Relationship Thread [Archive] - Page 11

strydr

07-05-2006, 07:39 AM

Momo:
i know what hinamori-chan is talking about, what if you just take his jokes and throw it one side, but then again its hard if he constantly does it. Well my advice is sit him down and tell him firstly that it hurts your feelings and tell him how you feel about him, honestly, you arent gonna get anywhere if u sit around and just stare at his picture all day wondering what he is doing... just ask, its simple...
I know from my ex, that the person who doesnt say "hey" or "sorry" is kinda someone you gotta tell how you feel before they can act. With my ex it was different, because i was always making the calls, the sms's, the preparations... everything. at the beginning of the relationship she just totally ignored me, so i decided to ignore her until she called... you know what happened, she didnt call. It feels wrong to think that you are not thought about by that specific special person... it hurts like hell to be neglected.
but hey, i say you must confront him rather... dont lose your best friend it hurts so much, and feels as if you cant live, i know from experience, trust me, its just not right.

Momo

07-05-2006, 08:00 AM

thanx, I think I get it :) ty too HC

ashiin

07-06-2006, 05:11 AM

Just take jokes a lil more looser. Like just shake it off if you don't like it that much :D

Arkturus

07-07-2006, 12:20 PM

hi people. here's a unique problem. how do u get a girl to stay the hell away?

ok, there is this ex of mine. we dated for a week. i broke up with her cos she was something of a slut. but i was always nice to her. and now, it's all "Stalker Girl!"

how can i tell her to get lost without making her sad?

Buuhan1

07-07-2006, 12:32 PM

Something of a slut? What do you mean exactly? She slept around? She flirted? Made out with random guys? If its anything like that theres really no reason for her to be stalking you cause appearently she can go grab another guy.

I recommend just talking to her and getting the situation through to her, if that don't work just ultimately ignore her. Tho its kinda heartless to say this next one, if she still doesn't leave you be tell her how she was being this "slut".

True that is very cold and it would "make her sad" but sometimes the best way to get someone off your back is to hurt them...

Not physically hurt of course.

Arkturus

07-07-2006, 01:02 PM

By something of a slut, what I mean is that in all of her previous relationships, she's slept with the guys, just to prevent them from leaving. She's sort of pathetic that way. I'm probably the only guy who dated her and didn't sleep with her.
Also, it's not in my nature just to go around giving people the cold shoulder. I'm not a Sasuke-type, I'm more Ukitake-type.

Hotaru

07-07-2006, 01:10 PM

Well, shaking girls off are not easy, esp. if she goes that far to stop guys leaving her.. but, get together with another girl and theres nthng she can do to you... or get a a good friend whos a girl and pretend to go out with her, hopefully she ll take the hint that you dont want her anymore...

Kenken

07-07-2006, 01:19 PM

i think the best way is to talk to her, or just start going out with someone else.

Arkturus

07-07-2006, 01:33 PM

I suppose you are right. But why on earth would she be pursuing me so cultishly? I didn't do much with her, just one or two makeout sessions. Not too heavy either.

I mean, I'm not that special, romantic wise. Just a lean, tall, tan guy with glasses. Ok, so she's not that pretty either, but I really think she could have any other guy she wanted. So my question is, is it normal for such a girl to just pursue one guy? Especially not a guy who looks like Kimihiro Watanuki from 'xxx-holic'! (by CLAMP)

Kenken

07-07-2006, 01:35 PM

well, maybe she really likes you, and she doesn't want you to break up with her...

Arkturus

07-07-2006, 01:53 PM

Well, the reason I broke up with her was because I didn't like her. I thought it'd be unfair for her to be in a relationship where the affection wasn't mutual.

Kenken

07-07-2006, 01:57 PM

i see, then you must make understand that, even if you hurt her.

Arkturus

07-07-2006, 02:17 PM

what do i say? (i'm just not good at the whole 'relationship ending' thing...) i wanna let her down gently, if u know what i mean...

Kenken

07-07-2006, 02:20 PM

i know what you mean, just tell her that you don't like her, it would be better if you tell what the real reason is, instead of making up one

Buuhan1

07-07-2006, 02:25 PM

I actually go against the idea of getting another girl or pretending to have another girl. If shes to the point shes stalking she might attack the girl, set her up, get her ganged up on and god knows what else.

Momo

07-07-2006, 02:25 PM

what I think is that u tell her what u think bout ur relationship right~ that... well... if I were u but the things around, I will tell her what I feel right now, like "u are kinda annoying" or something like that... if u are being nice to her still she will think that u love her :p: >.>

Arkturus

07-07-2006, 03:21 PM

if i'm rude to her then she might go all 'vengeful angel of death' on me and my current love interest (whom i'm keeping COMPLETELY secret from HER, by the way...). also, i'm a guy so if the prospect of GREAT sex is offered, it would NATURALLY be more than a bit hard to just turn-tail right? :sad:

ok, don't get me wrong, i'm trying VERY hard to go with my 'good' feelings and ignore the whole sex thing. it's mildly sucessful but when we DO meet face to face (which is surprisingly often...) it's a bit hard.

Buuhan1

07-07-2006, 03:24 PM

*pats you on your shoulder* thats why theres porn man.

Arkturus

07-07-2006, 03:45 PM

is there a way, without sounding like a prude, to say that i particularly don't like porn... watching it makes me lose respect for the women in it. i feel like their 'passion' is staged and thus, fake.

ok, don't get me wrong, i'm all for sex and think that one should have it as often as possible. but if it's not with someone u love and if it lacks meaning then what's the point right? sex should be something intimate shared between 2 people who love each other very much. so me and stalker-girl = NO F***IN' WAY!!!

chiriyuku

07-08-2006, 02:48 PM

What makes you think she'll go "vengeful angel of death" on you if you act rudely towards her?

I think you should meet up with her and tell her you just want to be friends and that her advances are making your friendship awkward.

Silhouette

07-08-2006, 03:23 PM

Heh. Stalker ex-girlfriends.. One of the many reasons why I don't do relationships. She's stalking you, right? Don't cops take care of stuff like that? Or at the very least, get a female friend to take care of her? You have to have a tomboyish friend for these things. >.>

ashiin

07-08-2006, 03:37 PM

Nah, i think the best thing is just honestly tell her or just ignore her whenever she stalks you.

I have the exact same situation, except i never gone out with that girl, she's a local school girl that met me at a basketball game, she also has the same piano teacher as i do. Everyday when i take the ferry to school she's always sitting 2 seats behind me, when i'm taking a bus to the pier to go out with my friend, i suddenly get a message asking me if i'm on the bus and i'm like ...

But i already told her i didn't like her and that i like someone else so she should stop, guess some people never listens :D

Yachiru20

07-08-2006, 05:15 PM

I agree!!! just ignore her coz she will go away once she find some1 else.....or u can set her up with some1.Hopefully her attention will go to that LUCK person.

Silhouette

07-08-2006, 06:03 PM

Pfft. Yeah, whatever.. I suppose you can do things the nice way.. Tch.

Yachiru20

07-08-2006, 06:18 PM

well of course nice way is better....not because im a female and suggest u to do that.....but wen a female get angry....a guy would wish he never born.

Silhouette

07-09-2006, 03:55 PM

Rofl. Yeah, females can get a little **cough*omfgcrazyftw!*cough** at times.

kaede822

07-09-2006, 04:05 PM

*nods head* but yeah, with all due respect to women, you should tell it to her straight but as nicely as possible...make sure you make things clear...because if not, she might misinterpret it...

Arkturus

07-10-2006, 11:56 AM

Thank you guys for your great advice.

I've taken care of it. I did the whole "I'm sorry I've found some1" thing. She had a mild tantrum and screamed that she 'deserved' me :eek13:

I asked her if we could be friends. She said 'No.' I'm a bit sad but who cares. End of story. I'm not worried. I don't think she is sad either (frustrated but not sad).

It's all good now. No more calls (which turn into interogations) about random girls I know and no more talking to her while ignoring her scary advances at me! YAY! :redbiggri

Thank you all (again) for your great (and sometimes funny/unusual) advice!

strydr

07-11-2006, 11:11 AM

Kurai-chan

07-11-2006, 11:42 AM

i think you should tell her what you really feel. thinking about her everyday and saying that you want her physically and emotionally are the signs that you STILL love her and you want her badly. it doesn't matter if she's the one who broke up your relationship. things do change and so might be her feelings towards you.. BUUUUUUUUT before you do that, be sure that you are ready to face/accept whatever her answer may be. if she wants to start all over again, then it's good! but if she rejects your feelings.. then that means that she isn't the one for you. you should really try your best to move on and besides, you're still in high school and there are plenty of time for you to find the right girl!! just wait for the right time and it'll come.. ;)

ashiin

07-11-2006, 03:37 PM

here's if you have the guts. If you do, ask her if she wants to start a relationship again. BUT i say you think of WHY she broke you up in the first place and see if it's fixable.

Thinking of your ex every single day is normal, i do that too, and to the other girls that made a significant "whoa" period in my life. Not like i go "WHOA WTFBBQ HOWS BLAH AND BLAH AND BLAH DOING?!" more like i think of each of them when something i see triggers my mind.

~black butterfly~

07-11-2006, 04:17 PM

oh yeah, you have to prepare yourself for her answer, because it might not be what you expect...anyway, just go ahead and tell her about it...and make sure you say that you're just telling her so she would know, and that you're expecting nothing in return...and well, there's no harm in expressing what you feel, right? and i know it would make you feel better if you do....

Yachiru20

07-11-2006, 10:55 PM

yes, u should tell her, there is no loss..if she doesnt want a relationship again then u can always wait till uni....there are many girl there....when u go throught uni life then u mind might change the type of girl u want....so do wat ever ur mind & heart tell u to

Reefern86

07-11-2006, 11:12 PM

I have hit a solid 2 metre thin wall... travelling at 300 km/hour... and i die in thought...

Me and my ex have been separated for about a month now... and since then i gradually become happier being alone, but almost every day thought about her... "I wonder what she is doing, I wonder if she has a new boyfriend, I wonder if I will see her with her new bf if i go out..." ...
So i decided to meet more girls, since then i might start liking someone else so that firstly i will get the feel of being with someone else, secondly so that i might find out that i really like/dislike my ex and thirdly, i will STOP THINKING ABOUT HER EACH DAY!!!
So i went out with a lotta girls... i met this girl on a Chat program, she was my cousins' girlfriends' sister... and she sounded just like the type of girl i want... but when i met her in person she hanged out with stingy and just SPOILT brats... so i kinda left her out of the "Girlfriend" picture... but they kewl people, just the type of girls i dont want... BUT BUT BUT... then i asked myself, "What do i want?" with a slum English Tone... and then i listed what i wanted and thought of which girl i know that best fits the criteria... then my EX was the first to pop into my mind... she was just what i wanted, everything from a Physical, Mental, Social aspect, she best fits that role as a girlfriend... so i kinda wanna confess.
but she was the one to break it off, so i dunno if she would wanna hear my sob story... plus i am in my final year of high school - all these results go to University... now i contemplate whether to tell her or not to tell her...

Coz i bet by saying something like that i am trigger a GET BACK TOGETHER... i dunno...

All right this one kinda strikes a cord with me as well. Personally im going through the same kinda thing, but let me tell u my thoughts on it. I wouldn't try and get back with her. While i know that may sound harsh it's probably the best thing to do. what will be the out come of your telling her? You may get back togther u may not, but if u do get back togther what then? I've been in relationships that have lasted a while and from each one i come away thinking the same thing. Y did i do it? was it because i wanted to be with her or is it because i was driven by lust and passion? We all want to find that perfect someone but u have to ask urself; what else is there?

I take it this is one of ur first REAL relationships. And if it is then i say to just let her go. Unless u have a goal in getting back togther it will be better for both of u to just stay apart.

And now for my question lol.

Alright i just got out of a college im not going back to and when i left i also left a girl that ive been..."seeing". The problem is she had a BF while we were...doing things...and so obviously she now just wants to forget about me. My problem is that one...she was more open with me then ive ever seen here since and 2 she is still a great friend. Should i still try to keep in touch with her...or should i just let our friendship and the other stuff go?

strydr

07-12-2006, 12:42 AM

thanx guys... im gonna give her the letter but i know she aint ready for commitment yet... so i dont want anything to happen actually. I dont care anymore and i love that

ashiin

07-12-2006, 01:18 AM

whoa whoa whoa, hold it.

LETTER? Dude come on you can do better than that. Person to Person is a much better thing to do in this situation.

hitsugaya131

07-12-2006, 01:44 AM

I just have something to say as well…
Don’t use a chatting room to hook up cuz its dangerous and that’s what happens….your date is not the girl you expected it to be..
And from experience, meet her in person and say sorry cuz a girl likes it when a guy admits he’s wrong sometimes even though you may not…
Just suggestions…
Defintaly do not send a letter cuz it shows less affection than actually goin out to meet her in person

Allicat

07-12-2006, 03:59 AM

And now for my question lol.
Alright i just got out of a college im not going back to and when i left i also left a girl that ive been..."seeing". The problem is she had a BF while we were...doing things...and so obviously she now just wants to forget about me. My problem is that one...she was more open with me then ive ever seen here since and 2 she is still a great friend. Should i still try to keep in touch with her...or should i just let our friendship and the other stuff go?

hello! Alright well this one i guess is kinda tricky i say that if you have no feelings for her except just to be friends then i say stay her friend especially if shes a good friend you don't want to ruin a friendship that you think is worth something. but if you like her then i say cut off all ties to her because it'll only get worse. i wish you well in your decision making, but no more being someones mistress okies ^.^ *pats head* it'll be fine

Reefern86

07-12-2006, 04:06 AM

Allicat

07-12-2006, 04:17 AM

the only thing is that since she is such a good friend i dont want to c her depressed...(the entire reason we started what was started) and when she was with me she was happy. True i do care for her besides just friends, which is y i said it was a good idea to cut it off in the first place...but i rly dont want that to be the end ya know??

true true but if you keep talking to her and it keeps hurting you to know that you don't have her wouldn't that be hurting you as well? you must think first about what is best for you, and if you really care then you need help her with what it depressing her i mean at least help he to get rid of that because shes never going to feel better unless that part of her life is gone. i mean i have gone through something similar and yeah its really hard but you have to think about what is good for you first and THEN her.

Reefern86

07-12-2006, 04:28 AM

Personally i dont give a shit about myself. I think i have come to the realivation that there is no such thing as "love" and that the concept isn't what ppl think it is. SO I'd rather make sure that her peace of mind is okay...over anything I that i feel either way.

(that may sound harsh but if u've been anywhere NEAR the shit ive been through u would agree with me lol)

Ishida90

07-12-2006, 04:31 AM

Reefern86

07-12-2006, 04:38 AM

there is this girl that used to have like a 2 year crush on me when i was dating somebody else. but right when my ex and i broke up she got a b/f and is leading me on right now-she keeps saying how we would be perfect to gether but she has a b/f--do you guys think she is serious with me or is toying with me and wants to stay with him?? idk im kinda lost and idk what to do about it- ive told her that im interested in her but she just hastn dumped him and came to me so that leads me to think that she is messing with me..idk--help plz

No offense but this ones easy lol. Basically...she's messing with u. She wants u to notice her...blah blah blah. (srry girls im a guy and i hate this kind of shit). Anyway, if UR interested just ask her, the next time she says u would be perfect togther, if she doesn't think she is perfect with her BF. If u get the questioning look in her eyes that means NO she isnt and that open the door for u. (from what u say im thinking she got the BF just so she wouldnt be left out of the loop...and to help u notice her.)

Allicat

07-12-2006, 04:45 AM

yeah those meeny girls haha i don't do that but i know LOTS of girls who do and yeah girls want what they can't have (since you had a gf) and once they know they can have it they lose interest because now its too easy theres no chase.
@ reefern nah you don't seem harsh i'm only here to help so i just offer my opinion and what you do with it is for you to decide so ya ^.^ its all good

Reefern86

07-12-2006, 04:52 AM

@allicat: Oh i only said that i ws being harsh because i basically shot down the idea of love in a "relashionship" thread lol. Sadly its true though...i dont believe love is what everyone says it is. I think it basically just lust, and a need for company, that they wrap under the shiny label of "love". Its all BS if u ask me. Call it what it is lol.

@Ishida: GL Bro, and dont worry about it to much...probably what the chick wants u to do anyway lol ;)

Ishida90

07-12-2006, 04:53 AM

yah......i hate those kinda chicks--and ive talked about it w/ her about us going out that is...idk i think im sayin f*** it im just going to forget about her

Reefern86

07-12-2006, 05:03 AM

That's what i like to hear. Good Job man.

Just get someone else. There r plenty to go around...lol ;)

ashiin

07-13-2006, 01:29 AM

Actually Ishida, i think she's trying to say otherwise, don't just go OH **** THIS. Just ask her what she really wants, what she is thinking and TRY as much as you can to connect to her and feel what she's feeling. Communication is the key and if your just gonna go assuming she's fooling around than i have nothing more to say to you.

Isis

07-14-2006, 01:46 AM

Its both viable options cept we wont know what the girl is really like seeing how we havent met her. What alli,reefern and ashiin said are all true but it is up to you Ishida if you're willing to chase after this girl if you like her or give up easy because it isnt going the way you want it to go. There is nothing wrong with doing what ashiin said before you forget her because who knows she might have feelings for you. With this sort of situation, she could just be toying with you, she could have gotten a bf to make you jealous, or gotten one because she couldnt wait for you to break up with your then gf.

There r plenty to go around...lol

@Reefern: That makes us sound like beer my god :rolleye09

Ishida90

07-14-2006, 04:32 AM

thanks to all of you-- im trying to figure out what im going to do right now.....

and in return to ashiin i have talked to her about that stuff and she talkes like she likes me but doesnt quite know herself.. so im not really sure what im going to do right now......

Hotaru

07-15-2006, 05:17 AM

Ishida90

07-15-2006, 05:21 AM

haha great piece of advice!

Isis

07-15-2006, 02:24 PM

wahaha... smethng unexpected happened...

apparently the girl i was hanging out with has a bf... and she didnt tell me!!! haha, well, she said she had broken up with her previous bf, so i thought, ok, lets be friends and see what happens.. now that i ve spent time with her am really starting to like her... well, all i can say is.. make sure you ask them 1st... so you dont waste your time and get beaten up by the girl's bf... XDD!!!

Woah dude! *hugs* Hope you're alright..what's happening now with the situation? Something unexpected happened to me today as well. One of my best mates, who I had a crush on 2 years back told me today that he would have said yes if I asked him out...which was omg suprisingly. I was like "damn" but it was complicated then. It was like a love triangle..i liked him, his best friend liked me and he liked me but he didnt do anything because of him. I was cursing a bit cause his best friend lost a lot of friends the way he treated others and especially me, who was supposed to be his 'pet sibling'. And thinking back it was the same deal when one of my friends liked my friend the same time as me and I held back. *sigh* Oh well, what's done is done and all in the past,my friend's in another country now..and I like someone else whose good to me.

Ishida90

07-15-2006, 04:26 PM

yah dont worry iladys i 2 have liked somebody for a long time just to learn they liked me when i liked them but decided not to voice it...... it sucks

Isis

07-15-2006, 04:51 PM

Indeed but I dont mind the outcome of it. In the end I lost someone close who was just using me and found someone closer to my heart :p:

Ishida90

07-15-2006, 04:59 PM

you cant argue with that iladys

Hotaru

07-15-2006, 06:21 PM

hahaha... also at the prom, my date got together with this other guy...

so basically, i had two girls snatched out of my hands in two weeks... ><"...

Reefern86

07-15-2006, 06:34 PM

Ishida90

07-15-2006, 09:24 PM

yah i would totally agree with you reefern

ProdigyHitsugaya

07-15-2006, 09:38 PM

What if they don't feel comfortable if they realize you're going after them?

ashiin

07-16-2006, 12:56 AM

well then that's not your fault, it's their choice and you can't help it. Just move on

chiriyuku

07-16-2006, 04:04 AM

I think that's defintely much easier said than done

emmasu

07-16-2006, 07:49 AM

Alright heres the thing...this applies to both guys and girls...if u like someone...go after them. Fight for them if u have them. And if shit happens...at least u know it wasnt ur fault for not trying.
Seriosly what is the worse that can happen? ur turned down? So what!
just go for it and c what happens...U'll be surprised.
i would agree with you, if you love someone you have to let them know cuz if you do not tell them, you are torturing yourself, beside, if you let them know they would think about you and then they will love you, this is for someone that they do not know that you love

Kurai-chan

07-16-2006, 08:18 AM

i would agree with you, if you love someone you have to let them know cuz if you do not tell them, you are torturing yourself, beside, if you let them know they would think about you and then they will love you, this is for someone that they do not know that you love

i partially aggree with you because i have experienced someone telling me that he has a thing for me. before, he didn't even cross my mind once but after that, i was constantly thinking about him! but that's all.. only thinking about him but not falling in love with him.. ;)

ashiin

07-16-2006, 03:55 PM

I think that's defintely much easier said than done

doesn't matter, because you will realise it sooner or later, it depends on the person of how fast they get over people.

emmasu

07-18-2006, 08:18 AM

well i do not have aproblem in a relationship * this is the first time i ask for help here* anyway the problem is that this guy, he is my neighboor, he sometime help me to get my need of stuff from the market and thats it. But the problem is that everytime he comes to get me something, he start flirting, and i made myself clear that am not interested, but he keeps doing it, i do not know what to do?
i mean should i tell him to stop, at that point he will be angry at me and would not help me * i rally need his help*, am ignoring this all this time, but i can not take it anymore,
beisde, i do not want to make it such abig deal

Isis

07-18-2006, 09:06 AM

Is this neighbour a friend of yours or just your neighbour? If he's a friend, he should respect you for your decision. Perhaps you have to sit him down and talk to him about it. You might have a fear that he'd think you were just using him for what you want but if you value his friendship as much as he values yours then there shouldnt be a problem. However, dont scream it right to his face, I think it takes small gestures but obviously not too small or else he wont get the picture.

emmasu

07-18-2006, 12:40 PM

Isis

07-18-2006, 01:17 PM

That's hard then Em. Is the market far from where you live? Either you have to have the will to stand it for a long time or find another way to get the stuff..plus and minus to both choices.

emmasu

07-18-2006, 01:20 PM

That's hard then Em. Is the market far from where you live? Either you have to have the will to stand it for a long time or find another way to get the stuff..plus and minus to both choices.
thanx iladys, it means alot to me what you have said,
but still i do not know what to do?

Isis

07-18-2006, 01:31 PM

Are there any friendly people around your neighbourhood who wouldnt mind helping you out (and possibly getting the wrong idea :p:)?

emmasu

07-18-2006, 01:35 PM

Are there any friendly people around your neighbourhood who wouldnt mind helping you out (and possibly getting the wrong idea :p:)?
am not sure, cuz he was the first one to meet in my neighbourhood and i do not know alot of people:eek13:
do not worry iladys, i will find something

ashiin

07-18-2006, 04:11 PM

i say suck it in and just let him take your stuff, ignore his flirting and i think it'll go perfectly fine :D

emmasu

07-19-2006, 05:46 AM

well, to do this, i need another guy:redbiggri

chiriyuku

07-20-2006, 02:39 PM

i would agree with you, if you love someone you have to let them know cuz if you do not tell them, you are torturing yourself, beside, if you let them know they would think about you and then they will love you, this is for someone that they do not know that you love

I don't think you HAVE to let them know. Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing.

And I agree with ashiin.. if you guys barely talk then dealing with a few minutes of flirting won't hurt.

ashiin

07-20-2006, 04:15 PM

yea sometimes it's better not to let the other person know, as it might hurt your friendship with that person or for other special reasons.

Wintersun

07-20-2006, 04:53 PM

Heh, sometimes it would be good to let the other know. I had thing for a girl a few years back, and i didnt say anything, hence torturing myself as mentioned before. Went some months and it faded due to school change. Later on she told me that she was in love with my at the same time i was in love with her. LoL talk about bummer.

emmasu

07-21-2006, 06:29 PM

well, i think you should let that person knows about your feelings cuz first you will torture yourself and second that person may go away or die*god forbidden* but you do not know, life is short, so you have let that person know

Akiha

07-21-2006, 06:46 PM

if a person is taking advice, then the person wont be being themselves, so whats the point of this thread..?

emmasu

07-21-2006, 07:54 PM

if a person is taking advice, then the person wont be being themselves, so whats the point of this thread..?
whats your point?

Akiha

07-21-2006, 08:00 PM

well...i guess there was no point..o_O

emmasu

07-21-2006, 08:05 PM

wtf:eek13:

Akiha

07-21-2006, 08:07 PM

sorry, im a very weird person

hellrockz

07-22-2006, 04:57 AM

sry but im 11 so i dun tink im in luv lol

Akiha

07-22-2006, 05:03 AM

love can be made at any age, and also destroy at any age...im 16, ive experianced this

ashiin

07-22-2006, 08:31 AM

well...i guess there was no point..o_O

then why the hell did you post in the first place=.=

Akiha

07-22-2006, 08:32 AM

im so tired right now i forgot...><

emmasu

07-22-2006, 10:34 AM

hey, am back again, you can tell me now what was your point?

Ronin36

07-26-2006, 11:32 PM

ashiin

07-27-2006, 05:56 AM

ok there's a few ways you can do this ronin.

-email
-msn/aim etc.
-mail
-phone
-face to face******My recommendation

just tell her how you feel, from the bottom of your heart, doesn't matter if you screw up or not, as long as you get the point to her that you like her, then it's all okay.

Isis

07-27-2006, 02:35 PM

Well, there's nothing more to it. Doing face to face would seem better. She would like it better if you told her to her face :)

Kenken

07-27-2006, 02:37 PM

mmm, the best way is to do it face to face, actually, i would tell you to do it only face to face, it has more meaning than by telling her by phone or email

ashiin

07-27-2006, 03:33 PM

then again, if your unable to meet up with her or are forced or just can't be patient about her, the other ways work but is kinda frowned upon.

Oblivavation

07-27-2006, 11:38 PM

Face-to-Face is the best way to go... but maybe drop a couple hints of your own before you confront her...

Ceres Legend

07-27-2006, 11:59 PM

i havea huge problem...but i will not post it in an unsafe zone where anyone can read it! >.<

Akiha

07-28-2006, 12:24 AM

never had any good relationships...>.>

not really good w/ girls...

Isis

07-28-2006, 05:13 PM

Mate, at least you've been in them (omegod, I sound australian *gasps*). Hey Ceres, if you dont want to share here, you could always pm one of us and we'll be happy to help out in anyway. ooh,pick me pick me! Haha, nah, if you want to its fine or if you dont wanna cause you dont know me then we can get to know each other :)

Icestorm

07-28-2006, 05:20 PM

Yeah ill defiently be glad to help you out. Ive helped out many different people with problems or decisions that they need a second opinion on to do with relationships, and the best thing is that no-one but me would know. I dont judge you on your situation, ill just give an honest opinion on what i think u should do.

Ceres Legend

07-28-2006, 05:34 PM

thatnk you iladys and icestorm! I don't know if I shall say it though...lol! its rather silly because I am so baka! * bonks own head * lol! Well You are so nice to ask! I am a bit shy to tell anyone...but I will soon! thanks so much!

I am also ready to help anyone out with their problems. I hate them alot, they are effing annoying and I know what it feels like to have one, its like an itch you can't scratch... Its an abhorrent, lamentable thing not to have someone to talk to about them... so everyone I will be glad to help okies? ^__________________^

crushed_petals

07-29-2006, 07:43 AM

neva had any strong relationships
too weird around guys T_T
and i think im a bit too young XD

emmasu

07-29-2006, 08:06 AM

This is kind of embarrassing, but a girl i barely know has been dropping hints that she likes me and putting me in position to get close to her all of last year of school. Unfortunately, I'm not good at recognizing it and it took someone showing me these things for me to realize it. This girl is kinda cute and i want to go out with her, but how do i tell her that i like her when i feel like such an idiot? How do i let her know that i appreciate what she's doing? Someone please help me before i screw this up even more.
well, everybody said that you should tell her face to face, ok, you can that and what help you the most is that you know that she likes you and she told you that, but sometimes girls are not that easy you know, you may go to her and tell her that but still she may say no cuz when she told you that she likes you, you took time to recognize it and ask her out, so before that, maybe you should some one that is close to her and what she thinks about you,
one more thing if she rejected you, do not give up on her cuz she is testing you, GOOD LUCK:winking56

Yachiru20

08-05-2006, 02:47 PM

Face to face always the best, i suggest you should do it soon. Because u said she been dropping hints of fancying you for a year, if someone come along and get her attendion now. then u will miss out of a good relationship. Dont be scare, coz if u dont tell her know how you feel about her then there are other guys will.. also if u dont try, u will never know wat is the outcome......Good Luck

emmasu

08-06-2006, 08:05 AM

i want to revive this thread,
anyway, still the same problem, this guy who is flirting me, well i did not do anything cuz i really need his help, believe me i can not get it from someone else, ok,
so yesterday i asked him to get me something on the phone and he got it for me and i was in shocked that he did not say a word, but when i opened that stuff that he got me, i found box of chocolate and i did not ask him to get it,
i was really mad and i did not know what to do, i don't want him to think that i like him cuz i did not tell him about the chocolate, confused, do not know what to do?

Anil

08-09-2006, 07:30 AM

emmasu

08-09-2006, 08:22 AM

.....

Oh boy...

Well Emmasu, I'm a guy but I'm not really too normal, so take everything I'm about to suggest with a grain of salt ok?

Tell him to knock it off. Sit him down and tell him you aren't interested. Politely. If he's a good person( pray to God that he is), he'll understand and eventually cut it out. Don't expect him to stop right away. Trust me, he most likely won't be able to help himself from being nice to a girl he's interested in. Eventually he'll stop.

Or he won't. It won't matter to him what you do. <_< I know that's kind of scary but there it is. As long as he doesn't get aggressive, think of it as having a fan or something.

But if it is really bothering you and you don't want to severely hurt his feelings, the sooner you tell him, the better.

However this is just my personal opinion. You may want to get a second.
wow, thanx and it was great to get an opinion from aguy, i think you are right,
the problem is that am too honest and if i told him he would be very angry, i know that, the second problem is the help that he gives me cuz really i can not get it from someone else, OMG,
but i think you are right, the sooner i tell him the better, i will prepare myslef for it, thanx alot

MasterWordSmith

08-09-2006, 11:57 AM

He's pretty much right, if he's at all a nice guy he will get the hint!

Seanie

08-11-2006, 03:14 AM

So.. Do we just post relationship issues here or what??

Coz i've got something juicy ;)

Akiha

08-11-2006, 03:19 AM

yes, basically...

strydr

08-13-2006, 05:34 PM

Well... i havent been here for a while... and it looks dead, btw. I am writing my mock finals the next 3 weeks and so i wont be back for a while... long time no see to emmasu and ya, follow wot they said. Sit the guy down and make sure he understands wot you want and wot you dont want to happen.

but for me, i have been separated from my ex for about 2 months now and i still love her, but when i told her that, she said that she didnt want a relationship now.
But then i asked myself, What is a girlfriend, wot is true love and if i were to start Liking LUST rather than True LOVE, would i be able to LOVE again...

I am a usually quite serious guy when it comes to relationships, then i asked myself, what is serious. I dont like my girl to be with other guys and to be flirty and whore-ish... i want her to be mine and mine only... is that serious?

Last question, if i were to enter a LUSTful relationship with her, do u guys think that 1 day in the future when i ask her to be my girlfriend, do u think she would take it seriously... wud u? if ur previous relationship with someone was based on lust, would you be able to go back and LOVE that person maybe even get TRUE LOVE sparks... tell me, i'll be back in about 3 weeks... PM me if u wanna, actually that would be very nice... thanx... sTrYdR

hasuke

08-14-2006, 09:15 AM

Last question, if i were to enter a LUSTful relationship with her, do u guys think that 1 day in the future when i ask her to be my girlfriend, do u think she would take it seriously... wud u? if ur previous relationship with someone was based on lust, would you be able to go back and LOVE that person maybe even get TRUE LOVE sparks... tell me, i'll be back in about 3 weeks... PM me if u wanna, actually that would be very nice... thanx... sTrYdR

Love and Lust are two different things. Now I'm not the best person ont he grounds for relationships (as every girl I've ever liked has rejected me because I'm a geek/weirdo/loser) but generally it's love or lust.

Lust is mindless self satisfaction with no regards for the other person's feelings. It's primarily "**** ****, GET MY FIX. SCREW ALL THE TIE DOWNS AND SERIOUSNESS I'M JUST FUCKING FOR THE SAKE OF FUCKING!" where as with love, there's a lot more important stuff involved.

Chances are, when youg et a girl interested in a lust filled relationship, she is a slut. Sluts don't like commitment. If they did, they wouldn't be sluts that sleep around with any guy they're with for a week, would they? of course, this logic is why faggots like Jimbowhatever say I'm a puritan. But seriously now.

If this chick is getting nailed, no strings attached, and then shit like commitment and love is brought up, the ***** is gonna ditch the person bringing that up. But what do I know? I've never had a girlfriend, and I've never had sex. But I HAVE witnessed countless relationships go down the crapper due to occurances like this. Just because one hasn't experienced it doesn't mean one isn't knowledgable about it.

I would retain my self dignity and avoid going into a "relationship" like that. (it's not so much a relationship as...something...else?)

strydr

08-15-2006, 10:57 AM

ashiin

08-15-2006, 11:04 AM

just forget about her, just look forward to other girls, talk more to the other girls, just play the field if you know what i mean.

Icestorm

08-15-2006, 11:12 AM

Im glad to see strydr my friend that you were able to look inside yourself and ask what it is that you really wanted.. I hope you find someone that is able to return that love that I have seen evident in your plight with your ex.. good luck for future interests ay!

Esedess

08-15-2006, 11:14 AM

*nods* The best way to get over someone is probably just that. Focus on other people, or yourself. Persue things you've always wanted to, do stuff for yourself etc. Achieve things you've always wanted to achieve.

Seto

08-15-2006, 11:49 AM

To those who know my story... I am thinking i am finally over my ex and ready to move on...

I want to move on... any suggestions... i got a story about this other girl i will tell later... gotta study now... Please give me suggestions to move on... else i will be frozen in my emotion... forever...

The best thing to move on, is to fall in love with a other girl.

Oh well, I have a gf and she is great ^^, I really love her.

emmasu

08-15-2006, 12:30 PM

To those who know my story... I am thinking i am finally over my ex and ready to move on...

I want to move on... any suggestions... i got a story about this other girl i will tell later... gotta study now... Please give me suggestions to move on... else i will be frozen in my emotion... forever...
wow strydr, it has been along time, i hope that you are great, and i think you know what do i think about this cuz we have already discussed this, good luck in your exams

i have bf now, he is the best, the best thing ever happened to me, i love you:biggrinlo

Isis

08-16-2006, 03:03 PM

Em!!!! Thats great! *hugs* All the best of love and affection in your relationship, guys!

strydr

08-18-2006, 02:30 PM

wow strydr, it has been along time, i hope that you are great, and i think you know what do i think about this cuz we have already discussed this, good luck in your exams
i have bf now, he is the best, the best thing ever happened to me, i love you:biggrinlo

EMMASU! AAHH! Congratulations... hope you are super uber happy...
nice to hear from you btw, and YES i do know what you would say...

This new girl is not really a gf, she's marriage material DEFINITELY! but i dont think i will be able to mess around with her in the relationship, cause she is super religious... and in our religion we are not meant to kiss before marriage, and thats what i enjoy doing and dont get to do enough... with my ex it was different, she was all for it... but this girl is more ... on my moral side... she's a really great gal, just like i said, but is a bit too RIGHT for me now... i feel that we wont be able to go into a RELATIONSHIP, because of that... and i think her father doesnt want me for her... its really complicated.

But yip, im trying to move on, trying oh so very hard... i'll see you guys later, gotta study... 2 more weeks...

Reefern86

08-19-2006, 03:45 AM

Hey younz whats up?

Quick question. If a very good friend of yours was dating someone for...lets say 2-3 years and broke up with the guy a few weeks ago...when is it to soon to try and move in? lol :) I am serious though...girls help me out here

emmasu

08-19-2006, 11:59 AM

EMMASU! AAHH! Congratulations... hope you are super uber happy...
nice to hear from you btw, and YES i do know what you would say...
This new girl is not really a gf, she's marriage material DEFINITELY! but i dont think i will be able to mess around with her in the relationship, cause she is super religious... and in our religion we are not meant to kiss before marriage, and thats what i enjoy doing and dont get to do enough... with my ex it was different, she was all for it... but this girl is more ... on my moral side... she's a really great gal, just like i said, but is a bit too RIGHT for me now... i feel that we wont be able to go into a RELATIONSHIP, because of that... and i think her father doesnt want me for her... its really complicated.
But yip, im trying to move on, trying oh so very hard... i'll see you guys later, gotta study... 2 more weeks...
thanx strydr, its great to hear from you,
well, thats great if you are trying to be with another girl and thats mean that you are moving on, but i do not know if you should be with someone that you can not do things that you want to do, beside her father does not want you to be with her, well i do not know, i think you still do not love her so its easy to forget about her, so just try to find someone else, and beside have fun being single

Yachiru20

08-19-2006, 03:48 PM

Reefern86 - well depand how upset that girl with the break up...if she is the breaker then i guess u can tell her how u feel but if it was the guy that broke up with her then u should wait....

u should lend her ur shoulder to cry on/take her out so she can 4get the break up...than hopefully she can see and feel u are a kind & fun young man and then fall for u.....good luck

Reefern86

08-20-2006, 02:41 AM

lol. Thx. She was the one that broke it off, so i think Im good. She's not the type to really care if it wasn't her either. But thx. one question....young man???????

Yachiru20

09-02-2006, 02:04 PM

Question???:confused: Young man?? im a young lady :)

Anyway....Well this is not a problem but a question is for all the guys....Do u think wen guy have a gf n flirt with another girl on sms and email is class as cheat ??

ashiin

09-02-2006, 02:40 PM

if it makes you uncomfortable, it counts already, but then again you can't take control of his whole life, so maybe if you feel so you should talk to him about it.

Yachiru20

09-05-2006, 09:17 PM

But he doesnt know i know...if he found out then he might say im spyin on him and stuff...which i kind of did....so im kind of stuck in a situtation i can not win either way

ashiin

09-06-2006, 03:36 PM

you have to tell him the truth then, you have no choice unless you want to dwell in the darkness and never tell him anything.

Yachiru20

09-06-2006, 05:54 PM

thanks for the advice =)

someGOD

09-11-2006, 01:45 AM

Hey guys/gals, Im new to this side of the forum, but this thread caught my eye.

A few weeks ago me and my girlfriend broke up. Thats great, all well and good. It was bound to happen some time. So, eventually all the crap passed and we got over it, I thought. That was untill recently this week.

This week, she's been acting cold hearted, selfcentered, and has been a general b*tch to me and my friends. We used to be able to strike up conversations about nothing. Now she has this condescending B.S. attitude about her.

Now, we were pretty good friends before we started dating, and I figure, no harm no foul. Hell, she broke up with me, and I haven't been a total jerkoff about it. I have no idea why she is being such a b*tch, but I'm so tired of it!

My question is, should I suck it up, and deal with her attitude, trying to stay as good a friend as I can. Or should I just give up trying to deal with her and ignore her for a bit?

Akiha

09-11-2006, 01:49 AM

depends. if shes been a total b*tch like youve said, dont even bother. but if you truly like her, and you think theres still a chance, then try your hardest!

dont take me too seriously, as im not that good with women.. :p

someGOD

09-11-2006, 02:01 AM

I refuse to get her back. I tried that once, succeeded, and now I gotta deal with this. I have her blocked on my MSN right now, im pretty sure I need a break from her...

Akiha

09-11-2006, 02:02 AM

yeah, ignore her...if she really likes you, shell come to you.

Askand

09-11-2006, 01:40 PM

Well someGod my advice would be to talk to her and ask her why the sudden change. Tell her that you really are concern for her attitude and that you still think of her as a good friend and that you don't want to loose your friendship with her. But if you want to move ahead and not talking to her anymore then don't pay attention to her. She would eventually would do 2 things, maybe she would talk with you or just move ahead. But if you are really concern talk is the most direct way to solve the problem.
Good luck

urusai!

09-14-2006, 12:55 PM

someGOD: hm. That's puzzling - her behaviour I mean. I agree with Askand. Just talk to her. Ask her what happened and stuff like that. Blocking her will not help.

Kurai-chan

09-14-2006, 01:15 PM

@someGOD: you said that you were friends with her even before you started dating.. so.. is this the first time that she acted like that? because if it is.. then maybe something is just bothering her. try talk to her and ask her what her problem is. maybe she'd tell you.. but if it isn't the first time and she was always like that.. then i'd say you better ignore her for now. she's cold-hearted and doesn't give attention to you? then do not pay attention to her. besides, you already said that you needed a break. do it..:)

Dounick

09-14-2006, 07:26 PM

yay, im here for help again (such an exciting ya at that to -_-')

recently i have had problems with my new gf, me and her have made a deal that we shouldnt see each other after school time because of us falling behind in our work. and i agreed with that, but she wants to help me with my work, and i said yeah, that would be nice, but when i offered to help her with her work, i get this whole song and dance that she doesnt need the help, becuase if i help her, shes not going to understand it in the long run, and is just going to fall more behing in her work. And today we had our class together(thats when i got the song and dance about her not wanteing help) and i got mad at her for doing this, because everytime me and her do something, like go to the mall, go for a walk, and hang out in school, i offer to help her carry her things, like her books, her bags, to pay for the meals(things), and just to be helpful so im doing something to help her out. But... im told that she doesnt need any help with anything that i offer her with, and she wants to buy me things as well (such as clothes) and she doesnt want me to buy her anything..... the only problem i have with that, is, it doesnt feel right to have things being boughten for you, and the other person not want you to buy things for them.

well i may have not said everthing that is going on, but im only going to say what happened today and yesterday =/

blackrican

09-15-2006, 03:37 AM

yeah i have a big problem. me and my fiance have been together for 1yr and 5mths, and his ex girlfriend broke up with him 2 yrs ago. but he still wants to talk to her and him doing that makes him have feelings for her all over again, and he lies to me about talking to her. like i would ask him, r u talking to ur ex, and he'll tell me no but then i find out that he was. when we first started going out i was understanding but weve been together for awhile now and i keep telling him get over it. and now he has her new sn on his aim buddy list. and i asked him who did he add to his buddy list cuz someone went on his buddy list and deleded someone, but he didn't tell me who it was. but i knew who it was, cuz if its something about her he acts different and gets all mad and won't tell me. its like he doesn' t care that it hurts me. so what do i do? idk what to do ne more. should i call him on it? but right now he is in a bad mood he had a bad day but should wait til when he calms down and ask or ask now while he's pissed?

Akiha

09-15-2006, 03:45 AM

FBI WARNING: I am not a counseler, im only a 16 year old boy. My suggestions may not work.

@nick: shes trying to be independent. shes proving to you that she can be very capapble of herself. very few girls i know are like that, but i have met a few. go along with it. if she wants your help, she will ask for it. if something does look rough for her, offer to help.

@black:But I would suggest just to asky why he is hiding these secrets when you already know. If your fiance thinks you dont know, he'll keep acting the same. Tell him you know about whats going on, and ask him why. You could also be forward and just bluntly ask if hes got feelings for his ex again. If he gives yoou a good reason, then just let it pass, ive been the same way around people. But if you find out that he is doing something, or worse, cheating, then discuss the problem. If it gets worse, then you may have to result to seperating. But I suggest talking to him first, as that is the best way to keep it together and calm.

blackrican

09-15-2006, 04:22 AM

well it was just comfirmed that he does have her on his aim buddy list. :( and i asked him to stop talking to her and he said no. he doesnt care that it hurts me that he does tlk to her.

Kurai-chan

09-15-2006, 09:28 PM

@black: the more you tell him to stop talking to her, the more he'll do it. my best friend's bf is like that and i'll tell you.. he left her in the end. you can't control his life but i understand what you are doing because he is your fiance. hmm.. i suggest you confront him when he is calm and collected and ask him to tell you what's going on. if he refuse to tell you the truth, then that only means one thing.. there's really something going on between them. and when that happens, i think the best thing that you can do is just let him go. your relationship won't work if there is no trust. if he still loves that girl, you can't do much about it because it's really hard to change the person in a man's heart.. :(

blackrican

09-15-2006, 09:36 PM

i did confront him and i asked him and he told me, and he said that he asked her if she still like him and stuff and she said no. and he told me he doesn't have feelings for her either. but ive been in this position b4 and the guy always ended up back with the ex, but i said to him she is ur past we don't need ur past in our relationship, and he for once agreed with me. and it bothered him that i was upset about it. and he's been making me laugh all day, but he still has her on his buddy list.

Kurai-chan

09-15-2006, 09:52 PM

ooh. so everything is fine except the buddy list? hm.. he already told you that he doesn't have any feelings for her and she doesn't have any feelings for him.. and you also said that he was bothered when you said you were upset.. well.. i guess there's so need for you to worry. :D because that only shows that he do care about you.. :p besides, a buddy list is just a buddy list. and he could add whoever he wants to add. just because he added his ex doesn't mean that there's already something going on between them. you also need to trust your man black.. :D [hehe. sorry.. i'm not really good in expressing my thoughts..]

blackrican

09-15-2006, 09:56 PM

yeah. but like when im trying to talk to him on aim, and she's on, its like i have to fight for his attention. and it sux and it makes me feel like crap. and the main reason i don't want him talking to her tho cuz if she says some stupid crap to him and he gets all pissed off about it and takes it out on me and says o i hate her im not gonna tlk to her again, and its happen to many times already during our relatinoship and im trying to prevent him from getting her by her again. but in the process im getting hurt myself. its like y bother with someone who doesn't learn. and everytime he says that i say to him that ur only saying that cuz ur mad u don't mean it, and he's all like yeah i do mean it. as much in my heart i want to believe it, but i kno its not gonna be that way.

Kurai-chan

09-15-2006, 10:03 PM

errrr.. do you mind if i ask the reason why you are fighting for his attention?

blackrican

09-15-2006, 10:08 PM

not fighting fighting. jus like when im talking to him about something.

Kurai-chan

09-15-2006, 10:15 PM

ya. i know that.. but what i'd like to know is the reason why you feel like competing with his ex to get his attention. because you see.. i think you are jealous.. or even insecure.. you are fearing that something might happen between those two whenever you see them online that's why you try to shift his attention to you..

blackrican

09-15-2006, 10:32 PM

am i paranoid about something happening yeah bc it happend to me b4. and she was his first love. n plus bc if im trying to tell him something important, then i get mad. and i don't want him to pay attention to her but im not jealous of her i seen her im not jealous. i don't want him to get hurt by her again bc she messed with his mind so much. and i just got him back to how he was. i don't want to have to do that again.

Yachiru20

09-21-2006, 09:13 AM

Black - he is hidin something from you - trust me - that happen to me fews months ago but dont over react!!! just talk - he might want to tell u and he might not - then you might have to make your mind up about this situtation but bare in mind they might be just talkin n they both move on

my bf was/is still chattin to girl online, he was mad @me everytime i looked @his PC and i secretly found out what happen. then i check his email(i know i shouldnt) but i found loads of emails that made me so mad - nothing sexual but girls know about our relationship and encourage him to made his mind up. Anyway i cant cay i check your email and found them to my bf.....so i made my mind up i cant let it make me mad...so i just act nothing happen. So soon after he stop talkin to her and told me he been talking to girl online. Just make ur mind wat you wana to do...do u love this person that much to allow him to talk to girl!! however if it turn into more than just talk then it will be different situtation.

Yachiru20

09-21-2006, 09:17 AM

back to me - (follow the the box about) now its my bf bday this sat and we are plannin to go clubbin N i just found out the girl is comming.....that made me so mad that how dare he invite her to come.....wat should i do if she actually come??? n Guys - tell me wat the f**k is my bf is thinking?? and should i be worry???

blackrican

09-21-2006, 05:01 PM

what kind of guy wants you to cry for them and when u don't cry for them they get all pissy? thats my guy, we wanted me to cry for him and he's all like o if u don't then i'll go talk to another girl down the hall from me, and stuff. and then bc of what he said i finally cry and said r u happy now im crying then he goes i don't care...... whatever just like that. so wtf? and he also was like we rn't gonna tlk, and crap. so now im just so pissed off at him! and now bc i was mad at him, he is acting like a jackass to me. he just called and i didn't answer and i called him back and he's all like i called and u didn't answer... o well bye bye. have fun bein alone. so now he's ignoring me and mad at me for no reason. i should be the one mad not him!

@ Yachiru- thats very shady. also did u say to him that u didn't want her to come and that it made u mad? bc if he doesn't kno that then he thinks its ok..... but if he does know that made u mad then u really need to talk to him again and really find out y he invited her. as far as being worried, if u kno he wouldn't cheat on u then don't be but if u have a feeling that he is..... then just talk to him and ask him what is the low-down with him and the girl.

Project #22329

09-21-2006, 07:25 PM

blackrican

09-21-2006, 09:53 PM

aww what a cute pic........ but whats with the i guess? :confused:

Project #22329

09-22-2006, 08:17 AM

thanks :]
well her mother doesn't want her to be here long... so thats a hasstle...moving to Russia is going to take to long to arrange and all that stuff....ugh!

blackrican

09-22-2006, 08:44 AM

o i see. at least she stayed longer with you tho.

Project #22329

09-24-2006, 08:23 PM

yeah, thats true
i'm not complaining, i would go anywhere with her...

emmasu

09-24-2006, 09:25 PM

i've been in a relationship 2 months.
Basically my girlfriend came to US from Russia to earn some money while on summer break from university. The company is called "Work and Travel" that offered her this opportunity. She was supposed to leave August 25th but she stayed with me. Everything is going fine I guess.
http://img127.imageshack.us/img127/4383/kispisdw4.png
Her and I
omg, thats is so cute, you are so lucky
wow, am so jealous, but an advice, try to be really understanding with her, cuz she is going to leave and do not try to stop her everytime she wants to leave cuz she has life too you know, and she has to go on
btw, i love your sig

Achilles

09-28-2006, 07:54 PM

I got a girlfriend. we started dating 4 days ago. but today she said that she's mind is confused and want to think about our relationship for 1-2 days.She isn't sharing her problem with me. what is that mean? (guys, isn't it weird?) (ladies give me some advice pls is it normal?) :(

Icchy <3

09-28-2006, 08:39 PM

Nrvnqsr Chaos

09-28-2006, 10:28 PM

awwwwwwwww, thats sooooooooo cute! this my ppl is love!

Future

09-29-2006, 09:05 AM

I don't have a girlfriend =(

Achilles

09-29-2006, 04:29 PM

Well, this is my first time at doing anything like this.

What happend on your dates? Maybe something happend?
In my expeince with girls, they seem to meet someone else after the first couple of days. Maybe thats it?

Best advice I can give is to give her sometime and wait it out. Sometimes girls need to think about a realtionship before it gets serious.
lol, thanx for your advice but today I saw him with a guy in school talking. Later I learned she likes him and they want to date. first I wanted to beat him after school but after that I said *f**k it, life goes on there are plenty of girls in world. no need to struggle with that. but I'm a little bit sad. :(:(

Kazuma Shawn

09-29-2006, 06:51 PM

How do actually define LOVING SOMEONE? m confused of my love torn between two ladies..

Yachiru20

10-01-2006, 03:05 PM

Lovin....Mmmm.....To be honest there is no defitition for love, different people see and understand what is love.....u need to ask yourself what u see in lovin

lovin can be showing unconditional love to a person or people, which u can love some1 with no judgement, no question and not to expext anything back if you do something for them. you might even love a person but he/she doesnt love u back the way u want but u can still wish them happy and found the one the love.....

If you torn between 2 ladies then u need to ask urself who u want to be with NOW, not past or future....Who make u most happiest, who u most wana protect and final who u most wanted to be with.....I think Now is the most important...u just go with your heart who u wana most

Dont question urself wat if....coz if u think too much u will create more questions/problems for uself and u will waste too much time....if u dont then some1 else will come along n u will miss ur chance. if u dont try, u never will know....Each relationship is a lesson itself, u will learn about urself, ur other half, love and relationship,so u can never say i dont learn anything in this relationship...Just go with ur heart...if u dont u might regret later....

GOOD LUCK:biggthump

Achilles

10-01-2006, 06:45 PM

wow yachiru20, your words are like medicine ^^ thanks for advice. ^^

Icestorm

10-02-2006, 07:00 AM

blackrican

10-03-2006, 12:43 AM

well today i just heard the worst from my fiance. he was blaming me for everything and just annoyed at the little things i did, like ask him questions. i do understand where he is coming from about that, but i do it sometimes without knowing that i continously do it because it is a habbit. but today he was saying that i don't listen to him, bc this isn't the first time that he's said this to me. and i told him i do listen. i wasn't denying that i don't ask to many questions and i am working on that but he called me an idiot and dumb, and just blaming everything on me, whereas he does the exact same thing as me, but yet if i get annoyed by it or pissed off, he gets mad at me and turns it around on me. i would like to know am i really doin ne thing wrong besides the question thing, and is it really my fault?

and what sux the most is im goin to see him in 3 days, and he treats ppl he just met better than he does treat me. and he acts like he doesn't care that it hurts me.

Askand

10-03-2006, 04:40 AM

Well I will like to step and see if I can help Blackrican. At some point in a relationship there are certain things that annoys us and that maybe they need to change. If you are trying your best to do it, edxplain it to him. If he do things that annoys you pointed out and explain him your feelings about it. This is not meaning a contest to pointed out the things you want to change from him or vice versa, but I want to make the point that you need to sit and talk with him.
Second don't let him called you names. It's unrespectful and not very nice of him. You are entitled to commit mistake more than once so is he. Just because is your bf it doesn't give him the right to degrade you by insulting you.
Third if he treat other people better than you then is time for you to sit alone and consider where is the relationship standing now. Behaving like that is not acceptable even if he says it was a joke. You are a great person and letting someone who claims to be in love with you treat you in a very sad way is not good. Respect yourself and aske him to sit and talk about it. If he turns this around you and give all the weight of the fault on you... then something is not going quite right.
I hope I could help a bit. Take care and good luck.

Yachiru20

10-04-2006, 02:11 PM

wrong.. the future is more important.. if the relationship doesnt have anything that looks like it would continue on.. whats the point? it just ends up wasting your time more than the decision took.. I think you must be concious of that fact.. ofcourse in the end its your decision but are you to waste your love on someone when they dont return it? shouldnt you take that into consideration before you put all your heart into a person? To risk it all on something that doesnt look like it will go anywhere is pretty hasty.. ofcourse you should take chances when they come.. but jumping into it without thinking can leave you stranded worse than when you started.

Future!!! wat do u know about future....u can plan, u can think, u can try to imaging but u can never be fully prepare for it...Dont get me wrong, planning ur future is good. However, if u too concentrate about future, then u will miss wat is in front of u NOW.... ur living now not future, u have to work now, to provide money, love and etc then it will provide the future....thinking the future dont not support u but a HOPE and target of what u want in life....I always believed i should live my life now, not future coz i can be kill/run over by a car by 2morow....i never wana regret on my death bed about a relationship wich i never attemp to try.

My advice about love to people : always give it a try, u will never know what will happen and if u wait& think too much then some1 will come along and u might miss ur chance. then u will never know the WAT IF

My motto about life: i will try and give my best to provide love to people i care, dont matter of the situation as long as i am comfortable, willing and i dont regret it at my death bed

u said Y waste the time on someone when they not reture but to love some1 u will need to accept wat is the situation...to fully accept about urself, others and the facts.....love dont just mean ralationship, love can use toward friend, parents etc....i know if i become a parent one day i will love my kid unconditional n not matter how he/she turn out that love is unconditional, of course i hope they will reture the love but one day that thier life they have to live. i will never regret if they dont reture my love, i will be upset but not regret

Yachiru20

10-04-2006, 02:20 PM

Blackrican - if he love u enough he will repeat what he said to u when u miss...as Askand said u need to assess ur situation & talk to him....

i can tell u , my bf and i togther n live for 3 years, i always miss wat my bf said to me around daily bases....he always have to repeat what he said about 3times then i will understand....i was never attemped to miss what he is talking about but i was always concentraed doing or reading somethin, when he talk to me i always regester he is talking to me but always only hear the last few words....he moans n get annoys but never blame things on me because of that..

Alow

10-04-2006, 11:56 PM

My question is
Wht is love and y does it hurt sumtyms
y do ppl have relationship wid othas
and y do sum still have relationships althought they wer hurt be4
and if 2 ppl love each otha wht u think they shuld do and the thinks they shuldnt do
thts my question???????????
peace out :winking56

Baby-Pie

10-04-2006, 11:57 PM

wrong section

Nrvnqsr Chaos

10-04-2006, 11:58 PM

i dunno, its kinda messed up, love

Nesquik

10-04-2006, 11:58 PM

well it depends of how much love they have

Silhouette

10-05-2006, 12:10 AM

Love is pointless, meaningless, and a waste of time(and often, money).

Love is like a little kid. Always wanting attention and money.. Just ignore it, and it'll go away.. :whatevah:

Nesquik

10-05-2006, 12:11 AM

well yeah sometimes is meaningless but sometimes it isnt

Ren

10-05-2006, 12:14 AM

funny i find the question didnt really go welll with the brutal avvy.....

Nesquik

10-05-2006, 12:24 AM

thats true.............

SLVR

10-05-2006, 03:07 AM

Im moving case people think this is a serious topic and here it wont get the attension

Sandal Hat

10-05-2006, 03:16 AM

idk y luv huts de weigh dat it duz. MayB 1 day we wil fnid out...

wut du u dink?

Sevnm

10-05-2006, 03:21 AM

Love is never meaningless.
Lots of people say they are in love then they are not.
True love... it takes a long time to form. years in many cases

Decado

10-05-2006, 03:24 AM

maybe it doesn't really exist: "true" luv.
i hope i'm wrong...

재

10-05-2006, 03:40 AM

Love is just.. Love.. How do you explain it...
by the way, nice spelling

Damascus

10-05-2006, 07:16 AM

Wuv.... TWU wuv..... is what brings us.... togevaaaah.....

That, my friend is the ultimate question. Many a time I have sat on my porch and wondered this. This is my answer, though obviously the answer will vary from person to person. This is just my own hypothesis:

With human beings being a social creature, it is natural for us to have barriers at some times in order to keep our own identities seperate from others. In a way, it is by observing those barriers that we can at once connect and detach ourselves from people.

I think when we fall in love, those burials are broken, and we get confused... I think that's why I began to lose my identity the last time I fell in love. I wasn't sure who I was anymore. Of course unrequited love is the worst, and without any defense for my heart, it hurts all the more.

I had to go through two unrequited loves before finally reaching a girl who loved me back. The first time was terrible, I was so new to the experience, and she hated me. The second one went easy on me, because she really liked me as a friend, and made me feel surprisingly comfortable when she let me down. In fact, I'm still best friends with her!

I admit I'm an imperfect being. I naturally need others to complement myself. I think that's why I fall in love. Two halves make a whole, quite literally. I find myself falling in love quite against my will, too....

Of course, "love" as a definition is quite superfluous and beyond normal definition. It is quite a spiritual thing after all. You are welcome to disagree. I'm sure it's different for everybody. ;)

Peace out.

Icestorm

10-05-2006, 09:25 AM

Post this question in the relationships thread please.. it will get answered better

Z_Blitz

10-05-2006, 11:32 AM

/Thread Merged with "Relationship Thread"

*sigh* I was never particularly good with the touchy stuff, but I'll say what I know about it.

Love is just... Love. Its a complex feeling of close/intimate attachment to a person. People fall in love because its in their nature. Human beings are dependant on each other. It becomes a hard and lonely journey if you decide to shut your heart out.

Suppose you get your heart broken over a relationship... Sure you'd feel strongly against it, but there will be a part of you which regrets the fact that your relationship is no more. There were times when you enjoyed your relationship and would've wanted things to go on like that forever. Its because of that, that we all seek relationships.

In a sense what I'm trying to say here is a proverb in Arabic that says "One hand never claps" (I think I came across one with a similar meaning to that in English too but I'm too lazy to look for it :P). This basically means we are incomplete... It takes at least someone else to fill in that gap in your life :).

Icestorm

10-06-2006, 05:28 AM

Thanks Z-Blitz! In answer to your question.. look at me and Pink_Paper_Heart as your role model.. that is all..

lol..

Just one thing ill say is that true love does not exist unless it is shared between two people. Because one person can love another.. but not have it returned.. but TRUE love is when both people love eachother. Love being defined as NOT the thing that some retarded jock says to the cheerleader when he wants her in his pants.

theshadowtaker1

10-06-2006, 07:22 PM

I have never had an (un)serious relationship
And every relationship I have ever had lasted 6+ months
And Right now I am very very heart broken.

chiriyuku

01-07-2007, 12:51 PM

I think TRUE LOVE and LOVE is just the same thing. Why should it be categorized differently just because the love is unrequited?

warp:routine

01-07-2007, 02:06 PM

i need a girls help...

i got a girls phone number yesterday, and im going to call her tonight... wtf do i say!? Im a little nervous because I dont know if she just wants a roll in the hay or if she might want to take things slow for the possibility of a relationship...

Do I invite her to coffee downtown or is that lame? Would I just invite here to my place for drinks or is that too quick? hehe, im pathetic... HELP!

Nesquik

01-07-2007, 07:28 PM

just talk to her normally

Icestorm

01-08-2007, 02:58 AM

I think TRUE LOVE and LOVE is just the same thing. Why should it be categorized differently just because the love is unrequited?

You can say you love someone yet not really.. because it be could lust.. yet if one was to love another and that love in return it is described as true love because of the joining of two hearts makes a whole a perfect bond that is 'true'.

I dont exactly see how it is possible to have true love if the other does not love you in return. Why would another word altogether exist if it is the same? And why was Romeo and Juliets love considered true then?

Sora_Inoue#1fan

01-08-2007, 03:29 AM

I need some advice about what I could do to save my relationship. My relationship with my girlfriend hasn't been going to good latley. It all started a few months ago when she started to not pay attention to me as much as she used to. Over the past few months she has never inivted me to do anything with her on the weekends, but she invites other people. She acts like I don't even exist sometimes and it just keeps getting worse. The worse part was this weekend we had our first fight. I got a shirt for her as a gift, and she got mad at me bacause she said it looked stupid. We havn't said anything to each other since then, and I don't know what I'm going to do when I go back to school. Does anyone have any advice on what I should say to her, or what I should do?

RahxephoN

01-08-2007, 06:14 AM

chiriyuku

01-08-2007, 01:20 PM

@icestorm32
Personally, I think people use the word "love" too easily... so I think we just use the term "true love" when it IS actually love. And unrequieted love may not be healthy (on the heart) but as long as the feelings are sincere you can't say that the feelings aren't true.

@Sora_Inoue#1fan
Obviously you need to ask your gf what's bugging her and also just tell her how you feel about the situation. While you don't want to attack her.... you need to make sure that she understands how you've been feeling for the past few months.

Kimochi

01-08-2007, 01:34 PM

relationship doesnt last long.. ur partner or even uu will get tired of each other one day.. in teenage life relationship is just fer funn to fill ur lonely days... when uu grow older uu get more serious and eventually will get married..

Icestorm

01-09-2007, 07:47 AM

I agree that people use the word love too easily but I disagree that true love just means that it is real love. Because though it would make sense to use such a term now...

They were still using the words true love in shakespear.. which is in a time where love was looked upon in its real form, yet only some such tales were told of true love, one of them being romeo and Juliet. It tends to be that true love is an older english word that describes examples of love where in that the two people love in each other and it is true. Yet refering to it now as just another word for love would be wrong due to the refrences of shakespear that people tend to base these words on.

Isis

01-09-2007, 12:32 PM

first of all dont double post.....its bad for your health....!!!!!!:P

ok now lets get to the point.If she is ignoring you and you're running behind her try to turn the tables and make her run behind you;)
If that doesnt work for some reason just say to her "bye bye hun cya later" n delete her from your memory:)
That's not exactly the way to go. Sora, it sounds like your relationship has been on the rocks lately. How did you guys exactly meet? Was it on good terms? If she's doing those sorta things, means she's ignoring you. The right way to go would be to get her alone, sit her down and ask her what the deal is. Why doesn't she invite you anywhere on the weekend if she's meant to be your girlfriend, why doesn't she like the shirt you bought her. She can't just say "It's stupid" if you've been going out for that long. Maybe the relationship wasn't meant to be but you should really find out everything you can. If you want to save this relationship, the other party has to want to save it too or else it's a lost cause. And even if it doesn't work out in the end, you'll have the support of your family and friends behind you :)

Xferox 02

01-09-2007, 12:59 PM

i dont know what do get my GF for valentine, she never tells me that drives me crazy

Isis

01-09-2007, 01:03 PM

What sort of things does she like?

Hanzo

01-09-2007, 05:13 PM

my problem is, the girls i like are either taken or dosn't liek me but the girls i just want to be friends with likes me. Oh the drama. I'm 24... yeah I know I'm old. I've been with 3 girls in my life. I've only loved my first. I liked the other two, we had good sex and everything but I just didn't think they were the right one. I'm a type of guy that could have had sex with way more than just 3 girls but I refuse to get intimite with anyone that I'm not in a serious relationship with.

When will I find this girl?? I swear I'll treat her with all the respect. I hate getting caught in the friends zone!

chiriyuku

01-10-2007, 03:07 AM

@icestorm
In that kinda sense.. i think the term "true love" is used to give their relationship a magical feel to it. I think the fact that they were willing to die and everything makes it SEEM like they had a true love but I don't think they did.

@Xferox
Just use your best judgement and get her something you think she'll like. If she's a nice person, then she will appreciate the gift and the fact that you tried your best to get her something she would like.

@Hanzo
You just gotta go with the flow of things. You can't expect the perfect girl for you to appear when you want her to... you just gotta be patient about it coz there's nothing else you can really do in my opinion.

Kimochi

01-10-2007, 12:52 PM

true love doesnt really exist.. as least until uu are married.. the saying i love uu will really me meaningful when uu are married.. other than that its just a saying.

chiriyuku

01-11-2007, 01:21 PM

What changes when you become married? And with the rate of divorces these days... I defintely don't think that's true.

Kimochi

01-11-2007, 01:24 PM

lol.. see fer urself.. if married get divorce means they are not matured enuf or there are sum issues.. it depends on the individuall.. if uu are marriedd andd still flirting theres sumthing wrong..

Xferox 02

01-11-2007, 03:58 PM

some people dont divorce for the sake of their kids, like my parents, they hate each other but because of me they stay together to help me to become the man i will be

Silhouette

01-11-2007, 10:24 PM

Psh. You are indeed a fortunate individual then. Xferox..

And as for that Valentine's day gift. Chocolate and cards should do the trick. >.>

{edit}Meh. Forget about my probs.

Aristocrat

01-12-2007, 09:18 PM

Um. Acting up isn't the best way to gain trust.. -_-"
You have to be so nice and obedient that its sickening. They'll soon grow tired of it, and let you do what you want.. Its the perfect plan...in theory..
Not having a father, and having a mother who works a lot(and late), I'm almost completely free. But then again, my brother usually rats me out. Psh. The punk! >.<"
Anywho. I'm out. Have fun being rebellious and whatnot. :whatevah:

trust me ive been on that road...till i actually got tired of it...

Kimochi

01-14-2007, 11:57 AM

sometimes when ii sit with my peers they will talk about boys nn relationshipp.. i am just curiious y relationship is so important to them.. will they die if they are nt in one...

Xferox 02

01-14-2007, 03:16 PM

lol first time meet someone like you in my life. we think girls are booring because the interest of 2 groups are too different

Kimochi

01-15-2007, 02:26 PM

Kuro-Chan

01-16-2007, 11:45 AM

i talk with girls because i can like tell them more things..you can like discuss with them about your relationship..but with boys,its kinda hard unless you trust that person real lot.

Xferox 02

01-17-2007, 12:22 PM

hm.....let me think, talk to my gf about our relationship.......think thats wierd?

emmasu

01-17-2007, 12:33 PM

girls are consider sumtimes boring cuz they always talk abt the same stuff all over again.. its pointless to say.. guys are diff.. sumtimes they talk abt girls but mostly they talk abt other stuff.. thats what make them interesting people..
OMG, first, you cant just come and say that girls are not interesting,

have you ever had agf???

and thats completely not true, we are INTERESTING, we talk about million things, we definitly have fun more than you guys, we laugh more, we take things more easily, we are more open minded than you guys

Xferox 02

01-17-2007, 12:45 PM

um.... lity is a girl. and yes she had a bf

emmasu

01-17-2007, 12:51 PM

so, i wouldnt change in anything of what i have said

same thing, whether she is agirl or aboy, it doesn matter as long she said girls are not interested

Isis

01-17-2007, 05:27 PM

Ok em, I think she meant that in her group, its always about whose the hottest guy, her friends' boy trouble and that. Come to think of it, once girls get started they tend to to drag it. Oh and its coming from the culture where we live. The girls are either boy obsessed or sports obsessed, its scary O_O

~Anime4Life~

01-18-2007, 08:43 PM

Aristocrat

01-18-2007, 08:48 PM

im not sure if this would go here but im wondering, what is so wrong with a 15 year old dateing an 18 year old? every time i tell someone my boyfriend is 18 they rant on about how it wont even last a year, and it realy pisses me off

alright thats just stupid..dont listen to other people as long as your happy everything is ok..even though i dont now you but just listen to this lol even if im telling you not to listen to what others say what i meant by that was if they give crap advise dont listen to it take it from someone who knows ^^ so i hope your happy with ur boyfrined ^_^

~Anime4Life~

01-18-2007, 08:52 PM

alright thats just stupid..dont listen to other people as long as your happy everything is ok..even though i dont now you but just listen to this lol even if im telling you not to listen to what others say what i meant by that was if they give crap advise dont listen to it take it from someone who knows ^^ so i hope your happy with ur boyfrined ^_^
i know i dont listen to them, theres just a lot of people who say it and i dont like it
and yeah im happy with my boyfriend^^

Isis

01-19-2007, 03:46 AM

Anime they're just jealous, or they've seen stupid shows to believe it. People usually live on seeing other people get hurt so they want to see something bad happen. You're happy with your boyfriend and that's all that counts. I have friends who are in relationships with guys 4-5 years older then them but they're so happy. Age is not a factor. When you're older, there are people who marry that are 9 years apart. It will just be weird here, the reasons they give you about it not lasting a year and crap, well hopefully it doesnt happen and they eat their words once its gone past a year..but I suppose you still being a minor has something to do with it. Off with their heads :lol You have people supporting your decision! ;)

chiriyuku

01-21-2007, 11:49 AM

^ I agree... if they're giving you a full on rant, then they're acting bitchy about it all.

Kimochi

01-21-2007, 12:06 PM

well i didnt say everygirl are boring.. my frens are abit.. all they do is sit aroundd looking at boys or their boyfrens.. talking abt them to me.. not that i care.. they love shopping which i do not.. they just happy abt them obsessed if i say..
relationship is not very long.. one day they will come to me and tell me how much they love their boyfren and next day they will tell me how much they hate them..

Kuro-Chan

01-21-2007, 12:11 PM

love is like a cruise.it comes to you at a fixed time and goes at another fixed time..=/

rinisuzu

01-27-2007, 03:23 AM

This is kind of off topic from the rest of the conversations going on, but i'm looking for advice. At my work there is this guy who "likes" me and has asked me out multiple times. The problem is that i don't know if he really likes me. I'm starting to worry that it is all just a bet between him and his friend that goes to my school. I don't know what to do because his friend's brother went out with my sister so i'm wondering if it is all just a game to see if me and my sister are "easy" or some crap like that. i dont' know if i like him either because he can seem like two different people at times. Please help me and give me any advice that you think might help. Thanks.