Is sex as a minor wrong?

[Mighty Aramir]

Youre under 18, but over 13, your hormones start to take over your mind, the chance appears...What do you do?

Is sex while being a minor wrong?
I dont think so, its hard to say no to a friend, but its even harder for him/her to obey, so what do you do? tell them to protect themselves? Or blindly believe that they will keep their pants on?
Id like to see opinions

[silverwolf801]

If it's wrong then the cops should be banging on my door any minute now.

[Kay™]

well it is illegal in my country but what can you do when someone offer that to you...will you turn it down?

[silverwolf801]

wait I know that is wrong here im state too but no one abides by the rules I had sexual intercourse at the age of (don't need to know that here). So see

[Triddy]

With another minor? No.

As long as one of the two people is smart/responsible enough to use protection, and neither is forced into it, I don't see any problem with 2 people under the age of 18 having sex.

It's when you have a minor having sex with an 18+ person you start getting problems.

[Rayster]

Is sex while being a minor wrong?
The law seems to be the 'moral and ethical benchmark' in our lives, and so in reference to this: Yes. It is.

however the question is broad to answer, because surely ppl in that position would argue against it, whereas ppl who look at it morally may agree

The technicality of the law in this instance will probably be pointed out, such as if the youth are no more than two years apart it may be legal (in some countries) whereas with an elder is obviously a criminal offence since it is as seen as damaging - and in a moral sense, stealing a child's fragile innocence.

[♥ Tess]

well, having sex outside of marriage used to be a issue for many people.
Guess we conformed to the idea that it's ok to do it

[on topic]
Having sex as a minor, hmm..
Though it won't change anything, i think it's wrong.
Responsibility & teens don't go together.
They don't really consider the risks.

I.E:
How many teens can handle the responsibility of caring for a child?
...not many. It will usually drastically change their path in life compared to someone who is older.


Majority of teens are irresponsible & don't really think of the consequences,
that's why they are having sex so early in the 1st place =/

still, I can't really say it's only teens.
senior citizens also. enough is ENOUGH :p

[Rihaku]

Depends on your reasons, really. And if you're willing to take the responsibility of procreation that early.

[DFlux]

Sex between minors, especially of the same age, is not morally wrong in my opinion. Teens are physically built to have sex, that's the point to puberty, but not everyone has the right stuff going on up in their brain. It may prove to be a wrong choice for some, but there are others who have it all straight up there and know how to protect themselves. It has to be looked at on a case-by-case basis.

You can't help your body, that's for sure. Whether you think it's right or wrong, the really unclear thing is the law.

I believe in Canada the general age is 16 but each province can lower or raise their age as needed. In my province, it's a dismal 14. This opens people as young as 14 to what should be considered statuatory rape, but isn't. It may be consensual, but young people are so easily manipulated by elders.

[Triddy]

I believe in Canada the general age is 16 but each province can lower or raise their age as needed. In my province, it's a dismal 14. This opens people as young as 14 to what should be considered statuatory rape, but isn't. It may be consensual, but young people are so easily manipulated by elders.

The laws surrounding it in Canada are a bit confusing since Harper passed that bill. Technically, it's still 14 nationwide, but with a whole slew of restrictions. Something like that, anyways.

Completely off topic, but I'm curoious, how long will I be a leecher?

[Helikaon]

rofl.. people actually listen to the law about this? In all honesty who cares what the law says about teen sex? Though i would suggest that if you are going to go through with it you be smart enough to buy protection. Its pretty simple thing to grasp.

[Rayster]

yeah. I didn't mean to say "listen to the law"

I used it to support any moral argument, since the law is seen as supporting all that is morally correct.

Completely off topic, but I'm curoious, how long will I be a leecher?
until u hit 30 posts.

[Kyoko<3!]

If it's wrong then the cops should be banging on my door any minute now.

Indeed. Don't cry when you're in jail. You'll see Hasuke soon enough =(

Well personally I don't want to have sex until marriage. But that's probably not going to happen. I've put it off pretty well so far, but I dunno.....
I just think it's become less and less meaningfull. =/ Teen promiscuity is just too rampant these days.

oh btw. I would hit emma watson so hard given the chance. I don't have morals when it comes to that beauty.

[sham16]

oh btw. I would hit emma watson so hard given the chance. I don't have morals when it comes to that beauty.

Omg... I really thought that you are all moral and all... but your ending rocks.. ahaha.. Is she the girl from harry potter? lol

[Kay™]

sham....yea is continuieng our species(human) is wrong? i dont think so so sex isnt a problem at all since every sec die thats why we need to produce more lol

[Undying]

Actually, the whole definition of "minor" comes from the law. If the law stated that "adult" is 15 suddenly, then "minor" would be anything below 15.

So "minor" really doesn't exist, it's just a stupid attemp to force a definite name on an age group that varies.

For example, there might be someone who's 15 but has the maturity of someone who's like 30 (exaggerated, I know, but whatever), or there can be someone who's 20 and about as mature as a ten year old.

So who's the "minor" in the case above? Obviously the 20 person, but according to the law it's the 15 person.

So no, IMO, as long as both sides are aware of what they are doing, it's not wrong morally. According to the law, though...

[pero_renji!]

I got devirginized when i was under 18 so i dot think its wrong lol. As long as both (or more :D) want it, age doesnt matter if it isnt a really big gap (like 30+ years)

[deto]

well we can all agree upon sex being a beautiful thing. for me however it
depends how far you personally are, some are far more mature with 16
than others with 18 f.e. (both physicly and mentally) so in this case i'd say
it's fine. but i can't imagine how it should be beautiful when you're like 14,
your body hasn't shapened up yet.

doing it just because others do it is very wrong, rather wait a bit longer and
enjoy it fully instead of forcing something.

ask a 16 year old girl in my area nowadays "hey how was your first time?"
you'll get the following answer: "uuhmm....let me think, thats looong looong
ago........uhm i can't remember i was drunk."

point being: it depends on how far you are.

[Pie <3]

If you and you girlfriend really have feelings for eachother and have talked through the matter then I dont see the problem. (Safe sex ftw btw:P)

But if something happends and the girl actually gets pregnant(spelling?)

Then it sucks to be you.

[Doctor Fate]

Yea well I wouldn't call it smart at such a young age.. Why not wait until your body has evolved a bit more.

And then there's kids and all that, under no cirumstances should you create life at such a young age. I mean you've got your whole life ahead of ya, travel instead, see new things, enjoy life. Before you decide to settle down as an adult.

[Pipp-ORK]

I don't think it's a good idea, from a moral standpoint. Honestly, I don't give a crap about what the law says on the matter; I just don't think it's a pwn thing to do.

I mean, we're still kids and all, why would you want to rush into that stuff?

And that whole "PUT CONDOMS IN SCHOOLS LOL" shit, I think that's a bad idea, too. If some horny idiot wants to get themselves a kid at 14, let them learn their lesson.

And then there's kids and all that, under no cirumstances should you create life at such a young age. I mean you've got your whole life ahead of ya, travel instead, see new things, enjoy life. Before you decide to settle down as an adult.

OHOH, damn straight. <3 <3 Don't forget all the midnight trysts with the beloved PS2. :Domo

[Mercurius]

Minorkids all have horny hormons that scream to be let out, so a little experimenting isn't bad, to have real sex or having sex with U're own hand...it both comes down to the same thing. I don't really see the problem with having sex when U're minor as long as U are sure about the choice.

I think it's alright as long as U chose yourself. If U wanna have sex at 14 that's your choice, if U dun then that's also your choice, if U didn't chose for it yourself and don't stand behind the choice 100% then it's not alright also...altough, do do it safe!

[EndlessSky]

The thing is, most young teens don't know what they are doing and are far from mature enough to be having sex. They may even think they are ready and mature enough, but in reality most aren't.

Trust me...., this comes from expierence

[Evanesque]

It's not wrong but there's a reason to why there are laws against it. One of them being to avoid lil kiddies humping one another.

Unfortunately these days it's not surprising to see 13 year olds bragging about losing their virginity. No one seems to understand that age-old magic thing about sex.

It's sad but that's how it is now. If you're 17, with someone you really love...not infactuation-wise but really love and have been with for a long time, then I guess it's ok to say it's alright but remember to wear protection. One minute of fun can ruin the rest of your lives.

If I ever have kids, I would never want to see them having sex at such a young age. It's just disgusting. Rules, beliefs, morals are there for a reason...saying they're there to be broken and breaking them is just plain dumb and lame.

[AmnesiaI]

its wrong if you want to live your life by the rules, its right if you don't.

Me? I had sex when I was like 15-16 and from then on I was a happy rabbit.

[Evanesque]

Little rabbits like yourself should be locked up until you're at least 18 X3

I know this might sound weird and verry wrong but if you're too horny or something, go masturbate...at least it's safe to some extent XD

[sham16]

Well yeah having teen sex is quite ok as long as both of you agree (so that no one will complain) Next is that you must wear the proper things when doing it (if you dont understand this, forgot having sex as for now) third is that never ever empregnate her... I have a friend who is 14 and his GF is 15 and he impregnated her, so yeah they had a very beautiful time together (sarcasm).. My point is, age is a little factor at this, it is what you know and how you do is the thing that counts.

[SLVR]

IMHO nope, I mean if its before puberty Id guess but its all from yer point of view and when a female and males are capable to have babys go for it if they want.

[.multi]

No, but people still do it since they don't know the risks of doing it :/ Usually the people that do it are the irresponsible ones that are like "I just want it now so I look cool" then they get the baby and say it's all our fault. So yeah, no unless you understand the consequences.

[Alienor]

*shrugs* in the western world, people know the consequences. They just don't want to know. They decide they'll rather believe that it only happens to others so they can go on with their little lives and appear free and cool by disobeying, while making your own opinion and not letting yourself be influenced (yes, saying "no" to all is being influenced, since what people tell you still dictates what you do, if by the negative) is real freedom.
People who chose not to consider the responsabilities will never do so, no matter what you do. Those who are responsible enough can keep their head on their shoulders and make sex, as Deto said and I agree, a beautiful thing if done properly and with mutual respect.
IMO, if you're 15 or over and there's less than 3 years difference if either is under 18, and both clear on the other person's expectations and maturity, then go for it.
Majority is different depending on the country anyway, so why should it be right for some people to do it at 14 somewhere and wrong at 18 somewhere is?

[sham16]

Good point ethical and cultural values are indeed a big factor in having sex... Some countries say that it is ok when you are this old yet most christian countries like where i am say that no sex before marriage... I am not saying that other religions does not preech the same it is that most countries tend to make it as a taboo and others dont.. So yeah why not, if you are mature enough go for it just be sure that you know what you are doing.

[LilCandyPop]

for example if 2 13 year olds had sex, thats like against the law right. but how are the police gonna find out? do they watch pple do IT or something

[Pie <3]

I doubt that 3 year olds are even capable of having sex =/

[Vi]

lol that is very true.

I don't find it entirely wrong.. i mean i hardly find it ok for 15-16 yr olds to be doin anything like that... to think 13-14.. thats just rediculous especially since my 2 younger siblings are that age ;_; 85% of ppl between the ages 13-17 are NOT metally ready for sexual intercourse.. most think they are but majority of the time it ends up being something that is regreted... so i guess im yes and no on this.. since i've done so before the age of 18.

[bbnflpn]

i never had issues with it, (me as a minor that is)

the legal age of consent varies from state to state and contry to contry. where i live the legal age of consent is 16 (for minors to have sex with other minors) and if you are over 18 and you have sex with a minor its stataratory rape (no matter if its consentual or not)

our hormones start at an early age as in the days of old our life expectencies were alot shorter, people usually started to have childeren when they hit puberty. it was common for women as young as the age of 12 to get married and start to have childeren.

now adays the moral issues of kids having kids is high. in this contry (the us that is) i feel that our censorship laws contribute to alot of these issues. the oh cover thy virgin eyes approch to things is not working, and in my opinion is a big factor in teen age pregnacy, and date rape. this is due to the under exposure to sex in general. people flip out if there is even a mention of sex or nudity on tv. with all the hush hush type stuff going on its easy to figure out that kids are gonna want to know what it is, and they will want to do it if they think it will be a way to rebell and make parents angry never mind that their hormones are rageing as well.

for me i grew up alot different than alot of people. my parents taught me the truth about sex at an early age (i guess i walked in on them) they didnt give me some bs reason about what they were doing. i have always been a sexual person as long as i could remember, even as a kid of 5 my couriosity about sex was high.

i guess when i was a baby my parents had this discussion about how they were going to raise me (and my sister) to not be afraid of sex as it was natural ect. never mind that my dad worked in a porn theater and probably devirginized the whole town he lived in. so as my dad was a pretty premiscuous person they figured better be safe than sorry.

so when i turned 14 my mom went to take me to get on the pill. she figured that since i was having period problems and if i were to decide to have sex that i should at least be protected from pregnacy. she would regularly offer to buy me condoms as well. occasionaly i would take her up on the offer.

i didnt decide to have sex till i was 16. i was fully protected being on the pill and using condoms as well. i was always careful about it.

as a matter of fact im in my 30's and i still dont have childeren. but this is by choice. there was a few times when i had a scare or 2 but never while i was actually in highschool.

[Shaehl]

In my opinion, people should save sex for a relationship which they could see developing into a life-long partnership. However, most people see sex as a game in which the objective is to bed as many people as you can before someone gets pregnant.

As for minors having sex, it's illegal for a reason. Teenagers are generally irresponsible, immature, and sometimes just stupid. If they are presented with an opportunity to make a bad decision, chances are, the average teen will make it. That the majority of aborted babies every year come from teens only proves this.

I don't think having sex as a minor is, in itself, wrong (people used to get married really young back in the day), but it is extremely unwise and it will likely end with a dead baby or an STD.

[Elocin]

I can see where there would be laws against it. I mean, not all teenagers are irresponsible people, but IMO the majority of them aren't. I'm not talking about 16-18 year olds, I'm more referring to the 13-15 year old ones.

See, in my high school, I knew a girl named Danielle. She has a younger sister (forget her name). They met two guys who were in their early 20's. Both of them ended up sleeping with the guys, they both got pregnant, and both guys fled the country. Now, if they were more responsible, using protection and all, they probably wouldn't have gotten pregnant.

I don't believe all teenagers are like this though, as to not offend anyone. But I can see where people would believe that minors don't have the same... mentality as an older person when it comes to safe sex. More of a maturity thing, if you must call it.

But hey, if you know the risks, use proper protection, and you're mature about it, sex as a minor (in terms of 16-18) is fine by me. I dunno, 13-15 to me just seems... TOO young.

[Jimmyz]

people make such an issue from having a sexual relationship.

sex is over-rated, and before someone says "you've obviously not have a good sexual partner" i've had some great sex. BUT. compared to that feeling you get when you know your in love with someone who loves you back, its a minor insignificant detail.

Sex as a minor? who cares? if you want to have sex, and the other person wants to as well, go for it. its not THAT important, if your stupid enough not to use protection and get pregnant or a STD/STI thats your own fault, condoms (latex and non-latex, so you cant even say your allergic to it!) are there, its your choice to use them or not. if you dont, deal with the consequences.

the fact of the matter, sex is hyped up as a taboo until you XX age, in every country. it comes down to the fact, you can "produce" a new person by doing it. if your protected, in my eyes, it doesnt matter what age you are.

[Kyouka Suigetsu]

I have no issues about sex as long as people aren't dumb about it. Minors tend not to think things through. As a result, you end up with unwanted babies, abortions, STD's, and emotionally scarred people. None of those are positive things. I think the legal 18 age is good since most people are mature enough to make a decision like this by then.

[Elocin]

Sure, I'm concerned about the people, but what about the children who are born from those people? I mean, a 15 year old cannot effectively raise a child as well as get a good paying job, go to school, etc, unless they have very supporting parents. Just think about how most 14 or 15 year old boys think as well as 14 or 15 year old girls. I'm sorry, but I don't think a person with such a mentality can raise a child. A mentally healthy child needs to be raised by a good mother with a good mentality or else I fear for the child's psyche.

A child shouldn't be seen as a 'consequence'. A child is a human being.

I also don't have positive view of abortion, so that's out of the question as well. So the only solution to this is to have protected sex, IMO, if you're going to have it. If you don't have the mental capacity and intelligence to use it, then don't do it. That's that.

[Ushio Amamiya]

hmmm...

I don't mind if young teens from ages 13-18 have relationship.s When I was in high school, some of my classmate started their relationships back then. As long as there is no sex involved in a minor age, that's fine. The problem in some teens is sometimes they are craving for sex - what I mean is sometimes others have taken their temptations very easily. They thought that sex at their young age was fine, blah...blah.. blah... or they can live on their own - meaning they can handle themselves, blah..blah...blah...but the reality is, they can't. In short, there will be consequences if they don't know how to take good care of themselves. If a teenager gets pregnant, she should keep her child alive. If that happens, she should be prepared. For a teenage guy who impregnates the teenage girl, he should be responsible. A guy who leaves his pregnant girlfriend behind (at the early age) is a total idiot and motherf**ker (I'm talking about a guy who is playing games with other women and leaves his pregnant gf alone)

That's all. I'm serious :lol

[Bankai_Kratos]

I honestly cant say anything against it for risk of extreme hypocrism.

Then if you have nothing to contribute, please don't post.

This is a verbal warning.

-Elocin

[zabuzza]

if u use protection then no in my opion its fine.

[MishaSan]

I think its wrong to have sex at a young age. I think that there are teens that get pressured to have sex cuz either thier friends are doing it or they watch porn and want to try it.

[keisukeMamoru86]

I think it's fine. It depends on the couple's sex drive and whether or not both are ready for the consequences should the girl get pregnant.

Could be a good idea. I mean some people could get sexually frustrated if they "don't get any" and could lead to some form of rape or anger

[Pipp-ORK]

Could be a good idea. I mean some people could get sexually frustrated if they "don't get any" and could lead to some form of rape or anger

That's absolutely ridiculous. Teenagers have many, less harmful ways to release "sexual frustration". Using examples such as rape or anger; they're just excuses.

Casual, teenage sex may also happen thanks to the lack of communication between (most) adults and children. We're constantly getting fed the superficial crap we see all over the place, and this has led to general "knowledge" that underage sex is normal and accepted. Sex really isn't anything more than an activity to most people, now, and that's kind of sad. It shouldn't be about "getting laid", but that's just my opinion.

[Jaran]

Well, if sex as a minor is wrong, I don't want to be right. :)

/me had sex at 14, and is now 23.

[Neko Futu]

I don't think it's wrong... as long as both people are ready, and use protection... then they can go at it like crazy :D

[Arei]

I think sex outside of marriage is wrong... so my opinion to this question is obvious xD

If you ARE going to have sex, wether you're a minor or not, USE SOME PROTECTION, UNLESS YOU ARE RAPED DON'T WHINE LIKE A SISSY IF YOU GET PREGNANT XP

I don't think anyone under 16 should have sex period >.>

[Yuffie]

Minor? You said minor? ..... It's a lot wrong and most wrong to do it ><

[Neko Futu]

But how can it be wrong? i mean like... if some 20 year old guys is banging some 13 year old girl, then i guess it would be classified as wrong... but if both people are under the age of 18... (both 16, 17 ect.) then i see no problem with it... as long as they haave thought it through and are ready

[Askand]

*ponders*
Moraly sex as a minor, between minors or with a minor have their own things. Sex as a minor means the kid is exploring and if he doesnt get any orientation the consequences will be the pregnancy and the mistread of a kid. I'm ok with the orientation, but also making the point that if they are not prepare for this they shouldnt do it. Also is important to point out how special the first time is. WIth the promotion sex is getting these times everyone sees as another form of work out leaving the feelings this involves.
Between minors as I stated before they need to be educated, and that is partially the responsability of their parents which due to many things neglect this task. So if you dont educate then dont complain for your ignorance. Also the kids of today are more alert and have more malice than the people of my times. So they dont have excuse on the lack of comunication or information.
Sex between a minor and an adult well that is delicate, because the adult have a big responsability. For example sex between a 13 and a 18 year old although it look wrong is done in these days. No matter how the law stands for it. In this case the 13 is in no position to make this desicion because he or she has not reached the necessary maturity to take it. And the damage can be done. Now is said that after 16 the adolescent is capable of taking or making big desicions. Still if he choose to do it the experience it self can be damaging if it is not done properly. Also the adult have to be on his right side of the mind or trust too much in the minor (which is weird) to accept this.
But the real question is how mature and prepared a person or minor in this case is to have sex? Because a 17 year old guys is not the same as 17 year old girl. The thing depends on the vision and education. The rules well if they respect them is their choice.
For me I was raised in a conservationist way. Virgin to the marriage, no sex before that. But well no luck, and I beleive that sex with a minor is not good, they need to go at their own pace and time. Let them enjoy their toys and dreams. Society these days believes that the more faster they grow the better which is not true and good.
I also I'm agaisnt sex between minors, because they like the games and pleasure but they cant handle the consequences. Then the can have the fun and avoid the respponsability.

[Lisa.]

If you know the consequenses of having sex as a minor, and you really want it at that moment, then why not...

Seriously, imo sex is overrated, especially the first time.

[Waverly]

If it is consensual sex between two minors, then I think it should be seen on a case-by-case basis. There are plenty of minors who are prepared and mature enough to have sex, but there are even more who aren't. I think that age should not be a factor in whether or not it is appropriate for someone to have sex, but maturity and knowledge should be the judge.
If you have sex, you should be prepared to be a parent for the rest of your life, and most young people aren't. They have to realize that they can get STDs, and condoms don't prevent all of them. Condoms also don't always prevent pregnancy. They should know about birth control, know their partner's sexual background (at least know if they have/have had any STDs), and they should know what they are going to do if pregnancy occurs.

I'm not morally against minors having sex in general. If I was, I would be a hypocrite seeing as I lost my virginity when I was a minor, but in my book there is a difference between sexual activity and sexual promiscuity, especially with teenagers. I think that many teens engage in sex early because they don't realize that everyone matures at a different rate, and that it is perfectly fine to not have sex.

[Setsuna Ai]

If you know the consequenses of having sex as a minor, and you really want it at that moment, then why not...
Seriously, imo sex is overrated, especially the first time.
it is DEFINITELY not overrated when it comes to the consequences, example: STD's (such as AIDS, a very terrible one), pregnancy, etc.

in my book there is a difference between sexual activity and sexual promiscuity, especially with teenagers. I think that many teens engage in sex early because they don't realize that everyone matures at a different rate, and that it is perfectly fine to not have sex.
Waverly you are my savior!

Sex among minors? Like MANY people have said it all depends on the situation. Generally though, I think it's morally wrong but I don't want to pressure anyone on that belief for it is MY belief. I don't think minors are actually ready for the consequences. As for the people who had sex as minors and have not come upon the effects of sex, then you are fortunate and good for you!

Sex between an adult and a minor? Uhh no honey. Let's use 18 as the age of the adult and 13 as the minor's age. Seriously to be able to have sex with someone whose maturity is SUPPOSED to be far off from yours bothers me. It either means the 18-year old has the maturity and mentality of a 13-year old OR the 13-year old is actually more mature for his/her age, which again both situations bother me a LOT.

[Arei]

^I agree. It doesnt matter HOW mature you are at 13, you are NOT ready to have sex period, especially with an adult. I've always felt/been told I've been very mature for my age, but I look back at when I was 13 and I can say for sure, despite the extensive knowledge (not by choice XP) I had of sexual orientation and the consequences, I was SO not ready for sex. I've always had my beleif of saving sex till marriage, even if I didn't think that way and I thought I could have sex, I would've been dead wrong. Even now (at 16) I don't think I could emotionally handle sex properly, lest this was the person I was truely in love (not crushing, not lust, acctual love) with and I knew I would spend the rest of my life with them, but even then I don't think I would want to have sex at my age. It doesnt feel right to me, no matter what I felt about the other person. (and i dont have a boyfriend atm anyway so it doesnt matter XP)

But thats just how I view things, and very few teens think that way. I'm still for no sex till marriage period, and if you're gonna do it and you're not ready for it and feel nasty about it afterwards.... if you whine/gripe/emo about it, I will *****-slap XP

[Lucki]

i reckon sex as a minor depends on the person. there are 13 year olds who you would never guess they were so young, and there are some who are children. I guess the age where sex is then legal is perhaps a guideline, on when most kids may mature. but i think it is fine to have underaged sex if the kid is mature and is doing it because they feel ready and want to, not because of peer pressure or any other reasons, and also with someone who is of similar age and who is mature.

[Lisa.]

it is DEFINITELY not overrated when it comes to the consequences, example: STD's (such as AIDS, a very terrible one), pregnancy, etc.

I don't remember saying the consequenses aren't overrated, I said sex is overrated.

xP

[bbnflpn]

i agree, my first few years of sexual activity were a total bummer, i was like what was all the hype about. there have only been a few that have made all the expectations.

[Hugoinaboxlives]

Sex as a minor isn't wrong, but sex with a minor is wrong.

[Lisa.]

Sex as a minor isn't wrong, but sex with a minor is wrong.

Funny that your title is "Thinking outside the box" , while you're doing the complete opposite right now.

I'm a minor, say.. my boyfriend, for example, is 18.. he's not a minor, I'm 17.. and we're having sex, so what he is doing is wrong?

[.multi]

It also depends on how young you are as a minor I guess. Where I live, girls have sex before the even reach 10 sometimes. To me, it's not wrong as long as you're sure this is what you want and not just for fun/experimenting.

[TheRapist]

I know an ancient secret.
The youngest age the person you have sex with is, your age divided by two + 7.

[Arei]

Ewww... that would make the person a year younger then me =X Yuck

[bbnflpn]

I know an ancient secret.
The youngest age the person you have sex with is, your age divided by two + 7.

31/2 = 15.5 + 7 = 22.5

yah no thank you, at least they are able to go in to a bar,

after you are 21 you should only be with 21+ so you can take them in to bars.

[sham16]

19/2 * 9.5+7 = 16.5

Hmm close lol...

[Monkey_man]

no if they use a condom and maybe a birth control pill

[Project #22329]

Youre under 18, but over 13, your hormones start to take over your mind, the chance appears...What do you do?
Is sex while being a minor wrong?
I dont think so, its hard to say no to a friend, but its even harder for him/her to obey, so what do you do? tell them to protect themselves? Or blindly believe that they will keep their pants on?
Id like to see opinions

you serious?
slip a rubber on and party :winking56

when and with whom a person desires to make love is all depended on one's self...
no one should ever tell one when to do it or how or with who...
western nations and many more, but western in particular practice sex after marage strictly...if a woman's cherry is popped before marage she can be left with out a husband....and be labled a whore.

from personal experience and from looking at others, sexual activity especially for the youngs could be a huge distraction in their scheduled lifestyle...skipped classes, missed school days, weaknens body if one plays sports, mind is always somewhere....lost friends and problems with school/college...

well in europe individuals start becoming sexually active around 13-15 years of age. for me it was 14-15 dont remember exactly im 19 now

i personally strongly believe that one's body and what ever they want to do with it is their right...protection is always the priority...so much filth is out there...eeek

[DespoticWalnut]

I don't see anything wrong with it as long as the two don't conceive, then things get complicated. If you're very careful I don't care, but we don't need more kids being raised by unfit parents.

And 16/2=8+7=15...ok my gf is 18 so 18/2=9+7=16...pointless

[AvidoWA]

No sex as i minor isn't wrong .. i mean you don't buy a new car without test driving it first right ? why cant you do that with a spouse ??

[sham16]

Dude he said as a minor.... I really dont think that minors could marry away like that... And if you are refering when they would get old... I really doubt that it would be the one they would be ending up with..

[Harley Quinn]

Personally I think sex as a minor is wrong, in england the legal age is 16, I lost my virginity when I was 15 to an 18 yr old.I did it because I thought I was like just so freakin in love with him.It was the worst descision I ever made, he totally took advantage of me.The laws are in place to protect people who arnt emotionally mature enough to make those kind of descisions.Yes I know that some people mature faster than others but thats why we have that law.Just to make sure.

[MTailP]

Yo I'm new here but I'm 16 and my girl is 13 even with that said I still think sex with a minor is wrong. Yo even saying that when the time comes to make a choice there's a right way, a way, and a predestined way, which will you chose to follow in a relation ship with someone you love.

[Twinky]

how young do you consider a minor? the youngest girl i know who lost her verginity was all the way back in 9th grade she was 15. it all depend on age

[Mikado]

I don't think it's wrong.. As long you don't have any regrets!

[Pyramus]

Its illegal in my country to have sex before your 16! But i could do it now if i wanted! If a good lookin babe offered sex to me, no strings attached, and i was sure that she wouldnt get pregnant, then id do it!

[T_Ichigo]

No sex with a minor is not wrong as long as the scale of age is appropiate, or at least that is how I see it.

[Zabimaru117]

i was just thinking of this when me and my friends were over at walmart and i think around 16-17 what are your thoughts

[shaberry]

Hrmmm...I coulda swore this was in a topic already...but I can't find it...so meh *shrug*

I say the right age to have sex is when you're at the age when you have an income. That way if anything happens, you can take care of your mistake (if there happens to be one). Meh...but being realistic...in this world...I believe that 17 and up is a good age. You're more responsible (hopefully) and that way you're old enough to get a job....to pay for the baby that just might be on its way.

[Samanosuke]

17

[Tobi]

When you and your partner are ready.

[Kira]

what does walmart have to do with this.

I say 16+

Once you can drive a car...you can ..errmm

[Velham]

I Would say 18 the minimum

[yushin]

depends on an individuals status in life.

[momo-taichou]

When you and your partner are ready. Probably 17/18 and up. When your mature and responsible enough.. 13-15 year olds having sex is just stupid because they aren't mature yet and you will just end up on the Maury show about your results of who's the babys daddy

[II Xion II]

Depends on your maturity level in my opinion, 18 is a good MINIMUM.

13, 14, and 15 years olds having sex is just stupid. It is a scientific fact that the brain is not fully developed at those ages (and then some) and anyone who thinks that they have reached a perfect stage of cognizant reasoning and awareness at those ages is sadly kidding themselves.

I remember perfectly well being those ages and I can attest to the ease of impressionability and peer influence that those ages have on the individual and on one's maturity level and it is really not a good age to be making such major and life-changing decisions.

[Semprini]

After marriage =P
J/K
Whenever you're mature and responsible enough to handle the consequences of having sex (consequences = good and/or bad).

[Pink Petals]

i would say that wen the 2 of u are ready to.

[mangaman16]

AFTER MARRIAGE do not fornicate!!! lol seriously.if you can't fight the urge well 17 and up.

[Undying]

At the time you are smart enough to remember not to be drunk and also remember all the safety precaution that have to do with that. 18's a minimum.

[Donut]

Oh lawdy, I'm suprised by everyone saying "when you are ready to handle the consequences...". Lol, seriously if you use a condom the chances of "consequences" are close to zero.

As for the right age of having sex, I'll say 16-ish. I don't really care though, isn't my problem.

[Neko Hime]

lol I'd have to agree with momo-taichu and chih when u and ur partner r ready but I find the proper age to have sex is around the ages of 16-17-18 ;)

[FullMetal Rebel]

18+ is best age,that way if theres a "9 month problem" you can afford it.People under that age should stick to hiding porn.

Too bad people start at 13,which bites them in the ass later anyway.

[II Xion II]

18+ is best age,that way if theres a "9 month problem" you can afford it.People under that age should stick to hiding porn.

Too bad people start at 13,which bites them in the ass later anyway.

It makes good TV though when I see them on Maury and Jerry Springer. :Haha

[Haseo_Antares]

When you have your own place so you don't have to worry about sneaking your partner out of your window so you won't get caught & grounded is a good age.........just a thought.

[Christian Lub]

at least 18 casue girls kan get pregnant and they need to at lest be able to take care of the kid

[iladys]

Whenever you're mature and responsible enough to handle the consequences of having sex (consequences = good and/or bad).
I'll agree with that. 16 may be the legal age but I would think 18 would be the minimum age. It also depends on your family/cultural background. I'm Muslim and most people expect you to have your first time after marriage. My parents aren't as strict but to have sex means you have to be mature and willing to handle the consequences. Both parties need to be emotionally ready and protected too. I know a few Muslims who have sex unprotected. It's not really their fault, sex ed isn't quite common in local schools, like in Malaysia.

[Rayster]

When you're responsible enough in terms of maturity, social and financial status to raise kids.
It doesn't matter if you don't plan on having children.

[Christian Lub]

When you're ready to raise kids.

i so agree with you
cause safe sex or NO sex
you never no when the condom will break or what

[FullMetal Rebel]

It makes good TV though when I see them on Maury and Jerry Springer. :Haha


True the that,but I heard Jerry Springer is fake(hard to believe the stuff that airs on that show).

As for the folks that show up on Maury,they just are one of those people that get bit in the ass.For having sex for the wrong reasons.

[Chrono Detector]

If you asked me, I don't know when is the "safe age" to have sexual intercourse for the first time. But I say in your 20's or something, I don't know.

[yushin]

i saw a 15 year old girl gets married to a 17 boy and their family is rich.
then.. you'll know what happen next..
they go on traditions thot.

[Neko Kyo]

I'm from a family that is quite strict with the marrige before sex thing, but, when you feel emotionally ready for it and can accept what it can do to you, then I'd say at least 17. fight the urge though ppl.

[Donut]

In after condoms, abortion etc.

[Ciel]

18. Plain and simple.

And until you are ready to commit, or at least expect the worst.

[Waverly]

I don't think there is a "right age" necessarily. One person might be ready at 17 and another might not be ready until they're well into adulthood. I think when we start putting exact numbers on things like this, like saying "18 is the best age to start having sex", is when people think that they HAVE to have sex then and start having sex too early.

You have to be ready, plain and simple. I think that "readiness" is made up of a few things. Obviously the emotional aspect, being educated, and being mature and responsible. No form of protection prevents pregnancy 100% of the time. If you're a girl, you have to be ready to become pregnant. If you're a guy, you have to be ready to support someone you get pregnant. You have to know about STDs and now to protect yourself from them. I think that until you can accept all of the things that sex entails (good and bad) you shouldn't do it.

Also, if you're too young to get a job or be able to support yourself and a child, then you're too young to have sex. I think far too many young people think that having sex is the cool thing to do and think that they're "ready" and then get pregnant (or get someone pregnant) and run to mommy and daddy. So I guess also if you have sex and something goes wrong and you and your partner can't handle it by yourselves, then you're too young to have sex.

It is a personal thing. One person could be ready at 17 and another might not be ready until they're 30. It doesn't matter when you have sex, as long as you're prepared.

[yushin]

yeah that is why it all depends on an individuals status in life.

[Elocin]

There's a thread on this.

/merges

16-17 sounds good to me. Depends on the maturity of the individuals though.

[opusx]

use protection and enjoy

[mangaman16]

life is short and you don't know if you will live to see tomorrow so don't turn down an opportunity if you get one. lol but 17 and up is alright because 13 yr olds having sex is stupid because they are just probally doing it for fun and don't really know what they are doing but you have to mean it and feel something not just for fun lol.In anycase use protection because delivering a baby at a young age may be hell.I've heard it from others.

[ILoveVbPlaza]

I agree with Mangaman.. 13, 14,& some 15 yr olds have no real idea whats going on or the dangers of what they may be doing.... its also just wrong to pressure someone of that age into that sort of situation

[oekidani]

okay first off other people made a rule about minors and non minors. Are you always gonna listen to what other people say?

We hit puberty at a young age, back in the old days girls got married at 14 years of age and maybe even younger and they had kids right away. Our bodies are built for reproduction and once we hit puberty we can have sex. People shouldn't tell us what age we can have sex at if both the parties consent then it is our bodies not theirs, as if i'd listen to some old person telling me what to do with my body.

[Pipp-ORK]

Our bodies are built for reproduction and once we hit puberty we can have sex.

But minors hardly ever have sex for reproduction. The use of condoms just ephasizes that. Pregnancy, for most teenagers, is simply a "risk", which is why these rules are put in place. To keep it from happening.

I doubt anybody having sex at 15-17 are thinking about childbirth whenever they have intercourse.

[oekidani]

still kids got married at early ages long ago and i'm pretty sure they knew what was happening then so kids are just less educated nowadays

though I highly doubt those youngins would know how to make it feel good so there would not really be a point in doing it :P

[silverwolf801]

not good to make assumtions on how they will know and how they will not know. You do know that you learn everything you need to know in school and I don't mean in class I mean from your friends and everything around you so it isnt good to say that kids won't know how to do it. But hey I lost mine at the age of 9 my choice whatever. But always remember wrap it before you tap it.

[Haseo]

I lost mine at the age of 9

I don't think that's physically possible... though, nowadays, I wouldn't doubt it...

[silverwolf801]

yea it is when i vacationed in florida my moms didn't come with me and I was staying with these two girls I didn't know and well thats 18+

[oekidani]

I don't think that's physically possible... though, nowadays, I wouldn't doubt it...

Actually it is.. some people mature really fast. I am pretty sure that the youngest girl to get pregnant was 6. I forget the article but she lives in some 3rd world country and I think her father raped her or well crap I dunno I just know her age >.>;; or maybe it was younger. Wow haha I have like no proof but ugh I read it Dx

[TallonKarrde23]

Meh, i know plenty of girls who do/did shit (everything) at around 12-13 with guys that are about 18-25 (usually around the middle, like 22-23). Its too normal in todays society to bother complaining about, thanks to all these little kids partying with college students (or just highschool graduates in general). Although personally i dont think its exactly 'ok', but i dont really care either, seeing as how im around 18-25 (i jest.).

Seriously though, theres nothing anyone can do about it either way.


Same goes for underage sex with...other underaged kids. Theres nothing to do about it for or against it, talking about this is sorta pointless. But i guess i get the point of having something to discuss. So ignore me.

[oekidani]

There was an thread on quizilla forums about how a guy and girl (both underaged) had sex and the guy is facing jail time but the girl isn't. That seriously pissed me off, it's making me hate my gender even more.

[TallonKarrde23]

Its probably cuz he was a month or more older. If your even a day older but they are underaged, the female can always pull the 'statutory rape' card on the guy.

[aloy]

..I trully that's it's wrong to have sex when youre underage....but that's just my opinion!

[momo-taichou]

17 and up sounds good XD
but younger than that is too young i think...

[relph]

i think it hood b up to u anfd ur partner for wen ur ready to hav sex even if its before the legal age