Right or Wrong?

[Ericd014]

Sorry this is kinda long...but I really need advice on wether I did the right thing.

Ok, thought I would ask a few sensible people about this, mostly the girls to see what they would have said. Ok here is what happened. There is a girl at my school which I really like, but she was "dating" a guy from another school. Well, a few weeks ago she found out that the guy was cheating on her. Today she saw him again in the halls at a Music Contest we had. Here is what I heard from when I came in...

Her: No...leave.
Him: Come on, you know you want me back. You need me.
Her: After what you did!! NO!

So by now, I assumed that he was trying to get back with her. I had two thoughts going through my mind at the time. Easiest way to kill him and leave no evidence and how to get her away from him so I could. But of course I know that she wouldn't want me to hit him, let alone kill him. Because that is the kind of person she is, no matter what someone does to her, she won't be truely mad at them, disappointed, but not really mad. Here is when I come in...

Me: She said leave, so do it.
Him: Who the hell are you? Her boyfriend? Oh, I get it, you had a boyfriend all along....(Quitely under his breath i think he said whore)
Me: No, sadly I am not that lucky. But now, get out of here before I make you.
Her: Don't hurt him Eric.
Me: I won't....if I don't have to.
Him: Like you could.

At this time, I sigh and look at her with kinda a sorry glance, grab the guy, and pull him over to the side of the hall where she probably couldn't hear us, but she might have...she never said.

Me: Ok, I will give you one more chance. Get the **** out of here.
Him: If your not her boyfriend why are you being so protective, and what do you have against me?(Ok, I kind of understand why he asked that, fact is, I am 18 and I have known her for 16.5 years.)
Me: Ok, two things against her. One: You cheated on her. Two: You have the ****ing nerve to cheat on her then say that she needed you. Now I will give you two options. Option one is easier for me and you: Walk away now, never say another word to her or even look at her, and I can forget anything and everything you said today and any other time you talked to her. Two: You can continue ****ing around and I will, even though she will probably be mad at me for a little while, beat the shit out of you.

He glares at me, raises a fist, and throws a punch at me. I grab his fist and twist it around so I could, if I choose, pop his shoulder out of its socket, which is very painful...and I know how to make it so its hard to put back in. I shove him down the hall and yell "Get the **** out of here" I turn around and say sorry to her because she hates hearing people cuss. He walks up to me and stands toe to toe with me(Ok, I am not a small guy, 6'5", 200 pounds, and I hold almost all strength records at my school). I just stare down at him, I see him start shaking like he is going to attack me, but(to my supprise) he turns around and says "**** you two" and walks away. I look at her and say "Sorry about him." She just smiles, and gives me a hug. Right then (amazing timing they have isn't it?) her friends come along and she just walks off with them and smiles. I hear them ask what was that was wrong, because her face was still red from crying earlier, and she just keeps but says "Don't worry(She turns and looks at me), everything is going to be fine."

Any thoughts on if I should have just beat the crap out of the guy. I like this ending though.

[silverwolf801]

lol I am so sorry but this sounds so fake i just don't know what to say. Um ok edit. Well I think you should try and become more than friends but slowly not to fast it might scare her.

[Ericd014]

Not fake, but I don't blame you for thinking that. If it didn't happen to me, I wouldn't believe it either...

[Askand]

Well my advice let her heal the wounds first. Right now she is really hurt and jumping from one relationship into another without the proper healing would be not good for the two of you. If you are really her friend. Then try to help her heal if the feeling of love grows then its ok. But dont force the situation. Also just look out for yourself. They can get on the revenge mode and try something nasty. Well thats all I can say for now. And one last piece of advice. Be sincere, is the best ace you can have on your hand. Good luck. Lies takes you no where.

[Elocin]

This isn't really as extreme as to be in 18+ but more like growing up...

So I'll move it over there for you.

[Ashley]

Ah, so the question you're asking is, 'If you did the right thing by stepping in and telling that guy who was being forceful to her, to leave because she asked him to.'

I would say you did the right thing. Who knows what else could have happened if you didn't step in and help her ward off her boyfriend (ex). It might have ended up with her being abused, which would of course been terrible. Also, it's good that you didn't resort to violence and striking him.. because as you could see, it worked and he backed down, so there was no need for excessive force.

On a lighter side of things, your little story did sound like a scene from a romance movie or book. It sorta felt like I was reading a subtitled anime lol. You should be a novelist, if you aren't one already. ^^

As for the situation on if you should pursue the girl which you like, [i]Askand[/] responded perfectly.. and I agree. Very good advice. She took the words right out my mouth. ^^

[Helikaon]

Well being the person I am.. I say.. GOOD ON YA MATE! That was a show of being a gentleman that I actually approve of. I woulda done the same thing, but you were good not to hit him, because I think she wouldnt have had the same reaction she did at the end. You went on the defensive in the crucial point (on the edge of it turning into a fight) whereas at the start you were on the agressive so you had the smarts to think before you act which is a big plus. So I say you did a good job. About the relationship.. I think you just scored points in her book, although I think you should leave it for a while, not distance yourself but talk to her still. Perhaps when she is ready she might make a move or if you think its been a good amount of time.

[The Dragonlord]

Real cool thing to do man. I would of done the same thing, although I would really want to beat the **** out of him, I wouldn't. I never had that kind of thing happen to me in school, but I wish I did. Hope things turn out well for you Eric.

[Jinchuu]

c/p

The first and only time, a dude tried to **** with me infront of my girlfriend and my friends, I had to bust his ****ing ass without mercy. The next thing I know; a week later I get jumped up by 5 upper classman, was it worth the beating I got? ****in' yeah, thousandfold. It's a matter of pride. However your situation is the exact opposite.
Well, if you really like this girl and you think she is worth beating the fella might sound reasonable but it's actually not. You don't get to beat a girl's boyfriend just because he was cheating on her or scolding her. I mean come on if you didn't happen to be there, they might have gotten along after some time. However, even tough, in my personal opinion you were wrong, every mother****er who tries to punch back deserves another beating, just cuz' of respect because he has the balls to still fight.
That's that, again, in my opinion what you did was wrong. Macho and probably gentleman-like but wrong. Never get in between boyz and girlz whose relations are not officially over. Beating a guy in a moment like that is called "stealing" in the book of dating. Imagine if you were a skinny dude what the **** you could have done then?

and Elocin just because you hadn't deleted the old one I was nearly losing one of the largest posts I have written in a year, ofcourse, me being the shit I can recover every single post I want but that's not the point.

[gwcommander]

Thats awsome. You did the right thing. The fact you didnt beat the crap out of him shows her that your the bigger guy. I kinda had a situation where the other night i was out with this girl. We were in her car talkin and this guy kept calling over and over. she was like i dont know how to block numbers this guy wont leave me alone and he has someone and is a creep. i asked her if she wanted to me and i said sure. So i made my voice super deep and the guy answered i was like whos this and he was like is (the girl) there. My name is Tad (lame name i know) and im her bf dont call here again. he was like oh im srry. and hangs up. although right now she is intrested in someone else right now she has mentioned im still an option. but try to go for it ya never know it might work out.

[SoundWave]

Everything goes in self-defence.. I would've beaten the snot outta him if I could. Since he threw the first punch I feel that he deserves a lesson in the consequences of your actions. But that's just me..

Though you did the ideal thing, prime example of what ppl think is right. I say all you need to do now is to wait and see. She might want to be with you or she might not, always prepare for the worst, then you're less likely to be dissapointed later. You're the "hero", so I guess you're on the plus side at least.. from my point of view. But never be too sure. Just support her when she needs you.

[Ericd014]

@Jinchuu
I know I probably shouldn't have stepped in, but I knew it was over. Although she wouldn't be visibly upset, she knows from what her sisters have went through that guys that cheat never learn. But about the being jumped part, I am not worried about that. I would gladly take any beating for her, I would die in knowing that she got hurt when I could have done something more.

[BabyLoving]

I think you are kinda concerned about the part she cried, or else you won't have asked if it is right or wrong. Correct if I'm wrong though, cause thats just what I felt.

While, I think the reason she cried is actually that she actually still likes that guy, but refuses to accept him back, because she knows that the guy would hurt her again, and she totally does not want to be hurt. So, she actually isn't crying that the guy got hurt. Its more of the matter that the guy turned up, and still acted as though he did nothing wrong.

My advice to you would actually be that give her some time to get over the hurt and her feelings for the guy. And, if you guys ever get together, it might be fragile and all, because she might just have recovered from the pain, so she might not trust guys so much yet.

Personally, you totally did the right thing. If I was in her shoes, I would have wanted him to get lost, but I just won't know how. So, kudos for doing that! (:

[StormsFury]

Nice!!!!Way to go, and from the sounds of it you have a little more than friendship now..