the help thread [Archive]

ramenkage

01-18-2005, 01:04 AM

Tammy

01-18-2005, 01:13 AM

Go get a new wardrobe and a new haircut? :D Or just ask someone and say you want to go with them as friends. :) that works well.

Kibou

01-18-2005, 01:22 AM

Ramen...i'd say quit being on the computer, get out there in the world and enjoy life. Girls dig personality more than anything, looks are just +++ points.

Here's a calc question...

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v297/prolixbanter/help.gif

Wassabiz

01-18-2005, 01:25 AM

need help on anything? come here and post your problems! :winking56

ill be the first...so today i finally know what it feels like to be rejected, not as bad as you would think =/
but now heres the problem, i need a date for the winter formal
here are my stats
social: loner w/ friends, quiet to strangers especially girls
dance skills: none, no experience
appearance: something like that -> :face82:
anyone wanna offer advice?

LOL! ok this is wat u do Remenkage... who cares if ur rejected, plenty more chicks out there...:D
need a date... ask a hot friend.... who is a GIRL (at least u gotta have some friends who are girls...and some who are hot) tell them u wanna take them to the date wateva it is! :biggrinki
SOCIAL: MAN! jst AC(act cool) or act stoopid in front of girls... they mite think of u as a dimWIT at 1st... but then later, they jst rkn your pretty cool and loud, STAND out from your friends!!
DANCE: who cares, dnt dance... i never do! or jst go on the dance floor and do ya own style who cares wat others think
Appearance: hahaHAHA.... wat Tammy said... get a haircut ETC...!!

ramenkage

01-18-2005, 01:38 AM

Go get a new wardrobe and a new haircut? Or just ask someone and say you want to go with them as friends. that works well.
...my wardrobe and haircut is fine -_-;

B3H

01-18-2005, 02:52 AM

mgviperman

01-18-2005, 03:16 AM

lol ramenkage, it's all about your personality man. umm, just be kind, considerate, funny would help too :D and if you look good that's just a plus :)

got rejected? that's her loss o_O she'll be sorry when she sees you with someone else XD

B3H

01-18-2005, 03:23 AM

I dunno, just start some casual talk, and cherry pick from there =0

Ennoozunu

01-18-2005, 03:31 AM

Do what I do...
Don't go :p
School dances(or any dances involving teens really) are just boring.
Almost nothing goes on. Everyone just stands around and does nothing. Guys on one side and girls on the other. (atleast thats the experiences I had at school dances which is mostly why I havn't gone after the first few).
However the very first school dance I went to was actually fun (people did dance, have fun etc. I was less shy then for some reason so I danced with a decent amount of girls that were my friends).That was the only fun dance I went to.

ramenkage

01-18-2005, 03:49 AM

its not as bad as you think, i ask her full to the dance fully knowing that i would fail... rite now im just going to keep thinking that she cant go because her dad is a nazi =/
but as for the personality, confidence will definitely help, but i think its best if a girl likes me for who i am. theres bound to be one out there rite guys? rite? >.>

mgviperman

01-18-2005, 03:56 AM

no doubt david... don't worry, she'll come :)

ramenkage

01-18-2005, 03:58 AM

so anyone else need help
we forum bros are here for each other
show us your wounds and well poke it xD

Tammy

01-18-2005, 02:50 PM

Next sk0o dance im going to is my senior ball, then sadies (girls asks guy etc), then prom! wooooo

Do what I do...
Don't go :p
School dances(or any dances involving teens really) are just boring.
Almost nothing goes on. Everyone just stands around and does nothing. Guys on one side and girls on the other. (atleast thats the experiences I had at school dances which is mostly why I havn't gone after the first few).
However the very first school dance I went to was actually fun (people did dance, have fun etc. I was less shy then for some reason so I danced with a decent amount of girls that were my friends).That was the only fun dance I went to.

...watta boring school you go to. Me and my friends have a blast at school dances. Everyone's dancing o_O; Yes both guys and girls *gasps* together! LoL; then theres some hard core grinding and the teachers try to break it up :p:

its not as bad as you think, i ask her full to the dance fully knowing that i would fail... rite now im just going to keep thinking that she cant go because her dad is a nazi =/
but as for the personality, confidence will definitely help, but i think its best if a girl likes me for who i am. theres bound to be one out there rite guys? rite? >.>

o.O if they're suppose to like you for who you are right now then whyd you ask fer tips :P

ramenkage

01-18-2005, 03:44 PM

o.O if they're suppose to like you for who you are right now then whyd you ask fer tips :P
im not really asking for tips, more like suggestions like say should i ask someone else stuff like that...

Tammy

01-18-2005, 10:40 PM

im not really asking for tips, more like suggestions like say should i ask someone else stuff like that...

i think our davey is smart enuff to answer his questions himself :redbiggri

Kibou

01-18-2005, 10:45 PM

ramenkage

01-18-2005, 11:58 PM

why am i the only troubled one?
i sense lack of trust on this forum -_-;

Tammy

01-19-2005, 12:42 AM

oy ramen, it's also nice to show you can be confident in yourself once in awhile; for example if you like a girl enough to be out of character just for her, and just to prove something, then that's a definite plus.

You can show you can change for her too :P would that show self confidence? XD its how you interpret things.

ramenkage

01-19-2005, 12:44 AM

bahh.... my philosohpy, impress them with hard work and determination!!! too bad i have neither =/

Mir♠gio

01-19-2005, 01:34 AM

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v299/B3HF00/meh.jpg

LMAO

I did that mentally as soon as I saw it.

ramenkage

01-19-2005, 01:39 AM

realizing the e doesnt help =/
at first i thought the integral was -1/lnx , but it doesnt work since a the derivative would be 1/x(lnx)^2
its been a long time since calc...

Kibou

01-19-2005, 03:22 AM

i figured it out after i posted it... ;) u=ln x, du= dx/x then you change the domain blah blah blah...no worries.

You can show you can change for her too :P would that show self confidence? XD its how you interpret things.

Well if you had enough courage to speak up and say ask someone out on a date, and changed your look for that night--as in cleaned yourself up 'n whatnot....that works too. lol

ramenkage

01-23-2005, 03:37 AM

another question...
how can i start conversations?

Tammy

01-23-2005, 03:46 AM

another question...
how can i start conversations?

Same way you woudl with a normal friend, don't be too shy or awkward. She's just another person. Say hi, ask what shes upto. Ask what she plans on doing on weekend, maybe mention when you plan on doing. Who knows you two might end up having something in common. Talking about movies is always fun o.O talk about what shes interested in? Focus on her and her answers. Don't wander off into yer own little world XD

ramenkage

01-23-2005, 03:49 AM

Same way you woudl with a normal friend, don't be too shy or awkward. She's just another person. Say hi, ask what shes upto. Ask what she plans on doing on weekend, maybe mention when you plan on doing. Who knows you two might end up having something in common. Talking about movies is always fun o.O talk about what shes interested in? Focus on her and her answers. Don't wander off into yer own little world XD
most of conversations are awkward, usually "hi" then "hi" then long silence, then "umm yea, bye"

Tammy

01-23-2005, 04:16 AM

most of conversations are awkward, usually "hi" then "hi" then long silence, then "umm yea, bye"

...ya dun do that :rolleye09

ramenkage

01-23-2005, 04:24 AM

=/
i usually converse better when i dont need to converse, its not just with girls, even with guys. when i get bored and feel a need talk, the conversions feel werid and forceful. then there are time when i just sit around and talk about random stuff like discus throwing

Ronin

01-23-2005, 04:25 AM

What, When, Who, Why, Where, and How.

=\ Coversations are easy.

ramenkage

01-23-2005, 04:26 AM

online convos are easy...
offline =/

Tammy

01-23-2005, 04:27 AM

dont force a convo :/ thast worst thign you can do...... you both end up feeling very awkward :/

lol@james o.O nice "tip"

ramenkage

01-23-2005, 04:29 AM

too much to think about, ill just work on my dynamic personality, one like gai's xD

Ronin

01-23-2005, 04:40 AM

I generally dont have problems talking to anyone... It just comes Natural to me =]

Tammy

01-23-2005, 04:41 AM

I generally dont have problems talking to anyone... It just comes Natural to me =]

stop braggin! :face82:

Ronin

01-23-2005, 04:43 AM

ph33r the likeable fat guy!

ramenkage

01-23-2005, 04:53 AM

its alway about the likeable fat guy... :cussing:
what about the quiet asian guy?!!

Ronin

01-23-2005, 04:56 AM

what about the quiet asian guy?!!

Thats what.

ramenkage

01-23-2005, 05:24 AM

this quiet asian guy is gonna kick your likeable fat behind xP

Tammy

01-23-2005, 05:26 AM

lmfao you two are mad weird :P

Ronin

01-23-2005, 05:30 AM

Dude I could squash you.

ramenkage

01-23-2005, 05:44 AM

im too fast for joo xP

Ronin

01-23-2005, 05:47 AM

No, no your not.

Boxing make James have a quick and painful punch =]

ramenkage

01-23-2005, 02:44 PM

aikido with old men makes david faster and able to throw 300lbs men like toys :]

if you dont like the gentle stuff, 5 years of tae kwon do should have some merit =/

Malicious insomniac

01-23-2005, 06:29 PM

spamming whole day makes malices fingers a deadly weapon
(also great with the ladies) o_O
>_>

Urban

01-23-2005, 06:34 PM

Sitting all day makes Urban bored and gives him alot of energy (evil energy)
So sit down and shuddup.

Ronin

01-23-2005, 08:59 PM

Runs around =]

B3H

01-23-2005, 09:43 PM

another question...
how can i start conversations?

Its called cherry picking

this is the best description i could find on it

"How to Know What Topics Turn Your Quarry On
It's frustrating to be chatting with an attractive stranger and get stuck in the small-talk rut. You are
silently screaming out, "Gosh, I like you. I hope you like me, too. Here we are, making chitchat, but
I want our discussion to be more interesting, more meaningful. What would you really like to talk
about?"

I've developed a surefire technique to ease the transition out of small talk and onto a subject that is
closer to your new Quarry's heart. I call it cherry picking. While your Quarry is making small talk,
scoop up any unusual references in the conversation—any anomaly, any deviation, any digression,
or any invocation of another place, time, or person. Pick that word out, because it's your key to
know what your Quarry would really like to talk about.
Suppose, gentlemen, while walking home from work, a sudden rainstorm breaks out. You dart for
the nearest shelter, a coffee shop. You go in, shake yourself off, and, as you sit down, you spot
striking Ms. Attractive Stranger on the next stool. You clear your throat and take a chance.
''Wow," you say. "Looks like it's going to be some storm out there, huh?"
She turns toward you and seems receptive. "Sure does."
You are groping for something else to say. "Uh, do you come here often?"
Your Quarry seems amused at your line, but still interested. "No, not too often." She smiles. "I
stopped in here for a hot coffee to get out of the rain."
You venture, "Yeah, it's really coming down, isn't it?" Well, it might not be brilliant, but it keeps the
conversation going.
"Oh, well." Your Quarry shrugs. "At least it's good for the plants."
You both look out the window momentarily and then back at each other. You smile. Your Quarry
gives you a forced smile. Then neither of you can think of anything else to say, so you both stare
back into your coffee cups. End of possible love affair.
Rats! It started out so great. The small talk was comfortable. Your Quarry was smiling and leaning
in, and she seemed receptive to you. But when it came time to get off the boring stuff and on to
more interesting topics, you got tongue-tied.
Here's a quiz. In the above small talk, there was an escape hatch, a cherry. Ms. Attractive Stranger
said one word that you could have picked up on that would have catapulted you right out of small talk and into something
much more interesting for her. Did you spot it?
Answer: It was the word plants.
Let's go back to your less-than-riveting discussion of the weather. Just before you were afflicted
with that sinking "What do I say next" feeling, she said, "At least it's good for the plants. To the
savvy Hunter, that's a cue. Perhaps you wouldn't know a daffodil from a dandelion, but obviously
plants are part of your new Quarry's life, or she wouldn't have used the word. Subconsciously, even
unbeknownst to her, she was crying out, "I really prefer to discuss plants."

TECHNIQUE #11:
CHERRY PICKING
You'll never be stuck for good discussions with your
Quarry if you pick up on the conversational cherry.
Listen for any slightly unusual word. That's your cherry
seed. Plant it, and watch it flower into a memorable first conversation for your Quarry.After she threw out that cherry, you should have asked, "Oh, do you have a garden?" Maybe she
has a vegetable garden, a roof garden, a hanging garden, or a victory garden. Maybe she has no
garden at all but just loves plants. You don't know yet, but you do know that plants are somehow
part of her world. Otherwise the word wouldn't have slipped out.
Now, suppose, instead of saying "At least it's good for the plants," she had said, "I know, it's like a tropical storm out there, isn't it?" Your Quarry has just given you the cherry to save the conversation: tropical storm.

Say, "Oh, have you been to the tropics?" Chances are she has, or at least has a knowledge of them, or it wouldn't have welled up from her subconscious when discussing the rain. Tropical, to you, may just be a way to describe a storm, but to the person who uttered the word it has a more intense connection. Learn how to be a word detective. Suppose she had said, "Because of the rain my dog can't go out," or "Yes, the rain has been dropping leaves in my pool." In this case dog or pool is your ticket to hotter conversation, at least for Ms. Attractive Stranger."

Im too lazy to make it look neat =\

ramenkage

01-23-2005, 09:49 PM

genius!!!
you are well deserving of the title of "th3 pimp"