]

Well... age does matter for me. Five years older or younger either way. Although at my age, I don't think I would want to date an 18 year old guy. We'd be at far too different stages in our lives, and the maturity factor might be an issue. XD Maybe when *he's* 23 and I'm 28 it won't matter.

Although I do admit to cringing when I see men in their 50s and 60s with women that can't be more than late teens/early twenties, because the odds are, there's a pretty big dimension to that relationship that smacks of... *Cough*... gratuity. Sorry if that sounds conservative, but I don't think I'll be able to get over that idea in my mind. Same with much older women and younger men. It's like crushing on your grandma. DDD:

[Alienor]

Lol, it's true in a lot of cases, but sometimes there really is love under it... and a lot of courage, since you don't know how long you will be able to be together...

[BabyLoving]

LOL. Yeah, but normally those type of relationships won't last. Cause both parties would be equally stressed by the way others comment and react.

[Sakuya]

To a certain extent, I'd say it's alright. Maybe 5 years max, especially when one of the people is still in his/her teenage years. In those types of relationships, there's such a big difference in maturity level, as well as financial stability and just life in general. Between a 18 year old and a 40 year old, they're in completely different stages of their lives. The 18 year old is probably still completing his/her education, whereas the 40 year old is either seriously pursuing a position in the career he/she has been involved in for over a decade.

And, I mean in the end, if the two really do intend to stay together, when the 40 year old is 60, the younger half will only be 38. At 80, the other will be 58. One of the two will end up being the others' caretaker for the majority of his/her life.

[AmnesiaI]

I won't date girls younger than 21 because they can't go out and have a drink with me if i want to go out.

[Kazuma Shawn]

nt really...what matters more than feelings when the both of them are in love of each other???age isnt a problem..perhaps there may be a "BUT.."..however,when it comes to relationship,nothing is much more important than how they feel to each other..

[Kay™]

agree....age,height,races,etc doesnt matter but what matter is how you feel at her/him

[Sakura_Drops]

Age...if it's over 8 years..that gap's a bit big for me. I'd prefer a guy to be a bit older than me..maturity is very attractive xD

[teddyen]

"age doesn't matter where love is concern"
^ agrees, but easier said than done

i would have prefer ppl older than me, and no no very large age gap... but who knows i might think differently when i fall in love? time will tell ^^

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

How much the age difference would you allowed in a relationship?
I'm 23 so the Youngest would be 19 NOT 18...and as for oldest I'd say 25/26!!!

[Kisar Namai]

I dont think age should matter within a relationship, I mean yeh, it has to be withing reason, like an age difference of 12 years is pushing it ever so slightly, but an age of difference of something like 5 years i would think is acceptable. I know people who would think even that big a difference isnt right. But hey, everyone is entitled to their own opinions right?

[Vladimir]

it's not really the matter. but depends on one self . whether they like it or not . but for me, age doesn't really matter . i had a bf b4 who's 13 while i'm 16 . event tho i feel weird cuz he's my lil sis fren but meh . ii like him not his age . so it doesnt really matter .

[Miss M]

hmm.. I'd prefer guys older than me by about 5 years... ^^
my mum said guys tend to act 5 years younger than their age... :p
but sometimes affection is more important than age...

[xFrame]

I think age matters to a certain extent when you're young. Lets say a 20 year old going out with a 16 year old...kinda weird. or a 33 yo going out with a 19 yo. Later in life, the age gap seems different...like a 43 yo with a 33 yo...doesnt seem so weird.

[SamuraiOverdriv]

Im about to be 21 years old, and i once had a girlfriend 3 years younger than me when i was 19. She looked older but she was pretty immature, couldn't have no for an answer, couldn't admit that sometimes she was wrong ect ect. Anyway i have learn my lesson, because she was only 16 at that time. But if i would go out with someone that would be 3 years younger now, she would be 19, and thats a hole lot of ageing diffrence, and more mature, but that can switch from one to another. you get my drift? :)

[Anime_Lover02]

Yes,I think is better if the guy is older(in some relantionships).

[sirhchris]

Hmmm, atm I'm not even 16 yet, so I guess girls at my age, or older is most interesting..
but I really don't think age has anything to say, not for me at least, I mean.. there are limits of corse, but where they stand, I'm not sure..

[Kuroi Getsuga Tenshou]

know A Girl that's 16 years old but she has a 25 year old boyfriend, I just don't think that's right! but they say age is just a number and anything can happen when your in love.

[iladys]

I think age isnt really a matter, it depends on a person's preference. I think now, people have mixed views on an adult dating a teenager but it changes when we're older. People really don't see a problem (most of the time) unless you're dating a guy like 50 years older then you or something.

For me, I wouldn't mind going 5 years up or 3 years down *shrugs* As long as we like each other and get long, its all good.

[Riw]

In general terms, I'd prefer a boyfriend who is around my age, and - maybe even more importantly - in a same phase of life. Both students, for example. Nowadays I could maybe date a younger guy (if I wasn't in a great relationship already, that is) but when I was in my teens, I didn't find that thought appealing - rather older than younger partner for me, thank you.

My current boyfriend is four years my senior and sometimes I do wish he were a bit younger, but that can't be helped. We have been together for over four years already and the age gap doesn't feel as great anymore than it did before, not surprisingly.

[Harley Quinn]

Age has never been an issue with me, if I wasn't with my current bf(4 yrs older)I could quite happily go with someone in their 40's.For some reason I really like guys of that sort of age.Thinking pervy thoughts of Mads Mikkelsen(Tristen in King Arthur):biggrinlo

[ClayFace]

Age WAS an issue to me at one point but now that I'm getting older I'm into youger girls(not if I make a pass at you I'll end up in jail young). Right now, I'm 26 and currently hooking up with a 19 year old. She's hot but she isn't very experienced which can be frustrating at times because I don't want her to feel awkward about anything so sometimes I have to be patient with her at times. Don't worry, I'm not asking her to do some crazy ass kinky shit but you can tell she's still got a long way to go in the bedroom department.

HAHA, but in all reality, I like the whole teacher student thing we got going on... It's like I'm teaching her the ways of the "force." :Haha

[Harley Quinn]

You dirty B@$*#&d!Hee hee it's alright though, I kinda like the whole student/teacher fantasy.
Whoops I'm going off topic here, sorry everyone please resume the debate.

[ClayFace]

HAHAH, what? I'm just acting as her Sexual Obi Wan Kinobi... I'm just going to leave the lightsaber jokes out of this one for obvious reason. :P

[Harley Quinn]

I wouldnt mind hearing some but I suppose that would be a good choice, u never know u might just end up insulting a feminist.

[shaberry]

Personally...for me...I believe that age matters...but then again...it doesn't. With an older person, you're more likely to find a mature person, but then again...not all older people are mature >.<;;; However...it's a diamond in the rough to find a mature person who is younger than you. -.-;;;

[Kira vi Britannia]

I think if the person is 4 years younger than you and you are in the 16~18 yr old zone, age will be an issue.

If the younger person is 18 or above and you are attracted to them, then age would not be an issue. I dated a highschool senior in my sophmore year in HS, and when I was a Junior, shes already in College, and the thing is we didn't go to the same school, we met through friends. But now that I'm a senior and shes a sophmore in college, we decided to see other people but not because of the age issue, but the location issues, shes too far away now in college we can't find time for her to travel down to see me.

[shaberry]

I think if the person is 4 years younger than you and you are in the 16~18 yr old zone, age will be an issue.

If the younger person is 18 or above and you are attracted to them, then age would not be an issue. I dated a highschool senior in my sophmore year in HS, and when I was a Junior, shes already in College, and the thing is we didn't go to the same school, we met through friends. But now that I'm a senior and shes a sophmore in college, we decided to see other people but not because of the age issue, but the location issues, shes too far away now in college we can't find time for her to travel down to see me.

I'll come see you .Mizu! Lol. :biggrinlo

[Kira vi Britannia]

but you're all the way in Cali.

I'm in Eastern part of US. its impossible.

[shaberry]

Lol...I'll take some redbull and grow some wings and fly over to your side ^-^

[peacmaker]

I still I feel got some grown up do, because I hardly been way from home or have not date even one. Also a family member put in uncomforable postion and prefer not see him again. All he did was me not want to date even man at all or until I movie away from Texas. However, I did let him know I felt about the whole matter and he got the point.

[Kira vi Britannia]

Lol...I'll take some redbull and grow some wings and fly over to your side ^-^

haha, I'm sure your bf or mayybe gf wouldn't like that.
guessing you have one cuz its a crime if you didn't.:Haha

[shaberry]

haha, I'm sure your bf or mayybe gf wouldn't like that.
guessing you have one cuz its a crime if you didn't.:Haha

He wouldn't mind if I visited ^-^ Lol...and my gf...don't have on yet...still workin on it...lol

[Kira vi Britannia]

He wouldn't mind if I visited ^-^ Lol...and my gf...don't have on yet...still workin on it...lol
yes, Miyagi rikku will not like that. >.>

She might kill me.

[shaberry]

yes, Miyagi rikku will not like that. >.>

She might kill me.

LOL...well I haven't quite declared that I'm her sex kitten yet...so that's going to be questionable. lol...and plus...she already said she wouldn't mind sharing me with you...lol

[ichigo81195]

i never really thought about it but the oldest would b 2-5 years older than me and 2 years younger than me.

[Hathore]

i wouldnt mind if they were alittle younger then me or older most likely only a year or two

[Reenee_2340]

my 1st bf was a year younger than me n he wuz very immature n didnt wanna take no for an answer, he always wanted things his way, which led us 2 breakin up. Even tho I wuz 1 yr older than him, I wuz more mature n had more common sense.....i guess it wha ppl say how gurlz mature faster than guyz in a mental way.....but yea, i rememba like almost 2 yrs ago when i wuz 18, i dated a 24 yr old(no longer 2gether). it wuz ok, but now, my bf is jus a few months older than me (6 to be exact) n hes very diff. in a way from my past relationships, in a very good way :)

[Pie <3]

So your not mature if you can't take no for a answer?

You sir , are wrong.

[Reenee_2340]

So your not mature if you can't take no for a answer?

You sir , are wrong.


um....im a girl

n yea dats wha i believe if ur constantly being annoyin bout it n always not takin 'no' for an answer

its ok if u say no if u disagree
but seriously

if ur constantly doin dat.........dats a problem, n its annoyin.......dats wha i think

[Pie <3]

Being annoying and being immature are two different things :)

[Reenee_2340]

well they both relate 2 da same thing so w.e


IDK!!! stop confusing me!!! lol

newayz
*ahem*
back 2 da topic lol
if the guy/girl knows wha hes/shes doin and knows how 2 treat you right, then everythings cool :)

[+]-[+POPS+]

during the teen years, guys usually run a year or two behind the girls in their maturity and that doesn't change until the mid 20's. now that's a VERY general statement , but I found many friends along with myself followed that same pattern.

[..::Mr 999::..]

hey if in my Country a age is no matter, there are people married but brdgi is 20 and the groom is 32........

[raindrops028]

15-17......I dont want a guy who is 3years older than me.........

[Oddy]

i dont care about the age differences i think as soon as you hit university it doesnt really matter anymore i have a gf who is 4 years older than me and we are in love since 8 month and still going

[Mikado]

If it is on eyear diffirence I don't care, but more.. nah.

[Aru-Chii]

Considering I really have absolutely no interests in dating whatsoever, I'd prefer equal age, maybe at least a few years older.

[Achilles]

It shouldn't be trouble if there are 4-5 years between the couple.

[Hitsugaya Toshirou]

thats really a tough question in some cases. if you really have feelings for whoever it may be, and if the couple is mature i guess age is only a number but me personally, i wouldnt date no one over 5 years older then me

[Hannah]

for me age doesn't matter as long as its 4yrs before and 4yrs after your age XD

[Future]

hmm... it all depends on the person, they might be worth it... even if they're like 7 years older

[*kaname*]

My last boyfriend and I split up because of the difference in age (3 years) :'( . So yeah, it can be a matter in relationship.

[renniw]

Ya well I think that the older you get the less it matters .... For example, Boy A is 16 and Girl A is 12, should they go out? I wouldn't in this case since 12 is still a kid and 16 is edging into the adult years or atleast they have matured a bit. On The other hand boy B is 28 and Girl B is 24, age shouldn't really matter....

EDIT: Ya i just repeated what everyone else did, thats what i get for not reading the other posts....

[motoki]

I dont think it matters, as long as you both know what you want, and are on or near the same level, or even a complimenting level, difference in age doesn't have to be an issue for the relationship.
now there are other things....i know this because i'm going through it now....so age doesn't have to matter.

[Cheryl]

Age does matter, though it depends on the couple themselves. Personally I'd prefer a guy the same age as or older than me, though the age gap shouldn't be too big...say, at most, 5 years?

But imo, maturity is what really matters. If you're comfortable with your guy/girl and things work themselves out fine, why not?

[motoki]

I think the only time age can be a problem is when the people involved don't understand each other and there's maybe a lack in communication. understanding and communication are key to a solid relationship.
along with trust, honesty, and all those other things, but when it comes to age...
it can matter, but i tihnk only if there's no understanding
for instance, like what one goes through at certain age in ones life, or if because one is older, they're at work a lot...
or even if one is younger, the other is in school and has to focus on that...so the older one has to be understanding enough to let the younger one do school and not interfere or even help them out if possible

[mangaman16]

It matters if the girl is more than 3 years younger than me or about 5 years older.A 16 having a 12 or 13 year old isn't cool imo but it happens alot because some girls are just that way looking for "big things" lol.

[motoki]

The younger you are, it seems to matter more than when you get older. If you're about 23 or so, having a girlfriend who's between 18 and 36 is not a big deal for some. just giving an example. but some are attracted to older people...
but some prefer it younger...just hopefully not too young because then that's child molestation

[atemikage]

aroound yur own age

[Starlight]

I agree with atemikage. Personally I limit myself to 2 years older/2 years younger ratio. maybe 3 if its special.

[Jeggo]

Age doesnt matter. I can date a girl who's 5 yr younger than me , and one that has double my age. I really dont care :)

[DatLatina!]

Doesnt really matter too much but if the guy is like 12 or 13 and im like 14 or 15 then thats a problem right there

[Tobi]

I used to think any age would do as long as it wasn't too young or too old, but now I'd love a girlfriend that was a few years older than me (Say 3-4) so she would hopefully be mature, I hate immature woman.

[Xlayer]

To be honest, to me a girls age is the least that matters, then again, im 15 so im not gonna date a 12 year old, but idc if she's 13 or older than me, as long as she's not a 50 year old lady or older, so really, age isnt that important

[momo-taichou]

I'm 15...16 next month and i wouldnt date a 14 year old or younger and 20 and older.

[-=Yanayo=-]

im 15

i dated a 23 year old for a year and four days lol so not a matter for me ^_^ (as in hes 23 now started dating him at 14 he was 22) it sounds wrong but hey

i would'nt date anyone that much younger then me though i find it weird

[MasterWordSmith]

My GF is almost 18, and I'm 18, so its not a matter in my current situation, however, I wouldn't date a girl illegally if shes over a year younger than me. As for the future, I think as long as they are within my general region I'm ok with it, I don't want anyone excessively old/young with me, its hard to connect with a different age group.

[Nowitzki]

Honestly, in my experience, I like to pursue older women. It seems like when the significant other is older, you will learn much more about the relationship, and their experience assists you in many aspects, and makes things easier. Often, in a younger relationship, you play the role of the teacher, the one with experience, and you'll have to go and make everything right and ease your significant other. This, for me, kind of creates a gap, as you often feel like you may be investing too much time into this relationship, and not getting a lot back. Generally, (or stereotypically) the younger people have less to offer to you, especially in a talking scenario. It ends up being more about problem solving then anything else. When you are that younger person, you can take steps to ensure that the older person won't go through these hassles. You have the power to make it an equal relationship, where both people can give and receive from each other (not in THAT way... :))

[iladys]

'To each his own', yeah?

I have a few friends who date older guys/girls and they're in pretty content relationships. There are some people who don't accept it but if they like each other, what's to stop them from dating? Sometimes parents might disapprove cause you're too young but you have to prove it to them that you're mature enough to have a relationship with someone older.

Regarding myself personally, I don't see age as much of a matter in relationships, as long as communication gets across. I'd go for guys 3 years younger max though, dating someone younger then my youngest sister is just weird.

[Neko Bam]

D-UHH, I'm not gonna date a 30 year old or a 12 year old. It has to be around my age of course. A 3 or 4 (5 at max) year gap isn't to bad, but for some weird reason I'd rather have a gir who's slightly older then me =S (one or two years)

[Edgey]

Age does play an important factor in a relationship, like for example I know a 18 year old going out with a 12 year old, that's there I draw the line, me and mt girlfriend are 1 year and 4 months apart from each other but we don't really care, we love each other :biggrinlove

But still make sure the age gap isn't really far apart, 2-3 years apart is the most I will go to..

[Bladecatcher]

for me, personally, it isnt a big deal, as long as it isn't like a freaking preteen and a 20 year old.
like...really. i like this guy thats almost 23. i am 17 now, but that to me, isnt a big whoop. my girl frens think its all good, but all my guy frens don't like it. hahah

[Enix]

As long as you love one another it shouldent. They still be at the age to know what love is.

[Mercurius]

Well I dun really want them to be younger than me...Cause somehow useully then they are all so Childish -_-
But too old isn't my thing either, I'm 16 so I mostly look and favor 16, 17 and some 18 year olds (if they are really cute:biggrinlo)

[Enix]

Well I dun really want them to be younger than me...Cause somehow useully then they are all so Childish -_-
But too old isn't my thing either, I'm 16 so I mostly look and favor 16, 17 and some 18 year olds (if they are really cute:biggrinlo)

like the people who are morons just get irratating,

[Neko Kyo]

for me, It's not much about the age, but about maturity. 5 years difference is too much for me though.

[nevo42]

personaly, I would not go out with a girl older than me...but thats just me...And i would only go about 2 years younger than me, not any younger..

[Enix]

You see im 16 and i think 15-18 is good till I get out of high school then i think 19-26

[Shadow_Strider]

I am recently engaged and my fiance is only about 6 months younger than me. Although I don't necessarily believe age matters, as long as your not like 20 and dating a 14/15 year old.

[motoki]

I say age doesn't matter unless one is an adult, and the other is a minor....then it only matters because of the law, but as far as love goes, if they genuinely love each other, it doesn't...however, i wouldn't date anyone who's younger than 18 because i'm over 18 because it gets complicated, and there's generally a maturity issue involved...parents...etc.

[Neko Bam]

Yeah, it does:
It doesn't matter who is older, the man or the woman, but there's a thing like a limit (if one of 'em is 12 years older then the other then you've got a problem)

[motoki]

Psh...i've dated people upto 15 years older than me....two years in the making and still going strong.

[Neko Bam]

Psh...i've dated people upto 15 years older than me....two years in the making and still going strong.
O_o WHUUUUUUUT?!
How old were you and how old was your girlfriend?

[motoki]

21 and 35/36....birthday is coming up

[Pierrot]

I like 'em young.
But every so often I like 'em real old, Keeps me on my toes.

Nah, really, age doesn't matter too much, it's attitude that matters.

[Miyu]

I don't mind a man my age as long as he is mature, one year younger is the lowest I would go.

[Graffik]

*my post got burned* :P [I gotta stop spamming]

For me age is a matter so long as I am not dating a girl so young, I could be classified as a 'pedofile'. So until I am 23, I'm not dating a girl 4 years younger then me. It just would feel wrong. Because technically, a mid-teen girl and mid-twenty guy... well you can only imagine.

As for a girl older then me :)... that's my secret, lets just say it isn't as restrictive as the former age group. So long as they aren't THAT old. :P

[motoki]

Yes, well, some would consider baggy skin and dentures a major turn off. As would I. Appearance takes a part too. It's cool if they're older, but look young.
that's always nice.

But i'm with you on the pedophile thing....no thanks!

[berserk]

Age does matter to me. Yes, I understand that love can blossom anywhere, but one should know better. Since I'm 19, -1 - +5 is fine by me. Till I'm older -6 - +5 will be my general range.

[Kenji]

Age does matter, to me at least.

I preferably want to be married to someone inbetween the -2 - +2 Range.

But if I fall in love with someone between -5 - +5 it's still fine.

[madam.elsie]

I think I'd prefer to be younger or the same age as my b/f, but I have a tendency to go with younger guys.
I don't think I'd ever date a guy who was like 40 years older than me, but 39 might be okay.

[Kenji]

My Uncle married my Aunt who's 5 years older than him, they seem pretty happy.

There just has to be love, and not a major age difference.

[Fallgore]

Honestly age matters in every relationship; no matter what a person says. I personally don't have the time to read through all 163 posts prior to my own but here's what I say:

Age matters - If you're 18 and dating a 13 year old, that's kind of a wtf, right? Same thing applies when you're ready to get married and settle down. If you're 30 and the girl is 26 and she wants to wait until she's at least 30, will you wait? Age matters in everything more or less I suppose.

But in bigger gaps of 10+ years, well, that, in my opinion, shows gold digging. But then again, I could be wrong, however, I've never seen a young beautiful woman marry an old man out of love. I've seen an ugly young woman marry a decent old looking man for love, but hey, whatever. My Uncle married a woman who was 8 years younger than him and they're happy.

Personally, I want to get involved with someone -/+ 3 years of my own age. But that's me :p

[ichigo81195]

I don't get why age is such a big issue in some relationships. if u love someone then u love them even if they were 50 years younger than them. i have a friend and her dad is 68 and her mom is only 28 and she about 13. but that wasn't rilly true love cause they got a divorce but still who cares???

[Kenji]

Because of Sluts who go out with Rich old men to get their money, that's why because those sluts send a bad image of people who do date on a Young-older level.

I also care, because if we have an equal age, then it'll be a beautiful ending.

You and your lover holding hands, and shutting your eyes while death comes painlessly.

[ichigo81195]

good point about the slut thing.

[shaberry]

For me age matters a bit. It's more on the mentality of the person. However, I would prefer someone older than me.

[KELSØv3.0]

For me age matters a bit. It's more on the mentality of the person. However, I would prefer someone older than me.
I agree there.

I'm not being sexist, just stating some facts: It's proven that mentally, males mature two years SLOWER than girls do. My boyfriend is eighteen and I'm sixteen, so it works out perfectly because we act about the same age.

However, we have to be careful with what we do, because I'm a minor and he's of-age. If we were to have sex and my parents found out, he could be charged with statutory rape.

So, age should be an important factor when dating someone, especially if you're a minor and you plan to be sexual.

[Greggle]

Anything more than a 2 year gap is pretty wrong until you get out of college, in which case age differences are nigh-invisible up to nearly 10 years. Each year before your graduate is very distinctively different from eachother, and its a lot better to go through the experiences with someone else at the same time if you ask me.

[Joan]

The age really depends on how old you are. If you're 39 and dating someone 32 it's no big deal.
If you're 19 and dating someone 12 it's a whole lot worse, at least where I live..

In other words, it all depends on how old you are.

Me and my bf are both 18 with two months separating us so age really isn't a matter in our relationship :)

[SLVR]

I prefer younger. I dont know why. And age aint squat to me as long as she is within 4 years.

[kiwigrl89]

I wouldn't mind going out with someone older or younger than me. 17 at the youngest, 25 at the oldest (there could be exceptions to this rule though, lol)

[KELSØv3.0]

The age really depends on how old you are. If you're 39 and dating someone 32 it's no big deal.
If you're 19 and dating someone 12 it's a whole lot worse, at least where I live..
In other words, it all depends on how old you are.
I agree.
When you're 18- the age of the person that you date is sort of crucial, most likely because of the maturity difference, imo.

But when you're 18+ it doesn't matter if you date someone five years older than you.