Abandonment issues?

[Hatsune Miku]

Ok, so I'm tired of waiting for IRC to connect so I'll actually make a post... good thing I have issues:redbiggri ...

So yeah... I have this friend, that happens to be a girl, who is causing me to feel all kinds of different emotions that I'm not all that comfortable with. She had informed me that she wanted to join the Air Force one day and i kinda shrugged it off because i figured... "Hey shes a girl, she'll change her mind.. she always does.." Well this time i guess i was wrong because she's talked to a recruiter and all that junk... Well now I feel this mixture of envy, depression, anger, and abandonment... and i no matter how much i talk about it i cant figure out why I'm feeling ALL of those... I can explain at least 1 for certain ::

Envy - When i was 18 I called a Navy recruiter and was informed that because i have seizures i will never be eligible to serve... so I'm envious that she will get to do the only thing i knew for certain i wanted to do with my life... and i still can't...
Anger - well mainly because of the above...


IDK... i just need to get this out because keeping it inside not only hurts but doesn't help me any when i see her...

[Twinky]

explain your conditions again? sry im just interested in these kind of medical stuff. plus im hooked on the show house.

Military have their standards, dont hate the player hate the game. i personaly think your jealous of her. but if she think she made the right choice then let her do so, if she change her mind later thats her choice too, i dont see why your angry, unless beeing in the Navy means more than your friendship.

[Hatsune Miku]

Alright twinky...idk i just have seizures.. most likely caused by a cyst in the back left of my brain... but back to the topic

I am jealous of her... but I'm also sad to see her go... I know its her choice and i WILL let her make it. My opinion is not a factor in my support of her decisions.... And I'm Angry At 'The Game' ... had i been able to join the Navy I'd of never met this person and we wouldn't have this right now... i would not have gotten as into anime and what not as i am.. I'd be completely different person.

Shes the first good friend I've had in a long time and she's leaving... Thats my issue in its plain-est form right now... I don't want her to leave for selfish reasons.. I know this...

[Donut]

Stop pitying yourself and be happy for her instead. It probably sucks and all, but hey, life isn't fair.

[Hatsune Miku]

... wow. well i see ur point but I am glad she knows what she wants and is doing it...

[Donut]

Sorry, I'm brutally honest, I tend to do things like this...

[Hatsune Miku]

Naw its cool... I expected at least one person to do that in this thread... thats why i posted it.. talking things out always helps me and do so infront of a large group of strangers free to add there opinions should help alot...

[Ai]

Wait if your 18+, Why are you posting in the growing up section....

:s

[Hatsune Miku]

Aside from the obvious fact that you're never done growing up?

B/c I've not had much experience with this department and felt this was the best place to get advive... why are you complaining?


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also, where else is there for this sort of topic?

[Ai]

Aside from the obvious fact that you're never done growing up?

I'm hurt....


B/c I've not had much experience with this department and felt this was the best place to get advive... why are you complaining?

Because I can..

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also, where else is there for this sort of topic?

The lounge central area, The 18+ section since your 18+...The randomness section, if you were in a div in that section, You could ask the cbnl cookies and recieve an answer in the next newsletter.

Anyhow enough of that.

My advice wait to see what occurs, if she was just your friend then just because you won't be seeing her as often doesn't mean you don't stay friends..People change and you all grow up and end up doing different things..

I know my two best mates are in two different city's with a state or two between us all yet we still keep in touch.

And anyhow just because she's talked to the recruiter doesn't mean alot..She would still have to go through the tests and the interviews etc...depends on what shes going in as etc..

Talk to her about how you feel and see what she says first.