Asexual relationships

[DJ StarScream]

I just returned from my 2 week nap I decided to start this topic about Asexual relationships.

Asexual: human beings who do not have interest in, or inclination towards, sexual behavior for the form of reproduction.

So what do you think of Asexual relationships. Do you think they can work out having a sexual experince. Do you think that Asexuality will end homosapians. Would you ever want/like to exprience an Asexual relationship.

[boredomlover93]

i think i would try an asexual relationship but boy, do you use big words or what? xD lol

[Elocin]

Nothing wrong with larger words. xD

/me coughsexperiencecough

I truly believe that if both of the people have no interest in sex. As in, never get turned on by anything. (Which to me seems illogical as, like, every guy out there has at have had a boner at some point in his life whether he admits to it or not.) I don't think it's possible. Can you build a relationship on love over sex? Of course you can, but eventually sex is going to come into play whether you like it or not. Unless a guy has some sort of erectile dysfunction, he's going to have sex eventually.

The only thing I can think of in terms of an asexual relationship is a lesbian couple who never engage in sexual activities. But as humans are mammals (it's the sad truth, I know), we have sex drives. And nature tells us to go out and make more of ourselves.

But even if a couple lesbians out there aren't reproducing, this would hardly bring end to the human race. There are plenty and plenty of sex driven people out there to carry on their genes.

As for me? I'm a straight female with a sex drive. Yes, I value love over sex when it comes to a relationship, but an asexual relationship doesn't appeal to me in the least.

[DJ StarScream]

Big words are a sign of well I wish I knew. So you wouldn't try an asexual relationship because of human needs or wants. It seems that most people who aren't asexual are only after sex or a mate. It seems that all mammmals ethier find a mate and reporduce or die out.

[Elocin]

Eh, I'm certainly not after sex. I'm for finding love and the emotional aspects of the relationship.

However, sex will come later. :P

[DJ StarScream]

Seeing as you want that kind of relationship dose an asexual one not appeal to those who want to feel the non sexual part of an relationship first?

[Elocin]

Uh... Considering that the relationship would eventually turn more intimate, an asexual relationship would probably not appeal to them.

[Vlad]

Yeah, if both people is in love, they definitely would be physically attracted to each other at one point or another. So sex would follow eventually.

[Guy]

Lol, I'm probably the only asexual person here. Therefore, yes, I believe it is possible for a person to be asexual, although they are very rare nowadays.

And yes, I'm in puberty (turning 17 next month)

[NoWun]

guyklc im glad that ur asexual right now but later in life i believe u will experince sex an enjoy it ur human its what we do weither gay or straight.

[Nyao]

It's would work for me. I don't think I'd want to be in a relationship that's based mostly on the sex anyways. I wouldn't forswear it completely though...I'm one of said people that just aren't really interested. hell...I'm not even interested in the relationship part, really...which works, I guess, because I'll probably never be in one, since I'm not inclined to make an effort to find a partner.

[Kenta]

the urge to get intimate with your loved one is not really something you can control. even though you try to stay pure, i think your body will take over eventually... just like how you wake up every morning.

[A2k]

Hmm, interesting topic.

Well, much like Elo; I agree I would rather find myself a partner through the emotions, understanding and connections we might make as a couple, over any sexual prowess or urges that might overwhelm a person when becoming intimate.

I will never end up with someone who doesn't "get" me. So sex would be a backfooted bonus. i.e sex is sex and as in human nature through animal instincts, sex will occur one way or another, but a connection in a relationship is of far greater value to me since sex is easilly obtained, by anyone for anything, at any time.

As for the thoughts towards reproduction through sex...luckilly I have no intentions of carrying on my bloodline; I have a younger brother to carry on our name, and my familly is already aware of this...they might not like the choice, but it's not theirs to make.

Now perhaps when I'm in my late 30's, early 40's I might alter my perspectives and decide that I would like a child, but as for the time being I desire no children at all. Spawns of satan that they are. ^_^

[ravenx]

As a human or any other kind of mamal, bird, reptile or any other form of life that isn't either a hermaphrodite or reproduces through division, u can't be asexual be it gay, straigh, bisexual or whatever.Well unless it is anatomical.
First of all u are born in a society where sex is everywhere, in the news, in the media, etc.
This society makes u wnat to have sex and expects from u to have sex.Your friends talk about it, its part of what would be considered everyday life.
Second reason why u cant be asexual is that humans and I mean all humans are sexual creatures.From the day u are born our body, including our brain has this built into it, it's in our blueprints.We have special tools for it and we haves way of atracting other individuals to obtain sex.
Now u can go say u are asexual, fine , but its not true, Eventually it will get to u.
You will find the right person establish a relationship get close and u will end up having sex.
Ok maybe u cant find noone, that doesnt mean u dont have sexual urges or needs.U have them, buried somewhere and they will come out.
U can try go against nature but nature allways wins.

[Guy]

Oh come on; some of the posts here are saying it's impossible to be virgins nowadays! I am living proof that it is possible, and plus, I do know other adults in their 50's who are still virgins; some never even had a lover before! Asexuality is absolutely possible; it's just extremely rare nowadays because of the media.

[NoWun]

i have to agree with ravenx that its human nature, an weither u want to admit it or not you as well as everyother human has thoughts about sex.

[ravenx]

guyklc I'm not talking about beeing a virgin to the end of your life, that's something else. I'm talking about the fact that even if u are a virgin or not u still want sex.This urdge can differ from individuals but it's there.

[Setsuna Ai]

It would work for me. I pretend to be boy-crazed sometimes but I'm not really physically attracted to anyone. And I'm not looking forward to sex either. I don't know, I'm just not interested in it for now. But I probably will be in several years. And no I'm not 12 or 13 years old. I'm a few years older than that and I went through puberty when I was 11 -_-.

[sham16]

I do believe asexaulity is indeed excisting but not to the extent that human race would be to die out because of it... The kids right no is to pressured to have sex at an early age.. and yes being a virgin is indeed possible as some of you might find hard to understand.. But it most likely depends on your culture...

Back to the topic... I mean its human nature for people to engage in sex and procreate and make human beings until the world is too full and maybe we would have to find another place.. The idea of loosing the entire human race because of asexauality is off the topic since one of the main problem of some countries right now is overpeoulation plus the fact that virgin people are becoming a dying race... So being asexual will not be a threat to anyone if you are like that and be like that... But i seriously doubt you are like that guyklc, ive seen you a lot in this forum and we've talked a lot as well... But if you are like that then its ok it would not be a problem...

[Guy]

What? Why would you doubt me to be asexual? Geez, I thought all the talk we had would at least convince you that I'm a loner nerd who only cares about studying in the future... lol.

Anyways, I think being asexual is good, since overpopulation is a huge problem, and I agree with ravenx, we all have crushes at least once in our lifetime. As for me, well, it only happens once.

[NoWun]

so ur tellin me that u also dont enjoy porn.

[EndlessSky]

Just to clearify something

a·sex·u·al [ey-sek-shoo-uhl] Pronunciation Key
–adjective 1. Biology. a. having no sex or sexual organs.
b. independent of sexual processes, esp. not involving the union of male and female germ cells.

2. free from or unaffected by sexuality: an asexual friendship

If your asexual, you have no sex organs or reproduce by yourself, so I dont see how being asexual is good, unless your a plant, or something that reproduces on its own.

[NoWun]

he just proved this thread to be pointless LoL

[EndlessSky]

Well, you can have a asexual relationship but you can't be asexual yourself. Atleast if your a human. So the title of the thread is not pointless if you are here to discuss relationships not involving sex.

[Guy]

so ur tellin me that u also dont enjoy porn.

Lol! Of course NOT! Not every guy enjoys porn, you know. I don't. I think it is pointless and is a waste of my time.

Just to clearify something

a·sex·u·al [ey-sek-shoo-uhl] Pronunciation Key
–adjective 1. Biology. a. having no sex or sexual organs.
b. independent of sexual processes, esp. not involving the union of male and female germ cells.

2. free from or unaffected by sexuality: an asexual friendship

If your asexual, you have no sex organs or reproduce by yourself, so I dont see how being asexual is good, unless your a plant, or something that reproduces on its own.

Hey, it could be definition number 2!

[EndlessSky]

Yes, but read what I said in my above post. And using it in the context like you doubt me to asexual is not right and you guys are mistaking the word for something else, and I would doubt you to be asexual because you are human and its impossible for humans to be asexual, but like i said in my previous post you can RELATIONSHIPS that are asexual but not be it yourself.

[Guy]

Lol, sorry, when I was typing my previous post, yours wasn't posted yet.

OK, no one is asexual, but I always have asexual relationships, I guess.

[EndlessSky]

Well if you have relationships with people that you dont have sex with then you have asexual relationships, meaning not inolving sex.

Its not a problem, I just thought I should clarify something so you guys don't get the wrong idea about the actual word and what it means.

Also this this is a place for older people to help younger ones with their experinces with growing up so being a kid thats about to hit 20 years old in a few months I thought Id stop by and try to help anyone with any questions or what not they have.

[NoWun]

im sorry i misunderstood ur post

[sham16]

What? Why would you doubt me to be asexual? Geez, I thought all the talk we had would at least convince you that I'm a loner nerd who only cares about studying in the future... lol.
Anyways, I think being asexual is good, since overpopulation is a huge problem, and I agree with ravenx, we all have crushes at least once in our lifetime. As for me, well, it only happens once.

I did kinda think that you were like that but hey people could change and you could as well.. you are young yet and still have time... I am not telling you to change or anyhting i am just telling you that you might want to get a girl and settle in when you are older.. It depends upon nature... Maybe hormones have not kicked in yet like Ikkaku's Bankai that even though he is called out it is still not in max form, it would take a few swings to get it going..

So my advice is this... If so ever that you are to get interested to someone dont hide it... If you hide it nothing will happen you will be left with the question "what if" and you would ponder the rest of your life trying to find the answer to that question... But if you dont have the urge then you are what you are, dont go on following the crowd just be the vest of whatever you are... But as I said if i does come along grab it, it may be the only chance you've got...

[Pie <3]

I do know other adults in their 50's who are still virgins

That's probably because they were fatass ugly.

And dude , your only 16(soon 17) , being a virgin is easy at that age.
Try saying you want an Asexual relantionship when your somewhere in your twenties/thirties.
THEN IT WOULD BE SOMETHING.

[sham16]

PIE does have a pooint... You cannot say that since you are that age yet... Wait until you reach 20's F.Y.I. In my country most people are still virgins at the age of 20-23 maybe around 50 % virgins 50% are not... They tend to focus on sex after marraige... maybe that will be your case... Except if you dont like to marry that is...

[Guy]

That's probably because they were fatass ugly.

This is retarded. Do not make assumptions. My uncle is a 55 year old virgin, and he has a Ph.D in Statistics, and he's even taught at Colombia and other Ivy League Universities as a professor. Then, he quit his job because he thinks Ivy Leagues are full of dumbasses. He is the smartest man I know, and he does not have any problems associated with marriage because he is single. I have family members who threaten to divorce.

And dude , your only 16(soon 17) , being a virgin is easy at that age.
Try saying you want an Asexual relantionship when your somewhere in your twenties/thirties.
THEN IT WOULD BE SOMETHING.

You saved yourself from being called retarded with this idea. I am indeed young, and maybe I will change, but so far, it doesn't look like it... that's all.

And yes, sham, I am really like that. OK, I'm not a social reject, but I'm not popular either.

[RiannaSan]

I'm not against sex... it's enjoyable. But for some reason I have a really strong grudge against sex having anything to do with love....

[Sango]

i dont know I th the Asexual relationships are good for every body well if yuo have a boyf

[SoundWave]

That's probably because they were fatass ugly.

And dude , your only 16(soon 17) , being a virgin is easy at that age.
Try saying you want an Asexual relantionship when your somewhere in your twenties/thirties.
THEN IT WOULD BE SOMETHING.
Haha I'm in my twenties..
Honestly I'm not that interested in sex, nor do I really make an effort to find a partner.. I could live with an asexual relationship.

I don't see the big deal with living without sex, 'cus I've managed to do it quite well so far.

Though you could hold it against me that I don't know what it feels like, neither have I been in love or in any kind of relationship ever.
Call me a freak if you will, but I'm not too big on the emotions part.

So with that I'd say it's perfectly fine if both are ok with it.

[MooL]

Dude, who keeps bumping these old threads? Rofl.

Okay, asexual relationships? Interesting. Honestly, I don't really have a problem with it. It is kind of a social taboo to be in a relationship like marriage and not have children. I find this true especially in Asian cultures and a lot of Christian cultures too.

"What's the point?"

But yeah, I think you can be perfectly happy in a relationship without children. Not everyone is meant to be a parent, but that shouldn't mean you can't have companionship.

If EVERYONE started using birth control and stopped having sex to have babies, then (and pretty much only then) would that be the end of the human species. But seriously? That's not going to happen. Those who are in relationships without children only make up a very small minority. There are still millions of people who counter those in asexual relationships.

And then there are the Catholics. =P

[BrolyLOL]

Asexual relationships? Is that asexuality with homotional ideals added in?

[Graffik]

^^ Asexual relationships are irrational after 20 yrs of age. No matter anyone says, once they hit that age, unless there's something 'different' they'd think of sex in a relationship sooner or later. And when I mean 'different' I mean 40 year old virgin different, where either the person was too concerned with work, education or some next shit to remember sex. I doubt though any man would wanna die without having sex, dawg it's what we live for.

unless you're a castrate