Relationship Thread

[strydr]

In every case of a love-love situation is it always hard??? or is love just the way it is.
I think one of the problems in my relationship is the fact that i cant show my emotions clearly, and that when i want to i dont have a chance...
But the whole thing i have been pondering about has been about making my girlfriend my friend, in the sense that i love her more than any other girl but at the same time act completely normal as if i was with any other girl or for that matter, any other guy friend, cause in that sense she would become my best friend...
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[Darren337]

In every case of a love-love situation is it always hard??? or is love just the way it is.
I think one of the problems in my relationship is the fact that i cant show my emotions clearly, and that when i want to i dont have a chance...
But the whole thing i have been pondering about has been about making my girlfriend my friend, in the sense that i love her more than any other girl but at the same time act completely normal as if i was with any other girl or for that matter, any other guy friend, cause in that sense she would become my best friend...
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as youve probably realized i havent been able to get around here much lately, but i will say this much on the matter. think less about how you can change her, or how you look at her, and think more about how you can change the way you convey your emotions to her. your change will cause a change in her. hopefully this will perpetuate itself in a good way. of course there are no guarantees here, as this has worse odds than winning against the house in a poker tournament.

[Lenne]

ok, i'm in a bit of a dilemma here. so, theres this guy that i really really like, but the thing is he sort of told me twice that he doesnt want to date since he just broke up with his ex-gf, but we're still pretty good friends. but the problem is that whenever we're not hanging out together, my friends tell me things that make me like him less, but then when i see him or talk to him or hang out with him i feel myself liking him a lot againXD now, there's this guy who i think is 'sort of' interested in me right now, i mean at the dance i went to he slow danced with me and got me a drink and stuff, but i'm not too sure is he likes me yet, so i will update on that. but inside i kept wishing that the other guy was there, because i like him a whole lot more than guy i danced with. so here's the thing, if the guy from the dance asks me out, what should i do? (lol, a bit of an early thing here, but just in case^^;;)

[Icestorm]

id rather talk to you on msn about it :)

[emmasu]

@shizro:
i think if this guy asked you out, accept it, cuz first you told that guy that you like him but he told that he is not interested, second you already heared from your gfs that he is not that good, third maybe that is right and maybe you do not like him after all
for the second guy;
first you only going with him on adate and you are not yet gf& bf
second, go out and have fun and you may like the guy after all:winking56

@strydr:
you are really in tough position to explain to the one you love that you are not cheating on her, you know what you have to do is that you should talk to her, but her some advices:
1. do not wait until the exams finish, sut up adate with her as soon as possible
2. Do not feel mad at her when you are talking cuz it seems that she is very sensitive, just go on with her and show her how much you love her
3. Don't worry that you do not see her everyday, cuz believe me if she really loves you, she will never replace you, listen from someone has the same experince:winking56

[strydr]

ok, i'm in a bit of a dilemma here. so, theres this guy that i really really like, but the thing is he sort of told me twice that he doesnt want to date since he just broke up with his ex-gf, but we're still pretty good friends. but the problem is that whenever we're not hanging out together, my friends tell me things that make me like him less, but then when i see him or talk to him or hang out with him i feel myself liking him a lot againXD now, there's this guy who i think is 'sort of' interested in me right now, i mean at the dance i went to he slow danced with me and got me a drink and stuff, but i'm not too sure is he likes me yet, so i will update on that. but inside i kept wishing that the other guy was there, because i like him a whole lot more than guy i danced with. so here's the thing, if the guy from the dance asks me out, what should i do? (lol, a bit of an early thing here, but just in case^^;;)

whoa! feeling this same situation as me ... its almost unreal.
Well, the whole thing is that you do like this guy, who everyone seems to want to get you away from, but the truth is that you really do like him?? right?? and he told you twice right??
So... I say NEVER EVER give up on what you want!, dont let anyone make you feel as if you dont deserve what you want... cause thats what selfish people do... just listen to my case::
I liked this girl for about 4 months before getting enough courage to finally confess to her, because i was with her for a month oversees, but when i came back home, i was told by EVERYONE what a player this person was, and that she was kinda a hoe, but i knew the truth about her, that she wasnt the person everyone thought her to be, ... then when i confessed she told me she liked me, but didnt wanna go out... and i couldnt understand that, but realizing that she did like me, was enough then. Then 2 months later i feel as if she is untrue about what she said... but when i called her again she said that she really really does like me, yet again she didnt wanna go out and actually be the couple we were meant to be (so this is the 2nd time she tells me NO), then we started going out a lot, not as a couple thought, but instead just as friends with other friends, and so many times did the truth hurt, that this girl was totally not for me... so one day after we finally get a day alone together ... and it was the best... i really thought we were getting somewhere, until i called her later that night... and she told me straight off... "I Dont wanna be your girlfriend, i dont want a boyfriend" --- then i got so depressed...
life turned upside down in a second. From that moment forth i never spoke to her, but unfortunately a month and a half later, after i finally got over this person i was in love with for a whole year and a half, it was her bday, and i had already bought her present... and so i decided to call her and wish her, then she invited me for a party. It was kewl, just that i realized that i really do love this person... then we started talkin again. A month later i decided to ask her out one last time before i finally get over my feelings... also i didnt care much, since she put me down so many times... BUT this time was different, she said YES... and i have been the happiest guy alive for the past 5 months...
So DONT GIVE UP, the guy just hasnt realized that he really likes you... so dont give up.

One that other issue with that other guy... i really think you should first get over your other guy, cause then you wont leave emotions standing in the middle of nowhere, with questions like: WHAT IF, WHY NOT??
and when you are over with that, you may have realized that he wasnt exactly the right guy... and that your other guy, who liked you from the beginning ... may have been the better choice.

sorry for the long message, just that it reminds me of me so much.
hope it helps , sTrYdR

[emmasu]

whoa! feeling this same situation as me ... its almost unreal.
Well, the whole thing is that you do like this guy, who everyone seems to want to get you away from, but the truth is that you really do like him?? right?? and he told you twice right??
So... I say NEVER EVER give up on what you want!, dont let anyone make you feel as if you dont deserve what you want... cause thats what selfish people do...
sTrYdR
well, i think you got the wrong idea, the first guy told her that he can not go out her for the moment, so i think that is rejecting the person,
also i think she should not wait for him, if the other person ask her why she does not go out with him and see how he is, she is not becoming his gf, it just that they went out together, and if the first perosn ask her out, at that time she can decide

[Lenne]

@stryder: ^^ awww, i feel so happy for you that things turned out well. the only difference is that the roles have been reversed, and i'm inside the old traditional type of person who would like a guy to do the chasing. still, your words gave me much hope, thank you~~

@emmasu: i guess i have to wait this out thenXD thanks eeryone

[Manami]

This one boy I like is a great actor, and we act together in school plays. His little brother used to obsess over me, so he used to not talk to me very much, and word even got around that I liked him. I'm not sure, but I think the situation bothered him. I was never sure if it was me, or because of his very obsessive brother.

But he's egotistical, and stubborn, and just--UGH! Don't ask me why I like him. It's a feeling in my gut, and I hate my gut for it, but I don't know what else to do! I can't ignore it, and I'm stuck...what should I do?

(He talks to me nicely most of the time, though)

[koichi]

Oo, oo... I know this I know this! *raises hand* call on me! call on me! lol.

Mkay, while it might be akward for someone to ask you out if their little brother is interested in you, I don't think that's a big issue.

The most simplistic and direct solution is this: Go and tell him the truth! #Pandas jump out of nowhere and start dancing# $Gackt randomly appears and starts playing black stone$ Then either shyly change the subject, or happily tell him, "Just wanted you to know" and then walk off before he has a chance to say anything. If he likes you, he'll let you know when he has the balls for it (lmao... I just thought that was funny). If not, you guys will remain friends. Wakata? ^_^

Ja ne...

[Lenne]

OMG ppl, have you ever done something so dumb and idiotic and only realize it the day after? i was at this dance, and i think i might of lead on this guy that i dont quite like, and i think hes sort of interested in me now. the thing that bothers me the most is my reputation, and i know ppl are going to talk (or in any case ARE talking already), and you know how ppl go crazy during dances and all that, i just dont want to be viewed as 'the girl that the uber nerd was molesting' ==;;; not to mention i'm in like with someone else, which leads to me being slightly interested in this someone elses brotherXD yeah, messed up. i know.

[emmasu]

you only danced with him right?
and you are not with someone, you do not have a bf, you only like that person, he is not your bf, so do not keep worrying about people, just do what do you think makes happy

[Lenne]

you only danced with him right?
and you are not with someone, you do not have a bf, you only like that person, he is not your bf, so do not keep worrying about people, just do what do you think makes happy

lol, i know i know... but its so hard to ignore people's comments sometimesXD u know how it is, when you like a guy and somehow every time u hang around with him people stare at you and ask the guy who you are, and when he responds 'shes just a friend' you feel a certain twinge in your heart? lol, i'm getting a lot of that lately.

and about the dancing guy, thanks, i needed that comment^^ think it will pass for me quickly!

[emmasu]

so you are hanging out he person you like, does he know that you like him and did he ever tell you anything about his feeling??

[Lenne]

so you are hanging out he person you like, does he know that you like him and did he ever tell you anything about his feeling??

lol, yeah, hes the guy that i told u about before, then one who basically said hes not going to be my bf two times. and yeah, he knows i like him, since i met him at a restaurant and me giving him a noteXD hes from my school though, and recently we've been hanging together quite a bit, although not just the two of us, sometimes with a friend of mine or some friends of his.

[emmasu]

well, if you want to be his gf and you do like him, then you have to stop seeing him, that would be weird i know, but if you like him and you hang out withhim, you will see his behaviour toward other girls and like you said when people ask about you he says you are just a friend, and you feel upset about it, so he has a lready told you that he can't be your bf and if i was yo you i would be insulted and never talk to him again
but if you want to stay friends that would be cool, but i do not think that is possible

[Lenne]

well, if you want to be his gf and you do like him, then you have to stop seeing him, that would be weird i know, but if you like him and you hang out withhim, you will see his behaviour toward other girls and like you said when people ask about you he says you are just a friend, and you feel upset about it, so he has a lready told you that he can't be your bf and if i was yo you i would be insulted and never talk to him again
but if you want to stay friends that would be cool, but i do not think that is possible

lol, you know, that is exactly how i feel about it, but my friend thinks i'm so odd to consider ignoring him or even staying away from him. she thinks that having another friend is no big deal, but obviously she doesnt understand how much i like this guy, even with all the negative points my other friends never hesitate to point out to me, every time i talk to him its like, so natural you know? i actually never see him hang around other girls, and i guess the only reason i'm clinging onto the hope of him changing his mind so badly, is because the week after i met him, my friend(who knows him more than my other friends since she practically was there everytime i'm with him, and shes the one who tells me to stay friends) asked him on msn if he liked me, and his answer was sort of, but because of his ex, he doesnt feel like dating anyone.

[emmasu]

i know you like him that much but you have your dignety to preserve,
so what you have to do is to tell him one more time, and tell him that this is the last time you tell him that,if he said no, then there is no chance btw you guys, you have to show him even though you like him, but you have your own dignety,
at that time, believe me he would freak out and if he likes you he would say yes

[Lenne]

hmm... but it would be sad to lose a good friend like that :sadd: plus asking a third time would be kind of too pushy and desperate on my part, and that would kill my dignity by -100 XD

[emmasu]

hmm... but it would be sad to lose a good friend like that :sadd: plus asking a third time would be kind of too pushy and desperate on my part, and that would kill my dignity by -100 XD
you are totally right, then i think you have to wait sometime,

if i were you i would ignore him and never talk to him and see how would he react toward it,
am not telling you to do it, but that what i would do

[Lenne]

you are totally right, then i think you have to wait sometime,
if i were you i would ignore him and never talk to him and see how would he react toward it,
am not telling you to do it, but that what i would do

haha, great minds think a like. and actually, i tried that tactic already, didnt workXD the moment he comes to talk to me at my locker i forget every resolution i made before about ignoring him and staying away... XD and just for the heck of it i'll list out the reasons 'most' of my friends dislike him.

1) hes shorter than me
2) hes younger than me, by one year
3) hes sort of immature, but in a funny cute wayXD
4) his ex was an ugly girl w/ big arse boobs
5) he interrupted when my friend wanted me to practice a song so she could hear it before i chose one for competition, she was very angry.
6) did i mention hes younger and shorter?XD

[emmasu]

well, when you said that your firends say something bad about him, i thought really bad, but these things are kinda silly to consider,
being shorter, it does not matter actually
he is younger, only by one year, does not matter either
being immature, he is young and also aguy, he would change with the time
interpution, i think he did it only once and we do silly things all the time

but you did not mention why do you like him?

[Lenne]

hmm i forgot about that. so ok, here it is.

1) to me, hes good looking, he attracted me the moment i walked into the restaurant door and saw him playing cardsXD
2) he actually added me on msn (i gave him a note with my phone and email) and apologized for not adding me earlier
3) he didnt think i was weird for giving him the note
4) he told me about his ex, and a lot of other things during our first msn convo, we talked for like 4 hours.
5) he agreed to hang out with me during spring break, no maybe, no i'll think about it, just, 'sure, what time and where'
6) he told me right off that he just broke up w/ someone, and hes not reli into the whole dating thing atm, shows how considerate he was about not leading me on (even though i'm still into him anywaysXD)
7) i love how he smiles
8) i love how he hates the camera and taking pictures
9) i thought it was so cool when he didnt care that i bite him on the arm (long story, pretty darn funny too)
10) the list can go on and on and on, but you get the basic idea right?

[emmasu]

well, he seems to be a nice guy, i thinkthese things are kinda enough for you to like him and he seems to be a nice guy, i do not know, i think you should be friends cuz you seem to be more friends, but i think after he gets to know you, he will like you, but try not to show him that you really like him and be more like a freind to him

[Lenne]

yeah... i've been getting to know him more now, especially in the pst few weeks. is been 2 months since we first talked, and i'm pretty sure he knows enough about me, and we are pretty good friends. and i havent shown the fact that i do like him, except for bringing the occasional baked good from my baking class, which my friend soooo kindly joked that it as poisonous and hes clung to that about my cooking ever since... do u think hes embarrassed about bringing him a treat, or he just plain doesnt like my cooking? XD

[emmasu]

i think that is ok and you are friends right, so where is the problem?
he would not be emebarrsed cuz it was only once

[Lenne]

lol, well, i offered like 3 times, twice he refusedXD the one time he ate it though, it was kinda funny, he pretended to throw up and then said he was joking and that it was actually pretty good right when i was about to shove him off the stool he was sitting onXD

[emmasu]

so is it really that you do not know how to cook, or he is afraid from eating yours after that comment??:LOL:

[Lenne]

i have no clueXD i think the comment became an excuse, and i dont think my cooking is that bad, other people ate it too and they all said it was good.

[Isis]

That's a pretty interesting situation. Seems like things are going fine, despite what's going on in your head :) Wish things were like that for me *sigh*. I've just got an issue with one of my friends.

I met him through one of my best friends. They had a friend (old classmate of mine) in common and they got along. I developed something for him yet I laid off because they seemed to genuinely like each other but things got complicated after that. He asked her out but then she refused (she still liked him but she isnt the sorta type thats into relationship and very girlish things). I didnt do anything and it would have been about 11 months since we saw each other next (He's in Aus and Im in Singapore, we live in Malaysia). We would talk online. Things got a bit personal I guess. We'd flirt and tell personal stuff like that. XD He's flirting is a funny sort of flirting but I know he's not being that serious about it. Anyway, we went back home for the holidays and I realised the feelings were still there. I thought we were gonna do something about our feelings but then he told me that he couldnt be in a relationship because he's not ready to get into one (though his last relationship was 2 years ago, his ex dumped him the night he was leaving the country) so I let it go.

Since then, I've gotten over liking him and I'm liking someone else now (though getting with him is basically 0% possible). We still talk online like friends, but the last conversation had remnants of his flirting and he's saying that when we see each other at the end of the year, we can go out. I dont think I can like him the same way anymore and I remember the hurt I got from what he said last year. The only thing to do is confess to him how things are now,right?

[strydr]

haha, great minds think a like. and actually, i tried that tactic already, didnt workXD the moment he comes to talk to me at my locker i forget every resolution i made before about ignoring him and staying away... XD and just for the heck of it i'll list out the reasons 'most' of my friends dislike him.
1) hes shorter than me
2) hes younger than me, by one year
3) hes sort of immature, but in a funny cute wayXD
4) his ex was an ugly girl w/ big arse boobs
5) he interrupted when my friend wanted me to practice a song so she could hear it before i chose one for competition, she was very angry.
6) did i mention hes younger and shorter?XD

well firstly nothing of those should matter except that he may still not be mature enough for your type of relationship>>> and the fact that he chose an ugly girl with some nice features just means that he looks on the outside and not the inside.
Well... i know being the girl and the guy is shorter and younger might be the issue... but in my case i am turning 18 and my GF is turning 16, but she is 15 for 3 months while i am 18... so age is not the problem, because i really love her, even with the age gap, also i am slightly taller, but that also doesnt matter.
In my country there is a famous actor who is really really short but he got married to the most tall woman you could find, so i dont how that would feel for him...

[strydr]

yeah... i've been getting to know him more now, especially in the pst few weeks. is been 2 months since we first talked, and i'm pretty sure he knows enough about me, and we are pretty good friends. and i havent shown the fact that i do like him, except for bringing the occasional baked good from my baking class, which my friend soooo kindly joked that it as poisonous and hes clung to that about my cooking ever since... do u think hes embarrassed about bringing him a treat, or he just plain doesnt like my cooking? XD


You guys could start going out and then just get to know each other better, i mean to dump someone is ok, but its not the greatest feeling, especially when you got to know the person. With me, i got to know my girlfriend in a whole year and a half, before i actually asked her out, but it wasnt the best thing that couldve happened, because now that we were boyfriend and girlfriend there wasnt anything new we had to know about each other, except the small details and memories --- but at least she knew that i was a safe person... so you kinda just need to go with the flow.

For the cooking, does food really taste that different with the same ingredients??/ i have cooked myself and each time i do my cooking tastes exactly like my mothers... so i think its gotta do with the "poison"??? lol.

[strydr]

That's a pretty interesting situation. Seems like things are going fine, despite what's going on in your head :) Wish things were like that for me *sigh*. I've just got an issue with one of my friends.
I met him through one of my best friends. They had a friend (old classmate of mine) in common and they got along. I developed something for him yet I laid off because they seemed to genuinely like each other but things got complicated after that. He asked her out but then she refused (she still liked him but she isnt the sorta type thats into relationship and very girlish things). I didnt do anything and it would have been about 11 months since we saw each other next (He's in Aus and Im in Singapore, we live in Malaysia). We would talk online. Things got a bit personal I guess. We'd flirt and tell personal stuff like that. XD He's flirting is a funny sort of flirting but I know he's not being that serious about it. Anyway, we went back home for the holidays and I realised the feelings were still there. I thought we were gonna do something about our feelings but then he told me that he couldnt be in a relationship because he's not ready to get into one (though his last relationship was 2 years ago, his ex dumped him the night he was leaving the country) so I let it go.
Since then, I've gotten over liking him and I'm liking someone else now (though getting with him is basically 0% possible). We still talk online like friends, but the last conversation had remnants of his flirting and he's saying that when we see each other at the end of the year, we can go out. I dont think I can like him the same way anymore and I remember the hurt I got from what he said last year. The only thing to do is confess to him how things are now,right?


WEll he did say that you guys can go out... so you can, cause it seems he is over his ex. but if you confess to him now he would just put your feelings one side, and not immediately rush over to singapore, u understand??
so i would actually confess when he gets to see you again the next holidays, but for now still have your flirty conversations. The whole thing is that you were hurt by him last year, but it wasnt his intention right?? so he isnt a really bad guy... you may not like him in the same way, but you gotta at least give him a chance... u might find out that he is exactly what you want. but the question is that when you guys go your separate ways are you gonna still be together.

In my terms a relationship is: a trial marriage when you find out what you want in a partner when you do get married, and find out your common differences and meet half way, because no one is perfect, and if they were they would probably be an entity of God><... and once you know what you want you can go and find it... and be the happiest person alive

[Isis]

WEll he did say that you guys can go out... so you can, cause it seems he is over his ex. but if you confess to him now he would just put your feelings one side, and not immediately rush over to singapore, u understand??
so i would actually confess when he gets to see you again the next holidays, but for now still have your flirty conversations. The whole thing is that you were hurt by him last year, but it wasnt his intention right?? so he isnt a really bad guy... you may not like him in the same way, but you gotta at least give him a chance... u might find out that he is exactly what you want. but the question is that when you guys go your separate ways are you gonna still be together.
In my terms a relationship is: a trial marriage when you find out what you want in a partner when you do get married, and find out your common differences and meet half way, because no one is perfect, and if they were they would probably be an entity of God><... and once you know what you want you can go and find it... and be the happiest person alive

Yeah,that makes sense. Ah,long distance relationships. If we were to go out, I think he wouldnt try anything cause I know him well enough to know he isnt that sort of person and neither am I. I like you definition of relationship :biggrinlo It wouldnt hurt to give him a chance I suppose. He's a great person to be with. Hah,the only thing with me is that I'm not sure what to expect cause I've never been in a relationship in my life :redbiggri

[strydr]

Yeah,that makes sense. Ah,long distance relationships. If we were to go out, I think he wouldnt try anything cause I know him well enough to know he isnt that sort of person and neither am I. I like you definition of relationship :biggrinlo It wouldnt hurt to give him a chance I suppose. He's a great person to be with. Hah,the only thing with me is that I'm not sure what to expect cause I've never been in a relationship in my life :redbiggri

Everyone must have a first time, u know?
My current girlfriend is my second official gf. The reason i wanted it was because of my first relationship... but the one thing you gotta make sure of is to not follow the Stupid typical bf/gf relationship on the TV... cause thats the worst thing you could ever do...
A long distance relationship is a little messy, because you have to ask yourself, do you really trust this person enough with your feelings, does he really love you, does he really matter enough ???

Just before my current girlfriend i liked another girl, and there was a time when i couldnt exactly make up my mind, so i summed it up, they were both nice fun girls, just that the other one lived really close to me and she came to school in my area... and the reason i liked that was i would see her every weekend, whereas the other girl wud be way out of my way... I know that if i told my girlfriend this she wud probably think of me in a bad way... but the way i feel about her now is beyond me... so you gotta ask yourself that question too... because a relationship is based on memories and thoughts... without memories, you wouldnt have "parents" right?? or a "best friend", because with memories, you could potentially make everyone your best friend...
so you gotta ask yourself, will i be able to go to Sunway Lagoon and go on all the rides with him by my side??

[Manami]

Oo, oo... I know this I know this! *raises hand* call on me! call on me! lol.

Mkay, while it might be akward for someone to ask you out if their little brother is interested in you, I don't think that's a big issue.

The most simplistic and direct solution is this: Go and tell him the truth! #Pandas jump out of nowhere and start dancing# $Gackt randomly appears and starts playing black stone$ Then either shyly change the subject, or happily tell him, "Just wanted you to know" and then walk off before he has a chance to say anything. If he likes you, he'll let you know when he has the balls for it (lmao... I just thought that was funny). If not, you guys will remain friends. Wakata? ^_^

Ja ne...

But, I wonder if that's really the right way to go about it...I mean, we've both got pride, lol, and I guess I'm so old-fashioned...I'd rather the boy came and talked to me. I guess that's my loss, but maybe if he did like me, he would have said something by now. *heart sinks* Oh well.

[Lenne]

well firstly nothing of those should matter except that he may still not be mature enough for your type of relationship>>> and the fact that he chose an ugly girl with some nice features just means that he looks on the outside and not the inside.
Well... i know being the girl and the guy is shorter and younger might be the issue... but in my case i am turning 18 and my GF is turning 16, but she is 15 for 3 months while i am 18... so age is not the problem, because i really love her, even with the age gap, also i am slightly taller, but that also doesnt matter.
In my country there is a famous actor who is really really short but he got married to the most tall woman you could find, so i dont how that would feel for him...

yeah, its just the problem that i'm the girl, who is taller and older. i know to me it isnt such a big deal, but for a guy it might be damaging to his ego or what not.

[koichi]

@Manami

Probably not. I was deeply in love with my best friend. I thought about her constantly, almost to the point of obsession (in an innocent, young teen kind of way). I wanted nothing more than to feel her warmth in my arms, and even though what I felt was so very obvious and how she felt toward me was also obvious, I never said anything for the longest time. Of course, as thing turned out she also had feelings for another friend of mine I met through her and ended up with him (which is better for me anyway).

I say, screw tradition. The only thing tradition is there for is to limit the future. Go ask him if you care so much, otherwise it may grow too late and the moment would have passed. You could end up looking back and having said, "It was too long ago."

It's up to you.

[strydr]

hey Bleachers...
I am struggling with gifts for anniversaries and birthdays of my girlfriend... cause i think that whatever i am gonna give her is gonna too classy... cause i give gifts that say --- we are married --- well those are the ones that i am thinking about...
so for a half a year anniversary what would be a mediocre gift that doesnt say " i am obsessed " and one that doesnt say " i dont care enough about you to give a good present " --- what is a good gift for a 6 months anniversary... cause i got excellent ideas for a year anniversary, but as a young teen couple... what is a nice gift, which isnt exactly too classy??

[chakra25]

Let's see... I gave my ex-honey a silver bracelet... Sam plush from Honey & Sam will win her heart. The eyes is soooo adorable. Glass rose...

The best jesture is something custom made. If it's something you made, it will definitely melt her heart. Do some research to something she really likes? Origami rose... each number of rose you give is supposed to hold a meaning... for example 99 means always and forever and so on. I once folded 99 stars and put it into a nice jar. Then surprise her with it... or you can buy it. Some places will sell engraved items or will make something out of glass.

Basically I gave her a gift every month for a whole year ... big mistake! After the first year, I ran out of ideas :(

[strydr]

Let's see... I gave my ex-honey a silver bracelet... Sam plush from Honey & Sam will win her heart. The eyes is soooo adorable. Glass rose...
The best jesture is something custom made. If it's something you made, it will definitely melt her heart. Do some research to something she really likes? Origami rose... each number of rose you give is supposed to hold a meaning... for example 99 means always and forever and so on. I once folded 99 stars and put it into a nice jar. Then surprise her with it... or you can buy it. Some places will sell engraved items or will make something out of glass.
Basically I gave her a gift every month for a whole year ... big mistake! After the first year, I ran out of ideas :(

Thats exactly what i am worried about, cause i think about how we are now, and i see us going to the future, like maybe 2 years... maybe longer... maybe shorter... but i am still thinking about what she will say when i give her something i already gave her before...
a glass rose... thats awesome... i think i am gonna talk to my Glassblower friend.
Thanx a lot man.

[strydr]

I am gonna give my girlfriend a Glass Rose for our 6 month anniversary... is that OK???
I mean yes it is ok, but is it a bit too serious?? maybe a tad too classy??
cause just like chakra said above... i am gonna run out of special gifts...so its a kinda messy story u know... and i fear that giving a glass rose may be a little, lets just say, boring... because that is how girls are... so do any of you have any other jestures...

[Lolable]

umm give her those necklaces in tiffany
the ones which r plain but u can write her name on it

[strydr]

mmm.... gotta look into that but thanx for da idea... i was also thinkin about a bracelet... maybe, just maybe, cause it may be easy to get, cause in my country dats da thing, and necklaces are kinda hard to find, but making her her own necklace would be better...

[Lenne]

grinding with a guy doesnt mean hes my boyfriend now does it?! so tell me why some people make it such a freaking big deal? like hello, i know this is stereotypical, but if i was some white chick with blonde hair and grinding with a guy on the dance floor no one will give a shit right? just because i'm usually quite, hard working and not the partying type, people start to think that i'm not allowed to have fun?

[kaede822]

:musak:
my best bud has this problem and he's been asking me everyday for inputs about it..you see, its kinda complicated. he's a good looking guy and he's currently in a relationship with a girl we can call Ms. M. anyway, they've been together for like 2 years already and he tells me he's going to end it soon because Ms. M is too possesive. and yes, i am a witness of her wrath. she gets mad at him when she sees him talking to our girl classmates. This Ms. M is his third girlfriend but apparently, he still thinks about his first girlfriend - Ms. A. and yeah, he kinda two-timed Ms. M and hooked up with Ms. A for about a month and he told me those were the happiest days. but he had to end it and so HE broke up with her. lately, he and Ms. A have been communicating and he tells me he's into her again. the problem is, Ms. A already has a boyfriend and is kinda mad at him for breaking up with her. I told him to weigh who means more to him and he told me he loves Ms. A more and so i told him to break up with his current gf, Ms. M. He told me he cant bring himself to break up with Ms. M...so to make it short..he's kinda confused.
He's afraid of leaving his current gf and he's not sso sure about pursuing his ex-gf, Ms. A because he's not sure about what Ms. A feels for him.
And i've been advising him stuff... but i already sound like a broken record.. i repeat my advices everyday..so i need some new input on this..maybe from a different person's point of view....

[Icestorm]

well in things like this theres always going to be the risk that everything is not going to work out well.. but with these kind of things if you dont take the risk you want reap the rewards, if he really wants a relationship where he is happy he should take a step into the unknown and see where it leads, if he wishes to stay unhappy then he should be with his other gf where safety lies.

[strydr]

grinding with a guy doesnt mean hes my boyfriend now does it?! so tell me why some people make it such a freaking big deal? like hello, i know this is stereotypical, but if i was some white chick with blonde hair and grinding with a guy on the dance floor no one will give a shit right? just because i'm usually quite, hard working and not the partying type, people start to think that i'm not allowed to have fun?

I know what you mean, cause it was the same for me, but in the same way... did you give him any indication that you maybe liked him in any way, cause maybe thats why he feels the way he does, or thats why the people around you feel that way. Remember that they wont make it a big deal unless you act upon it... like getting upset or frustrated about it...
and yes you are right...everyone is entitled to some fun at least.

[strydr]

:musak:
my best bud has this problem and he's been asking me everyday for inputs about it..you see, its kinda complicated. he's a good looking guy and he's currently in a relationship with a girl we can call Ms. M. anyway, they've been together for like 2 years already and he tells me he's going to end it soon because Ms. M is too possesive. and yes, i am a witness of her wrath. she gets mad at him when she sees him talking to our girl classmates. This Ms. M is his third girlfriend but apparently, he still thinks about his first girlfriend - Ms. A. and yeah, he kinda two-timed Ms. M and hooked up with Ms. A for about a month and he told me those were the happiest days. but he had to end it and so HE broke up with her. lately, he and Ms. A have been communicating and he tells me he's into her again. the problem is, Ms. A already has a boyfriend and is kinda mad at him for breaking up with her. I told him to weigh who means more to him and he told me he loves Ms. A more and so i told him to break up with his current gf, Ms. M. He told me he cant bring himself to break up with Ms. M...so to make it short..he's kinda confused.
He's afraid of leaving his current gf and he's not sso sure about pursuing his ex-gf, Ms. A because he's not sure about what Ms. A feels for him.
And i've been advising him stuff... but i already sound like a broken record.. i repeat my advices everyday..so i need some new input on this..maybe from a different person's point of view....

Mmm... this is one of those really messed up situations. Well for sure, Ms M is kinda like me before i changed...
SHE IS PLAIN OUT NEEDY... i wud really hate it if a girl did that each time i was with another girl... but i was like that before... but now i am kinda different, cause i found that my gf has a lotta cute guy friends... but for some reason dates me.
If i were him i would actually dump Ms M, not for Ms A, but for myself, cause she is really one of those psycho gf... all this neediness... but it feels good for someone to be needed or wanted ... so maybe he is not showing enough affection.
Also the relationship is not based on trust, cause she doesnt trust him with her feelings... she is type of girl who would lock her boyfriend in a cell in the basement...
If he wants to make it work he gotta ask her , "What can i do to make you trust me??".
Ms. A as his ex... that is some good news, cause he likes her more than Ms M... but the whole thing is you gotta bargain... he dumped her right?? she might hold that against him, and people might hate him coz he might be "playing with her feelings again" --- people make rumours.
Obviously he must trust his heart, cause without that trust in what he really wants he will never fulfill he utmost desire... and with the fulfillment comes a hella lotta joy, as he said before.

Everyone has problems, the whole thing is learning to measure your ability to meet halfway with someone.
For me, I would never ever meet halfway on the issue of Morals... but am willing to meet halfway on the issue of Dislikes/Likes... cause that can always be cool, even though the person may be the opposite of you, you could learn a lot from then.
Peace ... sTrYdR

[s3r3n1ty]

Talk like this makes me angry...and sad :(

[Lenne]

I know what you mean, cause it was the same for me, but in the same way... did you give him any indication that you maybe liked him in any way, cause maybe thats why he feels the way he does, or thats why the people around you feel that way. Remember that they wont make it a big deal unless you act upon it... like getting upset or frustrated about it...
and yes you are right...everyone is entitled to some fun at least.

hell no, just danced with him. i dont so much as blink in his direction at school because i like this other guy who isnt in my grade. and fun yes, but some people are just racist, i swear.

[strydr]

hell no, just danced with him. i dont so much as blink in his direction at school because i like this other guy who isnt in my grade. and fun yes, but some people are just racist, i swear.

Racist?? MAybe not racist but just pregidice towards you... are they racist - in which way??

Well, that kinda answers it for you, since you dont like him at all, and dont have much feelings for him, then why do you care about what they say about you liking him... next time they do actually approach you with something so stupid, just cast it down and let it flow by you, there is no reason to make a small thing something huge... understand??
If on the other hand you do have some hidden feelings which are unknown, even to you, then that would explain your behaviour... cause thats the way you act around someone you like but wanna keep it secret...

My first gf i never knew i liked, i used to actually make fun of her before that, and used to play little jokes on her, until one day this chinese guy asked her out... then she told me about it, then i got so strange about it, but i never knew why until i asked myself why i felt the way i did and then i had to actualyl convince myself that i did have feelings for her...

But the way it sounds from you, you really like this other guy... then go all out for him, and make him your goal, k!
bi bi
sTrYdR

[Lenne]

Racist?? MAybe not racist but just pregidice towards you... are they racist - in which way??
Well, that kinda answers it for you, since you dont like him at all, and dont have much feelings for him, then why do you care about what they say about you liking him... next time they do actually approach you with something so stupid, just cast it down and let it flow by you, there is no reason to make a small thing something huge... understand??
If on the other hand you do have some hidden feelings which are unknown, even to you, then that would explain your behaviour... cause thats the way you act around someone you like but wanna keep it secret...
My first gf i never knew i liked, i used to actually make fun of her before that, and used to play little jokes on her, until one day this chinese guy asked her out... then she told me about it, then i got so strange about it, but i never knew why until i asked myself why i felt the way i did and then i had to actualyl convince myself that i did have feelings for her...
But the way it sounds from you, you really like this other guy... then go all out for him, and make him your goal, k!
bi bi
sTrYdR

ha, racist as in 'good smart chinese girls dont usual grind XD'

but whatever.

Yeah, that whole incident seemed to pass me by after i spent the whole week of lunch time hanging out with the guy i like^^ and then him, his bro and i went to this university on friday and it was so fun. i've gotten to know this guy a lot better, and despite the fact that he said he didnt want to date me before, the more i spend time with him, the more i dont care if he thinks of me as girlfriend material. i just enjoy spending time with him. is this called platonic love? lol, cuz it sure feels like itXD

[strydr]

ha, racist as in 'good smart chinese girls dont usual grind XD'

but whatever.

Yeah, that whole incident seemed to pass me by after i spent the whole week of lunch time hanging out with the guy i like^^ and then him, his bro and i went to this university on friday and it was so fun. i've gotten to know this guy a lot better, and despite the fact that he said he didnt want to date me before, the more i spend time with him, the more i dont care if he thinks of me as girlfriend material. i just enjoy spending time with him. is this called platonic love? lol, cuz it sure feels like itXD
Whoa, never thought about that racism...
I am happy everything resolved for you... but the way you feeling is good... the whole feeling of not wanting to be his gf but rather his best friend... but its a whole process i am telling you now... you guys are gonna get together soon... ^__^ ok maybe i am being a bit weird, but i have seen this kinda thing happen before, so... its all i am saying...
keep me updated ok... i may not be here, starting exams tomorrow for three weeks...so dats a bummer,
see ya, sTrYdR.

[Lenne]

thanks stryder^^ i definitely will keep y'all posted if something happens. i'm not going to on too much these days as well, tests coming up ;_;

[odanion]

I guess calling it platonic love would be wrong...feeling good spending time with someone doesn't mean anything bad...because platonic love would be bad...because that would mean that you or he does not see the other as only a friend and it could end up going bad...but just being friends and having fun together doesn't have to mean anything special

[strydr]

I guess calling it platonic love would be wrong...feeling good spending time with someone doesn't mean anything bad...because platonic love would be bad...because that would mean that you or he does not see the other as only a friend and it could end up going bad...but just being friends and having fun together doesn't have to mean anything special

i agree with you... having fun isnt exactly a crime, you just fulfilling human desire... thats all.
But i do believe that it is good to keep those people who make you feel really special closer than usual... and seeing them every weekend makes it even better doesnt it... kinda like being in a relationship...

[Lenne]

haha, thanks for the advice and points of view you guys. i think i'll just let things ride for a while. see what happens^^ i'm not at loss if we're just good friends, and i get to know more and more about him in the process.

[mrmyz]

Ive given up on relationships now I just rock that casual sex

[strydr]

haha, thanks for the advice and points of view you guys. i think i'll just let things ride for a while. see what happens^^ i'm not at loss if we're just good friends, and i get to know more and more about him in the process.

Well... I mean thats a start.
When I asked my current girlfriend she said no 3 times before going out with me, and now we have been going out for 6 months this Sunday.
BUT during that year of her telling me No i kept being her friend and we were really close, she was my best friend, now she is my bestest best friend.
and she probably knows me better than i know myself... and i know her really well too, but you have to be strong about what you want, else he is just gonna fade and become something which is your FRIEND only... dont give up.
But i like your "just go with the flow"-type of plan... it is probably the best thing you could do

[emmasu]

I am gonna give my girlfriend a Glass Rose for our 6 month anniversary... is that OK???
I mean yes it is ok, but is it a bit too serious?? maybe a tad too classy??
cause just like chakra said above... i am gonna run out of special gifts...so its a kinda messy story u know... and i fear that giving a glass rose may be a little, lets just say, boring... because that is how girls are... so do any of you have any other jestures...
well, do not think alot about the gift, do not keep thinking about the gifts and what kind, classy, or whatever, you have to know first that your gf freidn likes no matter what, and she will accept anything,
i know you know that, but actaully girls never really think about the gifts from their bf, as long as you show that you love her and absolutly she knows that,
so when you get her a gift do not get her very classy and expensive one she would feel that she is putting alot of pressure on you a bout the gifts and above that, she would feel more obligated to you. for me i would like to feel that me and my bf are more like friends and that i would accept anything from him, but still you have to get her a gift and i would recomand something like a vale, i know that would seem very simple, but i think she would like it, but still for me i think the red rosses will do the whole work, GOOD LUCK:winking56

[strydr]

well, do not think alot about the gift, do not keep thinking about the gifts and what kind, classy, or whatever, you have to know first that your gf freidn likes no matter what, and she will accept anything,
i know you know that, but actaully girls never really think about the gifts from their bf, as long as you show that you love her and absolutly she knows that,
so when you get her a gift do not get her very classy and expensive one she would feel that she is putting alot of pressure on you a bout the gifts and above that, she would feel more obligated to you. for me i would like to feel that me and my bf are more like friends and that i would accept anything from him, but still you have to get her a gift and i would recomand something like a vale, i know that would seem very simple, but i think she would like it, but still for me i think the red rosses will do the whole work, GOOD LUCK:winking56

Wow, thanx a lot ... actually i was thinking about it, and it seems that we, as people, are very different, my girlfriend and i. I dunno if this is true, but usually the girl seems to be the more sentimental person and the guy is usually the person who forgets anniversaries and that... but it seems that i am the girl in the relationship and my girlfriend is the guy... i am really sentimental, i want everything to be special and perfect, while to her nothing much matters, just as long as she is with me... its really weird...
but thanx a lot... i kinda just decided on a movie with her after our exams actually... which she sounded excited about, cause, as a couple, we havent exactly been to the movies for i think it could be 2 months, or 3 months actually... cause we usually just end up spending the time walking around and cuddling... since we dont get to do that often.
Again thanx... i think that helps my decision, kinda makes it concrete now.

[InsaneShiyn]

You Guys Might remember me from a while back, about my first sexual experience, and what to do, and not to do...

Click the spoiler to read...sense it's sexual

So school ended today, and my and My Gf (im 17, shes 15) were at starbucks, and our friends pissed us off...we went on a walk, and we ended up in the middle of nowhere(we took this long walk on a trail through this like...forest), and just started making out...getting on the ground, and she began to unzip my pants. i thought it was just going to be a handjob, but she moved my dick up her skirt, and slid her thongs down, and asked me to help force it in...like..on the spot, we were just making out and really into it...and right there she took my virginity. This was her first real time *her first time was a rape*, but in that case she's not a virgin, and we didnt have any protection. Damn I was an idiot for not thinking with my head, rather than my balls, and not being responsible. I didnt know what to do for the first time, I didnt know if i should of taken my dick out, but I didnt when I started going. She told me to keep it in..but still. Well she also told me, that due to her Cycle, there would only be an 8% chance.
Oh well, I made a bad choice, but I we still love eachother..we just don't know whats going to happen now. If I got her pregnant or not....her mom always told us that shed help her out if she had a child, and her parents are ****ing rich (shes adopted BTW), and like me and all...but my parents are extremely strict, and well...not compassionate and understanding. But even though her parents like me, the consent age is 16, and shes 15...so even if they dont want to charge me with rape, I can still get in trouble I guess? Im not even doing so well in school anymore, and if she was pregnant, id have to drop out...even though her mom would be willing to help....I mean, i have top take some sort of responsibility.

Well I just need advice. FOR now, what should I do? Should I talk to someone...and what if it turns out she is pregnant...what would be the best/right thing to do?

Should I talk to a counselour or something....?

Any help would be nice. I dont have trusting reality friends...alot of people hate us going out because shes adopted(caucasian, apaprently, but shes gorgeous), and im a Asian-Caucasian Hyrbid(not to self promote, but im often compared to johnny depp at school)...and regardless of how we look, the interracial relationship is frowned upon here...and a lot of my friends hate her because she dressed preppy, and her friends either love the hell out of me or despise me.

Infact, she just called..we talked normally...but said she needs to talk to me about something tomorrow. I wonder how bad it could be..

Oh well...

[KurosakiKun15]

Yea my problem is im not very confident and i can't talk to girls i think are pretty cuz im clumsy and i always feel ill mess up somehow can anyone help

[koichi]

The only way to solve this problem is training. Just basically go up to random hot girls in the mall that you'll probably never see again and start talking to them. It's hard at first, but you'll get it sooner or later.

Remember, the more you do it the more confidence you'll get.

[KurosakiKun15]

Thanks ill try to do that

[emmasu]

Wow, thanx a lot ... actually i was thinking about it, and it seems that we, as people, are very different, my girlfriend and i. I dunno if this is true, but usually the girl seems to be the more sentimental person and the guy is usually the person who forgets anniversaries and that... but it seems that i am the girl in the relationship and my girlfriend is the guy... i am really sentimental, i want everything to be special and perfect, while to her nothing much matters, just as long as she is with me... its really weird...
but thanx a lot... i kinda just decided on a movie with her after our exams actually... which she sounded excited about, cause, as a couple, we havent exactly been to the movies for i think it could be 2 months, or 3 months actually... cause we usually just end up spending the time walking around and cuddling... since we dont get to do that often.
Again thanx... i think that helps my decision, kinda makes it concrete now.
well, i would love to be in this kind of relationship, i do not want to be the guy, but i want my guy to do these things,
it seems that you really love her and she too, so advice from me do not think about things that much and just do not overload things or over thinking about things cuz when you do that you loose your mind

@kuros:
well, pls do not lestin to Mr. Koichi's advice cuz believe me that is not going to work, you can't just walk to random people that you do not know them, the thing is that when you ask a gril that you know is going to be different, so what you do is just try to talk to your classmates and just ask them about a homework or something that you have to do, and a also try to make freinds with girls by that you will get to know them and know what do they like and you will know how to ask them

[strydr]

well, i would love to be in this kind of relationship, i do not want to be the guy, but i want my guy to do these things,
it seems that you really love her and she too, so advice from me do not think about things that much and just do not overload things or over thinking about things cuz when you do that you loose your mind


OH MY WORD! i do that all the time --- ie. lose my mind, and in the end i just end up calling her, and then everything is ok again... its weird...

and yes, i do love her, cause she is just for me, and i really do care for her, but i think i got a big problem showing it... I cant be affectionate, well... i struggle at it --- and i hate it!
its like i cant show her how much i really love her...
and i think that is what is gonna lead me to my downfall...
but its 6 months tomorrow... so ya.

[emmasu]

i gave some advices earlier to the girls about relationships and i will give some of them:
Find a guy, who calls you beautiful instead of hot.


Who calls you back when you hang up on him.


Who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.


Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead.


Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats.


Who holds your hand in front of his friends.


Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.


Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."

[odanion]

now those are some good advice, I agree on those...got any for a guy? :p

[strydr]

i gave some advices earlier to the girls about relationships and i will give some of them:
Find a guy, who calls you beautiful instead of hot.
Who calls you back when you hang up on him.
Who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.
Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead.
Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats.
Who holds your hand in front of his friends.
Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.
Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, "...that's her."

I have seen this before, its some good advice... for a girl... and like odanion says, where is the one for the guy...

coz 4 me: I know a girl who calls pretty instead of handsome, who calls me back when the phone goes wrong, who slept so i could watch her, who kisses and gets kissed by me, who likes me when i just came from a sweaty dirty day in the roof, fixing lights, who doesnt want to hold my in front of my or her friends, who constantly sends me SMS's about how much she cares for me, who thinks she is bad girlfriend, but i know shes the best, and i am the lucky one... and who says, "... thats him " ... but more like i gotta introduce myself first.

so... if you put it like that...
I have been going out with my gf for 6months today... I am so happy, and i cant wait to see her and give her a big hug

[Lolable]

@emmusa i agree too
but where will i findhim?
T.T

[mrmyz]

156 pages wtf, you people talked about relationships for 156 pages. The hell with that casual sex is SOOOOOOOO much more easier

[Elelith]

Damn you, you have no soul! Strydr was telling us about his girlfriend, (she sounds lovely BTW.) And you had to come in and ruin the moment.... *tuts*

[mrmyz]

I have a soul, its just I cant handle all that relationship drama right now its to complicated and well Im to broke to have a gf right now lol.

[strydr]

@emmusa i agree too
but where will i findhim?
T.T

Dont worry you will find him, he is out there, it sometime takes time to find the right one, but you will know when you find the right one...
I liked my gf for more than many reasons, of which the best is probably her soul, she has the ability to instantly make me happy... its amazing.

Damn you, you have no soul! Strydr was telling us about his girlfriend, (she sounds lovely BTW.) And you had to come in and ruin the moment.... *tuts*

She is nice. If you guys ever in the area of South Africa Cape Town, you can come meet her... :)
But i really wanna show you guys her, but she is reluctant to take a picture with me.
so, soonish, dont worry.
We had our 6 months today, is that long for a couple who is 17, n 15...???

[Allicat]

@ strydr its not terribly long but aw! its so nice to have someone who instantly makes you happy... good for you!
unfortunately for me i don't have a bf who does that, in fact i don't have a bf at all haha O.o i know.. its pathetic...

[strydr]

@ strydr its not terribly long but aw! its so nice to have someone who instantly makes you happy... good for you!
unfortunately for me i don't have a bf who does that, in fact i don't have a bf at all haha O.o i know.. its pathetic...

What you talkin about pathetic... I really wouldnt like someone to think that if they dont have a bf to think they pathetic... btw, i saw your pic at the concert and you shouldnt be worried about your self-confidence, cause you are a nice looking girl... but you dont HAVE TO HAVE BF!
The way i see my relationship is to find this person who makes you feel ultimate and so special... who can do that in a moment, who cares and loves you for who you are (and by that i mean, my gf saw me swimming, and i am really quite fat), not for what you are, because those guys usually ditch you after finding a nicer or more achieved girl, its not right. Find someone who loves your heart and soul rather than the outside... and you shouldnt stop till you find it, k. :)
dont go on this feeling of wanting a bf so much, rather wait for a perfect guy... cause then its real. If you gonna hunt guys down you might the wrong kind pitching up...

[Icestorm]

agreed.. it been a while since i was here.. im really happy to see that your relationship is going well stryder my man.. i remember talking to you in the early stages :D

[strydr]

agreed.. it been a while since i was here.. im really happy to see that your relationship is going well stryder my man.. i remember talking to you in the early stages :D

yeah, i remember, back then everyday was a nightmare, constantly posting my silly stories on ClubBleach Relationship thread, waiting to get some advice...
Ya, with a relationship, i think you have to give it some time before it develops to something really awesome... cause i really love it now. and i have never loved any non-family girl like a love my current gf, miss Ra... she is my sun god.

[Icestorm]

yeah dude im happy to see that its working out for you..

[strydr]

yeah dude im happy to see that its working out for you..

I am happy... just that i really wanna spend some quality time with her, and now that its exams, its really hard to get time to go to 'our' spot and just chill and chat... you know.
Hopefully i can spoil her when we finished with exams, but we had a tight time now the past month... she left for a month oversees with her grandparents, she called me which was really nice of her, then after not seeing her for a month, i am in shock, cause i found out i am emotionally blocked for some reason ( and by that i mean, i dont see her for a month and i look plain normal when she walkin towards me on the airport), then i had a heavy time just before exams, which is also a month, so now i am the busy one, who is gone... but i still call just to say hi, and tell her how much i thought of her that day... but i really wanna have fun with her after this mad Exam period... else we cool, i got her in secret after school yesterday... i can never explain why whenever i see her, no matter what she wears, she always looks beautiful, and the strangest thing is i havent seen her with make-up on yet, but she still looks like a princess to me... :)
Hows it workin out for you??

[Icestorm]

haha hmm nothing is happening.. haha.. which is how it will stay.. for a while..

[strydr]

haha hmm nothing is happening.. haha.. which is how it will stay.. for a while..

Did you plan on not getting a gf, did you break up, have you been ill fated with the fact that you will not be in love for a long time??

I know a break up is a terrible thing, you have to first get over that initial feelings for that special someone, then on top of that , to fully get over her/him, you have to find someone else who is more special... which often doesnt happen overnight...

Do you want a gf??

[Icestorm]

haha many questions.. well i dunno... i had a gf ages ago.. broke up.. atm.. im just not feeling like it.. hard to explain.. school can be an ass too.. so for now its just .. brace myself.. i know what your saying.. i mean if i wanted a gf.. i could probably go hunting or watever.. but at this point.. just dont feel like it

[strydr]

haha many questions.. well i dunno... i had a gf ages ago.. broke up.. atm.. im just not feeling like it.. hard to explain.. school can be an ass too.. so for now its just .. brace myself.. i know what your saying.. i mean if i wanted a gf.. i could probably go hunting or watever.. but at this point.. just dont feel like it

i know how you feeling, i felt like that two years ago... but that is really cool attitude to have... i mean its maybe not good to be hunting or watever... especially if you dont want it...

[Allicat]

What you talkin about pathetic... I really wouldnt like someone to think that if they dont have a bf to think they pathetic... btw, i saw your pic at the concert and you shouldnt be worried about your self-confidence, cause you are a nice looking girl... but you dont HAVE TO HAVE BF!
The way i see my relationship is to find this person who makes you feel ultimate and so special... who can do that in a moment, who cares and loves you for who you are (and by that i mean, my gf saw me swimming, and i am really quite fat), not for what you are, because those guys usually ditch you after finding a nicer or more achieved girl, its not right. Find someone who loves your heart and soul rather than the outside... and you shouldnt stop till you find it, k. :)
dont go on this feeling of wanting a bf so much, rather wait for a perfect guy... cause then its real. If you gonna hunt guys down you might the wrong kind pitching up...

well i am not saying i think i am pathetic because i don't have a bf its just i feel pathetic because i don't have that person and/or never have had that person. well i guess pathetic wouldn't be the right word though... eh whatev.(btw i saw your pics and you are not fat at all) O.o what are you smoking?

[Lenne]

well i am not saying i think i am pathetic because i don't have a bf its just i feel pathetic because i don't have that person and/or never have had that person. well i guess pathetic wouldn't be the right word though... eh whatev.(btw i saw your pics and you are not fat at all) O.o what are you smoking?

wow, allicat i feel exactly the smae ;_; although in my case, i think pathetic would be the correct word indeed XD not that much luck when it comes to meeting the 'right person' ;-;

[Allicat]

aww i feel ya. it sucks doesn't it? i guess pathetic would be tha word ...gah...

[Lenne]

aww i feel ya. it sucks doesn't it? i guess pathetic would be tha word ...gah...

no... not always bahXD how old r u again? see, me= almost 18, and never had bf, THAT is sad >.<

[strydr]

dont feel that bad about it... all it means is that you guys just want the situation to be perfect, you guys are good for today, because a lot of the girls you meet today are sluts and hoes, and would kiss any guy because thats the way they are. YOU GUYS on the other hand are waiting for the perfect guy, thats all... I started early, my first gf at 12... but i wasnt ready then... but i am really picky, cause my second gf i am currently dating.
Everyone around me are just like that, i have got a friend who is 20 and still doesnt want a girlfriend, instead he wants to be alone, but he has hobbies... I on the other hand have hobbies, but they make me an ugly person...
My sis is 17 and doesnt have a boyfriend, my friend only started dating at 19, my cousin has never actually been alone in a room with a girl but is 23 now and wants to marry the girl... so you guys arent alone... just remember:
While catching fish in the middle of the ocean, where there are so many fish, once you like the size or features of the fish you have caught you tend to keep, else you throw it back into the ocean and someone else catches it, and then you cant seem to find a better fish... Catch my drift...

Dont let someone you like just pass you by, rather regret something you've done than regretting something you hadnt done... its life, you have one chance, and only have one chance for a second chance... Dont let a pretty Fair Eyes, Princess pass you by... else you will never get her again

[emmasu]

sicne the guys asked for a dvices, i will give them some, specially am a girl and i know how the girls think:

if you like a girl and you want to ask her out, do not hastiate and just wait for the right time, which means that you should ask her when you see her happy in asituation or laughing, believe me that is the best time

when you like a girl tell her that, i mean let her know form your look, when she passes by just give her that look the you like her, she is going to like it but do not do the mistake that everybody does which is staring, do not stare at her, she would not feel comfrtable

when you get to the point that you want to ask her out, smile alot while your asking her, and try not to ask her infront of her firends,

when you ask someone, always has an idea about the date, do not ask her and your head iis blank, cuz she would think you are not seriuos about it

in your first date with the girl, take her to a place where you can have fun first and then you can have dinner later, this because during havinf fun she sees the real you and will see your personlaity, during dinner you will talk about your self and she will start to get to know you, do not take her to a movie, cuz most of the time you will be watching the film and there will be no time to talk and then you can not impress her

do not talk about things that you only like and elborate about these things, first talk about things that both of you know about, for example scohhl, that would make it easier for both of you to be comfortable and can talk and one thing will lead to other and you will end up talking about something more interesting

these are some advices, i hope everybody like them and in once and a while, i will try to write more

[Lenne]

dont feel that bad about it... all it means is that you guys just want the situation to be perfect, you guys are good for today, because a lot of the girls you meet today are sluts and hoes, and would kiss any guy because thats the way they are. YOU GUYS on the other hand are waiting for the perfect guy, thats all... I started early, my first gf at 12... but i wasnt ready then... but i am really picky, cause my second gf i am currently dating.
Everyone around me are just like that, i have got a friend who is 20 and still doesnt want a girlfriend, instead he wants to be alone, but he has hobbies... I on the other hand have hobbies, but they make me an ugly person...
My sis is 17 and doesnt have a boyfriend, my friend only started dating at 19, my cousin has never actually been alone in a room with a girl but is 23 now and wants to marry the girl... so you guys arent alone... just remember:
While catching fish in the middle of the ocean, where there are so many fish, once you like the size or features of the fish you have caught you tend to keep, else you throw it back into the ocean and someone else catches it, and then you cant seem to find a better fish... Catch my drift...

Dont let someone you like just pass you by, rather regret something you've done than regretting something you hadnt done... its life, you have one chance, and only have one chance for a second chance... Dont let a pretty Fair Eyes, Princess pass you by... else you will never get her again

XD lol, i'm a girl, but yea, i get what you're saying. lol, although, you wont believe how many guys i've been rejected by though, so its not like, i'm letting them pass by or what notXD so thats why i consider my situation, very very sadXD

[emmasu]

XD lol, i'm a girl, but yea, i get what you're saying. lol, although, you wont believe how many guys i've been rejected by though, so its not like, i'm letting them pass by or what notXD so thats why i consider my situation, very very sadXD
hey whats going on with you, we have not talked about *it in a while, so whats new?

[Lenne]

hey whats going on with you, we have not talked about *it in a while, so whats new?

;-; unfortunately, absolutely nothing. XD i only see him every other day now since i've stopped spending lunchtime w/ him, and every other day there is like, 10 min or less to talk to him.:sad: plus i'm being bogged down by ALOT of schoolwork, so i duno... plus, i'm starting to think one of my very cloe friends is also kinda interested in him:sad:

[emmasu]

it seems that you are kinda bored form him or i can say that you are not thinking of him in the same way?

[Lenne]

it seems that you are kinda bored form him or i can say that you are not thinking of him in the same way?

hmm, i duno, i think it was just that i heard a convo b/t him and my friend on phone (my friend phones and i was listening, but he didnt know til the end) i just saw how they talked, they seemed to have so much chemistry, and i made me sorta sad. i wouldnt say i feel any less for him, just, a bit of despair i guess?

[emmasu]

well, i don't blame you, and i think its better for you just to forget about him, i told you that once, he did not care about your feelings from the begining and he just ignore or we can say did not care that much about you asking him out, you know just leave him and do not think about him, he is not worth it and you deserve better

[Lenne]

;-; its sad... cuz, i felt that i really really really liked this guy. gonna be, quite difficult to give him up >.<

[emmasu]

come on why can not you see it, this guy underestmate you, why do you want to keep thinking of him?

[Lenne]

;-; i duno, i have no clue. i wouldnt say it as far as love, but hes different from some of the other guys i've liked before >.<

[emmasu]

when you say that, it seems that you can't have anyone you want?

[Lenne]

mmm, yea, i guess u can interpret it that wayXD

[emmasu]

come on, do not look very despred and you need this guy, you i did not like this guy since you told me about him, anyway, do not think of this way if think that you would not get anyone to aks you out, just keep in mind these things:
live your life as it is and do not run behind someone that does not like you

it is not necessery to have a bf, actually it is better not to cuz at that time you can do whatever you want and you are not attached to someone

just move on with the flow and do not make your life like hell cuz of someone that is not worth it

just wait for the right time and you will have the man of your dream

[Lenne]

;-; i just feel out of the loop, u see couples everywhere, and they all look so happy, making me wish i had the same >.<

[emmasu]

well believe me, you would rather to be a lone,ask me, by the way have you ever had abf?

[Kesumi]

;-; its sad... cuz, i felt that i really really really liked this guy. gonna be, quite difficult to give him up >.<

You were in the same situation i wuz in but kinda different....Its cause my ex. Boyfriend in movin tuseday and now today was his last day of school...and now i wanna go bak out with him....sad, sad story ;-;

[Lenne]

well believe me, you would rather to be a lone,ask me, by the way have you ever had abf?
nope ;-; thats the sad thingXD

@kess: awww *huggles*

[emmasu]

so thats why you do not know about the problems that having abf may cause

[Lenne]

true that, but still, i would like to have one, just to have that comfort there ;-;

[emmasu]

so thats why you have to be very careful about the first bf, cuz that would affect the rest of your life, just be very careful

[strydr]

Woah Shizori, damn! that isnt nice news...
I read about the guy before, when you posted previously.
Well, between my friends there is a code you have to abide to :
No 2 people can fall for the same guy/gal at a time, since its just bad manners, and you should wait for your turn rather... and at the same time, once its over its over....
what your friend did is actually against my rules, and i would have actually spoken to her, or in my case him, about how i felt about it... this happenend before, my cousin and i liked the same girl. My cousin is totally the opposite to me (ie. Im introverted, hes extroverted, hes into art and r/b music... me, into the philisophy of life and rock music... only recently we have become more of similar people, but that was then), and we said that he was going to go for the girl first... so he had his chance, then after that he gave me the go ahead... and i got mine, in the end we both were not interested in the girl... but i know i can trust my friends and my cousins with my girlfriend, cause they see her more like 'mine' and more like a sister...
I dont know where you and your friend get the idea that you can be interested in the same guy at the same time... I dont get that.

Well... the whole thing, is she is probably trying to make you a little jealous... to show you that they get along ... kinda like one of those people who feed off other people's sadness. Why would your friend want to show you that she gets along better with the guy you like??
Maybe its true, but the fact that it may be true is the reason she doesnt like him as much as you do... i mean for me, i could never have a decent conversation with my girlfriend when i fell for her, since before when we were friends i wasnt scared of messing up or saying something incensitive... because that was me, but now i didnt wanna insult her... its a whole mess up... but you should definitely try to speak to him more...

didnt he say that he didnt want a girlfriend, or did he say that he didnt want you... cause it may be slightly messy if he said the second, and if he said the first, then him going out with your friend is also messy...

If i were you, which is virtually impossible (lol), i would probably chill for a while, since this guy was important to you, but you have to get over him... and obviously once you over him, then you can go on with life...
until then ... GOOD LUCK my friend...

[Zapak!]

Want to Cyber? :doindadom

sarcasm for the guillible

[koichi]

=.= That's retarded. That kind of thinking will make this just another stupid forum full of little kids who think that random, retarded, annoying posts like that are acceptable. You should be ashamed; you're destroying our youth! Why don' you go to gaiaonline and contribute to their mass of stupidity destroying our youth. .-_.-

[emmasu]

No 2 people can fall for the same guy/gal at a time, since its just bad manners, and you should wait for your turn rather... and at the same time, once its over its over....
what your friend did is actually against my rules, and i would have actually spoken to her, or in my case him, about how i felt about it... ...
how can you say that? it is not against the rule cuz shizori is not that guy's gf, and her freind does not like him but it seems that they get alone
beside the problem here is not about that, it just about shizro is no more interested in this guy

@koichi: you do not have to be that mad, its nothing and you do not have to give lectures about life or whatever

[Lenne]

Woah Shizori, damn! that isnt nice news...
I read about the guy before, when you posted previously.
Well, between my friends there is a code you have to abide to :
No 2 people can fall for the same guy/gal at a time, since its just bad manners, and you should wait for your turn rather... and at the same time, once its over its over....
what your friend did is actually against my rules, and i would have actually spoken to her, or in my case him, about how i felt about it... this happenend before, my cousin and i liked the same girl. My cousin is totally the opposite to me (ie. Im introverted, hes extroverted, hes into art and r/b music... me, into the philisophy of life and rock music... only recently we have become more of similar people, but that was then), and we said that he was going to go for the girl first... so he had his chance, then after that he gave me the go ahead... and i got mine, in the end we both were not interested in the girl... but i know i can trust my friends and my cousins with my girlfriend, cause they see her more like 'mine' and more like a sister...
I dont know where you and your friend get the idea that you can be interested in the same guy at the same time... I dont get that.

Well... the whole thing, is she is probably trying to make you a little jealous... to show you that they get along ... kinda like one of those people who feed off other people's sadness. Why would your friend want to show you that she gets along better with the guy you like??
Maybe its true, but the fact that it may be true is the reason she doesnt like him as much as you do... i mean for me, i could never have a decent conversation with my girlfriend when i fell for her, since before when we were friends i wasnt scared of messing up or saying something incensitive... because that was me, but now i didnt wanna insult her... its a whole mess up... but you should definitely try to speak to him more...

didnt he say that he didnt want a girlfriend, or did he say that he didnt want you... cause it may be slightly messy if he said the second, and if he said the first, then him going out with your friend is also messy...

If i were you, which is virtually impossible (lol), i would probably chill for a while, since this guy was important to you, but you have to get over him... and obviously once you over him, then you can go on with life...
until then ... GOOD LUCK my friend...

lol, thanksXD i had a whole talk with a good friend about serendipity and fate. some very interesting stuff:)

@koichi: i hope you get banned:)

[strydr]

how can you say that? it is not against the rule cuz shizori is not that guy's gf, and her freind does not like him but it seems that they get alone
beside the problem here is not about that, it just about shizro is no more interested in this guy
@koichi: you do not have to be that mad, its nothing and you do not have to give lectures about life or whatever

To tell you... its not actually even about being the girlfriend... just about taking interest in maybe having a relationship... the way I and my friends work is on a : First Come First Serve basis...

... O... sorry... i thought shizori was still interested in the guy but for some reason she could never get to talk to him a lot... or talk to him, like she said about her spending time with the guy... its like 10 min, instead of a whole break.
And her friend was being a bich about it too...

[Lenne]

lol, i wouldht call her a biatch about it, but yeaXD weird stuff, so i duno. @@

[strydr]

But you ok?? Coz getting over someone is really hard if you dont wanna get over him/her...
before with me, it took me a whole month to realize that i wasnt over the person i fell for a month ago... instead i loved her...

But getting over someone requires a lot of time doing other things, while trying to get over that person... i spent the time playing games, looking aimlessly into the night sky, spending days on end just philisophising about life and its cruel ways, and then the best was CLUB BLEACH>>
I hope you actually get over him, unlike me...
(btw... Whats the time on your side of the world, cause i was talking to you, then i went to bed, woke up, and you still on... hehe)

[InsaneShiyn]

I might be getting married soon...because I messed up..but still. I love her...i just want da best for her

[strydr]

I might be getting married soon...because I messed up..but still. I love her...i just want da best for her

Oh no, dont tell me a force marriage... i mean, thats all good, but for me, i wanna still study... but dude, i hope u have a nice marriage.

[strydr]

Well...i really dont know much about the truth in my relationship... just that i called my girlfriend twice now, and she seems a bit far away.
I saw her last monday and tuesday, of which both days we did nothing much but talk and sit... well i walked her home on tuesday... but i havent seen her since, i didnt call her on friday cause i was really too tired... but on thursday when i called her we seemed to be on good terms... but i called her saturday and she seemed as if she wanted to put the phone down, as well as today.

Also recently i asked for things to do with me, like go to dance classes, which mean a lot to me, and to go on a double date with my cousin and her answer was exactly the same as the answer for the dance... a straight NO!

I fear that she has or will realize what a shit boring person i really am and that the fact of the matter is that she doesnt need a boyfriend, and then she will go on to dump me... i already know that i have really enjoyed my time with her, and i know that i dont deserve such a beautiful person, if i look at myself i feel as if this person is too good to be true for me... she is perfect for me, in my eyes... ever since i have been with her, i have been in this dream, i just fear that she will wake up to realize that i am one hell of a boring person... my source of excitement is totally different to hers, Me: watching a jet engine go, seeing a robot move with mechanics, playing and finishing a brilliant game of Warcraft or Final fantasy... Hers: partying, surfing, walking in the mall... I dont mind doing the things she likes with her, but i think she doesnt like what i like... WE ARE TOTALLY DIFFERENT people... i knew that at the start, and i think she knew that too, and then she shaped into my needs, while i didnt hers, and now that she realized that i am totally useless to her, i am what i have always been... ME!
I always thought that this person should of been with a Surfer dude, who would be super exciting with her, while i sat on a Saturday night playing a few games of Warcraft with a few of my buddies... she is a wild animal and i am a mere tamed beast... and the fact that i fell in love with this person, hurts me even more to realize that she may have realized that I am not what she wanted from the beginning... and for me to realize that in the future i may not be with the person i really want to be with, since she balances every part of me that is me... and makes me such a better person.
I have always been the lucky one... and to me she was the ultimate of all ultimate... she was my Fair Eyes, the one who blessed my life... the one who may not wanna be with such a boring guy, who is more of a father-figure to her than anything... I cant be angry when or if she dumps me, since i know that my time with her has been beyond unbelievable... and that i wasnt good enough for her, and she was too good for me...

But in the end, i may be unbelievably wrong, and really might have thought about it too much, and she may really be in love with me... and I will love her more than ever...
sTrYdR (17)/ GF (15)...

[emmasu]

Well...i really dont know much about the truth in my relationship... just that i called my girlfriend twice now, and she seems a bit far away.
I saw her last monday and tuesday, of which both days we did nothing much but talk and sit... well i walked her home on tuesday... but i havent seen her since, i didnt call her on friday cause i was really too tired... but on thursday when i called her we seemed to be on good terms... but i called her saturday and she seemed as if she wanted to put the phone down, as well as today.

Also recently i asked for things to do with me, like go to dance classes, which mean a lot to me, and to go on a double date with my cousin and her answer was exactly the same as the answer for the dance... a straight NO!

I fear that she has or will realize what a shit boring person i really am and that the fact of the matter is that she doesnt need a boyfriend, and then she will go on to dump me... i already know that i have really enjoyed my time with her, and i know that i dont deserve such a beautiful person, if i look at myself i feel as if this person is too good to be true for me... she is perfect for me, in my eyes... ever since i have been with her, i have been in this dream, i just fear that she will wake up to realize that i am one hell of a boring person... my source of excitement is totally different to hers, Me: watching a jet engine go, seeing a robot move with mechanics, playing and finishing a brilliant game of Warcraft or Final fantasy... Hers: partying, surfing, walking in the mall... I dont mind doing the things she likes with her, but i think she doesnt like what i like... WE ARE TOTALLY DIFFERENT people... i knew that at the start, and i think she knew that too, and then she shaped into my needs, while i didnt hers, and now that she realized that i am totally useless to her, i am what i have always been... ME!
I always thought that this person should of been with a Surfer dude, who would be super exciting with her, while i sat on a Saturday night playing a few games of Warcraft with a few of my buddies... she is a wild animal and i am a mere tamed beast... and the fact that i fell in love with this person, hurts me even more to realize that she may have realized that I am not what she wanted from the beginning... and for me to realize that in the future i may not be with the person i really want to be with, since she balances every part of me that is me... and makes me such a better person.
I have always been the lucky one... and to me she was the ultimate of all ultimate... she was my Fair Eyes, the one who blessed my life... the one who may not wanna be with such a boring guy, who is more of a father-figure to her than anything... I cant be angry when or if she dumps me, since i know that my time with her has been beyond unbelievable... and that i wasnt good enough for her, and she was too good for me...

But in the end, i may be unbelievably wrong, and really might have thought about it too much, and she may really be in love with me... and I will love her more than ever...
sTrYdR (17)/ GF (15)...
buddy you are being hard on your self, you must have confedence on your self, you know sometimes the girls may not become in the mood and do not want to do anything, it happenes to me alot, i just do not want to do anything, so when she says no, it doesn'y mean that she doesn't like you, at that time just tell her how much you like her and she would agree directly, believe on that, at that time do not tell her that you are not like me and you do not like to do the things that i like to do,
youknow that both of you are different and you know that there would be a conflict always, it just that you have to work it out,
about you are a boring person, i recommand you to ask your gf this question " am i aboring person?" all you need is her answer and that would be enough, am serious about this, just ask her

[strydr]

buddy you are being hard on your self, you must have confedence on your self, you know sometimes the girls may not become in the mood and do not want to do anything, it happenes to me alot, i just do not want to do anything, so when she says no, it doesn'y mean that she doesn't like you, at that time just tell her how much you like her and she would agree directly, believe on that, at that time do not tell her that you are not like me and you do not like to do the things that i like to do,
youknow that both of you are different and you know that there would be a conflict always, it just that you have to work it out,
about you are a boring person, i recommand you to ask your gf this question " am i aboring person?" all you need is her answer and that would be enough, am serious about this, just ask her

I know this girl, she isnt the type to give a straight answer... she is more the type of person to actually go with the whole grand plan and just suffer it out, without saying a word, only later she would say,"Its not working..." and i am already expecting it tomorrow, so you guys will know either of my super happiness or utter sadness... i cant say anything, but when i called again she sounded exactly the same, she was so unexcited... she once again wanted to put the phone down... i may just be uncaring, and may just be disturbing her studies...

[emmasu]

I know this girl, she isnt the type to give a straight answer... she is more the type of person to actually go with the whole grand plan and just suffer it out, without saying a word, only later she would say,"Its not working..." and i am already expecting it tomorrow, so you guys will know either of my super happiness or utter sadness... i cant say anything, but when i called again she sounded exactly the same, she was so unexcited... she once again wanted to put the phone down... i may just be uncaring, and may just be disturbing her studies...
you sound like really dipresed, all i can tell you is let things go smoothely, and you seem to be ok with the her letting you go?

[Sunfire249]

Well...i really dont know much about the truth in my relationship... just that i called my girlfriend twice now, and she seems a bit far away.
I saw her last monday and tuesday, of which both days we did nothing much but talk and sit... well i walked her home on tuesday... but i havent seen her since, i didnt call her on friday cause i was really too tired... but on thursday when i called her we seemed to be on good terms... but i called her saturday and she seemed as if she wanted to put the phone down, as well as today.
Are you sure you're not imagining it?? 'Cause Iunno, I know that some people will start to get really paranoid in the middle of the relationship and with misunderstandings and yeah...


Also recently i asked for things to do with me, like go to dance classes, which mean a lot to me, and to go on a double date with my cousin and her answer was exactly the same as the answer for the dance... a straight NO!
Do you know the reasoning behind her immediatly saying no? Maybe she had a bad experience or something...


I fear that she has or will realize what a shit boring person i really am and that the fact of the matter is that she doesnt need a boyfriend, and then she will go on to dump me... i already know that i have really enjoyed my time with her, and i know that i dont deserve such a beautiful person, if i look at myself i feel as if this person is too good to be true for me... she is perfect for me, in my eyes... ever since i have been with her, i have been in this dream, i just fear that she will wake up to realize that i am one hell of a boring person... my source of excitement is totally different to hers, Me: watching a jet engine go, seeing a robot move with mechanics, playing and finishing a brilliant game of Warcraft or Final fantasy... Hers: partying, surfing, walking in the mall... I dont mind doing the things she likes with her, but i think she doesnt like what i like... WE ARE TOTALLY DIFFERENT people... i knew that at the start, and i think she knew that too, and then she shaped into my needs, while i didnt hers, and now that she realized that i am totally useless to her, i am what i have always been... ME! K, if she hasn't seen the "true" you yet then wouldn't that be kinda... Iunno... Worth nothing? If she doesn't like you for who you are then what would be the point of the relationship? She'd only be liking this person posing to be someone else, which I doubt you're doing unless there's something I don't know ^_^;


I always thought that this person should of been with a Surfer dude, who would be super exciting with her, while i sat on a Saturday night playing a few games of Warcraft with a few of my buddies... she is a wild animal and i am a mere tamed beast... and the fact that i fell in love with this person, hurts me even more to realize that she may have realized that I am not what she wanted from the beginning... and for me to realize that in the future i may not be with the person i really want to be with, since she balances every part of me that is me... and makes me such a better person. Aww! That's sooooo sweet! If she can't accept you for who you are in this sense then she's missing out on alot of stuff! And besides that, being opposites is what makes it more enjoyable being together I think. It's the fact that you're so opposite you become so intrigued with one another in my opinion


I have always been the lucky one... and to me she was the ultimate of all ultimate... she was my Fair Eyes, the one who blessed my life... the one who may not wanna be with such a boring guy, who is more of a father-figure to her than anything... I cant be angry when or if she dumps me, since i know that my time with her has been beyond unbelievable... and that i wasnt good enough for her, and she was too good for me... Hey, you shouldn't think like that! If you're that worried then you should do something about it! If you don't then you'll stay a, as you would say "boring guy" for the rest of your life >.<


But in the end, i may be unbelievably wrong, and really might have thought about it too much, and she may really be in love with me... and I will love her more than ever...
sTrYdR (17)/ GF (15)... I hope she is Stry, I have confidence that she probably does. GOOD LUCK!

[Lenne]

mmm, strydr, she might just be tired or not in the mood for things like emmasu said. dont think too much on it, and try not to overwhelm her with too much, sometimes that might be too much for a girl to handle at one time^^ hope things go well.:)

[strydr]

Well, i saw her today. she came late from school, she really enjoyed her maths paper whereas i hated mine.
I just wanna know if this is weird:
I ask her for a hug, she says "NO" bluntly, and then she walks me to the stairs i go down, and i attempt to kiss her hand, then she pulls it away... I dunno if she didnt wanna touch me, didnt want to come close to me for some reason...didnt wanna be near me... or she is pushing me away literally and figuratively... or i may just be so wrong, and this may be a tactic to actually let me wait for some awesome holidays with her, or absolutely no holidays with her... either way this is holidays.
Like you guys say, i may just be paranoid, but i may not be, you will hear soon enough, i dont think she will hang onto nothing for a long time.

Oh yes, thanx to Sunfire(havent heard from you in a while here at the Relationship thread), and Shizori ... i hope you guys are right... and yes, i do hope she likes me for who i am...

[emmasu]

Well, i saw her today. she came late from school, she really enjoyed her maths paper whereas i hated mine.
I just wanna know if this is weird:
I ask her for a hug, she says "NO" bluntly, and then she walks me to the stairs i go down, and i attempt to kiss her hand, then she pulls it away... I dunno if she didnt wanna touch me, didnt want to come close to me for some reason...didnt wanna be near me... or she is pushing me away literally and figuratively... or i may just be so wrong, and this may be a tactic to actually let me wait for some awesome holidays with her, or absolutely no holidays with her... either way this is holidays.
Like you guys say, i may just be paranoid, but i may not be, you will hear soon enough, i dont think she will hang onto nothing for a long time.

Oh yes, thanx to Sunfire(havent heard from you in a while here at the Relationship thread), and Shizori ... i hope you guys are right... and yes, i do hope she likes me for who i am...
strydr, you are right your gf is mad at you, really mad at you, cuz believe a girl would never do that unless she is really mad, so its better run for her and be honest with her and ask her whats going on and you are not feeling good about this, you have to be honest with her, we can not help you here, you have to help your self and talk to her

[Sunfire249]

Well, i saw her today. she came late from school, she really enjoyed her maths paper whereas i hated mine.
I just wanna know if this is weird:
I ask her for a hug, she says "NO" bluntly, and then she walks me to the stairs i go down, and i attempt to kiss her hand, then she pulls it away... I dunno if she didnt wanna touch me, didnt want to come close to me for some reason...didnt wanna be near me... or she is pushing me away literally and figuratively... or i may just be so wrong, and this may be a tactic to actually let me wait for some awesome holidays with her, or absolutely no holidays with her... either way this is holidays.
Like you guys say, i may just be paranoid, but i may not be, you will hear soon enough, i dont think she will hang onto nothing for a long time. Hmm, she may just think that you're being pushy towards her, though quite honestly I don't see anything wrong with what you were doing because you DID ask her for a hug....

Oh yes, thanx to Sunfire(havent heard from you in a while here at the Relationship thread), and Shizori ... i hope you guys are right... and yes, i do hope she likes me for who i am... Lol, yeah, I haven't been posting on the forum but I've been lurking around from time to time... there just haven't been that many threads that I've been particularly interested in right now... So, I hope the situation with you and your girlfriend gets better, if you need more help I'll come back again tomorrow.